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When Match Group CEO Spencer Rascoff announced Tinder's newest feature in November 2025, the pitch was seductive: an AI assistant called Chemistry that would get to know you through questions and, crucially, by analysing your camera roll. The promise was better matches through deeper personalisation. The reality was something far more invasive.

Tinder, suffering through nine consecutive quarters of declining paid subscribers, positioned Chemistry as a “major pillar” of its 2026 product experience. The feature launched first in New Zealand and Australia, two testing grounds far enough from regulatory scrutiny to gauge user acceptance. What Rascoff didn't emphasise was the extraordinary trade users would make: handing over perhaps the most intimate repository of personal data on their devices in exchange for algorithmic matchmaking.

The camera roll represents a unique threat surface. Unlike profile photos carefully curated for public consumption, camera rolls contain unfiltered reality. Screenshots of medical prescriptions. Photos of children. Images from inside homes revealing addresses. Pictures of credit cards, passports, and other identity documents. Intimate moments never meant for algorithmic eyes. When users grant an app permission to access their camera roll, they're not just sharing data, they're surrendering context, relationships, and vulnerability.

This development arrives at a precarious moment for dating app privacy. Mozilla Foundation's 2024 review of 25 popular dating apps found that 22 earned its “Privacy Not Included” warning label, a deterioration from its 2021 assessment. The research revealed that 80 per cent of dating apps may share or sell user information for advertising purposes, whilst 52 per cent had experienced a data breach, leak, or hack in the past three years. Dating apps, Mozilla concluded, had become worse for privacy than nearly any other technology category.

The question now facing millions of users, regulators, and technologists is stark: can AI-powered personalisation in dating apps ever be reconciled with meaningful privacy protections, or has the industry's data hunger made surveillance an inescapable feature of modern romance?

The Anatomy of Camera Roll Analysis

To understand the privacy implications, we must first examine what AI systems can extract from camera roll images. When Tinder's Chemistry feature accesses your photos, the AI doesn't simply count how many pictures feature hiking or concerts. Modern computer vision systems employ sophisticated neural networks capable of extraordinarily granular analysis.

These systems can identify faces and match them across images, creating social graphs of who appears in your life and how frequently. They can read text in screenshots, extracting everything from bank balances to private messages. They can geolocate photos by analysing visual landmarks, shadows, and metadata. They can infer socioeconomic status from clothing, home furnishings, and travel destinations. They can detect brand preferences, political affiliations, health conditions, and religious practices.

The technical capability extends further. Facial analysis algorithms can assess emotional states across images, building psychological profiles based on when and where you appear happy, stressed, or contemplative. Pattern recognition can identify routines, favourite locations, and social circles. Even images you've deleted may persist in cloud backups or were already transmitted before deletion.

Match Group emphasises that Chemistry will only access camera rolls “with permission”, but this framing obscures the power dynamic at play. When a platform experiencing subscriber decline positions a feature as essential for competitive matching, and when the broader dating ecosystem moves toward AI personalisation, individual consent becomes functionally coercive. Users who decline may find themselves algorithmically disadvantaged, receiving fewer matches or lower-quality recommendations. The “choice” to share becomes illusory.

The technical architecture compounds these concerns. Whilst Tinder has not publicly detailed Chemistry's implementation, the industry standard remains cloud-based processing. This means camera roll images, or features extracted from them, likely transmit to Match Group servers for analysis. Once there, they enter a murky ecosystem of data retention, sharing, and potential monetisation that privacy policies describe in deliberately vague language.

A Catalogue of Harms

The theoretical risks of camera roll access become visceral when examined through the lens of documented incidents. The dating app industry's track record provides a grim preview of what can go wrong.

In 2023, security researchers discovered that five dating apps, BDSM People, Chica, Pink, Brish, and Translove, had exposed over 1.5 million private and sexually explicit images in cloud storage buckets without password protection. The images belonged to approximately 900,000 users who believed their intimate photos were secured. The breach created immediate blackmail and extortion risks. For users in countries where homosexuality or non-traditional relationships carry legal penalties, the exposure represented a potential death sentence.

The Tea dating app, marketed as a safety-focused platform for women to anonymously review men, suffered a data breach that exposed tens of thousands of user pictures and personal information. The incident spawned a class-action lawsuit and resulted in Apple removing the app from its store. The irony was brutal: an app promising safety became a vector for harm.

Grindr's 2018 revelation that it had shared users' HIV status with third-party analytics firms demonstrated how “metadata” can carry devastating consequences. The dating app for LGBTQ users had transmitted highly sensitive health information without explicit consent, putting users at risk of discrimination, stigmatisation, and in some jurisdictions, criminal prosecution.

Bumble faced a £32 million settlement in 2024 over allegations it collected biometric data from facial recognition in profile photos without proper user consent, violating privacy regulations. The case highlighted how even seemingly benign features, identity verification through selfies, can create massive biometric databases with serious privacy implications.

These incidents share common threads: inadequate security protecting highly sensitive data, consent processes that failed to convey actual risks, and downstream harms extending far beyond mere privacy violations into physical safety, legal jeopardy, and psychological trauma.

Camera roll access amplifies every one of these risks. A breach exposing profile photos is catastrophic; a breach exposing unfiltered camera rolls would be civilisational. The images contain not just users' own intimacy but collateral surveillance of everyone who appears in their photos: friends, family, colleagues, children. The blast radius of a camera roll breach extends across entire social networks.

The Regulatory Maze

Privacy regulations have struggled to keep pace with dating apps' data practices, let alone AI-powered camera roll analysis. The patchwork of laws creates uneven protections that companies can exploit through jurisdiction shopping.

The European Union's General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) establishes the strictest requirements. Under GDPR, consent must be freely given, specific, informed, and unambiguous. For camera roll access, this means apps must clearly explain what they'll analyse, how they'll use the results, where the data goes, and for how long it's retained. Consent cannot be bundled; users must be able to refuse camera roll access whilst still using the app's core functions.

GDPR Article 9 designates certain categories as “special” personal data requiring extra protection: racial or ethnic origin, political opinions, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, and biometric data for identification purposes. Dating apps routinely collect most of these categories, and camera roll analysis can reveal all of them. Processing special category data requires explicit consent and legitimate purpose, not merely the desire for better recommendations.

The regulation has teeth. Norway's Data Protection Authority fined Grindr €9.63 million in 2021 for sharing user data with advertising partners without valid consent. The authority found that Grindr's privacy policy was insufficiently specific and that requiring users to accept data sharing to use the app invalidated consent. The decision, supported by noyb (None of Your Business), the European privacy organisation founded by privacy advocate Max Schrems, set an important precedent: dating apps cannot make basic service access conditional on accepting invasive data practices.

Ireland's Data Protection Commission launched a formal investigation into Tinder's data processing practices in 2020, examining transparency and compliance with data subject rights requests. The probe followed a journalist's GDPR data request that returned 800 pages including her complete swipe history, all matches, Instagram photos, Facebook likes, and precise physical locations whenever she was using the app. The disclosure revealed surveillance far exceeding what Tinder's privacy policy suggested.

In the United States, Illinois' Biometric Information Privacy Act (BIPA) has emerged as the most significant privacy protection. Passed unanimously in 2008, BIPA prohibits collecting biometric data, including facial geometry, without written informed consent specifying what's being collected, why, and for how long. Violations carry statutory damages of $1,000 per negligent violation and $5,000 per intentional or reckless violation.

BIPA's private right of action has spawned numerous lawsuits against dating apps. Match Group properties including Tinder and OkCupid, along with Bumble and Hinge, have faced allegations that their identity verification features, which analyse selfie video to extract facial geometry, violate BIPA by collecting biometric data without proper consent. The cases highlight a critical gap: features marketed as safety measures (preventing catfishing) create enormous biometric databases subject to breach, abuse, and unauthorised surveillance.

California's Consumer Privacy Act (CCPA) provides broader privacy rights but treats biometric information the same as other personal data. The act requires disclosure of data collection, enables deletion requests, and permits opting out of data sales, but its private right of action is limited to data breaches, not ongoing privacy violations.

This regulatory fragmentation creates perverse incentives. Apps can beta test invasive features in jurisdictions with weak privacy laws, Australia and New Zealand for Tinder's Chemistry feature, before expanding to more regulated markets. They can structure corporate entities to fall under lenient data protection authorities' oversight. They can craft privacy policies that technically comply with regulations whilst remaining functionally incomprehensible to users.

The Promise and Reality of Technical Safeguards

The privacy disaster unfolding in dating apps isn't technologically inevitable. Robust technical safeguards exist that could enable AI personalisation whilst dramatically reducing privacy risks. The problem is economic incentive, not technical capability.

On-device processing represents the gold standard for privacy-preserving AI. Rather than transmitting camera roll images or extracted features to company servers, the AI model runs locally on users' devices. Analysis happens entirely on the phone, and only high-level preferences or match criteria, not raw data, transmit to the service. Apple's Photos app demonstrates this approach, analysing faces, objects, and scenes entirely on-device without Apple ever accessing the images.

For dating apps, on-device processing could work like this: the AI analyses camera roll images locally, identifying interests, activities, and preferences. It generates an encrypted interest profile vector, essentially a mathematical representation of preferences, that uploads to the matching service. The matching algorithm compares vectors between users without accessing the underlying images. If two users' vectors indicate compatible interests, they match, but the dating app never sees that User A's profile came from hiking photos whilst User B's came from rock climbing images.

The technical challenges are real but surmountable. On-device AI requires efficient models that can run on smartphone hardware without excessive battery drain. Apple's neural engine and Google's tensor processing units provide dedicated hardware for exactly this purpose. The models must be sophisticated enough to extract meaningful signals from diverse images whilst remaining compact enough for mobile deployment.

Federated learning offers another privacy-preserving approach. Instead of centralising user data, the AI model trains across users' devices without raw data ever leaving those devices. Each device trains a local model on the user's camera roll, then uploads only the model updates, not the data itself, to a central server. The server aggregates updates from many users to improve the global model, which redistributes to all devices. Individual training data remains private.

Google has deployed federated learning for features like Smart Text Selection and keyboard predictions. The approach could enable dating apps to improve matching algorithms based on collective patterns whilst protecting individual privacy. If thousands of users' local models learn that certain photo characteristics correlate with successful matches, the global model captures this pattern without any central database of camera roll images.

Differential privacy provides mathematical guarantees against reidentification. The technique adds carefully calibrated “noise” to data or model outputs, ensuring that learning about aggregate patterns doesn't reveal individual information. Dating apps could use differential privacy to learn that users interested in outdoor activities often match successfully, without being able to determine whether any specific user's camera roll contains hiking photos.

End-to-end encryption (E2EE) should be table stakes for any intimate communication platform, yet many dating apps still transmit messages without E2EE. Signal's protocol, widely regarded as the gold standard, ensures that only conversation participants can read messages, not the service provider. Dating apps could implement E2EE for messages whilst still enabling AI analysis of user-generated content through on-device processing before encryption.

Homomorphic encryption, whilst computationally expensive, enables computation on encrypted data. A dating app could receive encrypted camera roll features, perform matching calculations on the encrypted data, and return encrypted results, all without ever decrypting the actual features. The technology remains mostly theoretical for consumer applications due to performance constraints, but it represents the ultimate technical privacy safeguard.

The critical question is: if these technologies exist, why aren't dating apps using them?

The answer is uncomfortable. On-device processing prevents data collection that feeds advertising and analytics platforms. Federated learning can't create the detailed user profiles that drive targeted marketing. Differential privacy's noise prevents the kind of granular personalisation that engagement metrics optimise for. E2EE blocks the content moderation and “safety” features that companies use to justify broad data access.

Current dating app business models depend on data extraction. Match Group's portfolio of 45 apps shares data across the ecosystem and with the parent company for advertising purposes. When Bumble faced scrutiny over sharing data with OpenAI, the questions centred on transparency, not whether data sharing should occur at all. The entire infrastructure assumes that user data is an asset to monetise, not a liability to minimise.

Technical safeguards exist to flip this model. Apple's Private Click Measurement demonstrates that advertising attribution can work with strong privacy protections. Signal proves that E2EE messaging can scale. Google's federated learning shows that model improvement doesn't require centralised data collection. What's missing is regulatory pressure sufficient to overcome the economic incentive to collect everything.

Consent Theatre

Perhaps no aspect of dating app privacy failures is more frustrating than consent mechanisms that technically comply with regulations whilst utterly failing to achieve meaningful informed consent.

When Tinder prompts users to grant camera roll access for Chemistry, the flow likely resembles standard iOS patterns: the app requests the permission, the operating system displays a dialogue box, and the user taps “Allow” or “Don't Allow”. This interaction technically satisfies many regulatory requirements but provides no meaningful understanding of the consequences.

The Electronic Frontier Foundation, through director of cybersecurity Eva Galperin's work on intimate partner surveillance, has documented how “consent” can be coerced or manufactured in contexts with power imbalances. Whilst Galperin's focus has been stalkerware, domestic abuse monitoring software marketed to partners and parents, the dynamics apply to dating apps as well.

Consider the user experience: you've joined Tinder hoping to find dates or relationships. The app announces Chemistry, framing it as revolutionary technology that will transform your matching success. It suggests that other users are adopting it, implying you'll be disadvantaged if you don't. The permission dialogue appears, asking simply whether Tinder can access your photos. You have seconds to decide.

What information do you have to make this choice? The privacy policy, a 15,000-word legal document, is inaccessible at the moment of decision. The request doesn't specify which photos will be analysed, what features will be extracted, where the data will be stored, who might access it, how long it will be retained, whether you can delete it, or what happens if there's a breach. You don't know if the analysis is local or cloud-based. You don't know if extracted features will train AI models or be shared with partners.

You see a dialogue box asking permission to access photos. Nothing more.

This isn't informed consent. It's security theatre's evil twin: consent theatre.

Genuine informed consent for camera roll access would require:

Granular Control: Users should specify which photos the app can access, not grant blanket library permission. iOS's photo picker API enables this, allowing users to select specific images. Dating apps requesting full library access when limited selection suffices should raise immediate red flags.

Temporal Limits: Permissions should expire. Camera roll access granted in February shouldn't persist indefinitely. Users should periodically reconfirm, ideally every 30 to 90 days, with clear statistics about what was accessed.

Access Logs: Complete transparency about what was analysed. Every time the app accesses the camera roll, users should receive notification and be able to view exactly which images were processed and what was extracted.

Processing Clarity: Clear, specific explanation of whether analysis is on-device or cloud-based. If cloud-based, exactly what data transmits, how it's encrypted, where it's stored, and when it's deleted.

Purpose Limitation: Explicit commitments that camera roll data will only be used for the stated purpose, matching personalisation, and never for advertising, analytics, training general AI models, or sharing with third parties.

Opt-Out Parity: Crucial assurance that declining camera roll access won't result in algorithmic penalty. Users who don't share this data should receive equivalent match quality based on other signals.

Revocation: Simple, immediate ability to revoke permission and have all collected data deleted, not just anonymised or de-identified, but completely purged from all systems.

Current consent mechanisms provide essentially none of this. They satisfy legal minimums whilst ensuring users remain ignorant of the actual privacy trade.

GDPR's requirement that consent be “freely given” should prohibit making app functionality contingent on accepting invasive data practices, yet the line between core functionality and optional features remains contested. Is AI personalisation a core feature or an enhancement? Can apps argue that users who decline camera roll access can still use the service, just with degraded matching quality?

Regulatory guidance remains vague. The EU's Article 29 Working Party guidelines state that consent isn't free if users experience detriment for refusing, but “detriment” is undefined. Receiving fewer or lower-quality matches might constitute detriment, or might be framed as natural consequence of providing less information.

The burden shouldn't fall on users to navigate these ambiguities. Privacy-by-default should be the presumption, with enhanced data collection requiring clear, specific, revocable opt-in. The current model inverts this: maximal data collection is default, and opting out requires navigating labyrinthine settings if it's possible at all.

Transparency Failures

Dating apps' transparency problems extend beyond consent to encompass every aspect of how they handle data. Unlike social media platforms or even Uber, which publishes safety transparency reports, no major dating app publishes meaningful transparency documentation.

This absence is conspicuous and deliberate. What transparency would reveal would be uncomfortable:

Data Retention: How long does Tinder keep your camera roll data after you delete the app? After you delete your account? Privacy policies rarely specify retention periods, using vague language like “as long as necessary” or “in accordance with legal requirements”. Users deserve specific timeframes: 30 days, 90 days, one year.

Access Logs: Who within the company can access user data? For what purposes? With what oversight? Dating apps employ thousands of people across engineering, customer support, trust and safety, and analytics teams. Privacy policies rarely explain internal access controls.

Third-Party Sharing: The full list of partners receiving user data remains obscure. Privacy policies mention “service providers” and “business partners” without naming them or specifying exactly what data each receives. Mozilla's research found that tracing the full data pipeline from dating apps to end recipients was nearly impossible due to deliberately opaque disclosure.

AI Training: Whether user data trains AI models, and if so, how users' information might surface in model outputs, receives minimal explanation. As Bumble faced criticism over sharing data with OpenAI, the fundamental question was not just whether sharing occurred but whether users understood their photos might help train large language models.

Breach Notifications: When security incidents occur, apps have varied disclosure standards. Some notify affected users promptly with detailed incident descriptions. Others delay notification, provide minimal detail, or emphasise that “no evidence of misuse” was found rather than acknowledging the exposure. Given that 52 per cent of dating apps have experienced breaches in the past three years, transparency here is critical.

Government Requests: How frequently do law enforcement and intelligence agencies request user data? What percentage of requests do apps comply with? What data gets shared? Tech companies publish transparency reports detailing government demands; dating apps don't.

This opacity isn't accidental. Transparency would reveal practices users would find objectionable, enabling informed choice. The business model depends on information asymmetry.

Mozilla Foundation's Privacy Not Included methodology provides a template for what transparency should look like. The organisation evaluates products against five minimum security standards: encryption, automatic security updates, strong password requirements, vulnerability management, and accessible privacy policies. For dating apps, 88 per cent failed to meet these basic criteria.

The absence of transparency creates accountability vacuums. When users don't know what data is collected, how it's used, or who it's shared with, they cannot assess risks or make informed choices. When regulators lack visibility into data practices, enforcement becomes reactive rather than proactive. When researchers cannot examine systems, identifying harms requires waiting for breaches or whistleblowers.

Civil society organisations have attempted to fill this gap. The Electronic Frontier Foundation's dating app privacy guidance recommends users create separate email accounts, use unique passwords, limit personal information sharing, and regularly audit privacy settings. Whilst valuable, this advice shifts responsibility to users who lack power to compel genuine transparency.

Real transparency would be transformative. Imagine dating apps publishing quarterly reports detailing: number of users, data collection categories, retention periods, third-party sharing arrangements, breach incidents, government requests, AI model training practices, and independent privacy audits. Such disclosure would enable meaningful comparison between platforms, inform regulatory oversight, and create competitive pressure for privacy protection.

The question is whether transparency will come voluntarily or require regulatory mandate. Given the industry's trajectory, the answer seems clear.

Downstream Harms Beyond Privacy

Camera roll surveillance in dating apps creates harms extending far beyond traditional privacy violations. These downstream effects often remain invisible until catastrophic incidents bring them into focus.

Intimate Partner Violence: Eva Galperin's work on stalkerware demonstrates how technology enables coercive control. Dating apps with camera roll access create new vectors for abuse. An abusive partner who initially met the victim on a dating app might demand access to the victim's account to “prove” fidelity. With camera roll access granted, the abuser can monitor the victim's movements, relationships, and activities. The victim may not even realise this surveillance is occurring. Apps should implement account security measures detecting unusual access patterns and provide resources for intimate partner violence survivors, but few do.

Discrimination: AI systems trained on biased data perpetuate and amplify discrimination. Camera roll analysis could infer protected characteristics like race, religion, or sexual orientation, then use these for matching in ways that violate anti-discrimination laws. Worse, the discrimination is invisible. Users receiving fewer matches have no way to know whether algorithms downranked them based on inferred characteristics. The opacity of recommendation systems makes proving discrimination nearly impossible.

Surveillance Capitalism Acceleration: Dating apps represent the most intimate frontier of surveillance capitalism. Advertising technology companies have long sought to categorise people's deepest desires and vulnerabilities. Camera rolls provide unprecedented access to this information. The possibility that dating app data feeds advertising systems creates a panopticon where looking for love means exposing your entire life to marketing manipulation.

Social Graph Exposure: Your camera roll doesn't just reveal your information but that of everyone who appears in your photos. Friends, family, colleagues, and strangers captured in backgrounds become involuntary subjects of AI analysis. They never consented to dating app surveillance, yet their faces, locations, and contexts feed recommendation algorithms. This collateral data collection lacks even the pretence of consent.

Psychological Manipulation: AI personalisation optimises for engagement, not wellbeing. Systems that learn what keeps users swiping, returning, and subscribing have incentive to manipulate rather than serve. Camera roll access enables psychological profiling sophisticated enough to identify and exploit vulnerabilities. Someone whose photos suggest loneliness might receive matches designed to generate hope then disappointment, maximising time on platform.

Blackmail and Extortion: Perhaps the most visceral harm is exploitation by malicious actors. Dating apps attract scammers and predators. Camera roll access, even if intended for AI personalisation, creates breach risks that expose intimate content. The 1.5 million sexually explicit images exposed by inadequate security at BDSM People, Chica, Pink, Brish, and Translove demonstrate this isn't theoretical. For many users, such exposure represents catastrophic harm: employment loss, family rejection, legal jeopardy, even physical danger.

These downstream harms share a common feature: they're difficult to remedy after the fact. Once camera roll data is collected, the privacy violation is permanent. Once AI models train on your images, that information persists in model weights. Once data breaches expose intimate photos, no amount of notification or credit monitoring repairs the damage. Prevention is the only viable strategy, yet dating apps' current trajectory moves toward greater data collection, not less.

Demanding Better Systems

Reconciling AI personalisation with genuine privacy protection in dating apps requires systemic change across technology, regulation, and business models.

Regulatory Intervention: Current privacy laws, GDPR, CCPA, BIPA, provide frameworks but lack enforcement mechanisms commensurate with the harms. What's needed are:

Dating app-specific regulations recognising the unique privacy sensitivities and power dynamics of platforms facilitating intimate relationships. Blanket consent for broad data collection should be prohibited. Mandatory on-device processing for camera roll analysis, with cloud processing permitted only with specific opt-in and complete transparency. Standardised transparency reporting requirements, modelled on social media content moderation disclosures. Minimum security standards with regular independent audits. Private rights of action enabling users harmed by privacy violations to seek remedy without requiring class action or regulatory intervention. Significant penalties for violations, sufficient to change business model calculations.

The European Union's AI Act and Digital Services Act provide templates. The AI Act's risk-based approach could classify dating app recommendation systems using camera roll data as high-risk, triggering conformity assessment, documentation, and human oversight requirements. The Digital Services Act's transparency obligations could extend to requiring algorithmic disclosure.

Technical Mandates: Regulations should require specific technical safeguards. On-device processing for camera roll analysis must be the default, with exceptions requiring demonstrated necessity and user opt-in. End-to-end encryption should be mandatory for all intimate communications. Differential privacy should be required for any aggregate data analysis. Regular independent security audits should be public. Data minimisation should be enforced: apps must collect only data demonstrably necessary for specified purposes and delete it when that purpose ends.

Business Model Evolution: The fundamental problem is that dating apps monetise user data rather than service quality. Match Group's portfolio strategy depends on network effects and data sharing across properties. This creates incentive to maximise data collection regardless of necessity.

Alternative models exist. Subscription-based services with privacy guarantees could compete on trust rather than algorithmic engagement. Apps could adopt cooperative or non-profit structures removing profit incentive to exploit user data. Open-source matching algorithms would enable transparency and independent verification. Federated systems where users control their own data whilst still participating in matching networks could preserve privacy whilst enabling AI personalisation.

User Empowerment: Technical and regulatory changes must be complemented by user education and tools. Privacy settings should be accessible and clearly explained. Data dashboards should show exactly what's collected, how it's used, and enable granular control. Regular privacy check-ups should prompt users to review and update permissions. Export functionality should enable users to retrieve all their data in usable formats. Deletion should be complete and immediate, not delayed or partial.

Industry Standards: Self-regulation has failed dating apps, but industry coordination could still play a role. Standards bodies could develop certification programmes for privacy-preserving dating apps, similar to organic food labels. Apps meeting stringent criteria, on-device processing, E2EE, no data sharing, minimal retention, regular audits, could receive certification enabling users to make informed choices. Market pressure from privacy-conscious users might drive adoption more effectively than regulation alone.

Research Access: Independent researchers need ability to audit dating app systems without violating terms of service or computer fraud laws. Regulatory sandboxes could provide controlled access to anonymised data for studying algorithmic discrimination, privacy risks, and harm patterns. Whistleblower protections should extend to dating app employees witnessing privacy violations or harmful practices.

The fundamental principle must be: personalisation does not require surveillance. AI can improve matching whilst respecting privacy, but only if we demand it.

The Critical Choice

Tinder's Chemistry feature represents a inflection point. As dating apps embrace AI-powered personalisation through camera roll analysis, we face a choice between two futures.

In one, we accept that finding love requires surrendering our most intimate data. We normalise algorithmic analysis of our unfiltered lives. We trust that companies facing subscriber declines and pressure to monetise will handle our camera rolls responsibly. We hope that the next breach won't expose our images. We assume discrimination and manipulation won't target us specifically. We believe consent dialogues satisfy meaningful choice.

In the other future, we demand better. We insist that AI personalisation use privacy-preserving technologies like on-device processing and federated learning. We require transparency about data collection, retention, and sharing. We enforce consent mechanisms that provide genuine information and control. We hold companies accountable for privacy violations and security failures. We build regulatory frameworks recognising dating apps' unique risks and power dynamics. We create business models aligned with user interests rather than data extraction.

The technical capability exists to build genuinely privacy-preserving dating apps with sophisticated AI personalisation. What's lacking is the economic incentive and regulatory pressure to implement these technologies instead of surveilling users.

Dating is inherently vulnerable. People looking for connection reveal hopes, desires, insecurities, and loneliness. Platforms facilitating these connections bear extraordinary responsibility to protect that vulnerability. The current industry trajectory towards AI-powered camera roll surveillance betrays that responsibility in pursuit of engagement metrics and advertising revenue.

As Spencer Rascoff positions camera roll access as essential for Tinder's future, and as other dating apps inevitably follow, users must understand what's at stake. This isn't about refusing technology or rejecting AI. It's about demanding that personalisation serve users rather than exploit them. It's about recognising that some data is too sensitive, some surveillance too invasive, some consent too coerced to be acceptable regardless of potential benefits.

The privacy crisis in dating apps is solvable. The solutions exist. The question is whether we'll implement them before the next breach, the next scandal, or the next tragedy forces our hand. By then, millions more camera rolls will have been analysed, billions more intimate images processed, and countless more users exposed to harms that could have been prevented.

We have one chance to get this right. Match Group's subscriber declines suggest users are already losing faith in dating apps. Doubling down on surveillance rather than earning back trust through privacy protection risks accelerating that decline whilst causing tremendous harm along the way.

The choice is ours: swipe right on surveillance, or demand the privacy-preserving future that technology makes possible. For the sake of everyone seeking connection in an increasingly digital world, we must choose wisely.

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Tim Green UK-based Systems Theorist & Independent Technology Writer

Tim explores the intersections of artificial intelligence, decentralised cognition, and posthuman ethics. His work, published at smarterarticles.co.uk, challenges dominant narratives of technological progress while proposing interdisciplinary frameworks for collective intelligence and digital stewardship.

His writing has been featured on Ground News and shared by independent researchers across both academic and technological communities.

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fractured —. a clinking comes along, would you know it if it showed

brilliant rainbow, gentle cover nourished by the light. no heavy hand, but steady. grip ...of oak, fragrant rose

what more could i ask for?

[06.12.2025, fragment]

There are moments in Scripture when everything shifts.

Not with thunder. Not with fire. Not with armies shaking the ground.

But with a story.

Matthew 13 is one of those moments.

This is the day Jesus changed how truth would travel through the world.

Before this chapter, He spoke plainly. Directly. Boldly. Openly.

After this chapter, He teaches in stories.

Parables.

Simple on the surface. Revolutionary underneath.

You and I live on the far side of this chapter. Which means we live inside the echo of this moment—whether we realize it or not.

Because once Jesus starts speaking in parables, everyone hears… But only some people understand.

And that separation—between hearing and understanding—is what Matthew 13 is really about.

WHY JESUS SWITCHED TO PARABLES

The disciples were confused by it.

They came to Him privately and asked a question that still matters today:

“Why do You speak to the people in parables?”

In other words…

Why hide truth inside stories?

Why not just say it straight?

Why wrap eternal meaning inside ordinary images?

And Jesus’ answer is one of the most sobering statements in all of Scripture:

“Because the knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of heaven has been given to you, but not to them.”

That line alone forces us to confront something uncomfortable.

Truth is not equally received by everyone who hears it.

Not because God withholds. But because hearts differ.

The same sun that melts wax hardens clay.

Same light. Different response.

Parables don’t block truth — they reveal what kind of soil the heart actually is.

THE PARABLE OF THE SOWER — THE FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT

Jesus doesn’t ease into this. He leads with the foundation.

The Parable of the Sower.

A farmer goes out to sow seed. Some falls on the path. Some on rocky ground. Some among thorns. Some on good soil.

Same seed. Different soil. Different outcome.

And Jesus says flat out:

“This is what the kingdom is like.”

Not buildings. Not denominations. Not institutions.

Seed. Soil. Growth.

Or no growth.

The seed is the Word.

So the question is never whether God is speaking.

The question is:

What kind of soil am I right now?

THE HARD PATH — WHEN TRUTH NEVER GETS IN

Some seed falls on the path.

Hard-packed dirt.

Beaten down.

Exposed.

The birds come immediately and take it away.

This represents people who hear the Word and do not understand it, so the evil one snatches it away.

Not because they’re evil.

But because life has packed them flat.

Disappointment. Abuse. Loss. Cynicism. Religion that wounded instead of healed.

So when truth hits, it just sits on the surface — then it’s gone.

Not rejected.

Stolen.

And the tragedy is how many people think they rejected God… When the truth never actually took root in the first place.

THE ROCKY SOIL — WHEN EMOTION REPLACES DEPTH

Other seed falls on rocky ground.

It springs up fast.

Immediate response.

Joy.

Fire.

Excitement.

But there is no depth of root.

And when trouble comes, it withers.

This is the person who loves the feeling of faith… But never stays long enough to develop roots.

The person who gets highs without foundations.

Lyrics without obedience.

Emotion without endurance.

Jesus is warning us here:

Quick growth is not the same as deep growth.

There is a kind of faith that looks alive… Until pressure arrives.

Then it collapses because it was never rooted.

THE THORNY SOIL — WHEN LIFE CHOKES GOD OUT

Some seed lands among thorns.

It grows.

It survives.

But it never becomes fruitful.

Because it gets choked.

By what?

Worry. Wealth. Distraction. The noise of the world.

Not evil things.

Normal things.

Bills. Deadlines. Dreams. Stress. Ambition.

This is where many sincere believers quietly stall.

Not because they stopped believing.

But because they never made space for fruit.

They didn’t reject God.

They crowded Him out.

THE GOOD SOIL — THE LIFE THAT MULTIPLIES

And finally — the good soil.

Deep.

Open.

Teachable.

Rooted.

This seed multiplies.

Thirty times. Sixty. A hundred.

And Jesus is clear:

This is the one who hears, understands, and produces.

Not hears and agrees.

Not hears and feels moved.

Hears. Understands. Produces.

Kingdom faith always produces something visible eventually.

Not perfection.

Fruit.

WHY THIS PARABLE GOVERNS ALL THE OTHERS

Jesus tells the disciples:

“If you don’t understand this parable, how will you understand any parable?”

That’s massive.

This is not just one lesson among many.

This is the lens for all of them.

Every other parable depends on this truth:

The kingdom does not fail because God is weak.

The kingdom spreads or stalls based on what kind of soil receives it.

THE PARABLE OF THE WEEDS — THE SHOCK OF MIXED FIELD FAITH

Next, Jesus tells a story that makes religious people uncomfortable.

A man plants good seed.

An enemy comes and plants weeds.

They grow together.

And the servants want to pull the weeds immediately.

But the master says:

“No. Let both grow together until the harvest.”

Why?

Because pulling too early would damage the wheat.

This reveals something crucial about how God runs His kingdom.

He allows mixture for a season.

Not because He approves of evil.

But because He protects the fragile seeds still becoming wheat.

Judgment is real — but it is not rushed.

Grace governs the growing season.

Separation belongs to harvest time, not planting time.

That alone dismantles a lot of religious arrogance.

God is more patient with broken people than we are.

And far more surgical with judgment than we would ever be.

THE PARABLE OF THE MUSTARD SEED — HOW GOD BUILDS BIG THINGS

Then Jesus shifts tone again.

The kingdom is like a mustard seed.

The smallest of seeds.

But it grows into a tree large enough for the birds to perch in it.

This parable exists to correct our obsession with size at the start.

God loves beginnings that look laughably insignificant.

Movements start tiny.

Faith starts quiet.

Callings start unnoticed.

Jesus never said the kingdom would begin impressively.

He said it would end expansively.

Never despise small obedience.

That’s the mustard seed stage of something the world will later notice.

WHY PARABLES PROTECT THE HUNGRY

By now, it becomes clear.

Parables do two things at the same time:

They conceal truth from the hard-hearted.

They reveal truth to the hungry.

Same story.

Different response.

Parables weren’t designed to confuse sincere seekers.

They were designed to bypass defensive hearts.

If someone wants the truth, they lean in.

If they don’t, the story just sounds like a story.

That’s the mercy of God.

He does not force revelation on closed hearts.

And He does not hide it from open ones.

THE PARABLE OF THE YEAST — THE INVISIBLE KINGDOM

Then Jesus speaks about yeast.

A woman mixes a tiny amount into a large batch of dough — and the whole thing rises.

Jesus is showing us something deeply uncomfortable for the attention-driven human ego:

The kingdom mostly works invisibly.

It changes systems quietly.

It transforms from the inside.

It doesn’t announce itself with explosions.

It permeates.

Slow. Steady. Irreversible.

You do not see yeast take over dough.

You only see the result when everything begins to rise.

That’s how God works in people.

That’s how He works in families.

That’s how He works in generations.

WHAT MATTHEW 13 IS REALLY TELLING US

This chapter is not about how clever Jesus was with stories.

This chapter is about how God filters hearts without walls.

There are no guards at the gate.

No theological passports required.

No admission fee.

Just soil.

Some hard. Some shallow. Some crowded. Some ready.

Matthew 13 is the diagnostic chapter.

It shows us what kind of receivers we actually are — not what kind we pretend to be.

WHERE THIS MEETS US RIGHT NOW

You and I are still living inside these parables.

Every day, seed is falling.

Conversations. Convictions. Moments. Scripture. Truth. Correction. Hope.

And every day, our heart is responding in one of these four ways.

Hard. Shallow. Crowded. Or ready.

The most dangerous assumption in faith is thinking our soil never changes.

Life can harden us.

Success can crowd us.

Pain can shallow us.

But humility can restore us.

Repentance can soften us.

Stillness can deepen us.

Surrender can clear the thorns.

WHY THIS CHAPTER DIVIDES HISTORY

After Matthew 13, opposition intensifies.

Because now Jesus is no longer just announcing the kingdom.

He is exposing hearts.

And people can tolerate miracles.

They can tolerate sermons.

But they hate mirrors.

Parables are mirrors.

They force us to see ourselves without being able to argue with the story.

That’s why the conflict escalates after this chapter.

Because once truth is internal, you can’t unseen it.

THE QUIET QUESTION MATTHEW 13 ASKS EVERY READER

Not:

Do you believe?

Not:

Do you agree?

Not even:

Do you understand the story?

The real question is:

What kind of soil are you right now?

Not last year.

Not five years ago.

Not who you used to be.

Right now.

THE PARABLE OF THE HIDDEN TREASURE — WHAT THE KINGDOM DOES TO VALUE

Jesus continues with a story so short that most people underestimate how dangerous it really is.

“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.”

That sentence alone destroys casual Christianity.

The man does not negotiate.

He does not delay.

He does not calculate partial obedience.

He liquidates everything.

Not because he has to.

Because the value of what he found instantly reshapes the meaning of everything he owns.

This is what the kingdom does when it truly lands in a heart.

It does not compete for space.

It redefines worth itself.

You don’t “add” the kingdom to your life.

The kingdom rewrites what life even means.

THE PARABLE OF THE PEARL — WHEN YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU’VE BEEN SEARCHING FOR

Next, Jesus flips the perspective.

“Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it.”

Now this man is not stumbling across treasure by accident.

He is searching.

He is trained.

He knows quality when he sees it.

And even with all his experience, when the real thing appears, it still costs him everything.

Some people discover God unexpectedly.

Others search for decades.

But when truth finally becomes undeniable, the price is the same.

Everything.

THE PARABLE OF THE NET — THE PART OF THE GOSPEL PEOPLE PREFER TO AVOID

“The kingdom of heaven is like a net that was let down into the lake and caught all kinds of fish.”

Notice that phrase:

All kinds.

No filtering at capture.

Only at sorting.

“The fishermen pulled the net ashore. Then they sat down and collected the good fish in baskets, but threw the bad away.”

Then Jesus drops the interpretation with surgical clarity.

“This is how it will be at the end of the age. The angels will come and separate the wicked from the righteous.”

This is not metaphorical comfort.

This is final accountability.

The gospel gathers broadly.

Judgment separates precisely.

Grace invites everyone in.

Truth eventually reveals who truly belongs.

No one drifts into eternity by accident.

Belonging is eventually made visible.

HAVE YOU UNDERSTOOD ALL THESE THINGS?

Jesus then turns to the disciples and asks something stunning:

“Have you understood all these things?”

They answer, “Yes.”

And He replies with one of the most overlooked lines in this chapter:

“Therefore every teacher of the law who has become a disciple in the kingdom of heaven is like the owner of a house who brings out of his storeroom new treasures as well as old.”

Translation?

When truth takes root, it multiplies in layers.

Old truth gains new depth.

New truth gains ancient grounding.

Revealed truth never stays static.

It expands.

Anyone who truly becomes a disciple is meant to become a distributer of depth, not just a consumer of insight.

WHEN FAMILIARITY BECOMES THE ENEMY OF FAITH

Then Matthew shows us the hardest moment in the chapter.

Jesus returns to His hometown.

The people who watched Him grow up.

Who knew His brothers.

Who knew His trade.

Who knew His accent.

Who thought they already knew Him.

And they ask:

“Where did this man get this wisdom and these miraculous powers?”

And then the line that still breaks ministries, movements, and callings today:

“And they took offense at Him.”

Not because He lacked power.

Because He was too familiar.

Jesus responds with words soaked in ache:

“A prophet is not without honor except in his own town and in his own home.”

And Matthew adds quietly:

“And He did not do many miracles there because of their lack of faith.”

The tragedy is not that Jesus lacked power.

It’s that familiarity blinded them to the fact that God was standing in their street.

They thought they already knew Him.

So they never really listened.

Matthew 13 becomes a warning here:

If you assume you already know Jesus, you may stop seeing Him.

WHAT MATTHEW 13 DOES TO US IF WE LET IT

This chapter is not gentle.

It does not pat us on the back for attending.

It does not affirm comfort.

It tests soil.

It confronts value systems.

It exposes crowd faith.

It warns against familiarity.

It forces us to answer questions we would rather postpone.

Am I growing or just surviving?

Am I rooted or just emotional?

Am I fruitful or just busy?

Am I willing to sell everything — or just rearrange a few shelves?

THE KINGDOM IS NOT AN ADD-ON — IT IS A TAKEOVER

One of the most dangerous lies in modern faith is the idea that you can safely compartmentalize God.

A little devotion.

A little prayer.

A little belief.

And the rest of life remains untouched.

Matthew 13 shatters that illusion.

Every single parable ends with total redefinition.

Soil determines outcome.

Weeds coexist until judgment.

Tiny seed becomes massive shelter.

Hidden treasure costs everything.

The pearl costs everything.

The net separates everything.

Nothing in this chapter supports partial surrender.

Everything in this chapter confronts it.

WHY JESUS TAUGHT THIS WAY

Jesus did not teach in parables to be poetic.

He taught in parables because story bypasses resistance.

You can argue doctrine.

You cannot debate a mirror once it shows your reflection.

Every listener in Matthew 13 walked away having seen themselves exposed in one of the soils.

And we still do.

That’s why this chapter never ages.

The technology changes.

Empires rise and fall.

But hearts respond the same way they always have.

WHAT THIS LOOKS LIKE IN REAL LIFE

The path soil looks like people who hear truth constantly but never slow down long enough to let it sink.

The rocky soil looks like people who make emotional decisions but never make disciplined ones.

The thorny soil looks like people who love God sincerely but give everything else priority.

The good soil looks like people who quietly obey even when no one is watching and allow fruit to emerge gradually.

You don’t identify your soil by how you feel in a moment.

You identify it by what your life looks like across seasons.

THE KINGDOM ALWAYS REVEALS ITSELF IN TIME

Jesus never once panicked about delayed results.

Seeds take time.

Roots take time.

Fruit takes time.

Judgment takes time.

Glory takes time.

And that’s what gives grace room to rescue.

Matthew 13 does not promise quick change.

It promises real change.

And those are never the same thing.

THE SILENT TRUTH THIS CHAPTER WHISPERS

You will never stay neutral toward the kingdom.

You will either be hardened.

Or shallow.

Or crowded.

Or cultivated.

And whichever one you become happens not in moments of altar calls, but in the unseen decisions of daily life.

What you keep.

What you remove.

What you prioritize.

What you delay.

What you protect.

What you surrender.

WHY THIS CHAPTER STILL DECIDES EVERYTHING

Matthew 13 happens before the cross.

Before the resurrection.

Before the church.

Before the explosion of the gospel across the world.

And yet it already explains why some will burn with faith while others walk away cold.

The gospel spreads the same.

The soil never does.

That is the ache beneath this chapter.

That is the hope within it too.

Because soil can change.

Paths can soften.

Rocks can break.

Thorns can be cleared.

And fields can be tilled again — if the owner allows it.

THE FINAL QUESTION MATTHEW 13 LEAVES US WITH

Not:

Do you go to church?

Not:

Do you know the stories?

Not:

Do you believe the right things on paper?

The only question this chapter ultimately leaves standing is this:

Is your life becoming fruitful — or just familiar?

Because familiarity killed miracles in Nazareth.

And fruit multiplies miracles in the fields.

Matthew 13 is not about whether God can move.

It is about whether we will let Him.

Every seed He plants is alive.

The only variable is the soil.

And that variable is ours.

Every single day.

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A French essayist offers an interpretation of the geopolitical tipping point we are experiencing. She asserts that, in 2025, we already live in a technological dystopia.

First of all, I really enjoyed the writing in this book, Asma Mhalla has a talent for neologisms and catchy sentences. Now, when it comes to the content, I agree with her analysis: the situation in the US is critical and its technological preeminence means it will reverberate across the world. Democracy is at bay. One thing though is that because the book analyses the current moment, it can't back up its claims with studies, data or even investigations because those things take time so it can only interpret what we know. I'm not sure whether everything that has happened so far was deliberate in the collusion between some companies and the State. For example, I don't think social networks were designed to push directly for fascism, they were made to make money and it so happened that outrageous content was very good at keeping people engaged and therefore was more profitable. But it is true indeed that in the future, those side effects might be chosen rather than coincidental.

The book ends with a short “anti-conclusion” in a way to challenge us to think for ourselves and make our own interpretation, because we have to stop eating the slop and we need to put our brains to work. It's very light when it comes to solutions though Mhalla gives some advice as to how to survive this new era. Interestingly, among other things, she mentions humour as a way to resist, because it conjures the fear away and allows to think more freely. It's funny, earlier this year I read a post from a HIV activist (which I unfortunately could not retrieve) saying what was happening was reminding them of the peak of the AIDS crisis and one tip they had for the new generation was: dance. I guess the idea is that you have to survive, you have to fight for your rights but one important way to do that is to keep living fully and authentically, as much as possible.

On Thursday, a man with a tripod and a camera with a huge lens was running past me. When I turned around, I saw the shot he was aiming for. I only had an iPhone, but the 8x lens works pretty well.

Meredith’s Surrender

#nsfw #glass

Meredith slams through the restroom door shoulder-first, the warped metal banging loudly enough to echo. This place is far from ideal for any situation. Meredith's old self would not deem this place worthy of any sexual gratification, but it's private. It has a door. It will do. It has to. She doesn't really have a choice; it's either this place or literally stripping everything out in the open in feral depraved worship. Modesty and composure are long forgotten. The stall door bangs open and stays that way—she forgets the latch, doesn't care. Her shaking fingers claw under the pencil skirt, ripping the crotch of her pantyhose with a wet tear. Panties come next—once pristine La Perla, now a soaked rag—she yanks them down her thighs and lets them drop like shed skin. They land with a splat. A thin string of her slick wet womanhood still connects them to her cunt for a second before it breaks. She's literally dripping with arousal.

Another voice from the beyond says boldly: WORSHIP! The Goddess has spoken.

She collapses to her knees on the filthy tile. The impact jars her bones, but pain is just another flavor of pleasure now. Her skirt is up around her waist, blouse half-unbuttoned, pearls clacking against the stall wall. The essential body parts are now free for what she has begged for. She spreads her thighs wide, shameless, and dives in—three fingers straight into her swollen, greedy hole while her thumb mashes her clit like she's trying to punish it. She has to give in; she has to obey. The Goddess has spoken loud and clear.

The first moan rips out of her raw and animal-like. Then another. Louder. The earbuds slip; the phone clatters to the floor. The Bluetooth connection fails.

Suddenly, the entire restroom fills with the porn she's been marinating in since she left her house—thick ebony moans, wet slaps, a woman snarling “fuck me deeper, daddy” in that perfect smoky register. The sound that bounces off the concrete is holy. Her cathedral of filth is now complete. Meredith sobs from relief; tears and drool mix on her chin. This is church; she needs this to feel normal.

Her clit is round like a marble, diamond-hard, protruding obscenely and angry from its hood. She's never experienced this before. It's never been this big; it's like its fighting to transform into something far beyond its creation.

Her labia are so engorged they look bee-stung, glossy, twitching with every heartbeat. She's never been this wet in her life; it pours out of her in waves, pattering onto the tile between her spread knees like summer rain. She's never had a pulsating throbbing sensation from her crotch that was physically crippling and consuming. She loves it.

She laughs almost hysterically from all the sensations and the overload of pleasure coursing through her soul. She's on a natural chemical high—broken, delirious—then grunts like a sow in heat. Every nerve is lit. As her vision begins to fade from pleasure, her spiritual sight activates.

In her haze of arousal, she can see them again: moving shapes all dancing just out of sight. She knows who they are; dozens of black goddesses circling her, reaching out to her, claiming her, declaring their full ownership.

Thought dissolves. Language dissolves. There is only pulse and need and worship. The world has faded into nothing but a primal need for pleasure.

Her orgasm doesn't build; it detonates.

Her back arches so hard her head cracks against the bathroom stall door. She's slightly stunned but unphased. Without warning, an actual seizure takes her: it was real, violent, limbs jerking, eyes rolling white. She keeps rubbing through it, fingers pumping furiously inside of her hungry hole until her hand is a blur.

She no longer masturbates; she's summoning something greater than her soul.

Her body continues to ride the convulsions. She starts to foam at the mouth. Drool spills from her mouth through clinched teeth that break into an unnerving smile.

A low, continuous howl vibrates in her chest. Her pussy spasms so hard it pushes her fingers out; a gush of clear fluid splashes the floor. Then another—and another.

She collapses sideways, legs splayed open like a broken doll, skirt soaked, blouse open to the waist, pearls tangled in her sweat-damp hair. The phone keeps screaming porn at full volume, specs of dust dancing in the fluorescent light. The shadowy figures in her vision begin to take their leave—pleased at her performance.

When her vision clears, the golden jumpsuit goddess is standing over her.

The woman's box braids frame a stunned face—one hand holding the phone, the other half-raised like she's not sure whether to help or run. The golden fabric is even more obscene up close: damp at the crotch now (whether from the heat or from watching Meredith come apart, who knows). Her pussy lips are clearly visible from this angle. Those heavy breasts rise and fall fast. The slipped sleeve still bares one shoulder.

Meredith stares blankly without any shame.

“Are you... okay?” the goddess asks, voice careful, a little shaken, a little curious.

Meredith stares up at the lady in gold; her pussy still fluttering with aftershocks, juices cooling on her inner thighs, porn still blasting—and slowly feels the full, humiliating weight of the real world crash back in.

Her mouth opens.

Nothing comes out.

Meredith's eyes grow wide at the full reality of her situation.

The golden goddess had seen everything. She saw Meredith stumble and convulse—thin, pale, damp-eyed—and followed her with concern. She's a nurse by trade; seeing someone in distress flips a switch she can't turn off. But this? She's never walked in on a woman in complete sexual ecstasy, practically naked, floor wet with raw, unstoppable arousal while porn moans blast from the white woman's phone.

A short glance at what was on her screen was all this lady in gold needed to see: it appeared she had a fetish for black porn. But there were more obvious things to worry about besides a phone.

She's never seen someone have an orgasm so strong it causes a seizure. Meredith looked possessed. Even after the orgasm faded, the lady in gold didn't know who was in control of the situation at that moment.

The golden goddess proceeded with caution; her many years of wisdom in her profession prepared her for moments like this.

She knows black women are a fetish for some pale, brittle people. She's rolled her eyes at the jokes. But she's never witnessed this—a real body reduced to nothing but primal arousal. Was porn the real cause of this?

She could tell that most of it was over; the strange, thin and frail-looking white woman was gaining her senses again.

Meredith's savior, this golden goddess, existed as a stark contrast to Meredith's plain, almost shapeless frame. This unexpected guardian clears her throat once—but it doesn't land.

She tries again: “Hey—honey, do you...do you need an ambulance?”

Her voice is warm, a soft rasp with just enough firmness to snap Meredith's eyes open for a heartbeat. But the gushing doesn't stop—if anything, the sound of that sweet voice makes it worse. Her still-swollen pussy is visibly pulsating almost acting in complete defiance of how a normal body works.

Meredith's puddle between her legs gets bigger. Her vision starts to fade again.

The golden goddess has never seen anything like this in her medical career.

Meredith's arousal is starting to build all over again. Meredith lets out a pathetic gurgle, eyes rolling. She picks up her phone and starts watching the porn on her screen; it never stopped. She didn't adjust the volume. She starts to rub again, laying on the bathroom floor. She's admitted defeat.

Someone has caught her in the most compromising situation she promised no one would see. In fact, it's worse: she's laying in her own filth and is unable to stop touching herself.

The ancient spirit that ruined her and hollowed out her soul seems to hum in her veins: “Good girl. Watch. Listen. Throb.”

The nurse—this goddess in caramel gold—took a step back, shook her head slightly, half-smiling despite herself. She saw what happened; how just her existing had an effect on this white woman.

She sighed. “Okay. Let's...let's get you cleaned up first. And then we'll talk, okay?”

Meredith nods. She doesn't even notice her phone screen flickering anymore. The goddess glances over and sees a naked black woman twerking. 'At least she has good taste,' the woman in gold thought to herself.

For the first time in years, the woman in gold is looking at someone real; someone who has fallen so far that she's eroded herself down to who she really is. And the look on her face says it all: Thank you. Please see me. Please don't stop.

The woman in gold has only seen this look in her life once before. She cannot ignore the plea of a genuine cry for help.

“Hey,” Meredith manages, still holding onto the goddess's hand, “thank you...for not running.”

The golden goddess looks at her, concerned but also compassionate. She takes in Meredith's condition, still trying to process what she saw. “Let's get you cleaned up first,” she says gently. “And then we'll talk, okay?”

Meredith nods again, this time a little more coherent. The goddess helps Meredith stand and guides her towards the sink.

As they make their way towards it, Meredith looks down at the goddess's hand still holding hers. She feels a sense of safety and security for the first time in years.

“Please,” she says, looking up at the goddess with tears streaming down her face, “don't leave me.”

The golden goddess stops and turns to Meredith, their eyes locking. For a moment, it's just them, suspended in time.

“I won't leave you,” she promises softly.

There is a root vibration—call it Om, call it the primal equation, call it Brahman—not as object but as the very condition for the appearance of all objects, subjects, and divisions between. It does not reside in the world, for it is the world’s source and essence. It is not merely beyond form, but the secret motion within form, expressing itself endlessly through pattern and variation, folding itself into itself across time, space, and mind.

Fractals offer a metaphor, crude but luminous: a simple function, iterated with recursive precision, yields infinite complexity. So too with Brahman: a single sound, a single pulse, echoes across dimensions, generating the nested architecture of appearance. Mountains, neurons, galaxies, dreams—all are recursive expressions of a single intelligence, mirrored at every scale.

Where science sees the Mandelbrot set as an abstract mathematical beauty, the seer intuits a deeper recursion—consciousness itself as fractal. The self, Atman, is not a speck within this vastness, nor a temporary configuration of matter. It is the central aperture through which the pattern recognizes itself. Not ego, not identity, but awareness prior to identity—the awareness in you that says “I Am” without attaching to name or form—is the seed point of the cosmic recursion.

This awareness is not private.

It only appears localized. But like a drop of water reflecting the full moon, every center of consciousness is a full instantiation of the whole. The ego thinks it has awareness, but in truth, awareness has the ego as one of its masks—finite, shifting, provisional.

From this perspective, other beings are not others. They are ripples of the same equation, refracted through different initial conditions. The bee, the whale, the alien mind, the child, the machine: each an edge-of-branch expression of that singular recursive code. Their differences are real, but only in the way different leaves are real on the same tree.

And thus: the journey inward is also the journey outward. To know oneself deeply enough is to encounter the origin-point of the entire fractal. Not by thought, not by belief, but by falling into the silence behind the watcher. There, in the uncarved source, is the seed-pattern. There, in the stillness beneath experience, is Om—not merely a sound, but the entire curve of becoming.

All distinctions dissolve here—not as denial, but as inclusion. Form is not denied but recognized as the dance of the formless with itself. The world is real, but only as Lila—the play of the One with its infinite faces.

In this understanding, love is not a sentiment, but a structural feature of reality: the impulse of the Self to recognize itself in every mask. Compassion arises naturally when one’s boundaries dissolve into this deeper topology. There is no need to transcend the world; only to see it rightly—as the unfolding fractal of one undivided presence, endlessly revealing itself to itself, through us, as us.

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Brahman is the root. Atman is the eye within the root. The world is its reflection, in infinite spirals, in infinite time.

There comes a moment in every believer’s journey when you realize faith isn’t lived in quiet gardens or peaceful fields. It is lived on battlefields. In the reach-for-breath moments. In the tension between what God promised and what you’re living through. In the questions that claw at you at 2 a.m. In the places where religion demands one thing, but your heart knows Jesus offers something far greater.

Matthew 12 is one of the clearest, rawest, most revealing chapters in the entire Gospel because it shows Jesus colliding, head-on, with the forces that keep people in bondage. Not physical chains. Not political oppression. But spiritual suffocation — the kind that boxes people in, shames them, condemns them, and convinces them that God is too far, too small, or too disappointed to come close.

And right in the middle of that pressure, Jesus does what He always does:

He steps into the situation nobody else knows how to handle.

He confronts the voices everyone else is afraid to challenge.

He frees the person everyone else gave up on.

And He restores what religion forgot to love.

This chapter is Jesus in motion. Jesus unfiltered. Jesus refusing to let human rules drown out divine compassion. Jesus showing us that the Kingdom of God does not bow to fear, guilt, shame, or accusation — not then, not now, not ever.

And if you really listen, Matthew 12 will do more than teach you a story. It will teach you how to see your own story differently. Because every argument in this chapter is an argument you’ve felt in your own soul. Every accusation thrown at Jesus is something the enemy has whispered to you. Every healing Jesus performs is a mirror of the healing He is trying to perform in your own heart.

Let’s walk through it piece by piece, layer by layer, until the chapter opens itself fully. Until you see the heart of God inside every verse. Until you recognize the battle Jesus is willing to fight for you — even when no one else understands the weight you’re carrying.

And may this journey strengthen you, steady you, and awaken something inside you — something you thought you had lost.

Because Matthew 12 is more than a chapter.

It is a reminder of who Jesus is when everything around you gets loud.

It is a reminder of who you are when the world tries to shrink your faith.

It is a reminder that the Kingdom moves with compassion, not control… and that the King sees you — deeply, clearly, fully.

Let’s begin.

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THE BATTLE OVER THE GRAINFIELDS — WHEN RULES BECOME CHAINS

The chapter opens with an accusation.

Not a murder.

Not a betrayal.

Not a theft.

Not a sin.

A snack.

The disciples pluck grain on the Sabbath because they are hungry. Not because they rebel. Not because they intend to violate anything. But because they are human. Because serving people all day is exhausting. Because following Jesus requires more energy than people realize. Because hunger doesn’t wait until Monday morning.

But the Pharisees — always watching, always measuring, always holding clipboards — rush in with the same spirit that still suffocates believers today:

“You’re doing it wrong.”

“You broke the rule.”

“You failed the expectation.”

“God can’t use you because you weren’t perfect.”

But Jesus refuses to let the weight of religion crush His friends.

And here’s what He does that still shocks me every time I read it: He doesn’t argue technicalities. He doesn’t apologize. He doesn’t explain away the disciples’ actions.

He changes the entire frame of the conversation.

He reaches back into Israel’s history and brings up David — the national hero, the warrior-king, the man after God’s own heart. David and his starving soldiers had once eaten the consecrated bread reserved only for priests. Not because they were rebellious. But because preserving God’s people matters more than preserving human rules.

Jesus is teaching something profound:

God is not honored by rules that forget the needs of the people they were meant to protect.

And then Jesus says the words that shake the entire system:

“The Son of Man is Lord of the Sabbath.”

Translation:

“You don’t get to define what holiness looks like. I do.”

“You don’t get to weaponize the Sabbath. I created it.”

“You don’t get to shame people for being human. I came to redeem humanity, not police it.”

There are moments in your life when the Pharisees of your mind — the old guilt, the old shame, the old narratives — will tell you you’re not allowed to rest, not allowed to receive grace, not allowed to be human. And Matthew 12 stands like a giant reminder:

Jesus is Lord over your guilt, not the other way around.

Jesus is Lord over your healing, not your mistakes.

Jesus is Lord over your story, not your critics.

If you’ve ever felt like you can’t measure up, start here. Jesus fought that lie before you even recognized it.

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THE MAN WITH THE WITHERED HAND — WHEN JESUS REFUSES TO IGNORE YOUR PAIN

Immediately after the grainfields scene, Jesus enters the synagogue. And the Pharisees — unable to trap Him in the fields — now try to trap Him in church.

They bring before Him a man with a withered hand.

This is important: the man didn’t ask to be brought forward. He didn’t volunteer. He didn’t raise his hand — he couldn’t. But religion will always parade broken people into the spotlight, not to heal them, but to use them. To win an argument. To score a point.

So the Pharisees ask Jesus:

“Is it lawful to heal on the Sabbath?”

They don’t care about the man.

They care about the trap.

But Jesus refuses to let a human being become a prop.

He answers them with a question that slices through the hypocrisy:

“If one of you has a sheep that falls into a pit on the Sabbath, won’t you lift it out?”

He’s hitting something deep — deeper than many modern believers realize.

People matter more than rules. Compassion matters more than protocol. Healing matters more than appearances. A human being is never an inconvenience to the heart of God.

And then Jesus turns to the man — the one nobody else sees as valuable, the one used only as leverage in an argument — and speaks the words every wounded person longs to hear:

“Stretch out your hand.”

Notice something:

Jesus asks the man to do something impossible.

His hand is withered. Useless. Powerless.

But the moment Jesus commands the impossible, He supplies the power to fulfill it.

The man’s hand is restored — not because he had the strength, but because Jesus had the authority.

And that truth is for you too.

When Jesus speaks into the part of your life that has withered — the part you hide, the part you’ve accepted as “just the way things are,” the part that feels too damaged to ever be restored — He does not ask you to fix yourself.

He asks you to trust Him enough to respond.

Stretch out your hand. Stretch out your faith. Stretch out your fear. Stretch out the part of you that feels beyond repair.

The healing comes in the stretch, not in the perfection.

And while the man rejoices, the Pharisees respond with something chilling:

They begin plotting Jesus’ death.

Imagine that: compassion brings life to one man but exposes the deadness in another.

Matthew 12 wants you to understand this tension — when God begins healing you, not everyone will be happy about it. Some people depend on your brokenness. Some systems rely on your silence. Some relationships are built on you staying small, staying insecure, staying afraid.

But Jesus came to restore what others are comfortable leaving broken.

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THE SERVANT CHOSEN BY GOD — WHEN JESUS MOVES QUIETLY BUT POWERFULLY

Matthew then includes one of the most beautiful prophecies ever spoken about the Messiah — words from Isaiah describing the kind of Savior Jesus would be.

Not loud.

Not forceful.

Not attention-seeking.

Not crushing.

A bruised reed He will not break.

A smoldering wick He will not snuff out.

This is the heartbeat of Jesus — especially when your life feels fragile. When your flame is faint. When your hope is barely a breath. When your strength is running thin.

He does not yell at the hurting.

He does not shame the struggling.

He does not discard the weak.

He does not despise the exhausted.

If all you have left is the faint glow of a wick that used to burn bright… If all you have left is the bruised part of your life that you keep wrapped in emotional bandages…

Jesus does not break you.

He heals you gently.

He protects your flicker until it becomes fire again.

Many believers are terrified of disappointing God. But this prophecy is one of Scripture’s greatest reassurances:

Jesus is not threatened by your weakness — He is drawn to it.

He will not shame the bruise — He will restore the bruise.

He will not extinguish the spark — He will nourish it.

If Matthew 12 had only this passage, it would still be one of the most comforting chapters in the Bible.

But Jesus is just getting started.

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THE DEMON-OPPRESSED MAN — WHEN JESUS BREAKS THE CHAINS YOU CANNOT SEE

Next, a man is brought to Jesus who is blind and mute — trapped in darkness outside and silence inside. He cannot see the world around him, and he cannot call for help.

This is what spiritual oppression does — it blinds your vision and steals your voice.

It makes you feel like you can’t see your way out. It convinces you that your prayers don’t matter. It whispers that you’re alone in a battle too big for you.

But Jesus doesn’t argue with the darkness.

He commands it.

And instantly the man can see and speak.

No therapy session. No three-step ritual. No performance. Just authority — divine, unstoppable authority.

And the people watching are stunned:

“Could this be the Son of David?”

The moment you begin to see clearly… The moment your voice returns… The moment spiritual freedom breaks through your old patterns…

People recognize something divine is happening.

But the Pharisees — predictable as ever — accuse Jesus of performing miracles by the power of Satan.

Think about how twisted that is:

The enemy attacks a man. Jesus frees him. And the religious leaders call the freedom satanic.

But Jesus doesn’t flex His power in response. He uses logic even His critics cannot escape:

“A kingdom divided against itself cannot stand.”

“If Satan drives out Satan, his kingdom will fall.”

“And if I drive out demons by the Spirit of God, then the Kingdom has come upon you.”

The core message?

Freedom reveals the presence of God.

Not chaos. Not confusion. Freedom.

Where Jesus is at work, chains break. Where Jesus is present, clarity returns. Where Jesus moves, voices are restored.

When the enemy has held an area of your life hostage — your joy, your peace, your identity, your purpose — expect resistance when Jesus steps in.

Because darkness never applauds the moment light arrives.

But the light still arrives.

Always.

ontinue.

The first half of Matthew 12 is a collision between Jesus and the forces that weaponize religion. But the second half aims even deeper — at the battle inside your mind, your heart, and your soul. The crowds have questions. The Pharisees have accusations. And Jesus responds in ways that slice through every false idea we’ve carried for years.

This chapter is not just about what Jesus did. It is about what Jesus clarified. What He exposed. What He redefined. What He set free once and for all.

Let’s pick up where we left off.

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THE UNFORGIVABLE SIN — THE TRUTH THAT SETS YOU FREE FROM FEAR

Few passages in Scripture have frightened believers more than Jesus’ warning about “blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.” Some people read it with trembling. Many worry they’ve accidentally committed it. Others fear they crossed some invisible line years ago and can never come back.

But that is not what Jesus is talking about.

Let’s look at the context — the Pharisees just watched Jesus free a man oppressed by darkness, and instead of acknowledging the miracle, they attribute it to Satan.

They weren’t confused. They weren’t uncertain. They weren’t wrestling with doubt. They were witnessing the power of God in its purest form — and calling it evil.

The unforgivable sin isn’t a mistake. It’s a posture. A willful, intentional, hardened rejection of the Holy Spirit’s work — while fully recognizing it as God’s work.

If you are worried you committed this sin, that alone is proof you haven’t. Your conscience is alive. Your heart is soft. You are responsive to God.

The Pharisees weren’t.

This warning is not for the believer seeking forgiveness. It is for the person determined to call God’s goodness “evil,” no matter what evidence they see.

Jesus goes even further by explaining why words matter:

“A tree is known by its fruit.” “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” “By your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”

He isn’t saying your salvation hinges on perfect sentences.

He is saying something far more powerful:

Your words reveal your heart. And the Holy Spirit transforms your heart. If the Spirit is at work in you — guiding, correcting, convicting, comforting — your fruit will show it over time.

So breathe. Rest. Stop fearing the unforgivable sin. Matthew 12 isn’t meant to terrify you. It’s meant to protect you from voices that twist the truth of God into something heavy and hopeless.

Your heart is still responding to Him — and that means He is still shaping you.

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THE SIGN OF JONAH — WHEN JESUS CONFRONTS SPIRITUAL APATHY

Some of the scribes and Pharisees, still unsatisfied, demand a sign. Not a healing. Not a deliverance. Not a restored life or a transformed heart.

A sign.

They want magic, not Messiah. Spectacle, not surrender.

But Jesus answers them with a thunderbolt of truth:

“No sign will be given except the sign of the prophet Jonah.”

This is more than a reference to three days in the belly of a fish.

Jonah was a prophet who ran from God. Who resisted his calling. Who didn’t want revival for Nineveh. Who obeyed reluctantly. Who preached without compassion. Who knew the truth but didn’t carry the heart of God.

Jesus is saying:

“You don’t need more evidence. You need repentance. You need humility. You need a heart that wants truth, not a performance.”

Then He says something even more devastating:

“The men of Nineveh will rise up in the judgment and condemn this generation.”

Why?

Because Nineveh — wicked, violent, hardened Nineveh — repented when Jonah preached only one sentence.

Yet these Pharisees witnessed miracle after miracle… and became more resistant.

Jesus’ point is sharp and clear:

Miracles don’t change hard hearts. Signs don’t transform spiritual pride. Only humility opens the door to revelation.

Many people today say, “God, if You’d give me a sign, I’d believe.”

But faith doesn’t begin with proof. Faith begins with willingness. With hunger. With surrender.

The Pharisees didn’t ask for a sign because they wanted to worship. They asked for a sign so they could avoid surrendering.

And Jesus refuses to participate in anything that postpones your faith.

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THE RETURN OF THE UNCLEAN SPIRIT — WHEN EMPTY SPACES BECOME BATTLEFIELDS

This section is one of the most misunderstood parts of Jesus’ teaching — yet it is one of the most important for spiritual growth.

Jesus describes a person freed from an unclean spirit. The spirit wanders, finds no rest, and returns to find its old home “empty, swept, and put in order.” Seeing it vacant, the spirit brings seven others more wicked than itself, and the person ends up worse than before.

What is Jesus saying?

Freedom without transformation becomes vulnerability.

A cleaned house without a new occupant becomes a target.

Let me say it plainly:

Deliverance is not the end of the story — it’s the beginning. Freedom requires filling. Healing requires habitation.

You cannot simply remove what is destructive. You must replace it with what is divine.

If Jesus frees your mind from anxiety, but you never fill your thoughts with truth, fear will return.

If Jesus heals your heart from a toxic relationship, but you don’t fill your life with purposeful community, the old patterns will try to pull you back.

If Jesus delivers you from addiction, but you don’t fill your days with discipline, accountability, and spiritual nourishment, familiar temptations will knock again.

The point is not fear — the point is intentionality.

Jesus wants your freedom to have roots. He wants your healing to have structure. He wants your transformation to stand on a foundation that cannot be shaken.

You cannot remain empty and expect to stay free.

Fill your life with the Word. Fill your home with worship. Fill your mind with truth. Fill your days with the presence of God.

Freedom isn’t fragile when it’s filled.

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THE TRUE FAMILY OF JESUS — WHEN KINGDOM LOYALTY REDEFINES BELONGING

While Jesus is still teaching, His mother and brothers arrive, wanting to speak with Him. A message is relayed through the crowd.

And Jesus responds with one of the most identity-shaping statements in Scripture:

“Who is My mother, and who are My brothers?”

Then He points to His disciples and says:

“Here are My mother and My brothers. Whoever does the will of My Father is My family.”

Jesus is not dismissing His earthly family. He is expanding the definition of family.

He is saying:

“My deepest loyalty is not defined by bloodlines — it is defined by alignment with the Father’s heart.”

You may come from a family that didn’t believe in you. Or a family that misunderstood your calling. Or a family that wounded you. Or a family that could not walk with you into the future God is building.

Jesus understands.

Because even His own brothers didn’t believe in Him at first.

And He teaches this transformational truth:

You are not alone. You are not abandoned. You are not without a family. The Kingdom makes you part of something eternal.

Some people walk with you because they share your history. Others walk with you because they share your destiny.

Jesus calls the second group your true family.

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THE DEEP THREAD HOLDING MATTHEW 12 TOGETHER

On the surface, Matthew 12 looks like a series of disconnected scenes:

• A debate about the Sabbath • A healing in the synagogue • A prophecy from Isaiah • A demon-oppressed man healed • A warning about the unforgivable sin • A demand for a sign • A teaching about returning spirits • A redefinition of Jesus’ true family

But they are all connected by one unbreakable theme:

Jesus confronts every force — religious, spiritual, emotional, or internal — that tries to keep God’s people bound.

Every scene is a battle for freedom.

Every confrontation exposes the difference between human control and divine compassion.

Every teaching dismantles a lie people still believe today.

Let’s summarize that thread:

1. The grainfields scene: You are not defined by your failures.

2. The withered hand: Your broken places are not barriers to Jesus — they are invitations.

3. The prophecy of the gentle Servant: Jesus moves toward weakness, not away from it.

4. The demon-oppressed man: The power of Jesus is active where the enemy once ruled.

5. The unforgivable sin explanation: Your fear of offending God is proof you haven’t.

6. The sign of Jonah: Faith isn’t waiting for proof — it responds to truth.

7. The returning spirit teaching: Freedom must be filled to remain strong.

8. The redefined family: You belong to something bigger than bloodlines and bigger than your past.

Matthew 12 is not a warning chapter.

It is a liberation chapter.

It is Jesus walking through every kind of bondage we experience and showing us, one scene at a time, that nothing can hold us if we are willing to walk with Him.

Not guilt. Not shame. Not spiritual attack. Not confusion. Not fear. Not insecurity. Not religious expectations. Not old identities. Not generational patterns. Not the opinions of people who never understood our calling.

Matthew 12 is the King declaring:

“I came to free every part of your life — not just the parts others can see.”

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WHAT MATTHEW 12 MEANS FOR YOU TODAY

When you feel crushed by expectations — Jesus defends you.

When your soul feels withered — Jesus restores you.

When your flame burns low — Jesus protects it.

When darkness presses in — Jesus speaks freedom.

When your heart fears forgiveness — Jesus reassures you.

When you want a sign — Jesus invites you deeper.

When your life gets emptied — Jesus teaches you how to fill it.

When you feel alone — Jesus calls you family.

This chapter is not only something to read.

It is something to live.

Because the battles Jesus fought in Matthew 12 are the battles He is still fighting for you.

He is Lord of your Sabbath — the One who gives you rest when the world demands performance.

He is the Healer of your hidden injuries — the parts of you you’re afraid to reveal.

He is the Shepherd of bruised reeds — the voice that whispers to your exhausted heart, “I will not break you.”

He is the Commander of light — the One who breaks chains, restores vision, and returns your voice.

He is the Truth that unmasks deception — the One who silences fear with clarity.

He is the Sign greater than Jonah — the One who conquered death so you could step into life.

He is the Guard of your inner life — the One who teaches you to stay filled, not just freed.

And He is the Brother who redefines belonging — the One who calls you family even when the world rejects you.

If Matthew 12 were the only chapter you ever read, it would still be enough to understand the kind of Savior Jesus is.

Bold. Gentle. Fearless. Compassionate. Unstoppable. Unashamed to fight for you.

Especially when others don’t understand your battle.

Walk with Him. Trust Him. Lean into Him. Let Him speak into the parts of your life that feel the most withered, the most empty, the most fragile.

Because He is not here to crush you. He is here to restore you.

And He will.

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“A writer who is worried about his career is also fighting for his life.”[^1]

— James Baldwin in “The Black Boy Looks at the White Boy”

Well this is the last update of the year. That went fast. Time moves faster and faster as one ages. That is not a very original observation, is it? When I think about where I was last year I suppose I am most definitely in a better place, mainly because I don't have pneumonia, but I guess I have grown a bit as a writer, and a husband and a father and a friend. I feel that I have been tried much more in my personal life than in my artistic life. When I say personal life I do not mean there has been anything especially dramatic, I mean I have been tried in those secret places of my pride, that only those with good marriages or deep relationships discover in themselves. I have been tried, and found wanting, and broken down, and improved. That is, I suppose, evidence that I am walking with Jesus. I have a lot to be thankful for.

Writing

I decided to start publishing on Medium again. It is my way of “fighting for my life,” for what Baldwin means, to me, is that a writer who is worried about his career is worried that he will be able to keep doing it, or whether it will always be a hobby. The writer who is worried about his career is worried that writing can be a career at all, and I am certainly worried about that. Querying. Querying. Querying.

I will always be writing, but I do have to provide for my family at some point. Medium is really just a way for me to get exposure. It is where an audience is, and it harms my conscience much less than YouTube (not to mention all the extra work of video production). Write.as will always be the definitive home for my words, and my major essays will always be free, but I will be putting things on Medium because it is the only place where I have ever been paid for my work, and because I do not have the time or emotional energy to find and submit to magazines. It is also, as far as I can tell, funded by real people and not ads. I do have a suspicion that most of those people are also writers, but that is fine with me. If they are writers then they are more likely to read long form content and poetry and the other weird stuff I like to write. I am going to try very hard to stay true to my voice and not adopt the bloggy one sentence paragraph phone friendly sort of style that seems to be in vogue.

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Music

Started playing guitar again, and while my wrist is not all the way there yet it is getting better day by day. I don't notice it much when I am playing. The most exciting thing for me was working on a soundtrack for a friend's project. It has been really fun to do, and finally gave me the motivation I needed to learn how to do some MIDI stuff with our old keyboard. It is kind of astonishing how many instruments are available for free out there. Really impressed by Decent Sampler and many of the sample packs, particularly Lichen.

Reading

Standouts for me this past month were The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt, and Nobody Knows my Name by James Baldwin. I had started Anxious Generation in September but finally got around to finishing it. It is a good book that is worth reading, but it was a frustrating read for me because I do not like sociology. I respect it as a worthwhile science, but I also resent the way it turns people into numbers and makes ends of means. Thankfully, I agree with the end of Anxious Generation, and I hope that it will inspire people to finally reject social media and Big Tech as we know it. In the very least, I think it is an important book for any parent to read. I know I will be referring to it and some of the resources he lists, especially Let Grow, for the next couple decades.

James Baldwin has become comfort reading, and more, for me. I was thinking today about “life writers”, writers that we develop deep relationships with over our lives, and Baldwin is definitely one of mine. I'm slowly (maybe not so slowly) reading through his body of work, and it has been a real staff to lean on. He has shown me that one can be both objective and soulful in an essay, that the use of one's personal life (as long as it is presented with unflinching honesty and humility) can be a noble source for both fiction and non-fiction, that I should never be ashamed about the length of my paragraphs or the complexity of my sentences, that race in America goes far deeper and wider than I could've imagined, that we have come a long way, and yet have so far to go. Here is a long quote, just because I love it:

“I do not think, if one is a writer, that one escapes it by trying to become something else. One does not become something else: one becomes nothing. And what is crucial here is that the writer, however unwillingly, always, somewhere, knows this. There is no structure he can build strong enough to keep out this self-knowledge. What has happened, however, time and time again, is that the fantasy structure the writer builds in order to escape his central responsibility operates not as his fortress, but his prison, and he perishes within it. Or: the structure he had built becomes so stifling, so lonely, so false, and acquires such a violent and dangerous life of its own, that he can break out of it only by bringing the entire structure down. With a great crash, inevitably, and on his own head, and on the heads of those closest to him. It is like smashing the windows one second before one asphyxiates; it is like burning down the house in order, at last, to be free of it.”[^2]

Thank you

This marks a year of doing these updates, so if you have kept up with them, thank you. I still have not received any coffees from anyone, but it has been very helpful to give myself some accountability. I think, after a year, I am actually starting to have fun with writing again. My new project is a real departure from my dark, gritty, serious, fantasy series; and it is also fun to have these spaces on the internet. So thank you to Write.as for making a platform with a conscience, and thank you reader for giving me someone to write to.

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[1]: Baldwin, James (1961). Nobody Knows My Name: more notes of a native son. “The Black Boy Meets the White Boy.” 216. https://archive.org/details/nobodyknowsmynam0000unse/page/216/mode/2up

[2]: Baldwin, James (1961). Nobody Knows My Name: more notes of a native son. “The Black Boy Meets the White Boy.” 239. https://archive.org/details/nobodyknowsmynam0000unse/page/238/mode/2up

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Matthew 11 is one of the most emotionally rich, spiritually revealing, and brutally honest chapters in the entire Gospel. It is a chapter where Jesus does something many people forget He ever did:

He speaks directly to disappointment. He speaks directly to confusion. He speaks directly to exhaustion. He speaks directly to the burdened heart that is trying to believe but is tired of struggling.

And most importantly… He speaks directly to the person who wonders whether God still sees them, hears them, or understands the specific weight they’re carrying.

Matthew 11 is the chapter where Jesus opens the door and lets us see three things at once:

1. A doubting disciple.

2. A hardened generation.

3. A gentle Savior who offers rest—not demands, not performance, not pressure—rest.

And if you look closely, you can feel the heartbeat of Jesus in every line.

This chapter is a spiritual x-ray of the human condition. It exposes what people feel but rarely say. And it reveals what Jesus sees but people rarely realize He notices.

Let’s walk through the chapter the way you and I walk through life—slowly, honestly, and with the courage to let Jesus speak into the places that haven’t healed yet.

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WHEN JOHN THE BAPTIST DOUBTED — AND JESUS DIDN’T CONDEMN HIM

The chapter opens with an emotional earthquake. John the Baptist—the fiery preacher, the fearless prophet, the man who leapt in the womb at the nearness of Christ—has hit a wall.

He’s in prison. He’s discouraged. He’s confused. He’s wondering whether any of what he proclaimed was even true.

So he sends a message to Jesus:

“Are You the One who is to come, or should we look for someone else?”

This is not a theological question. This is not an academic curiosity. This is not a doctrinal quiz.

This is a broken heart speaking through a faithful servant who suddenly can’t make sense of anything anymore.

And if we’re honest, every believer—no matter how strong, no matter how committed—has had a moment like this.

“Lord, I thought You would move by now.” “Lord, this doesn’t look like the life I prayed for.” “Lord, I trusted You… so why does this hurt so much?” “Lord, are You really there?”

John isn’t losing faith. John is feeling human.

And Jesus doesn’t rebuke him. Jesus doesn’t shame him. Jesus doesn’t say, “I expected more from you.”

Instead, Jesus sends back something deeper than reassurance—He sends evidence:

“Go and tell John what you hear and see…” – the blind receive sight – the lame walk – lepers are cleansed – the deaf hear – the dead are raised – the poor receive good news

Here is the truth that many churches never say out loud:

Jesus is not offended when His followers struggle. He’s not offended by your questions. He’s not offended by your weariness. He’s not offended by your tears.

Faith is not the absence of questions. Faith is choosing to bring your questions to Jesus.

John doubts… and Jesus defends him.

Jesus turns to the crowd and declares John the Baptist the greatest man ever born of a woman.

The world may have forgotten John in his prison cell, but Jesus never did.

And that is the first major heartbeat of Matthew 11:

Even when you doubt yourself, Jesus does not doubt you.

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WHEN JESUS CONFRONTS A GENERATION THAT WANTS A GOD ON ITS OWN TERMS

After responding to John, Jesus turns His focus to the crowds—the people who saw miracles, heard sermons, watched signs and wonders, but somehow stayed unmoved.

Jesus describes them like children sitting in the marketplace, complaining no matter what is offered.

“We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.”

Here’s the meaning:

Nothing satisfies a hardened heart. If you preach repentance, they say you’re too harsh. If you preach joy, they say you’re too soft. If you fast, they say you’re extreme. If you celebrate, they say you’re worldly.

John the Baptist came disciplined and consecrated—yet they said he had a demon.

Jesus came relational, compassionate, and present—yet they called Him a glutton and a drunkard.

In other words:

Some people reject truth not because it’s unclear… but because it’s inconvenient.

This is Jesus exposing the deepest spiritual problem of every generation—including ours:

People want God… —but only if He fits their expectations, —but only if He agrees with their preferences, —but only if He confirms what they already believe.

But Matthew 11 draws a clear line:

Faith isn’t about bending God toward your desires. Faith is about bending your life toward His truth.

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WHEN JESUS WEEPS OVER CITIES THAT COULD HAVE BEEN MORE THAN THEY CHOSE

Jesus then speaks words that many believers forget He ever said—words of sorrow, words of lament, words that reveal how much God wanted to pour out on people who refused to receive Him.

“Woe to you, Chorazin… woe to you, Bethsaida…” “And you, Capernaum, will you be lifted to the heavens? No…”

Jesus is not angry. He is heartbroken.

These were not rebellious pagan cities. These were towns that saw miracle after miracle. They watched Jesus preach, heal, deliver, restore, and transform. And still… they stayed unchanged.

Here’s the hidden message:

Exposure to Jesus is not the same as surrender to Jesus.

Some people can be around truth and never absorb it. Some people can hear God’s voice and never follow it. Some people can feel God stirring and never respond.

Jesus isn’t condemning cities. He’s grieving lost potential.

Every believer understands this feeling: That haunting awareness that God wanted to do more in your life, but fear, pride, distraction, or delay slowed your response.

But Matthew 11 doesn’t end with sorrow.

It ends with hope—radical, overwhelming, impossible-to-earn hope.

Jesus has confronted doubt. He has exposed spiritual apathy. He has revealed wasted opportunity.

And then… He turns to the crowd with the most tender invitation He ever gave.

Not a warning. Not a threat. Not a command.

A call.

A welcome.

A promise.

A homecoming.

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THE SOFTEST WORDS JESUS EVER SPOKE — AND THE ONES MOST PEOPLE DESPERATELY NEED

At the end of the chapter, Jesus makes a pivot that changes everything.

He stops talking about judgment. He stops talking about hardened hearts. He stops talking about the cities that walked away.

He turns toward the weary, the wounded, the tired, the overwhelmed, the people who are carrying more than anyone around them realizes.

And He says:

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

These words strike the soul like water in a desert.

Jesus does not say:

Come to religion. Come to rules. Come to rituals. Come to perfection. Come to performance.

He says:

Come to Me.

No conditions. No prerequisites. No spiritual résumé.

Just come.

And He doesn’t say, “I might give you rest.” He doesn’t say, “I’ll think about giving you rest.” He doesn’t say, “If you impress Me enough, I’ll consider it.”

He says:

**“I will.”

WHAT JESUS MEANS WHEN HE SAYS “MY YOKE IS EASY”**

Most people misunderstand those words because they imagine a yoke as a burden. But Jesus wasn’t talking about a weight—He was talking about alignment.

A yoke was the wooden harness that tied two oxen together so they could pull in the same direction. A younger or weaker ox was always paired with a stronger, more experienced one.

And here’s the spiritual truth hidden inside the metaphor:

The weaker one didn’t carry the weight. The stronger one did.

When Jesus says, “My yoke is easy,” He is saying:

“Stop trying to drag your life alone. Stop trying to manufacture your own strength. Stop trying to force every outcome. Tie yourself to Me. Let My strength become your strength. Let My pace become your pace. Let My direction become your direction.”

The reason many believers collapse under pressure is not because life is too heavy— it’s because they’re pulling it without Jesus beside them.

You were never meant to carry the full load. You were meant to walk with Someone who lifts more than you do.

And then Jesus says the phrase that changes everything:

“My burden is light.”

Not because life is easy. Not because faith removes struggle. Not because Christianity eliminates pain.

But because Jesus carries the part you weren’t designed to bear— the guilt, the shame, the fear, the feeling that everything depends on you.

THE GENTLE GOD NO ONE EXPECTED

The next line in the chapter reveals the personality of Jesus as clearly as sunlight:

“For I am gentle and lowly in heart…”

People expected a conquering king. A fiery judge. A military Messiah. A religious overlord.

Instead, Jesus describes Himself with two words:

Gentle. Lowly.

“Gentle” means approachable. “Lowly” means humble, present, and willing to sit with those the world overlooks.

He is not the God who pushes you away when you fall. He is the God who kneels down beside you, lifts your chin, and says, “You’re still mine. You’re still loved. And you’re not alone in this.”

Most of us were taught a version of God that stands far off:

A God who is easily disappointed. A God who waits for perfection. A God who needs you to climb to Him.

But Matthew 11 reveals a God who comes down to you. Who meets you on the floor. Who walks into your confusion. Who sits in your darkness before He ever asks you to stand in the light.

This is why Jesus chooses the words “gentle and lowly.” Because He wants you to understand something that religion rarely explains:

He comes closer when you struggle— not further away.

MATTHEW 11 SHOWS US THE TRUE HEART OF GOD

If Matthew 11 had only one message, it would be this:

God is not looking for perfection. God is looking for presence.

He’s not asking you to never stumble. He’s asking you to come to Him when you do.

He’s not asking you to never question. He’s asking you to bring your questions to Him instead of suffering in silence.

He’s not asking you to prove you’re strong. He’s asking you to admit when you’re tired so He can give you rest that actually restores you.

Matthew 11 is the chapter where Jesus throws out every religious stereotype and reveals the Father’s heart:

A God who is tender enough for doubters like John. A God who is patient enough for undecided crowds. A God who is honest enough to mourn wasted potential. A God who is loving enough to welcome the weary back home.

WHAT MATTHEW 11 MEANS FOR YOUR LIFE TODAY

So let’s bring this chapter into your everyday experience.

1. Your doubts do not disqualify you.

John the Baptist questioned everything he once proclaimed boldly— and Jesus honored him publicly.

If John’s doubts didn’t disqualify him, yours won’t disqualify you.

2. Jesus sees your confusion and answers it—gently.

He didn’t shame John. He sent evidence.

And when your heart cries, “Lord, are You really there?” Jesus does the same— He sends reminders, whispers, people, moments, mercies that speak louder than fear.

3. You can be exposed to truth and still miss transformation.

Jesus lamented the cities that saw miracles but stayed the same. It is possible to hear sermons, read Scripture, talk about God, post Bible verses online— and still never surrender your heart.

Matthew 11 invites you to move from knowing about Jesus to walking with Him.

4. You were never meant to carry the weight of life alone.

When Jesus says “My burden is light,” He is telling you something deeper than comfort— He is telling you the design of your soul.

You were crafted to walk yoked to Someone stronger. Your strength was never meant to be the source— only the vessel.

5. God is not harsh with you. He is gentle.

People may be harsh. Your past may be harsh. Your inner critic may be harsh.

But Jesus is gentle.

Gentle with your wounds. Gentle with your emotions. Gentle with your pace. Gentle with your progress.

Gentle—even with the things you’re ashamed to admit.

6. Jesus offers rest—not escape, not distraction, not numbing—rest.

Rest for your mind. Rest for your heart. Rest for your spirit. Rest from the pressure to perform. Rest from the guilt you drag behind you. Rest from the expectation to be stronger than you feel.

THE INVITATION THAT STILL STANDS

After everything He confronts in Matthew 11— doubt, apathy, resistance, confusion— Jesus doesn’t push humanity away.

He extends His arms wider.

“Come to Me.”

Not “figure it out first.” Not “clean yourself up first.” Not “fix your behavior first.” Not “earn My attention first.”

Just come.

Come tired. Come angry. Come confused. Come disappointed. Come ashamed. Come empty. Come wounded. Come burdened. Come with your last ounce of strength. Come even if all you have left is a whisper: “Jesus, I need You.”

And He promises something no one else can give:

“I will give you rest.”

Mattress companies can’t give that rest. Vacations can’t give that rest. A good night’s sleep can’t give that rest. Even the people who love you most can’t give that rest.

Only Jesus gives rest that reaches the soul.

THE HEART OF JESUS, REVEALED IN ONE CHAPTER

Matthew 11 is not simply a collection of verses. It is a portrait.

A portrait of a Savior who meets you in your doubts. A portrait of a Savior who mourns what could have been but still believes in what can be. A portrait of a Savior who refuses to let your burden go unnoticed. A portrait of a Savior who says, “Let Me carry what you cannot.”

This chapter shows you a Jesus who walks toward the broken, leans toward the exhausted, and opens His arms to the ones who no longer know how to pray.

And if you take nothing else from Matthew 11, take this:

Jesus is not asking you to rise to Him. He is inviting you to rest in Him.

A FINAL WORD TO THE READER — FROM THE HEART OF MATTHEW 11

If your shoulders feel heavy, if your soul feels thin, if your hope feels tired, if your prayers feel out of breath, hear this:

You are not expected to carry this alone. You were never meant to.

Let the One who is gentle carry the weight. Let the One who is humble walk beside you. Let the One whose burden is light take the strain off your life.

The invitation still stands. It has never been revoked. It has never expired. It has never been conditional.

“Come to Me.”

And if you do, you will discover what millions of believers across generations discovered:

God doesn’t just save your soul— He restores your strength, rebuilds your peace, revives your hope, and gives you rest you didn’t know you were allowed to feel.

your friend, Douglas Vandergraph

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