It's almost all bad news all the time in the moment we're living in. I know I harp on this stuff a lot, but it's important to not accept fascism, corruption, and just plain idiocy as something that's a normal part of our lives.

The president is not a normal human being. Trevor Noah said a while back that he isn't a unique figure, as in there are other world leaders like him other places. But, that doesn't matter to me. We've gone so far backwards so quickly. I mean, I could fill pages about each issue going back to 2015 when he campaigned on “a ban on Muslims entering the country... Just until we know what's going on” to “Russia, are you listening” to... Look, one could fill books with this stuff and there is only so much time I can spend writing about it.

It's just remarkable, the hits have just kept coming. There are countless moments that could be pointed to that signaled the beginning of the end, and countless things that they've done since that are just terrifying, but I often think about these two. One of which occurred in the early days of his first campaign, and he still secured the nomination, and the second after he secured it, but still before the 2016 election. And tens of millions voted for him anyway. And don't get me started on what's happened since.

I think about these two often because millions of my fellow Americans disappointed me. And the ones who have regrets now? The excuses they make. “We did not know he would do this”, whatever the “this” is. Well, I'm here to say yes, you did. See those two links above. You're telling me you didn't know about that shit before the 2016 election?

And look, there's plenty of blame to go around for everybody, but I gotta blame the people who stepped into a booth and voted for him before I blame anyone else.

As they flood the zone with shit, I just think it's important to remember this stuff. It matters.

Also, look, sorry about the downer of a post, and I know you probably already know all this, but sometimes I gotta vent. Thank you for listening.

-Ira

SPEAKING OF THE APOCALYPSE

I know we are cool and these are different times, but if the world was ending, you'd show up, right?

we'd heat up some coffee make a plan to survive, build a zombie defense, map out the city together figure out how to stay alive

and if the world was announced to go dark, wouldn't you drop by real quick, bring some candles to fight the night?

Let's say WW III is declared, would you rush to get me a Vergissmeinnicht bouquet?

Would you ring my door just to steal a kiss outdo that V-J Day Times Square picture?

And if a meteor was on its way to collide, and we've got only six hours left, wouldn't you bring me that book you never returned and I never lent just in case we forget?

I know there's no reason to panic and everything is fine, but let's be honest, if the world was ending, you'd come over, right?

/2026

My Friday game of choice will be “The I-35 Rivalry.” The NBA Dallas Mavericks will travel down the I-35 highway to play my San Antonio Spurs. The game has a scheduled start time of 7:00 PM Central Time, which means that I'll be tuning the radio in my room to 1200 WOAI, radio home of the Spurs, by 6:00 PM to catch the full pregame coverage before the call of the game. Go Spurs Go!

And the adventure continues.

Hace dos años descubrí que estaba embarazada. Aunque no llegó como una sorpresa absoluta, de pronto me convertí -potencialmente- en dos. Los primeros latidos en el vientre me dividieron, convergían dos vidas en un mismo cuerpo. Yo misma fui prescindible e imprescindible a la vez y lo que para entonces había sido indiscutible para mi -el cuerpo, mi presencia, lo tangible- dejó de serlo.

Y en esta situación de confusión corporal, miedo (muchísimo miedo), amor (muchísimo amor) y alegría, estaban mis manos. Las manos me ayudarían a agarrarme a ese hilo que siempre me había conducido emocionalmente: el arte. Escribir, dibujar, construir algo o sostener un libro. Por otro lado estaban mis senos, irreconocibles, anunciando que dejarían de ser míos (¿lo fueron alguna vez? Nunca nos hemos llevado bien) una temporada.

En el absoluto y destructor cansancio y constantes náuseas, otra parte de mi me agarraba, me decía que esa criatura necesitará comprender muchas cosas a través de mí. Antes de quedarme embarazada, nunca me asustó eso: me encanta enseñar. He enseñado en clases a niñes, tanto en infantil y primaria como en secundaria. Me gusta acompañarles, meterme en su mundo para añadir más ideas y más preguntas (que no les faltan). Pero miraba mi vientre, cada vez más hinchado, y me entraron mil preguntas que yo no he sabido responderme a mi misma aún por mucho que he leído al respecto. ¿Cómo esquivar el ángel del hogar de Woolf, escribir, leer y protestar, a la vez que criar con amor y presencia? Mi “antenita” en las librerías y bibliotecas que siempre estaba apuntando a los feminismos, el género y la crítica institucional del arte ahora apuntaba hacia la crianza, les hijes y la educación.

Cuando di a luz, tras un parto de dos dolorosos días, de mí quedaban asustadizos escombros, senos doloridos y un amor que era tan grande que no cabía (literalmente sentía que no cabía) en mi pecho. Entre mis escombros encontré un hueco para leer, pero todo lo que leí me enterraba más en el papel de maternar que no encontraba adecuado. Entre tanto, mi bebé, mi hija, agarraba con toda su fuerza mi piel, pinzaba mis pezones y comía hasta hartarse.

Con toda esa emoción, toda esa fuerza, miedo y amor quería crear pero sólo me vi capaz de criar (que no es poco, tampoco). Dibujaba mucho, la dibujaba a ella. La dibujaba comiendo de mí, la dibujaba durmiendo, la dibujaba en brazos de su padre... pero sin salir de su fuerte gravedad, un magnetismo arrollador en la criatura más pequeña y vulnerable.

El día en que mi hija se lanzó de pronto, cogió una de mis ceras con sus manitas y la estampó en un papel, mi corazón dio un vuelco de emoción. Tengo ese papel pegado de la forma más rudimentaria en mi pared, no quería perder ni un segundo en tenerlo frente a mí. Me recuerda el mismo instante en el que la personita que más quiero descubrió que puede reflejar algo sobre un papel, para mi fue como sus primeras palabras en un nuevo idioma. Es uno de mis lenguajes favoritos. Me he obligado a mi misma a no empujarla.

He hecho materiales para que ella explore y descubra la experimentación artística como parte de un proyecto de mis estudios, pero usarlos o no y cuándo... eso es decisión suya. Mentiría si no digo que me llena de alegría verla elegir alguna de esas actividades, pero no quiero entrometerme en su exploración.

En cuanto mi hija con poco más de un año parece estar descubriendo su propia forma de expresión, aún agarrada metafórica y realmente a mi pierna, he descubierto que aún estaba ahí la creadora, y no solo la criadora. Podía expresarme y redescubrirme, con una crianza compartida y amable. Puedo -y quiero- acompañar a mi niña en su vida y experimentos vitales y a la vez volver a construir la mía, en una suerte de lazos que se anudan, se desenrollan, se revuelven en caminos opuestos y luego se entrelazan de nuevo más fuerte.

La afectividad de la crianza como la llama vital que enciende todas las emociones y conmueve.

I've come back to this a few times now with a lot of thoughts, but it's taken me a little while to slow down my anger enough to articulate them. I'm still struggling a bit, as you may notice.

Content Warning: Sexual Violence, Sexual Coercion, Child Sexual Assault, Rape Apologia, Pedophilia, (Epstein, Trump, Hakim Bay, generally horrible people) https://immerautonom.noblogs.org/the-elephant-in-the-room/

As the #Epstein class continues to be exposed, as we continue to be reminded of exactly how power works and what it does, it becomes even more critical to look at ourselves, those who have always vocally resisted this order, and make sure we are actually resisting it in reality not just in words.

Growing up, anarchism seemed to be a bit of a hodge-podge of loosely related things. Opposing the state, opposing capitalism, opposing racism, etc. I understood them to be connected via hierarchy, but I didn't understand the intersectionality of it all for a long time. Even today, I think the way that we talk about some of these types of exploitation and oppression can make it more opaque, rather than more clear, how all these forms of oppression are aligned.

The “anarcho-capitalists” and “anarcho-pedophiles” (the Venn diagram of which is essentially a circle), exploit this opacity to justify oppression in the name of liberation… and, by using the vague language of “freedom,” we let them.

Today we are experiencing a polycrisis, a Gordian knot of social disaster that is indecipherable to practically all ideologies. The failure of dominant ideologies to explain the interconnectedness of these phenomena leaves fertile ground for conspiracy theories (which, themselves, reinforce the crisis).

But we do have a single answer to a range of questions like “why are there so many billionaires and fascists pedophiles,” “why is all technology terrible now,” “why can't governments seem to stop climate change,” “why is fascism everywhere,” and, “why is there always a genocide going on?” etc etc

The negative answer is “hierarchy.” These are all structures of domination. But that is negative, it defines what we are against while only implying what we are for (and it doesn't even really define the enemy well). It (loosely) identifies the problem without identifying a solution.

The positive answer is “consent.”

Anarchists oppose the state because a state is a system within which, within a given geographical area (and perhaps more), it is impossible to withdraw consent. To withdraw consent is to violate the constraints of the system.

We oppose colonialism because it's the non-consensual imposition of a state on a group of people (and generally the imposition of a caste system that goes along with it).

We oppose vendor lock-in of hardware and software, closed platforms, so-called “walled gardens” because, again once, you can give consent going in, but the system is built to prevent you from withdrawing consent. Hardware holds you economically hostage, software holds your data hostage, social media platforms hold your social connections to friends and family hostage.

We oppose labor exploitation because we believe that all exchanges of value should be consensual. Exploitation is not possible with consent, that is its singular defining feature. Capitalism is simply the systematic extraction of value without consent. (Let's be honest here, we aren't opposing capitalism because of some complicated “labor theory of value” bullshit. We hate work because we don't like being forced to do some shit we don't want to do, and really hate seeing that work we don't want to do benefit someone we never wanted to help.)

We support reproductive rights because social reproduction must also be consensual. I feel as though this should go without saying or explanation, but here we are after all of these thousands of years still having this conversation.

We oppose rape because sex and intimacy should be consensual. This includes all forms of rape, including the inability to give consent.

We oppose motonormitivity because a society oriented around cars non-consensually enforces the use of cars (with the risk of death or impossibility of scale), and non-consensually destroys the habitat. We are never offered a choice to consent or not consent to microplastics in our oceans, heavy metals in our water, CO² in our air, and giant metal boxes flinging themselves at high speeds around our bodies.

We oppose neurotyplical supremacy because altering one's perception with drugs should always be consensual. (Which, by the way, works both ways. No one should be non-consensually denied mind-altering substances given their ability to consent to taking them in the first place.)

We oppose white supremacy and patriarchy because they non-consensually give members of one group power over members of another. We oppose hetro and cis normitivity because not everyone can or would want to consent to specific sexual orientations or gender roles.

And so on…

We, anarchists, want to build a society that is completely consensual. Since no system can constrain itself, we believe that all systems that do not allow people to leave, that are not consensual, must be destroyed. And we must do destroy them all, because non-consensual hierarchy is self-reinforcing.

Fascists are often pedophiles because fascists care about power and pedophilia is also about power. Tech monopolists are often fascists because they care about power, and technology is a way to build power and control people. The

Your boss scheduling meetings over your time with your kids or partner, Trump sexually assaulting women and children, the fucked up power dynamic when you discuss your compensation (perhaps even being daring enough to ask for a well justified raise), Facebook, mass shootings and other incel terrorism, unchecked climate change, billionaires using more CO² in a day than you use in a year, murdered and missing indigenous women, these may all seem independent and unrelated things until you see the conspicuous absence of consent tying each together, and so many more.

Epstein class of political operators and oligarchs cannot exist in a consentual world, so how could they possibly understand the concept of consent when it comes to children? For them, everyone is an object through which they express their power. Consent is a function of agency, and objects can't have agency. So they can't possibly comprehend the existence consent or understand how it works.

And this is where we return to the pseudo-anarchist. The pseudo-anarchist does not care about “consent.” The pseudo-anarchist cares about “freedom.” But this is not the anarchist “freedom” meaning “a world governed by consent.” No, this is a “freedom” rooted in monarchism. It is a “freedom” against consent. It is the freedom of the elite: freedom to deny others freedom from.

This “freedom” is the liberal freedom of capitalism, the freedom that Americans talk about (mostly as aspiration not experience). American freedom is to be hypothetically free from constraints, from responsibilities, from justice, from the need to acknowledge the agency of others, given a greater alignment with the dominant caste than the individual one is expressing control over.

The ultimate extent of this freedom is the monarchist freedom: freedom from the law itself. This is the freedom the Epstein class want. This is the freedom of the dictator, of the Russian Oligarch. One way they express this is by raping children, and, it seems, occasionally, murdering them.

As long as that specific concept of “freedom” exists, so do these monsters.

Non-consentual systems are interlocking and mutually reinforcing. The inability to escape one becomes leverage to force us into another. It is, of course, no coincidence that economically or socially marginalized people are almost always the victims. Women, children, trans, PoC, indigenous folks, each intersection applies pressure against another to maintain this order. Each system of oppression allows other systems of oppression to be exploited more.

But liberation is self-reinforcing too.

Anywhere we push against oppression, we undermine other systems that rest on it. The more room we make for ourselves, the more room we have to move against the system. The more people we liberate, the more people are pushing. Every front is important, and they can't protect all of them at the same time.

Anarchists are perhaps the only people with this single unifying critique of basically everything that's wrong. But I think we have thus far failed to really articulate it, because it's rooted in intersectional feminism and youth liberation.

If we (and by this “we” I mean the intersection of privilege usually designated by we, rather than the intersection of oppression who has been saying stuff like this for decades) want to actually dismantle this machine, like we claim we do, then why not start where (we hope) the empire is weakest: in our own heads and our own communities.

There were two swans today by the pond.

But never mind them

Today I stumbled upon a live version of the “I Died For You” song by “Iced Earth”, and it just blew my mind.

I was in my youth a big fan of Spawn, and this track details (in the lyrics) his tragic backstory: He sold his soul to meet again with his wife, but now she’d moved on and he’s a monster.

A lonesome freak.

A little bit on being careful what you wish for and the monkeys paw and all of this, but it strikes me as so powerful that his wife now is in love with his best friend and there he stands with his cape on the other side of the window, looking in.

He’d rather been dead

That’s a tragic fate I think.

That’s very cruel fate

I’m still waiting for my first winner of the flast season so I’m hoping one of these below can oblige today …

Three selections from up at Thirsk.

3.53 Thirsk I’m taking a chance on TRAVIS in this one. Looking at the shape of the race I think the Geoff Harker trained 5yo could well go forward from his wide draw and get a very easy early lead. He’s not just a pace angle though and ticks many boxes, too; ground conditions ideal, on a workable mark, 223 at the trip and has won at the track.

TRAVIS // 0.5pt E/W 7/1 4 places (Coral) BOG

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5.35 Thirsk Not the greatest of races so I’m taking a swing at an outsider. MISS WILLOWS makes her seasonal reapperance today and has gone really well on her return in the past. As her Spotlight in the RP points out, she’s never won from a mark this high but this might just be the time to catch her, especially as she’s another front runner without many like minded rivals to take her on.

MISS WILLOWS // 0.25pt E/W @ 28/1 5 places (Bet365) BOG

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6.10 Thirsk Yorkshire Glory is looking for his 7th win on the bounce here, but back on turf I’m swerving him. I backed Juan Les Pins on his seasonal reappearance at Donny 2 weeks ago and he ran really well for second that day and gets another 3lbs off via an apprentice today. However, despite him being the most likliest winner for me, at 4/1 he looks mighty short and can’t back him at that price. At double those odds, I’m going to take a chance with LORD ABAMA whose all 3 turf wins have come over C&D, the last two of which were off the same or lower marks. Drying ground will only help and has won off a similar break before.

LORD ABAMA // 0.5pt E/W @ 8/1 5 places (Bet365) BOG

Las que vemos brotar no son las mismas hojas que cayeron ayer. Tampoco el cielo: las nubes que se deshacen. Aunque mi vista se apaga, mi corazón, con ellos: brillan los ojos de los pajarillos que vienen a nosotros en primavera. Incluso el agua del arroyo baja festiva. No sé cómo expresarlo. ¿Decir que canta sería exagerar?

There’s been a couple of things that she’s done that have given me the ick. I think the major things have been the general vibe that she is not necessarily that secure with herself, and it comes out in massive text, different well documented patterns of moving too fast, and most importantly these weird games that she plays. She added me explicitly onto another Instagram account and then onto her story there, and then while we were texting she posted something on her story speaking in Spanish pretty fast which I think she did not expect me to understand or be able to translate. But she talked about how it is for her to flirt and how she wants to be able to flirt without any of the things that come with that. And when I mentioned that I was able to understand what she said and wanted her to be aware of that, she weirdly backpedaled and said it wasn’t really like that and I kind of misunderstood it, and she actually wasn’t wanting to flirt even though it very much just seemed like she kept changing her story and just panicked at getting caught. She also sent me a journal excerpt that was written in the tone of speaking towards someone, and it talked about how she was afraid of me thinking she was boring and how she needs to love herself and nothing wrong with that, but it’s just such a weird thing to vaguely send a journal entry instead of voicing that directly. It kind of just feels like she isn’t comfortable enough to communicate clearly and does the thing that I used to do in high school which was vaguely post about everything because then you have the defense of saying oops that was a mistake ha ha I didn’t mean to speak up if it ever feels moderately scary. She also has trauma dumped a decent amount about her childhood and it’s often in a way where it feels like she NEEDS for me to listen and I don’t have a way out, and she holds resentment with that and doesn’t recognize how that isn’t necessarily normal or healthy for knowing someone a week. It feels like there’s a lot of things that she hasn’t yet resolved and they end up leaving their marks on our conversations. I feel like the more I’ve gotten to know her there’s nothing wrong with her, but she just isn’t necessarily what I’m looking for and I’m kind of thinking about how to gently reject someone or get them to be less interested without ideally for making it awkward in a group setting because I might see her again.

I think I have learned that I very much do want a partner with emotional depth, because that’s a very significant part of my life. I feel like if a partner doesn’t have that I can’t help but to feel like there’s a gap in maturity, and I very much want my future partner to be someone who I can see fully as an equal and not have to convince myself of that. I almost see it like the same way I see some of my friends, where they are wonderful people and I really enjoy spending time with them and they match me in certain facets of life but there are also absolutely the places where we are different and there’s nothing wrong with that. But I also do think that I would want to have a partner where I feel like there’s a lot more overlap on those things that are really important to me and things that I would not want to worry about losing out on in the future. And I think the part that we match a lot in is the sexual part of things from the way we’ve talked. And that’s not necessarily something that I want in a friend, because I think that’s a recipe for just tension and frustration eventually. I also think that given our communication issues or incompatibilities it seems like, I’m not too sure that even though on paper we seem very compatible, our sex life may not be as good as an optimistic view could be. And so I think I’m very grateful for getting this opportunity to interact with this person because I both did not commit too heavily, but I also was able to understand that this person on paper matched almost everything that I was looking for in that sense, but that was not nearly enough and I think that’s a signal to me that it’s not necessarily the biggest priority that I should be worried about. It almost feels like the ghost of Christmas past coming to show me the errors in my ways. I do often feel like there is some sort of divine intervention that affects me, because there have been so many experiences that have been incredibly valuable and almost necessary for me that end up occurring at the perfect time and often in a way that feels like I could not think of a way to make it less intrusive to my well-being. And I don’t necessarily label myself as someone who is a believer in the divine or religious, but I am very grateful regardless for the fact that I have these opportunities at what feels like the right time when I need them. And I think this is also a point where I should step back for a second and be very grateful for how I’m able to step away from someone that I was interested in for what I think our valid reasons. And just because someone was giving me love and attention, I did not fall for that. And I also feel secure enough and happy enough of my life that I’m not afraid or terrified about going back to being single potentially indefinitely. I’m very grateful to myself for going through the effort of building up that life that I’m so happy with. I really love you dude. Keep it up, what you’re doing is working.

On nous a appris, très tôt, à croire qu’aimer était une force en soi, une force presque pure, capable de traverser les failles et de réparer les brisures. Comme si, en aimant assez, en aimant mieux, en aimant plus longtemps, quelque chose finissait par se remettre en ordre. Alors nous avons porté cette idée avec sérieux, avec ferveur parfois, en silence souvent. Nous avons regardé nos élans comme des preuves, nos efforts comme des réponses, nos renoncements comme des gestes nécessaires. Et dans ce mouvement, une question revenait, discrète mais persistante : est-ce que cela vient de moi, ou est-ce que cela vient d’elle ? Qui aime le plus, qui aime le mieux, qui aime assez ?

Cette question divise ce qui ne peut pas l’être. Elle isole l’amour comme une propriété, comme un attribut individuel que l’on pourrait mesurer, comparer, ajuster. Elle installe une logique là où il n’y a qu’un espace vivant. Car aimer, dans sa réalité, ne tient pas dans une personne. Cela ne se loge pas dans un seul cœur, ni dans une seule volonté. L’amour n’est pas une chose que l’on possède, c’est une chose qui circule ou qui ne circule pas. Et lorsqu’il ne circule pas, il ne disparaît pas. Il se transforme, il se condense, il devient attente, il devient tension, il devient parfois une forme de fatigue qui n’ose pas dire son nom.

Aimer seul est une expérience profonde. Elle peut donner l’impression d’une vérité rare, d’une fidélité à ce qui est juste en soi. Elle peut produire une forme de beauté, celle de rester debout quand l’autre vacille, celle de tenir un fil quand il semble se rompre. Mais cette beauté a un coût. Car ce qui n’est pas reçu ne peut pas se transformer. Ce qui n’est pas reconnu ne peut pas s’inscrire. Et ce qui n’est pas partagé ne devient pas un lieu, mais un effort.

Alors, peu à peu, l’amour cesse d’être un mouvement et devient une direction. Il ne va plus et ne revient plus. Il part, il s’étire, il s’épuise parfois. Et celui qui aime seul finit par se demander si aimer signifie porter, expliquer, attendre, réparer. Il finit par confondre la constance avec la justesse, la patience avec la nécessité, la profondeur avec l’endurance. Pourtant, quelque chose en lui sait. Quelque chose qui ne parle pas fort, mais qui persiste.

Car l’amour, lorsqu’il est vivant, ne crée pas un déséquilibre durable. Il ne demande pas à l’un de se plier pendant que l’autre se protège. Il ne construit pas une relation où l’un donne un sens pendant que l’autre le laisse en suspens. L’amour vivant appelle une réponse, non pas une réponse parfaite, non pas une réponse immédiate, mais une réponse réelle. Une présence qui se tourne, qui regarde, qui tente, même maladroitement.

Il y a, dans la rencontre de deux êtres, un lieu qui n’appartient à aucun des deux. Un espace qui n’existe que si chacun accepte d’y entrer sans y déposer toute son histoire comme une exigence. Cet espace demande une chose simple et difficile à la fois : que l’autre existe réellement. Pas comme une projection, pas comme une solution, pas comme une continuité de soi, mais comme une altérité irréductible.

Lorsque cela se produit, l’amour change de nature. Il ne devient pas plus grand, il devient plus juste. Il cesse d’être une tentative et devient une circulation. Les gestes ne sont plus faits pour compenser, mais pour rencontrer. Les mots ne sont plus utilisés pour convaincre, mais pour révéler. Les silences ne sont plus des retraits, mais des respirations communes.

Et c’est dans cet espace uniquement, que quelque chose guérit, non pas parce que l’amour est magique, mais parce qu’il est partagé tout simplement. Ce qui était figé peut se remettre en mouvement. Ce qui était confus peut se clarifier. Ce qui était porté seul peut être déposé, regardé, traversé à deux. La guérison ne vient pas d’un effort plus intense, elle vient d’une présence réciproque.

Mais lorsque cet espace n’existe pas, lorsque l’un reste à la porte ou ne peut pas y entrer, alors il faut voir ce qui est là. Non pas avec dureté, mais avec lucidité. Car continuer à croire que l’amour seul suffit revient à demander à une seule voix de créer un dialogue. Cela revient à attendre d’un mouvement unilatéral qu’il devienne un échange. Et cela, avec le temps, use plus profondément que l’absence elle-même.

Il y a une forme de paix qui apparaît lorsque cette évidence est acceptée. Une paix qui ne nie pas ce qui a été donné, qui ne renie pas la sincérité de ce qui a été vécu, mais qui reconnaît ses limites. Aimer n’est pas toujours suffisant pour construire. Et reconnaître cela n’enlève rien à la valeur de l’amour, cela le replace dans sa réalité.

Alors la question change. Elle ne demande plus qui a aimé le plus. Elle ne cherche plus à équilibrer une balance invisible. Elle devient plus simple, presque nue : est-ce que cela circule ? Est-ce que cela vit entre nous, ou est-ce que cela repose sur moi ? ou toi ?

Et dans cette simplicité, l’amour ne cherche plus à prouver, ni à sauver, ni à tenir seul. Un amour qui accepte de n’exister que là où il peut être partagé. Un amour qui ne guérit pas tout, mais qui, lorsqu’il est réciproque, rend la transformation possible.

Il existe, au cœur de toute organisation humaine, une asymétrie première que l’on contourne souvent, non pas en la dépassant, mais en la recouvrant. Elle demeure, active, rarement regardée pour ce qu’elle est. Non abolie, mais déplacée. Cette asymétrie tient à un fait simple, mais rarement formulé dans toute sa portée. Lorsqu’une femme porte une fille, elle porte déjà en elle, aussi, les cellules germinales qui deviendront, potentiellement, les enfants de cette fille. Une continuité physique traverse ainsi les générations, inscrite dans le vivant lui-même. De mère en fille, et de fille en mère, la chaîne ne se raconte pas, elle se prolonge. Elle ne peut pas être mise en doute. Elle relie sans interruption, et confère à la fonction maternelle une force relationnelle particulière, une forme de gravité autour de laquelle les liens s’organisent.

Mais cette continuité ne résume pas tout. Elle crée aussi une tension. Car là où la filiation maternelle est certaine, la filiation paternelle a historiquement porté une part d’incertitude, même infime. Et c’est précisément dans cette différence que l’on peut lire l’émergence de certaines formes sociales. Le patriarcat, dans une lecture fonctionnelle, peut être compris comme une tentative de compenser juridiquement et symboliquement cette incertitude. Une manière de sécuriser la transmission, de fixer la lignée, de contenir une inquiétude plus ancienne. Celle de ne pas maîtriser totalement la continuité biologique.

Dans les premiers temps de la vie, cette asymétrie devient expérience. La mère est le premier monde. Elle contient, elle régule, elle répond. Le corps de l’enfant apprend à exister à travers elle. Ce lien initial imprime une tonalité affective profonde, une manière de tolérer l’absence, la frustration, l’inconnu. Les travaux de John Bowlby et de Donald Winnicott ont montré que cette base conditionne largement la capacité à se différencier sans se désorganiser.

Mais cette fonction ne s’arrête pas au portage. Elle se prolonge dans un geste simple en apparence, mais central dans ses effets. Nourrir.

Il existe une continuité très précise entre le sein et la main. Ce n’est pas une rupture, mais une transformation du même lien. Le sein ne nourrit pas seulement le corps. Il relie tension et apaisement, besoin et réponse. Lorsque la main prend le relais, elle prolonge cette fonction sous une autre forme.

Ce qui est donné à manger dépasse largement la question du goût, de la qualité culinaire ou des compétences de la mère. L’empreinte ne se situe pas là. Elle s’inscrit dans la répétition du geste, dans la présence, dans la manière d’être donné. L’enfant n’intègre pas seulement des aliments. Il intègre une expérience. Une manière d’être nourri, donc une manière d’être avec le réconfort que la nourriture apporte.

Et c’est précisément à partir de là qu’une responsabilité particulière apparait. Parce que la mère est la source du lien primaire, elle devient, de fait, la porteuse principale de la tonalité affective du foyer. Non pas au sens d’un pouvoir arbitraire, mais au sens d’une empreinte initiale. Ce qui se joue en elle, dans sa manière d’être, de répondre, de contenir ou non, va imprégner durablement l’environnement émotionnel dans lequel l’enfant se construit.

Elle est, dans ce sens, gardienne de cette empreinte. Non parce qu’elle le décide, mais parce que la structure du lien la place à cet endroit. Les enfants ne passent pas d’abord par le père pour organiser leur sécurité affective. Ils passent par elle. Et cette empreinte première devient une référence interne.

Dans cet espace, le père intervient autrement. Il introduit une altérité que la continuité maternelle ne peut pas produire seule. Il permet que le lien ne reste pas fermé. Il ouvre un dehors. Sa place n’est pas donnée par la biologie de la même manière. Elle repose sur sa capacité à tenir, à rester présent, à s’inscrire sans être porté par la même évidence initiale.

La position du père s’inscrit avec une part d’incertitude, même infime. Et c’est précisément cette incertitude qui engage une forme d’amour qui ne se repose pas sur la certitude biologique, mais sur un choix renouvelé de présence. À l’inverse, du côté maternel, l’inscription biologique apporte souvent une certitude immédiate, celle que l’enfant vient d’elle, et cette évidence peut, parfois, conditionner le lien de manière subtile. Là où l’une repose sur une origine assurée, l’autre se construit dans un engagement qui, faute de garantie, tend vers une forme d’inconditionnalité.

Penser qu’il existe un centre unique, autour duquel tout tournerait, et que ce centre serait la mère serait une erreur capitale qui, au final, finira par porter atteinte à ces mêmes enfants que l’on était justement supposé protéger. Cette lecture est séduisante parce qu’elle prolonge l’évidence du lien primaire. Mais elle devient réductrice, et parfois délétère. Le système familial ne tient pas sur un centre unique. Il tient sur une dynamique à deux pôles. Deux fonctions distinctes, non interchangeables, qui ne s’absorbent pas l’une l’autre. Surtout, qui n’ont pas peur l’une de l’autre.

Ce n’est pas un centre avec des satellites. C’est une tension entre deux points qui se répondent. Une continuité qui ancre, et une altérité qui ouvre. Lorsque l’un des deux est absorbé ou disqualifié, le mouvement se fige. Ce qui devait être une circulation devient une fixation. Plus j’avance dans la vie, plus je reviens à ce principe taoïste du yin et du yang. La dualité traverse le monde entier. Elle n’oppose pas, elle articule. Elle ne sépare pas, elle met en tension ce qui doit rester vivant. C’est cette tension qui permet le mouvement, l’ajustement, la transformation. Lorsqu’on cherche à la réduire à un seul pôle, on ne simplifie pas le réel, on l’appauvrit.

Mais il faut revenir aux rôles et à leurs responsabilités respectives. L’enfant ne rencontre pas le père directement au départ. Il le rencontre à travers la mère. À travers la manière dont elle le regarde, dont elle le nomme, dont elle l’autorise ou non à exister dans le lien.

Lorsque, dès le début, la mère introduit un doute sur la fiabilité du père, le marquage devient profond. Il ne passe pas par une réflexion. Il s’inscrit dans la base même de la sécurité. L’enfant, pour préserver le lien dont il dépend, s’aligne. Il intègre cette méfiance comme une donnée première.

Chez un garçon, cela prend une forme particulière. Il ne cherche pas seulement un lien avec le père. Il y cherche aussi un appui pour se définir. Si cette figure est fragilisée, disqualifiée ou rendue instable dès l’origine, il ne perd pas uniquement une relation. Il perd un axe de structuration. Il se construit alors dans une tension. Rester fidèle au lien primaire, tout en manquant d’un point d’appui pour se différencier.

Les efforts du père pour corriger cela comptent, mais ils arrivent après. Ils viennent de l’extérieur du noyau initial. Et, dans le développement précoce, ce qui est inscrit en premier organise durablement la perception de ce qui suit. Surtout quand ce n’est jamais nommé.

Lorsque cette dynamique toxique s’installe, le dommage le plus profond n’est pas toujours visible immédiatement. Il se situe dans ce qui n’a pas pu avoir lieu. Dans les années qui auraient pu être vécues autrement. Dans la relation qui aurait pu se construire dans un climat plus serein.

Et souvent, ce qui est en jeu ne naît pas uniquement dans le présent. La peur que la mère projette sur le père peut elle-même venir de son propre conditionnement, de sa propre histoire, de la manière dont elle a appris à percevoir la figure masculine.

Au fond, l’équilibre repose sur une articulation fragile. Une mère qui contient sans enfermer. Un père qui ouvre sans s’effacer. Et une reconnaissance mutuelle suffisante pour que l’enfant n’ait pas à choisir entre l’un des deux appuis.

La chaîne maternelle donne la continuité. La fonction paternelle empêche qu’elle se referme. Et l’enfant, entre les deux, trouve la possibilité de devenir autre que ce dont il est issu, sans jamais cesser d’y appartenir.

Whatever souls are made of; we two are the same.

GLOW. Burn. Be his daylight and his moon. Be the gravity in the lives you touch.

You are not small. You are not a label. You are made of stardust. You are ancient. You are today. You are tomorrow.

You are INFINITE.

And I—

I will orbit you. I will see you, even in the quiet places.

I will ache to be held in your gravity, to fall into your well and never climb out.

And I will dream that one day—

I will.

Until then, feel me in the traces I leave on your heart—

as I carry you in mine.

You, infinite—

and I, reaching.

Let us light a galaxy, a universe—

together.

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#poetry #wyst

今日は乗車率が高すぎて、人が一度クッションみたいに押しつぶされてから、また弾き返されていた。 人間のクッション性は本当にすごい。どんどん入っていく。 人は猫みたいに液体性を持っている事が視覚的に分かる。

自分もそんな満員電車の中にいながら俯瞰して見ていると、目的の駅までのあいだ、思考が勝手に走り出す。

雑談しようとして、自分から会話を振るときのことを考える。 全国民が分かる話。話題天気とか、コンビニの新作のお菓子とか。 そういう話をすれば、相手も同じトーンで、同じ返事を確実に返してくる。 コンピューターに hello, world を打つのと同じだ。

でも、毎日変なことを考えているんだから、それを言えばいいのに、と思う。 でもまず頭に浮かぶのは、それを言った瞬間の、相手の想定外の顔だ。 インプットしながら、ほぼ同時にアウトプットしようとしているときの、あの一瞬の表情。 あれを見るのが苦手だ。 なぜ苦手なのかは、正直分からない。

逆に、自分はどうだろう。 体調にもよるけれど、相手が変なことを言ってくるのは、多分望んでいる。 だって、それくらいでしか脳の新しい部分が刺激されないから。 だから「自分がされて嫌なことは相手にしない」という理由で避けているわけではない。 そこが不思議だ。

つまり、自分は、泥臭い変な会話をする人間である事を相手に認識されるのが、多分ダサいと思っているんだろう。 普通の会話だけで、何かがふんわり変わることを望んでいるんだと思う。 そしてそれは、かなり自分らしい。

でも、もし自分が変なことを言ったら、相手には何と言ってほしいだろう。 以前は、話した内容に対してまっすぐ返せよ、みたいなことを言語化した気がするけれど、今はなんでもいいのかもしれない。 「なんでそんなこと考えてんだよ」でもいいし、「今日の服どこで買ったの」でもいい。 きっと、自分が言ったことを相手に解決してほしいわけじゃない。 一回言えば、それで満足する気がするし。

とにかく、自分が言える範囲の、精一杯の違和感を含んだ、いつも通りの会話を、これからも続けていくんだと思うが、そう思っただけで、これを解決しようとは思わないのが、現状維持を望んでいる証拠だと思う。

A quick Google Internet search (feel free to replace our mental default of 'Google' to your search engine of choice in that sentence!) of the phrase 'de-Googling' will show a wide range of articles, Reddit posts, and personalised journeys of people going through the process of surgically removing themselves from the Google ecosystem.

We all got ourselves stuck in the quicksand of the Google suite of products because of the original convenience benefits of linked services working together in fairly smart ways. I remember the enjoyment of seeing location metadata embedded into my photos so that I could see a cool 'journey' of my holidays as I trekked between cities. Being able to set reminders & tasks based on specific sentences in my Gmail emails seemed sensible enough. But over time we've all felt the creep factor increase more and more. With the huge amount of information captured from mobile phones over the last decade or so, the data collection ecosystem has gone into overdrive.

For many people I know, the penny drop moment often came from the serving of ads that went a bit too far. It was usually about seeing ads on a laptop or desktop, after discussing it earlier that day while their mobile phone was in earshot. That lightbulb moment people often get is the realisation that Google (and other big tech companies) are always listening. It was the initial reason behind why I wanted to de-Google my life – I wanted to simultaneously stop being treated as a consumer (which is how Google makes their money off me) and I wanted more control over my digital identity more generally.

My goals have shifted over time as well; I'm now keen to break away from all of the (mostly US-based) large commercial technology companies, as companies such as Meta, X, Spotify, Microsoft, Amazon & others seem to act in the same way as Google.

My current de-Googling status

I've been slowly de-Googling my life for two and a half years now, starting with the migration of my personal email account in late 2023. I would recommend it as the best place to start, since a lot of accounts tend to stem from your email address and I think migrating your email address is a gradual change; it isn't something you can finish in an afternoon.

Before getting into what I've done so far, I'll mention that it's always surprising to see the range of products you need to adopt if you want to break away from Google. Google ties in a huge number of services to one single account and the convenience & simplicity of an all-in-one service is really tough to overcome.

But if you're reading this, you're already intrigued by the idea of not letting the Big G have a monopoly over your digital identity and you're tempted by the ability to take action.

With that all said, here are the list of actions I've taken to remove myself from Google's ecosystem to date:

• migrated emails from Gmail to Proton Mail (here's my personal Proton referral link if you're interested)
• shifted from Google Search to DuckDuckGo on my phone and PC
• removed all location tracking from my phone and Google Maps (try this)
• started using Proton Drive for documents & spreadsheets instead of Google Drive
• moved away from Google Tasks and started using Todoist (this had the added benefit of getting a synced task list with my wife for shopping and other tasks)
• reduced my usage of Spotify and cancelling my paid plan, in favour of my self-hosted Plex server with my own media collection
• switched from Google Authenticator to Authy
• deleted my Reddit account (I thought I did this years ago, until I got a 'someone is trying to reset your password' email a few weeks ago!)
• deleted my Twitter account
• deleted my Instagram account (technically it was my dog's account but it was tied to my email)
• progressively deleted a bunch of information & connections on Facebook, including mass unfriending of old acquaintances and unliking pages

It's been a good, satisfying journey so far, and I don't think my day-to-day digital life has become more complicated – with the exception of not using the “Login via Google” button for some accounts. I've tried not to burn myself out by changing too many things at once, and mainly I've been spending an hour here & there whenever I have the motivation.

The biggest shift was changing email providers, which triggered migrating a huge range of miscellaneous accounts from my old Gmail to my current Proton Mail address. That in itself triggered a lot of questions of “why do I still have this account” which allowed me to delete anything that hadn't been used in years. It was a great way to clean up my digital footprint.

Current de-Googling goals

I've got a few immediate goals that I want to get through during 2026 – let's see how I go with these:

1. Migrate old Google Photos to Synology Photos – I've been starting with migrating old photos around 2010-12 to my NAS, and deleting them from Google Photos accordingly. I don't know if I'm ready to stop using Google Photos completely, as there are a bunch of shared albums with friends that are useful. I'm also open to shifting away from Synology Photos and using another photo management tool, but just getting the data away from Google is the first step.
2. Clean up my Google Contacts list, and find a replacement to store & back up my contacts – I haven't seen a good replacement yet but I'm sure there are a few options out there.
3. Continue to migrate documents out of Google Drive. With Proton Drive adding a spreadsheet tool this is now possible (most of my GDrive usage is spreadsheets). I also have a folder full of Google Docs files with Recipes that is shared with some friends that I don't know how I'll migrate. Might just have to leave an old version there and maintain a live version in Proton Drive.
4. Keep reducing my Facebook usage, eventually being in a position to delete my Facebook account entirely – I don't know if I can do that when some features are useful & important to me. The main ones are Marketplace for buying/selling second hand items, and connecting with local community groups. It's also a good way to hear about good local events that I wouldn't hear about otherwise.
5. Use Freetube on my personal desktop, to replace Youtube – this has been good, but it's not a full solution since there's no mobile equivalent that I've found. On the other hand, using Freetube only on desktop might reduce my tendency to spend time watching videos in general which is always a good thing!

Future steps to take & problems to be solved

For some things, the convenience & usefulness of some Google apps is too much to overcome, at least for now. These are the products I think I'll stick with for the foreseeable future:

• I have a shared Google Calendar with my wife and I don't think I can break away from it. Can I maintain a shared calendar with her if I move to Proton Calendar and she wants to stick with Google? Doesn't seem to be possible.
• Google Maps is too convenient for navigation and the live traffic information is pretty crucial. I'd like to switch to OSM Maps but will take me some time to get used to.
• My phone OS is still Android and therefore has some background data being sent to Google. I should consider changing the OS on my phone to get rid of that
• think about shifting my home PC from Windows to Linux? Maybe I can have a dual-boot approach initially which will make transitioning easier. With the upcoming arrival of Windows 11, it feels like now is the time. Game compatability might be the only major concern.

The barrier to entry

It's easy for me to write out a list of alternate services and recommend “just do this” but in reality de-Googling requires a lot of work, both initially & ongoing. These services are designed to be difficult to break away from, so prepare to be frustrated at the inability for some things to be migrated. For some, the feeling of starting fresh might be a good thing but if you've personalised and curated your personal information or preferences in a certain way, losing that isn't acceptable.

I also recognise that some of the above steps can be cost-prohibitive. Notably, the cost of buying & configuring a NAS to manage a media library isn't achievable for most people, especially when you consider the cost of buying terabytes of physical storage – all to save paying for a few monthly subscriptions. Financially, the maths doesn't work out or has a really long time to pay off – let alone the time you'll spend maintaining your own hardware & software. If you're only looking at the financial outcome, you'll never justify it. I also don't think it's economically or environmentally viable for every household to have their own NAS either. To that point, all I can recommend is to look at pooling resources together with friends or family so that you have a shared media library, as you still get the benefit of not being tied to the tech giants.

Some other good reads about de-Googling

https://brunty.me/post/de-googling-my-email-contacts-calendar/

https://tuta.com/blog/degoogle-list

#deGoogle #technology #SelfHosting

In May 2025, something quietly extraordinary happened during Klarna's quarterly earnings call. Sebastian Siemiatkowski, the fintech company's co-founder and chief executive, appeared on screen to walk investors through the numbers. He looked like Siemiatkowski. He sounded like Siemiatkowski. But within seconds, the figure on screen confessed: it was not Siemiatkowski at all. It was an AI-generated avatar, trained on the CEO's likeness and voice, delivering the company's financial highlights while the real Siemiatkowski was elsewhere. The avatar did not blink quite as often as a human would, and the voice synchronisation was good but not flawless. Still, the message was clear: the era of sending your digital double to do your talking has arrived.

A day later, Zoom's own chief executive, Eric Yuan, did much the same thing, deploying an AI avatar of himself during an earnings presentation. The timing was hardly coincidental. Yuan had been evangelising the concept of “digital twins” since mid-2024, telling audiences at Fortune that people would eventually send their AI-powered replicas to future meetings so they could “go to the beach” instead. By TechCrunch Disrupt 2025, he was making bolder predictions: AI would enable three-to-four-day working weeks by 2030, partly because digital replicas could handle routine meetings while the flesh-and-blood human focused on higher-value work. In March 2026, Zoom formally rolled out photorealistic AI avatars as a product feature, promising lifelike figures that mirror a user's expressions, lip movements, and eye movements so that people can “be present” even when they are not camera-ready, or not present at all.

This is not science fiction any longer. It is a shipping product. And it forces a question that the technology industry, corporate boardrooms, and philosophers of mind alike are only beginning to grapple with seriously: when an AI avatar attends a meeting on your behalf, are the other participants being deceived? And does it matter?

The Spectrum of Standing In

To understand why this question is more complicated than it first appears, it helps to recognise that meetings have always involved varying degrees of presence, attention, and substitution.

Consider the humble out-of-office auto-reply, a digital stand-in that has existed for decades. No one considers it deceptive when a colleague's email bot informs you they are unavailable. Move up the spectrum and you find shared calendars where assistants accept invitations on an executive's behalf, or junior colleagues who “represent” a department without the senior leader's direct involvement. The video call itself, which became the default mode of professional interaction during the pandemic years, already introduced a layer of mediation between participants. Filters smooth skin. Virtual backgrounds conceal messy kitchens. Gallery views flatten hierarchies into a grid of equally sized rectangles. None of this is typically described as deception, yet each element subtly manipulates the impression one participant forms of another.

AI avatars occupy a new and considerably more potent position on this spectrum. When Zoom's Steve Rafferty, the company's head of APAC and EMEA, used his AI avatar to introduce a quarterly meeting in fluent French, he was not simply delegating a task; he was projecting a version of himself that could do something he could not. Rafferty's team spans from the Arctic Circle to Antarctica, covering roughly sixty different languages, and the avatar allowed him to deliver a personal, multilingual message at scale. The tool cannot yet interact with other participants or answer questions in real time, but the direction of travel is unmistakable.

The crucial distinction is between transparent substitution and covert impersonation. If everyone in the meeting knows they are watching an AI avatar, the dynamic is fundamentally different from a scenario where participants believe they are speaking to a living, breathing human being who happens to be on camera. The first is a communication tool. The second is, by most reasonable definitions, a form of deception. But between these two poles lies an enormous grey zone: the avatar that is technically disclosed but functionally indistinguishable from the real person; the avatar whose presence is noted in a meeting invitation that nobody reads; the avatar that begins as a disclosed introduction but seamlessly transitions into a conversation that feels, to other participants, like a human exchange. The spectrum of standing in, it turns out, is not a spectrum at all. It is a fog.

What Philosophers Make of Digital Doubles

The philosophical landscape here is richer than the technology industry tends to acknowledge. Luciano Floridi, the founding director of Yale University's Digital Ethics Center and a professor at the University of Bologna, has spent years developing an ethical framework for artificial intelligence built around five principles: beneficence, nonmaleficence, autonomy, justice, and explicability. Floridi's work on deepfakes is particularly relevant. He argues that AI-generated synthetic media has the capacity to undermine our confidence in the original, genuine, authentic nature of what we see and hear. The threat is not merely that a specific piece of content might mislead; it is that the very existence of convincing synthetic media corrodes the epistemic foundations on which trust depends.

Apply this framework to the meeting avatar scenario and the implications are sobering. A meeting is not just an exchange of information; it is a social contract. Participants implicitly agree to be present, to listen, to respond in good faith. When one party secretly outsources their participation to a machine, they violate not just the expectation of presence but the norms of reciprocity that make collaborative work possible. The person who sent the avatar may receive a neat summary afterwards, but their counterparts invested real cognitive and emotional effort into an interaction they believed was mutual. That imbalance is not a minor technical detail. It is a breach of the implicit bargain that makes professional relationships function.

From a Kantian perspective, the issue is equally stark. Immanuel Kant's categorical imperative holds that one should act only according to principles that could be universalised without contradiction. If everyone sent avatars to every meeting, the meeting itself would cease to function as a space for genuine human deliberation. The universalisation test fails spectacularly: a world in which all meeting participants are AI avatars is a world in which meetings are simply algorithms talking to algorithms, with no humans in the loop at all. The very concept of a “meeting” presupposes the meeting of minds, not the collision of language models.

Yet utilitarians might see the matter differently. If an AI avatar can represent its principal accurately, freeing that person to do more meaningful work or simply to rest, the aggregate benefit might outweigh the discomfort of reduced authenticity. PwC's 2025 Global Workforce Hopes and Fears Survey, which interviewed nearly 50,000 workers across 48 economies and 28 sectors, found that daily users of generative AI reported being more productive (92 per cent, compared to 58 per cent of infrequent users), with higher perceived job security and pay. If avatars extend these productivity gains by reclaiming hours lost to routine meetings, the utilitarian calculus could tip in their favour. The question then becomes empirical: does the avatar actually represent the person faithfully, or does it introduce distortions, biases, and errors that compound over time?

The Markkula Center for Applied Ethics at Santa Clara University published a case study examining precisely these tensions. The centre frames the discussion through multiple ethical lenses, including rights, justice, utilitarianism, the common good, virtue, and care ethics, and invites readers to consider what obligations a person has to disclose their use of an avatar. The case study does not offer a tidy resolution. Instead, it highlights that the ethics of meeting avatars depend heavily on context: who is in the meeting, what is at stake, whether disclosure has occurred, and what alternatives exist.

Consent, Disclosure, and the Trust Deficit

If the philosophical arguments suggest that undisclosed avatar use is ethically problematic, the practical question becomes: what kind of disclosure is sufficient?

Zoom's own approach offers one model. When the company's AI Companion joins a third-party meeting to transcribe and summarise, it automatically posts a message in the meeting chat identifying itself as a bot and indicating that it is transcribing. Its video tile displays the word “Transcribing” alongside the Zoom AI Companion logo. This is transparency by design, built into the product architecture so that disclosure is not left to the discretion of individual users.

But the new photorealistic avatar feature complicates this model considerably. If the avatar looks and sounds convincingly like a real person, a small chat notification may not be enough to prevent participants from believing they are interacting with a human. The gap between what the technology can simulate and what a text disclaimer can effectively communicate grows wider with each improvement in rendering fidelity, voice synthesis, and facial animation. There is an old principle in design: if you have to explain it, you have already failed. When a photorealistic avatar requires a text disclaimer to prevent deception, the product itself is designed in a way that defaults to misleading.

Zoom appears to recognise this tension. Alongside its avatar rollout in March 2026, the company introduced deepfake-detection technology for meetings, providing real-time alerts when synthetic audio or video is detected. This is a notable acknowledgement that the very product Zoom is selling, convincing digital replicas of real people, simultaneously creates a security and trust risk that requires countermeasures. It is as though a locksmith, having sold you the world's most sophisticated lock-picking kit, also offers to install a better deadbolt.

The broader data on consumer attitudes reinforces the concern. Research consistently shows that the vast majority of people value authentic content and view undisclosed AI usage as a breach of trust. More than half of consumers surveyed demand explicit disclosure when AI-generated video, images, or avatars are used, and younger demographics, particularly Generation Z, tend to view AI-generated content as inauthentic and unethical when it is not clearly labelled.

This creates a paradox for companies eager to deploy the technology. The more convincing the avatar, the more useful it is as a communication tool, but the more convincing it is, the greater the expectation of disclosure, and the more disclosure undermines the illusion of natural presence that makes the avatar appealing in the first place. Call it the uncanny valley of trust: as the technology improves, it enters a zone where it is good enough to deceive but not good enough to make deception acceptable.

The Legal Landscape Takes Shape

Regulators have not been idle. The legal framework surrounding AI-generated likenesses, synthetic media, and digital avatars has expanded rapidly across multiple jurisdictions, creating a patchwork of obligations that any organisation deploying meeting avatars must navigate.

In the European Union, Article 50 of the AI Act establishes transparency obligations for providers and deployers of AI systems that generate or manipulate content constituting a deepfake. The rules require that such content be clearly disclosed as artificially generated or manipulated. These transparency provisions are set to take full effect in August 2026, with a Code of Practice expected to be finalised in mid-2026 to establish practical standards. The scope is broad: the EU's framework covers AI-generated text, audio, video, images, avatars, and digital twins. For any multinational corporation considering the deployment of meeting avatars across European operations, the compliance obligations are substantial and the penalties for failure significant.

In the United States, the regulatory picture is more fragmented but no less active. As of early 2026, forty-six states have enacted legislation targeting AI-generated media in some form. In 2025 alone, 146 bills were introduced to state legislatures that included language specific to AI deepfakes. The federal TAKE IT DOWN Act, passed in 2025, represents America's first national law directly regulating deepfake abuse, though its primary focus is nonconsensual intimate content rather than business communications. At the state level, Tennessee's ELVIS Act (Ensuring Likeness, Voice, and Image Security) prohibits the unauthorised commercial use of a person's voice, including AI-generated replications. California's AB 2602, effective from January 2025, renders unenforceable any contract provision that allows for the creation of a digital replica of an individual's likeness in place of work the individual would have otherwise performed in person, unless the contract includes a reasonably specific description of intended uses and the individual had professional legal representation.

Morrison Foerster, the global law firm, published an extensive analysis in September 2025 noting that digital avatars sit at the nexus of several evolving legal regimes, including intellectual property rights, publicity rights, and consumer protection. The firm's assessment is unambiguous: companies deploying digital avatars must navigate a complex and rapidly shifting regulatory environment, and the cost of noncompliance is rising.

The Federal Trade Commission has also signalled its intent to act. Fines for “deceptive synthetic endorsements” now reach fifty thousand dollars per violation, a figure that concentrates the mind of any marketing or communications department considering avatar deployment without adequate disclosure. What remains unclear is whether a meeting avatar that participates in a business discussion without disclosure constitutes a “deceptive” practice under existing consumer protection law, or whether new legislative categories will be needed to address this specific use case.

Corporate Adoption and the Productivity Seduction

Despite the ethical and legal headwinds, the commercial momentum behind AI avatars is formidable. The productivity case is compelling on its face. If a digital twin can attend a routine status update, freeing its human counterpart to focus on strategic thinking, creative work, or simply recovering from meeting fatigue, the efficiency gains could be substantial. Microsoft has moved aggressively in this direction: at Ignite 2025, the company revealed that its Copilot agents had evolved from “helping with work to handling it on your behalf,” with autonomous capabilities governed through permission scopes, approval workflows, and execution logging. The Facilitator agent in Microsoft Teams can drive agendas, take notes, keep meetings on track, and manage actions, edging closer to a future where human attendance becomes optional.

Otter.ai, which reached one hundred million dollars in annual recurring revenue in 2025, exemplifies the trajectory from the startup side. The company has evolved from a passive transcription tool into an active meeting agent that can attend, summarise, and act on discussions. Its enterprise suite includes AI agents for sales teams, autonomous product demonstrations, and a comprehensive search capability spanning an organisation's entire meeting archive. Otter claims that for the average enterprise customer, the platform saves the equivalent workload of one full-time employee for every twenty users, translating to a ten-to-one return on investment. For a one-thousand-user organisation, that translates to fifty full-time equivalents' worth of work saved, or more than six million dollars in annual cost savings.

Dan Thomson, the founder and chief executive of Sensay, a startup that creates AI replicas of employees, has gone further still. Thomson, who holds a BA in Philosophy from King's College London and an MBA from the University of Cambridge, uses his own digital twin to draft replies to emails and messages, estimating that it saves him hours each day. Sensay's digital replicas are trained on employees' own materials and communications, and Thomson has cited examples where deploying a digital persona on a company website increased online conversions by three hundred per cent and reduced support costs by fifty to seventy per cent.

The appeal is obvious. But the question of whether an AI avatar can truly “represent” someone in a meeting raises deeper issues about what representation means. A human delegate sent to a meeting can exercise judgement, read the room, improvise, push back, and make commitments. Today's AI avatars can, at best, deliver prepared remarks, summarise known information, and answer simple questions drawing on a corpus of the principal's past communications. They cannot negotiate in real time, pick up on subtle social cues, or take responsibility for the consequences of what they say. They cannot feel embarrassment when they get something wrong, and they cannot feel the weight of a promise they have made.

This gap between capability and expectation is where the greatest risk of deception lies. If participants believe they are engaging with a person who can make decisions and commitments, but are in fact speaking to a language model with a convincing face, the resulting misunderstandings could have real consequences for contracts, relationships, and organisational trust.

Cultural Fault Lines

Attitudes toward AI avatars are not uniform across cultures, and the global rollout of these technologies will inevitably encounter varying norms around presence, formality, and authenticity.

Japan offers a particularly instructive case. The country has a distinctive openness to AI-based technologies, including robots and avatars, rooted in cultural attitudes that have long embraced the idea of machines coexisting with humans. The Japanese government's Moonshot Goal 1 programme aims to realise a society where humans can be free from limitations of body, brain, space, and time by 2050, explicitly including “cybernetic avatars” as part of that vision. The adoption rate of generative AI among Japanese users rose from 33.5 per cent in February 2024 to 42.5 per cent in February 2025, reflecting a methodical but steady embrace of the technology. Japan's approach to AI governance, as highlighted by the World Economic Forum in January 2026, prioritises how institutions adapt and govern AI rather than what specific technologies they adopt, a philosophical distinction that could shape how meeting avatars are regulated in the region.

Yet even in Japan, the business culture's preference for careful evaluation before widespread implementation suggests that avatar adoption in high-stakes meetings will proceed cautiously. Companies like Hakuhodo, through its Human-Centred AI Institute, emphasise using AI as a “co-pilot” to enhance creativity rather than replace human presence, a framing that implicitly acknowledges the importance of the human element in professional interactions.

In cultures where personal relationships and face-to-face trust-building are paramount, such as many Middle Eastern and Latin American business environments, the introduction of AI avatars into meetings could be perceived as fundamentally disrespectful, a signal that the absent party does not value the relationship enough to show up in person. Conversely, in cultures that prize efficiency and directness, an avatar that delivers a crisp, well-prepared message might be received more warmly than a distracted, multitasking human on a video call.

The cultural dimension matters because it reveals that the question of deception is not purely philosophical or legal; it is also deeply social. What counts as deceptive depends on shared expectations, and those expectations vary enormously across contexts. A practice considered efficient and pragmatic in one business culture may be experienced as insulting or dishonest in another. Any regulatory framework that ignores this variation risks being either toothless or oppressive, depending on where it is applied.

The Asymmetry Problem

Perhaps the most troubling aspect of AI meeting avatars is the asymmetry they introduce into professional relationships. When one party sends an avatar and the other does not know, the avatar-sender gains an informational advantage: they receive a summary of the meeting without having invested the time or cognitive effort to participate, while the other participants have engaged in good faith, believing they were building a relationship with a person.

This asymmetry is not merely inconvenient; it restructures power dynamics in ways that could erode the foundations of professional trust. If colleagues, clients, or business partners come to suspect that they might be talking to an avatar at any given time, the baseline level of trust in all video interactions could decline. Every call becomes potentially suspect. Every participant must wonder: is that really you?

PwC's 2025 survey data is instructive here as well. The research found that only 14 per cent of workers use generative AI daily, but those who do report dramatically different experiences of productivity and security compared to those who do not. This gap creates a two-tier workforce: those who leverage AI tools (potentially including meeting avatars) and those who do not, with the former gaining significant advantages that may be invisible to the latter. When that advantage extends to sending an undisclosed avatar to a meeting, the information asymmetry becomes an ethical asymmetry as well.

The 2025 Edelman Trust Barometer documented growing concerns about AI's impact on societal trust, and the deployment of meeting avatars without robust disclosure norms could accelerate that erosion. Research on workplace trust from 2026 found that teams experiencing breakdowns in recognition and authentic interaction showed significantly higher turnover rates, with an average lead time of eighty-seven days between the first detectable decline in genuine connection and a resignation.

The irony is sharp: a technology designed to free people from the drudgery of unnecessary meetings could end up making all meetings less meaningful by injecting doubt into the fundamental question of whether anyone is really there.

Navigating What Comes Next

So what should organisations, regulators, and individuals do? The answer is unlikely to be a blanket prohibition. AI avatars offer genuine benefits, from multilingual communication to accessibility for people with disabilities or chronic health conditions that make sustained video presence difficult. The technology is here, and it will improve.

What matters is the framework within which it is deployed. Several principles seem essential.

First, disclosure must be mandatory, not optional. Any meeting participant represented by an AI avatar should be required to inform other participants before the meeting begins, not buried in a chat message that might be missed, but through a clear, unavoidable notification. Zoom's deepfake detection feature is a useful backstop, but it should not be the primary mechanism for ensuring transparency. The EU AI Act's transparency obligations, due to take full effect in August 2026, offer a model: providers of AI systems must ensure machine-readable marking and detectability of AI-generated content, placing the burden on the technology companies rather than on individual users to opt into honesty.

Second, organisations need clear policies distinguishing between contexts where avatar use is acceptable and where it is not. A pre-recorded avatar delivering a company-wide update is categorically different from an avatar participating in a negotiation, a performance review, or a client pitch. The stakes, the expectations of presence, and the potential for harm differ dramatically across these scenarios. Internal guidelines should specify which meeting types permit avatar representation and which require genuine human attendance.

Third, the legal frameworks emerging across the EU, the United States, and elsewhere need to address the meeting-avatar use case specifically. Current legislation focuses heavily on deepfakes in political communications and nonconsensual intimate content, which are unquestionably important, but the professional communications context presents its own distinct challenges around consent, representation, and liability. If an avatar makes a commitment during a negotiation, who is legally bound? If an avatar misrepresents a position because it drew on outdated training data, who bears the responsibility? These questions need answers before, not after, the technology becomes ubiquitous.

Fourth, the technology companies building these tools bear a responsibility that extends beyond simply adding disclosure features. They must actively consider the incentive structures their products create. If the default setting makes it easy to send an avatar without disclosure and difficult to opt into transparency, the predictable result is widespread undisclosed use, regardless of what the terms of service say.

Finally, individuals must reckon with what they owe to the people they work with. Sending an avatar to a meeting is not inherently wrong, but doing so without telling anyone is a choice to prioritise convenience over honesty. In a professional culture already strained by remote work, algorithmic management, and the ambient anxiety of automation, that choice carries weight.

The Real Question Behind the Question

The debate over AI meeting avatars is, at its core, a debate about what we believe meetings are for. If meetings are simply information-exchange mechanisms, then avatars are a logical optimisation: a more efficient way to transmit and receive data. But if meetings are also spaces for relationship-building, for reading tone and body language, for the subtle negotiations of trust that underpin every working partnership, then the introduction of a convincing but non-sentient stand-in changes the nature of the interaction in ways that matter.

The discomfort many people feel about AI avatars attending meetings is not irrational technophobia. It is an intuition about something important: that presence is not just about being seen and heard, but about being accountable. A person who is genuinely present in a meeting can be surprised, challenged, moved, and changed by what happens there. An avatar cannot. It can only perform the appearance of those responses.

Whether that performance constitutes deception depends, ultimately, on whether it is disclosed. An avatar that announces itself as an avatar is a tool. An avatar that pretends to be a person is a lie. The line between the two is thin, and the technology industry's track record of respecting thin ethical lines is not, to put it diplomatically, encouraging.

As these tools proliferate through the spring and summer of 2026, the choices made by companies like Zoom and Microsoft, by regulators in Brussels and Washington, and by the millions of professionals deciding whether to click “send my avatar” will shape the norms of professional trust for years to come. The technology is neither good nor evil. But the decision to use it honestly, or not, very much is.

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Tim Green UK-based Systems Theorist & Independent Technology Writer

Tim explores the intersections of artificial intelligence, decentralised cognition, and posthuman ethics. His work, published at smarterarticles.co.uk, challenges dominant narratives of technological progress while proposing interdisciplinary frameworks for collective intelligence and digital stewardship.

His writing has been featured on Ground News and shared by independent researchers across both academic and technological communities.

ORCID: 0009-0002-0156-9795 Email: tim@smarterarticles.co.uk

Jesus began the day in quiet prayer at Marshall Park while the sky over Charlotte was still more gray than blue and the buildings around Him looked like they were holding their breath before the city woke up. The grass was damp beneath His knees. A light wind moved across the water. Cars passed now and then, but not enough yet to turn the morning into noise. He prayed without hurry. He prayed the way a man stays with someone he loves. His face was calm. His shoulders were still. Nothing in Him looked rushed, yet nothing in Him looked distant either. He carried the kind of quiet that made the air around Him feel different. When He finally opened His eyes, the city was beginning to stir, and He rose with that same steady peace still resting on Him. Then He started walking south, and before the sun had fully cleared the edges of the skyline, He heard the kind of crying most people never hear because it happens behind glass, with both hands over the mouth, while the rest of the world is already moving on.

The woman was parked near Atrium Health Carolinas Medical Center with her engine off and both forearms pressed against the steering wheel like she did not trust herself to sit upright without holding on to something. Her name was Talia Brooks. She was thirty-nine years old, a patient transport worker who had worked long enough in hospital hallways to know what fear looked like on every kind of face, but she had gotten very good at walking past her own. Her scrub top was wrinkled from the drive in. Her eyes were swollen from too little sleep and a fight she had not meant to have before sunrise. There was an envelope open on the passenger seat with a red warning across the front that she had already read so many times the words no longer looked like language. It was the electric bill. Past due again. Not by a little. By enough to make the threat at the bottom feel real. She had found another notice in the kitchen drawer after midnight, one her husband had hidden under a takeout menu like paper could disappear if he covered it with another paper. Her daughter had left the apartment without breakfast, without saying goodbye, and without taking the lunch Talia packed. Then Andre had stood at the sink with one hand on the counter and said he was trying. He had said it in that flat voice that no longer sounded like trying. It sounded like a wall. Now Talia was crying because she did not know whether she was more afraid of the bill, of losing her temper, or of the fact that she had started to feel nothing at all between one emergency and the next.

Jesus came to her car and stopped where she could see Him before He ever spoke. He did not tap the glass like someone trying to startle her back into composure. He simply stood there with the morning light rising behind Him until she looked up. She was embarrassed the moment she saw Him. That was her first instinct. She grabbed at napkins in the cup holder and wiped under her eyes with the hard, irritated motions of someone angry that her own body had exposed her. When she cracked the window, she was ready with the usual words. She was fine. It was nothing. She was late. She should go. But the words never made it out because His face held no pressure in it. He did not look curious. He did not look invasive. He looked present. There is a difference, and hurting people know it right away. “You do not have to make your face different for Me,” He said. That was all. No speech. No warning. No forced comfort. Just a sentence so simple it went straight through the place where she had been bracing. Talia looked away from Him and laughed once through her nose, not because anything was funny, but because she was trying not to cry harder. “That would be a real luxury right now,” she said. “I have to clock in.” Jesus nodded once. “I know,” He said. “But before you go carry what everyone else needs, let somebody see what is crushing you.”

She stared at Him for a long second because people did not usually speak to her like that. People spoke to her in pieces. Can you move this patient. Can you come cover this floor. Can you stay late. Can you pick up milk. Can you call the school. Can you keep it down. Can you be reasonable. Can you not do this right now. Her whole life had become requests. Necessary ones. Some fair, some selfish, some impossible. She had gotten so used to being useful that she no longer knew what to do when someone came close without needing something. “My husband keeps saying he is handling it,” she said, glancing at the envelope on the seat. “That is what he says every time. He is handling it. Then I find another notice. Then I find out he did not say something. Then my daughter hears us fighting and acts like she hates both of us. Then I come here and push stretchers around all day like my own house is not breaking apart.” Her voice had gone hard now. Not louder. Just harder. “And the thing is, I am too tired to even be dramatic about it. I do not have that kind of energy left.” Jesus looked at the envelope. He looked back at her. “When truth is hidden inside a home,” He said, “everybody starts breathing like they are underwater.” Talia lowered her eyes and felt something in that sentence land with an accuracy she did not want to admit. He was right. The apartment had started to feel like that. Nothing said plainly. Everyone tense. Doors closing a little too hard. Television on too late. Phones checked more than faces. Even kindness had started to feel exhausted.

She pushed the car door open and stepped out because sitting had suddenly become harder than standing. The morning air had some bite left in it, and she wrapped her arms across herself without meaning to. Up close, Jesus did not feel vague or distant in the way religious people sometimes made Him sound. He felt solid. Grounded. His quiet did not float above real life. It stood in it. Talia looked at Him the way a person looks at clean water after too many days of swallowing dust. “I cannot carry them all,” she said, and the sentence came out before she could clean it up. “My husband, my daughter, the bills, my mother calling every other day to tell me I sound tired, these people at work bleeding and scared and needing gentleness from me when I do not even know what I have left. I am trying so hard not to become mean. Do you understand that? I am trying not to turn into somebody hard.” Jesus did not rush to answer. He let her hear her own words in the air. “Yes,” He said after a moment. “And the part of you that is frightened by that is the part that has not gone hard yet.” Talia closed her eyes. She had not expected mercy to sound like that. “Then why does everything still feel like too much?” she asked. Jesus answered without strain. “Because you have been living inside strain for so long that you now call it normal. But what is familiar is not always what is meant for you.”

They walked together toward the hospital entrance, and people passed them without looking twice because cities are full of people side by side who are living entirely different mornings. The sun was up now, brushing warm color across glass and concrete, and the day had begun in earnest. Talia told Him about Mya, her daughter, who was nineteen and smart enough to notice every crack in the house long before anyone admitted there were cracks. She told Him how Mya had gone quiet over the last six months. Not loud and rebellious. Quiet. That had been the worse change. Quiet at dinner. Quiet in the car. Quiet when Talia asked if everything was okay. Quiet in the doorway with one shoulder against the frame and her eyes somewhere else. “I think she is angry at him,” Talia said of Andre, “but I think she is angrier at me for still trying to keep the peace. Like she thinks silence is betrayal.” Jesus listened with His whole attention. That alone was healing in a way Talia could not have explained. When they reached the sliding doors, she stopped and looked at Him like she was afraid the day would swallow whatever this was if she moved one step too far away from it. “What am I supposed to do?” she asked. Jesus met her eyes. “Stop helping your family lie to itself,” He said. “Not with cruelty. Not with drama. With truth. Truth spoken cleanly can feel sharp at first, but it opens a room for air to come back in.” Talia nodded, though she did not yet know how to do that without everything exploding. Still, something had shifted. She went inside carrying the same problems, but not in quite the same way.

The hospital gave her no time to drift in thought for long. Within fifteen minutes she was moving a patient from imaging to a room upstairs while a nurse apologized for being behind and a family member asked if she knew when the doctor would come and her phone vibrated twice in her pocket with messages she did not have time to read. The morning stacked itself fast. Wheelchairs. Monitors. Hallway greetings that were more habit than warmth. An older man with trembling fingers who thanked her for adjusting his blanket. A young mother trying not to look scared in front of her son. Somebody crying in a bathroom stall. Somebody laughing too loudly at the desk because that was how some people kept panic from rising into their throat. Talia knew this world well. She had built her professional face carefully. Calm voice. Gentle hands. Measured pace. Yet underneath it all, the conversation outside kept moving in her. Stop helping your family lie to itself. She did not know whether those words frightened her or steadied her more. Around ten-thirty she finally checked her phone in a supply room. One message was from the utility company. One was from Andre saying only, We need to talk tonight. The third was from Mya, and it read, Don’t ask where I am. I’m safe. I just need space. Talia stared at the screen until the letters blurred. Then she put the phone down on a box of gloves and pressed both hands to the edge of the counter because suddenly the room felt too small.

While Talia kept working through a day that had not loosened its grip on her, Jesus made His way back toward Uptown where the city was fully awake now and Tryon Street was carrying the usual mixture of people who looked like they had somewhere important to be and people who looked like they had been running for too long to remember when it started. He moved through the heart of Charlotte without the restless energy that marked almost everyone else. Near the Charlotte Transportation Center, buses pulled in and out under the weight of schedules, brakes exhaled, digital signs flashed, and voices lifted in short exchanges about routes and delays and missed connections. Andre Brooks sat alone on a bench near the edge of the platform, his lunch bag unopened beside him and his phone face down in his palm. He was forty-two and broad-shouldered in the way of a man who had spent years doing physical work, but lately even his strength looked tired. He drove for CATS and had built a life around the discipline of getting other people where they needed to go on time, yet his own house had drifted into a fog of half-truths, hidden notices, and conversations postponed until they turned sour. He had meant to tell Talia the truth weeks ago about using money from the rent account to cover the last payment for his mother’s assisted living bill after his younger sister came up short again. He had meant to fix it before the damage showed. He had meant to pick up enough extra work to cover the gap. He had meant a lot of things. Intention had become his favorite hiding place.

Jesus sat beside him without asking permission in the awkward, self-important way some strangers do. Andre noticed Him, nodded once, and looked away because men like him had spent years learning how to appear closed for maintenance. He was not rude. He was sealed. Jesus gave the silence room before speaking. “You are carrying shame like it is a private debt nobody else is allowed to see,” He said. Andre let out a short breath that almost sounded like a scoff, but there was no real sarcasm in it. “That is a pretty direct thing to say to somebody you do not know.” Jesus looked toward the buses pulling through the station. “I know enough.” Andre rubbed one hand over his mouth and glanced at the phone in his palm. Three missed calls from Talia. Two from Mya. One voicemail he had not played because he already knew the tone it would carry. “I was trying to take care of something,” he muttered. “That is the stupid part. I was not out doing something reckless. I was trying to help my mother. My sister was short. I covered it. I figured I would make it up before anybody noticed. Then overtime got cut back. Then one late bill became another. Then the house got tense and I kept thinking, one more week, just let me fix it first. You ever wait so long to tell the truth that by the time the truth comes out, even the good reason behind it sounds rotten?” Jesus turned and looked at him fully. “Yes,” He said. “And I have seen many people destroy trust not because they loved evil, but because they were more loyal to their image than to the light.”

That landed harder than Andre expected it to. He had told himself a better story than that. He had called it protecting the family from stress. He had called it buying time. He had called it managing. Image had not been the word he used. But now that the word had been spoken, it fit with painful accuracy. He cared very much that Talia see him as dependable. He cared very much that Mya not look at him the way he used to look at his own father after promises went soft and explanations came late. “My father never told us anything until the last possible second,” Andre said, his voice dropping into something flatter and more honest. “If a car was about to get repossessed, we found out when it was gone. If rent was behind, we found out when the landlord was at the door. If he was scared, he called it being tired. If he was ashamed, he called it being busy. I hated that. I told myself I would never be that kind of man.” Jesus said nothing right away. Andre kept going because once truth gets air in it, more truth starts wanting out. “Then I did the same thing, just cleaner. Less yelling. Fewer broken things. Better manners. Same darkness.” His jaw tightened after he said it. He was not used to speaking so plainly, least of all to a stranger. Jesus rested His forearms on His knees and watched a bus ease into place. “Silence can wear nicer clothes than anger,” He said, “but it can wound a house just the same.”

Andre swallowed hard and looked out across the station as if something in the distance might rescue him from the feeling of being known. It did not. He told Jesus about Mya packing herself tighter and tighter over the last year, about how she had stopped asking him for rides, stopped telling him about classes, stopped leaving her sketchbooks on the kitchen table where anyone might see them. He told Him about the argument that morning when Talia held up the notice from the drawer and Mya stood in the hall listening while pretending she was still looking for her keys. He admitted that he had said, “I am handling it,” in the same tone his father used to use, and the moment the words came out he hated himself for it. “I do not know how to get back in once your own kid starts closing the door,” he said quietly. “I do not know how to speak into a room after you have taught everybody not to trust your version of things.” Jesus answered with the kind of gentleness that does not weaken a man but leaves him nowhere to hide. “You do not get back in by defending yourself,” He said. “You get back in by standing in the truth without asking for quick comfort. Let them see the whole thing. Not the cleaned version. Not the explanation that keeps your dignity polished. The whole thing.” Andre rubbed at his eyes with thumb and forefinger. He was not crying, but the pressure behind his face had changed. “That sounds like losing,” he said. Jesus nodded once. “To a proud man, yes. To a family that has been starving for honesty, it sounds like bread.”

By early afternoon, Charlotte had settled into that stretch of day where heat rises off pavement and even the air between buildings seems tired. Down near Central Piedmont Community College, students moved in loose groups with backpacks slung over one shoulder, earbuds in, eyes on phones, lives still open enough to imagine but already heavy enough to bruise. Not far from there, along the Little Sugar Creek Greenway, Mya Brooks sat on a bench with a duffel bag at her feet and her phone turned face down beside her. She had left home after the morning argument and never gone to class because she had not been to class all week. Truthfully, she had stopped going regularly a month earlier. She had kept telling her mother she was on campus. She had kept telling her father she was tired because of assignments. In reality, she had picked up more hours at a restaurant in South End because money was short at home and because work felt easier than sitting in lecture rooms while anxiety moved under her skin like something alive. Then one missed week became three. One unfinished paper became a forgotten portal password. One quiet lie became a whole false semester. The bag at her feet held clothes, a charger, two sketchbooks, and the denim jacket she reached for when she wanted to feel older and less frightened than she really was. She had texted her mother that she was safe because cruelty was not what she wanted. Distance was what she wanted. Or what she thought she wanted.

Jesus came down the path and sat on the other end of the bench with enough space between them to honor her fear. Mya noticed Him because she noticed everything, even when she pretended not to. She had her mother’s eyes and her father’s tendency to go silent when something mattered too much. For a minute she looked out at the slow movement of the greenway and said nothing. Jesus did not interrupt that silence. When He finally spoke, He did not ask the usual questions. He did not say, “Are you okay,” the way people say it when they already want the answer shortened. He said, “Running from pain will make you feel powerful for one hour and homeless in your own heart by nightfall.” Mya turned and looked at Him, irritated before she was even sure why. “You do not know me,” she said. “No,” Jesus replied, “but I know what it looks like when someone is trying to leave a wound before she has named it.” She almost told Him to mind His business. She almost got up and walked away. Instead she folded her arms and stared ahead because something in His voice had unnerved her in the way truth unnerves people when it reaches them before their defenses are ready. “Everybody in my house lies,” she said. “My mother calls it keeping things calm. My father calls it handling things. I call it exhausting.” Jesus listened. Mya kept going because she had not been heard cleanly in a long time. “I am tired of sitting at that table pretending we are one bill away from okay when we are not. I am tired of him acting like silence is leadership. I am tired of her smoothing everything over like if she speaks gently enough the truth will stop being sharp. I just needed to get out before I started hating all of them.”

Jesus let the words sit between them. He did not correct her too quickly. He did not force tenderness before the anger had been allowed to speak. “You are not only angry with them,” He said after a while. “You are angry that their fear has started to teach you how to live.” Mya felt that one in her chest. She looked down at her hands. There was a pen mark near the side of her thumb from a list she had written in the restaurant office the night before. She rubbed at it without thinking. “I stopped going to class,” she said, almost under her breath. It was the first clean truth she had spoken out loud all day. “I kept saying I was going. I even left at the same time. I would sit in the parking lot and then drive somewhere else or come here or pick up a shift. I could not focus. My head felt full all the time. I kept thinking I would catch up next week. Then next week kept moving.” Shame came into her voice then, and it made her sound younger than nineteen. “So I am mad at them, yeah, but I am mad at me too. Because apparently I learned from experts.” Jesus turned toward her, not with disappointment, but with a steadiness that made confession feel less like death and more like the first clean breath after being underwater too long. “Pain that is never brought into the light does not stay pain,” He said. “It becomes pattern.”

Mya leaned back against the bench and looked up through the branches overhead. She had not cried yet. That almost bothered her. She had been so wound up for so long that tears now felt like a language she no longer spoke on command. “I do not even know what I want anymore,” she said. “I thought if I got away from the apartment for a while I would feel relief, but mostly I just feel tired in a different place.” Jesus nodded. “Distance can quiet noise,” He said, “but it cannot heal what followed you out the door.” She almost smiled at that, though it hurt. “So what,” she asked, “I just go home and everybody magically gets honest and starts hugging?” The question carried bitterness, but not enough to hide the longing beneath it. Jesus did not take offense at the tone. “No,” He said. “You go home when you are ready to stop performing strength. And they must do the same. That may not happen all at once. But truth has to begin somewhere, and often it begins with the person who is most tired of pretending.” Mya looked at the bag by her feet and then at the phone beside her. Her mother had called twice more. There was also a text from her coworker saying the couch was still open if she needed it for a few nights. The offer had felt like freedom an hour earlier. Now it felt smaller than it had. Safer maybe, but smaller. “I do not want to be cruel,” she said. “I just do not know how to be in that house without swallowing everything.” Jesus answered her softly. “Then stop swallowing. Speak plainly. Stay gentle. Refuse both silence and attack. That narrow road feels impossible until you take the first few steps.”

The afternoon light had started to bend warmer by then, and the sounds along the greenway came and went in soft layers. A bicycle passed. Two women talked quietly as they walked. Somewhere farther off, a dog barked once and then again. Charlotte kept moving because cities always do, even when one family feels like the whole world is hanging in the balance. Mya reached for her phone and turned it over in her hand. She did not call anyone yet. She simply held it. That was enough for the moment. Movement had begun, even if it was small. She glanced at Jesus with the cautious look of someone who wanted to ask a deeper question but was not sure she could afford the answer. “What if I go back and nothing changes?” she said. Jesus looked ahead for a moment before responding. “Then you will at least stop helping darkness pretend it is normal,” He said. “And that matters more than you know.” Mya lowered her eyes again. Something in her was softening, but softness felt dangerous when you had built the day around escape. She was still sitting there with the bag at her feet and her life half-packed when, all across Charlotte, the people who loved her were moving through their own separate forms of fear. Her mother was trying to finish a shift with panic behind her ribs. Her father was staring too long at red lights between stops, thinking about every sentence he had delayed. And Jesus sat with Mya on that bench beside the Little Sugar Creek Greenway as if there was nowhere else He needed to be more urgently than there, beside a tired young woman who had almost convinced herself that leaving was the same thing as freedom. She looked at the contact list on her screen until her mother’s name stopped blurring. Then she lifted her head, took one slow breath, and held the phone in both hands without pressing call.

Mya sat there long enough for the light to change. What had been afternoon started leaning toward evening, and with that shift came the familiar pressure to decide something before darkness made every thought feel heavier. She finally pressed call. Her mother answered on the second ring, too quickly, like she had been staring at the phone. Neither of them spoke for a full breath. Then Talia said her name in a voice that was trying very hard not to break. Mya had planned to sound distant. She had planned to keep control. Instead she said, “I am not coming home yet, but I will come tonight.” Her mother closed her eyes on the other end, and Mya could hear the hospital behind her, pages overhead, a cart rattling past, life continuing while private things cracked open. “That is enough for now,” Talia said. She did not demand a location. She did not ask a dozen questions just because fear wanted more. “Just come home tonight.” Mya swallowed and nodded even though her mother could not see it. “I will,” she said, and when the call ended she kept holding the phone because it felt strange that one plain sentence could change the whole weight of a day.

Jesus rose from the bench with her and they began to walk without any hurry in them. Mya picked up the duffel bag, then stopped and set it back down. “I do not think I need this anymore,” she said, almost embarrassed by how quickly that had changed. Jesus looked at the bag and then at her. “A person can be very close to leaving a life she does not really want,” He said, “simply because she is too wounded to imagine another way through the hour.” Mya let out a tired breath. That was true enough to sting. They left the bag with her phone charger and one shirt still inside it because retreat had looked permanent a little while ago and now it did not. As they walked toward the edge of Central Piedmont’s Central Campus, students crossed in loose groups and the ordinary life of the place made her feel both sad and exposed. She had not vanished. The world had not paused because she stopped showing up. She stood for a moment where she could see the buildings and the paths between them, and shame climbed up her spine in that old familiar way. “I do not know how to walk back in there,” she said. Jesus answered gently. “You do not begin by pretending you are farther along than you are. You begin by telling the truth to the first person who can help you stand again.” Mya knew He meant an advisor, a professor, somebody real, not some vague spiritual feeling she could carry around without doing anything with it.

Across the city, Andre drove the last stretch of his route with the feeling that the air inside the bus had changed. He had spent years learning how to function while buried. He could answer questions, call out stops, keep time, make turns, apologize for delays, and never let the passengers know his mind was choking on things that had nothing to do with traffic. But after what Jesus said to him at the Charlotte Transportation Center, the practiced numbness had started failing. Every red light became a place to think. Every reflection in the windshield brought his own face back to him, and he was tired of that face looking composed while everything behind it was off balance. He pulled into a stop, opened the doors, and saw Jesus step onto the bus like any other rider. No one gasped. No one pointed. A few people moved deeper down the aisle. A woman with grocery bags thanked Andre without really looking up. Two teenagers kept talking over music leaking from one of their earbuds. Jesus dropped His fare into the box, took a seat halfway back, and looked out the window for a while as Charlotte moved past in blocks of glass, brick, chain-link, storefronts, stoplights, old trees, and people who had places to be even when they did not know what they were becoming on the way there.

Andre drove in silence until the end of the line. He put the bus in park, radioed in, and turned in his seat. The bus was nearly empty now. A man sleeping near the back had gotten off two stops earlier. The teenagers were gone. Grocery bags and conversation and phone calls had all thinned out. Jesus sat there as if He had nowhere in the world to rush to. Andre stayed where he was for a second, hands still on the wheel, because that wheel had become a place to hide and he knew it. “I keep thinking if I say everything plainly, it is going to make me smaller in my own house,” he said. Jesus rested one arm along the back of the seat beside Him. “Only the false version of you will get smaller,” He replied. Andre looked down at his hands, broad hands with dry knuckles and small scars from old work. He had once believed those hands could keep enough things held together to protect everybody he loved. Lately they had started to feel better at covering than building. “What if they do not forgive me tonight?” he asked. Jesus did not soften the answer into something pretty. “Then you will still have done what is right,” He said. “A man does not tell the truth only when he can control the outcome.” Andre let that sit. It was not the kind of sentence you could use to feel inspired for ten minutes and then discard. It asked something of him. He looked up and, for the first time all day, did not try to look like he was already okay.

Talia made it to the end of her shift by doing what exhausted people do every day in places like that hospital. She broke herself into tasks small enough to carry. One patient to move. One hallway to cross. One chart to deliver. One family member to look in the eyes with kindness she did still have, even if it felt buried. But by the time she finally changed shoes and stepped outside, the strain inside her had become too obvious to ignore. Evening had softened the edges of the city. The sun was lower now, warm light catching parts of the buildings while other parts had already gone gray. She stood near the parking lot with her bag hanging from one shoulder and looked at the traffic as if she needed to remember what direction home was. Jesus was there beside a low wall, waiting without the restlessness most people carry when they are trying to help. Talia laughed once when she saw Him, but this time the laugh had no bitterness in it. It had relief. “I kept hearing what you said all day,” she told Him. “About not helping my family lie to itself.” Jesus nodded. “And now you are going home.” She took a long breath and looked down. “Yes,” she said. “And I am afraid of my own mouth. I am afraid I will either say too little again or say it all with so much stored anger that truth will come out sounding like punishment.”

Jesus stepped closer, though not enough to crowd her. “Do not go home to win,” He said. “Do not go home to release every stored wound in one storm. Go home to tell the truth in a way that leaves room for other truth to enter the room.” Talia rubbed one hand across her forehead. She had imagined tonight a dozen times already, and in half those versions she was sharp enough to make Andre flinch. In the other half she swallowed everything again because survival had trained her too well. Neither version felt like peace. “I do not know how to stand in the middle,” she said. “You do not have to know the whole night before you walk into it,” Jesus replied. “You only need to refuse the old ways when they come looking for you.” She understood that immediately because the old ways always came early. They came in the first shrug, the first defensive sentence, the first false calm, the first attempt to move too fast past what hurt. Talia looked at Him and felt steadier than she had that morning in the car. The bills were still real. Mya was still away from home. Andre had still broken trust. Yet something inside her was no longer built only around bracing. There was room now for truth without panic taking the whole house. Before she got in the car, Jesus said one more thing. “Say the thing you have stopped saying because you feared it would cost too much.” Talia nodded slowly, because she already knew what that was.

When Mya reached the apartment first, the silence inside it felt different than it had that morning. It was still the same place. The lamp in the corner still leaned slightly because the screw had never been tightened. A stack of unopened mail still sat beside the fruit bowl. A dish towel still hung from the oven handle like the house was trying to look more settled than it was. But now the silence was no longer pretending nothing was wrong. It was waiting. She set her keys down and stood in the kitchen without taking off her shoes. A little while later Andre came in and stopped short when he saw her. His first instinct rose to the surface so quickly she could almost see it in him, some version of where were you, do you know what today was like, we have been worried sick. Then he remembered what had been stripped away from him on the bus and did something harder. He put his keys on the counter, looked at his daughter, and said, “I am glad you came home.” The words sounded plain, but Mya heard the effort inside them. Andre looked older than he had that morning. Not weaker. Just less defended. “Your mom?” Mya asked. “On the way,” he said. Then neither of them moved much because they were father and daughter and frightened and not yet fluent in the kind of honesty the night was asking for.

Talia arrived with takeout she had picked up because part of her still wanted to offer the room some small mercy. No one was going to cook with hands shaking. She came in, saw both of them there, and for one brief second all three stood in the kitchen like strangers who knew too much about one another to remain strangers for long. Jesus was with them. He had come in quietly, and if the room felt charged, it was not because He made it dramatic. It was because He made it difficult to hide. Talia set the food on the counter and took off her bag. No one reached for the containers. No one asked what she bought. The old pattern was already there, ready to help them get through the next ten minutes without touching the center. Andre could have said he was sorry in a quick, useful way that would let him stop there. Mya could have said she just needed space. Talia could have said they would talk after they ate. It would have looked civilized. It would have also been another lie. So Talia leaned one hand against the counter, looked at both of them, and said the thing she had stopped saying. “I am angry,” she said, her voice steady. “Not loud. Not out of control. But deeply angry. And I am more tired than I have admitted. I have been trying to keep this house calm by swallowing what is real, and it is not working. It is making me disappear right in front of both of you.”

The words hung in the room. No one interrupted her because the truth had come in cleanly, and even hurt people can feel the difference between a blade and a key. Talia kept going. “Andre, I need you to stop saying you are handling things when you are not. I need you to stop deciding alone what the rest of us can bear. You do not protect this family by hiding us from what is real. You leave us standing in it without warning. And Mya, I know you are hurting, but your silence has turned this place into a room where everybody is guessing, and guessing is draining the life out of me.” Her eyes filled then, but she did not lose the line of what she meant. “I do not need either of you to become perfect tonight. I need this house to stop lying.” Andre lowered his head after she said it, not in shame alone, but in recognition. Mya crossed her arms, then slowly let them fall again because the sentence had reached her too. Jesus stood near the table, quiet and solid, letting the room do the holy work of hearing what had at last been spoken plainly.

Andre did not defend himself. That alone was so unusual that both Talia and Mya felt it before he even said anything else. He pulled out a chair but did not sit in it right away. He kept both hands on the back like he needed something firm under them. “I used money from the rent account to help my mother’s care bill,” he said. “My sister came up short again, and I stepped in. I told myself I would replace it before either of you ever had to feel it. Then I could not replace it. Then I got scared. Then I got ashamed. Then I kept delaying the truth because each day I waited made me feel more like I had to fix it first before I could say it.” He looked at Talia. He did not look away when her face tightened. “I was wrong. Not just about the money. About the whole way I did it. I have been acting like silence is strength because that is what I grew up watching. It is not strength. It is fear in work boots.” That line might have sounded clever in another mouth. In his, it sounded broken open. He turned to Mya then. “And I know you have been watching me do it. I know that teaches the wrong thing. I know it makes this house feel unsafe, even when no one is yelling.”

Mya stared at him as if part of her did not trust what she was hearing yet. That was fair. One honest moment does not erase a long strain of hidden things. Still, the room had changed. The air in it felt different. You could breathe without bumping into pretense every two seconds. She pulled out a chair and sat because her legs had gone tired. “I stopped going to class,” she said, and the sentence came out so fast it was almost like she had been holding it at the back of her teeth all day. Talia’s eyes widened, but she did not jump in. That mattered. Mya kept talking because once truth breaks the seal, it does not like being shoved back down. “I got behind. Then I got anxious. Then I started working more because at least work told me what to do with each hour. School just made me feel like I was failing somewhere I could not hide. So I kept leaving the apartment at the right time and lying about where I was going.” She looked at her mother now, and that was harder than looking at her father had been. “I was angry at both of you, but I was also doing the same thing in my own way. I do not know if I even want the same major. I do not know what I am doing. I just knew I could not keep walking into classrooms feeling like my chest was closing.” Talia shut her eyes briefly because the grief in that sentence was bigger than academics. It was the grief of watching your child drown quietly while still setting a place for her at dinner.

No one rushed to solve it. That was the mercy of the moment. It would have been easy for the room to turn practical too soon, for somebody to start talking payment plans, advisers, overtime, work shifts, next steps, consequences, calendars. Some of that would matter later. But later is not the same as now, and many families lose healing because they try to organize pain before they have fully faced it. Jesus looked at each of them in turn, and when He spoke, His words did not fall on the room like a sermon. They fell like water. “A home begins to die when fear decides what may be spoken,” He said. “You have all been afraid, and each of you built a different hiding place. One hid behind provision. One hid behind peacekeeping. One hid behind distance. But hiding places become prisons when people start calling them personalities.” No one argued with Him because every sentence fit too well. Talia cried then, quietly, not with the force of collapse but with the softer grief of finally being known. Andre sat down. Mya stared at the table and let tears come without trying to wipe them away fast enough to keep dignity intact. The takeout containers cooled on the counter. The mail stayed unopened. The room did not become easier. It became honest.

Andre was the first to move again. He took his phone out, found his sister’s number, and stared at it. “I have to stop pretending I can carry things for other people by making you carry them without consent,” he said. Then he stepped into the other room and made the call. Talia and Mya could hear only pieces of it. His voice stayed low, but not weak. He said no more than once. He said I cannot do this like this again. He said I should have told my family the truth from the start. When he came back, his face looked shaken but cleaner somehow. Not polished. Cleaner. Mya got up and walked to the sink, more out of needing movement than because there was anything to wash. Talia joined her there. For a second they stood side by side without words, mother and daughter in a kitchen that had held too much swallowed feeling for too long. Then Mya said, “I thought if I told you I was drowning, you were going to look even more tired than you already do.” Talia turned to her and did not flinch from the sentence. “I was already tired,” she said. “But not knowing you were drowning did not make me less tired. It just made me lonely inside my own family.” Mya nodded, and that landed somewhere deep because loneliness had been the real climate of the apartment for months. Not noise. Loneliness.

They ate after that, though no one was very hungry. The food was just warm enough to keep them at the table and not turn the evening into a ceremony. Jesus sat with them while they picked at rice and vegetables and chicken, and the conversation moved in stops and starts because that is how real families talk after truth has broken open the room. Mya said she had a meeting link from an adviser she never answered and thought maybe she still could. Talia said the utility company had called, but there might still be a payment arrangement if they stopped avoiding it and called before morning. Andre admitted how much was missing and where they stood with rent. Each sentence hurt a little because daylight hurts eyes that have been in the dark too long. Yet none of it felt like the old kind of hurt. This hurt was connected to reality. It was not the ache of guessing. It was not the rot of suspicion. It was pain with air on it. At one point Talia looked at Andre and said, “I do not need you to never fail. I need you to stop making me live beside failures I am not allowed to see.” He nodded and did not defend himself because he knew she was right. Later Mya said, “I do not need you both to be calm all the time. I need you to be real enough that I do not feel crazy for noticing what is wrong.” Talia reached across the table then and laid a hand over her daughter’s wrist. It was a small touch, but it carried more repair than grand speeches usually do.

By the time dishes were in the sink and the evening had grown late, the apartment still was not fixed. The bills had not vanished. School had not untangled itself overnight. Trust had not jumped from broken to whole because one honest dinner happened. But something real had begun, and each of them knew it in the quiet that followed. The quiet did not feel like the old suffocating kind. It felt tired, yes, but open. Windows had not literally been raised, yet the room felt as if fresh air had found it. Talia sat on the couch with her shoes off and her head against the cushion. Andre brought her a glass of water without using service as a way to avoid conversation. Mya returned from her room with the laptop she had been leaving closed and dead on purpose. She did not open it yet. She simply set it on the table where everyone could see it. That alone was an act of truth. Jesus stood near the doorway then, the room’s calm center, and each of them looked at Him because when someone has held a house steady without dominating it, you feel the weight of His presence most when He is about to leave. “Do not fear the slowness of repair,” He said. “Fear the return of pretending. Tonight is not the end of your trouble. It is the end of your agreement with hiding.” The words settled into them differently. Talia received them as relief. Andre received them as instruction. Mya received them as a narrow but real path.

Jesus stepped out into the Charlotte night and closed the apartment door softly behind Him. The city was quieter now, though never fully still. A siren sounded far off and faded. Tires moved along wet-looking streets under streetlights. Windows glowed in towers and houses and apartments where thousands of private stories were still unfolding, some tender, some breaking, some numb enough not to know which way they were moving anymore. He walked again through the city without strain in His pace, passing corners and trees and brick and light as if all of it belonged inside His care. When He came back to Marshall Park, the water was dark and the skyline shone above it in scattered gold and white. The same city that had greeted Him in gray silence now held the end of day in its hands. Jesus knelt again in quiet prayer. No crowd gathered. No voice split the sky. He prayed the way He had started, with deep stillness and full presence. He carried Talia into that prayer, and Andre, and Mya, and the apartment where truth had finally entered without violence. He carried the strained houses all across Charlotte where people had stopped saying what mattered because fear was easier to manage than honesty. He carried the tired and the ashamed and the angry and the numb. The wind moved lightly across the park. Traffic hummed in the distance. His face remained calm in the dark. He stayed there in prayer while the city kept breathing around Him, and the night, for all its unfinished things, no longer felt empty.

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