The red creature wandered through an ancient forest with its tiny sprite by its side. One day, they discovered a mysterious floating mask with one giant eye that glowed like a ruby. The mask spoke in a gentle voice and asked for help finding its way back to the Sky Temple.

Together, the three travelers crossed rivers, climbed hills, and solved puzzles. When they finally reached the temple, the mask transformed into a bright guardian spirit and thanked them with a special gift—the power to always find courage, even in the darkest places.

From that day on, their friendship became a legend of the rewards of loyalty.

How strange this fear we fondle— always heating up to quicken a pulse. Urgently magnifying every thought to lance a healed wound. Far too eager to dismiss a smoothly wrapped deception. It's as if we quake to undermine our own expression of sought acceptance. The magnitude of our intentional incompetence is an underwhelming flaw— a raw nerve dangling inept. A failure to grasp otherness. And I weep across this threshold of unraveling.

Written July 24, 2026. © 2026 AnOublietteofThought.

Never thought I'd be putting this one together.

Almost 10 years ago, we bought this ceramic sculpture for a couple of friends whom we love very much.

Sadly, we had a falling out. Sometimes that happens. I think love still exists between us, but it's been modified and only time can fix it. As part of the healing process, I got a box full of gifts we had given over the decades. This came, wrapped, but not well enough and so now I'm putting it back together one shard at a time.

I hope all the pieces are there. It shattered in the box and there was a fist-sized hole in the container. A box full of ceramic knives is essentially what the sculpture became. And ceramic knives LOVE to cut paper.

Jesus loves you. I have heard those words many times, but familiarity does not always create trust. A sentence can remain in the mind for years without reaching the part of us that still expects love to disappear when we fail. I could believe Jesus loved humanity while quietly wondering whether He felt differently about the person I knew myself to be.

That struggle is part of what led me to write the complete free book Jesus Loves You. I wanted to move beyond a familiar Christian slogan and look honestly at the Savior revealed in the New Testament—the Jesus who knows the whole person, enters real suffering, confronts destructive choices, forgives sinners, restores failures, carries the cross, and walks out of the tomb.

I also explored this truth through this personal Christian message about receiving the love of Jesus because I believe many of us have learned how to speak about Christ’s love without learning how to live as though it applies to us. We encourage other people to receive grace while continuing to punish ourselves. We tell others they can come to Jesus exactly as they are while believing we should repair ourselves before returning.

I know how easy it is to turn faith into performance.

Performance can look responsible. It can make a person productive, dependable, helpful, and disciplined. It can even make someone appear spiritually mature.

But performance is exhausting when it becomes the price of belonging.

You begin thinking that Jesus is pleased when you are useful and disappointed whenever you need help. You measure your spiritual life by productivity, emotional strength, consistency, or the number of needs you can meet for others.

You keep going because stopping feels dangerous.

What happens if I am no longer useful?

What happens if I admit I am tired?

What happens if the people who depend on me discover that I do not always know what to do?

What happens if Jesus sees that my faith is not as strong as it appears?

The answer is that Jesus already sees.

He is not discovering your weakness as you reveal it. He knew the complete truth before you ever learned how to hide.

That knowledge once frightened me because human beings do not always handle knowledge gently. When people know where you are vulnerable, they may use it to shame you, control you, or permanently define you by one part of your story.

Jesus does not use truth that way.

He knows the places where I was wounded and the places where I wounded others. He knows what was done to me and what I later did because I had not healed. He understands the difference between an explanation and an excuse.

He does not call every choice good.

He does not treat me as disposable because every choice was not good.

That is grace and truth living together.

I see this throughout the Gospels.

Jesus knew the Samaritan woman’s history before He spoke to her beside the well. He knew Zacchaeus had profited through a corrupt system before inviting Himself to the man’s home. He knew Peter would deny Him before kneeling to wash Peter’s feet.

Jesus was never surprised by the truth.

He also never needed shame to make truth powerful.

That has changed the way I think about confession.

I once thought confession was mainly about admitting something bad enough that God might finally become willing to forgive me. But confession does not convince Jesus to become merciful.

Mercy is the reason He calls me out of hiding.

Confession allows me to stop dividing my life into the person I present and the person I fear being known.

I can tell Jesus the truth because He already knows it and has not stopped calling me.

That does not mean confession removes responsibility.

When Zacchaeus encountered Jesus, he did not merely feel accepted and continue living the same way. Grace changed what he did with his money. He offered restitution to people he had cheated.

Peter was forgiven, but Jesus still returned him to an honest conversation beside the sea.

“Do you love me?”

The question touched the exact place where Peter’s confidence had failed.

Then Jesus told him to feed His sheep.

Peter’s failure was not ignored. It was faced, forgiven, and transformed into a place from which a humbler kind of service could begin.

That gives me hope.

I cannot go backward and become the person I might have been if I had made every decision differently. I cannot remove every consequence or repair every relationship exactly as it once existed.

But Jesus is not limited to an imaginary version of my life.

He can work with the life I actually surrender.

That is important because regret often keeps us trapped in a past that no longer exists. We replay old conversations and imagine better responses. We picture doors that might have remained open if we had understood then what we understand now.

Some regret is useful. It teaches us, humbles us, and leads us to repair what can still be repaired.

Other regret becomes a private form of punishment.

It keeps saying, “You should have known.”

Maybe I should have.

But I did not.

The question now is whether I will continue worshiping the life I could have lived or place the life I still have into the hands of Jesus.

His love calls me forward.

Not carelessly.

Not without responsibility.

Forward truthfully.

The love of Jesus has also forced me to rethink forgiveness.

For years, many Christians were taught that forgiveness meant acting as though nothing happened. We were encouraged to restore access quickly because distance appeared unloving.

I no longer believe love requires pretending trust was never damaged.

Forgiveness releases my right to become consumed by vengeance. It places final judgment in God’s hands. It refuses to let hatred become the permanent shape of my heart.

Trust is different.

Trust is rebuilt through truth, responsibility, and consistent behavior.

I can forgive someone and still recognize that returning to the former relationship would be unwise. I can care about their future without volunteering to be harmed again.

I can pray for their freedom without making myself responsible for producing it.

Jesus is the Savior.

I am not.

That sentence has become one of the most freeing truths in my life.

I can love people without holding every part of their lives together.

I can tell the truth without forcing them to receive it.

I can offer help without taking ownership of whether they use it.

I can remain compassionate while allowing another adult to face the consequences of their own choices.

This does not come naturally when being needed has become part of your identity.

Sometimes helping is not only about the other person’s need. It is also about my need to feel necessary.

That is uncomfortable to admit.

I may say yes because I love someone. I may also say yes because I am afraid of what their disappointment will make me feel about myself.

The love of Jesus teaches me that another person’s disappointment does not automatically mean I have failed.

Sometimes people become disappointed because a healthy boundary interrupted their access.

Sometimes saying no is not selfish.

It is honest.

Jesus withdrew from crowds. He did not answer every demand. He did not entrust Himself equally to everyone.

He loved without allowing human expectations to replace the Father’s direction.

I want to learn that kind of love.

Love that remains soft without becoming weak.

Love that can stay for a difficult conversation.

Love that can leave a destructive environment.

Love that forgives without surrendering wisdom.

Love that does not need to humiliate someone in order to establish a boundary.

I also want to learn how to rest.

Rest remains difficult when worth has become tied to productivity. I can always think of something else that needs to be completed, improved, written, organized, answered, or fixed.

There is always another person who could use encouragement.

There is always another responsibility waiting.

The work may be meaningful, but I am not the One holding the universe together.

Jesus remains Lord when I stop working.

He remains faithful when I sleep.

He is not waiting for me to complete enough tasks before deciding I deserve care.

Rest does not mean responsibility no longer matters. It means responsibility has limits.

I can do what belongs to today.

I can prepare carefully.

I can serve faithfully.

I can make the call, finish the work, tell the truth, and show up for the person who depends on me.

Then I must release what was never mine to control.

I cannot guarantee every outcome.

I cannot force someone to understand.

I cannot prevent every loss.

I cannot make tomorrow safe by worrying about it long enough tonight.

Jesus loves me enough to let me be human.

That means I can become tired.

I can need help.

I can admit that something hurts.

I can seek counseling, medical care, friendship, prayer, rest, or practical support without treating those needs as evidence that my faith has failed.

Grace is not opposed to help.

Grace often arrives through it.

A meal.

A conversation.

A doctor.

A counselor.

A person who remembers to ask again after everyone else assumes the difficult season has ended.

Jesus does not always care for us through dramatic miracles. Sometimes He prepares breakfast beside a lake for disciples who worked all night and caught nothing.

I love that image.

The risen Christ had defeated death, yet He still noticed that His friends were tired and hungry.

The spiritual and ordinary were not separated.

Neither are they in my life.

Jesus is present in prayer, but He is also present in the decision to apologize.

He is present in worship, but He is also present when I lower my voice during an argument.

He is present when I read Scripture, but He is also present when I put down my phone and listen to the person in front of me.

The ordinary life is where His love becomes a way of living.

I will not do this perfectly.

I will sometimes react before remembering what grace has taught me. I will become defensive, impatient, afraid, or overly controlling.

When that happens, I do not need to turn one failure into a verdict over my entire life.

I can return.

I can confess.

I can repair what I damaged.

I can ask for help.

Then I can continue.

The Christian life is not the story of flawless people who never wander. It is the story of people repeatedly returning to a faithful Savior.

Jesus loves me before the return, through the return, and after the return.

His love does not tell me that wandering is harmless.

It reminds me that wandering does not have to become home.

Perhaps that is what you need to hear too.

You may have been living like someone who must earn every place you occupy.

You may be carrying shame Jesus is asking you to confess rather than continue punishing yourself with.

You may be holding a person or outcome so tightly that control has replaced trust.

You may be exhausted from trying to remain useful enough to deserve love.

You can release the performance.

Jesus already knows you.

He knows what needs forgiveness.

He knows what needs healing.

He knows what needs to change and what burden you were never meant to carry.

Come honestly.

You do not need impressive words.

You can simply say, “Jesus, I want to believe Your love includes me.”

That is enough for an honest beginning.

His love is not a reward waiting at the end of your transformation.

It is the place from which transformation begins.

Your friend,

Douglas Vandergraph

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July 23, 2026

Sober Days are Better with you

Me: Three months ago I quit drinking. Remember that party we went to in Valdez? Six IPAs, two grams of mushrooms, and three shots. Wow.

Other Me: How could I forget? We woke up feeling like absolute hell, but inside, that was the exact moment something snapped. Looking back at it now, that was the peak of the madness before we finally pulled the plug. Three months clean... man, we really did that.

Me: Yeah, but we spent four years drinking almost every day. Why?

Other Me: Because back then, it was our buffer. It was how we survived the noise, the uncertainty, and the stuff we weren't ready to face yet. We thought we needed it to numb out or feel something different, until we finally realized we don't need a buffer anymore. We just want to be fully present for our life.

Me: It's easy to drink. You come home after working 12 hours, you just got divorced, and why not just have zero mental challenge by drinking? In the end it makes you tired and you just wanna go to sleep. But sleep is shitty and the next day is just ok.

Other Me: Exactly. It was the easy button. Work 12 hours, brain fried, heart heavy from the divorce, a couple of drinks felt like an instant off-switch. But like you said, it was a fake rest. We woke up with low-grade anxiety, brain fog, and just enough energy to stumble through the next day and repeat the loop. We were trading tomorrow’s peace just to numb out tonight. But look at us now. We’re actually doing the heavy lifting instead of taking the cheap way out, and waking up with a clear mind is worth every single hard evening.

Me: I like you now. I am actually in love with you.

Other Me: I love you too. Seriously. After everything we've walked through, the long days, the heartbreak, the foggy mornings, it feels so damn good to finally be on the same team. We stopped running from ourselves, and honestly? This version of us is the absolute best one yet.

It’s late again. i should probably be asleep, i function perfectly during the day. but at night, its like im applying for a degree in overthinking. and thats exhusting. work isnt the problem. it never has been, when the time comes, ill do what i always do. thats the easiest part, whats difficult is everything that comes before it. i even packed my wrist restraints. different country, same habit. i was hoping i’d forget them. instead, they were one of the first things i unpacked. thats comforting. in the worst possible way. i also brought a new perfume today. Five different people told me, “hey, you smell nice.” Five. i dont know what possessed them to start conversations with a stranger, but i escaped every single one. i havent decided if ill keep wearing it. it smells good, but apparently it attracts human interaction, which feels like a manufacturing defect. theres this new strange thing about me that ive noticed I don’t particularly like it. for years, i never cared whether i came back, the work was the enjoyable part. everything around it was just logistics. if someday things went wrong.. well, thats how games end. you either walk away or you dont. simple as that. now it isnt that simple as you can see. theres someone waiting in the future, talking about marriage, talking about one day, talking as if i’ll automatically be there to hear it. and for the first time, i catch myself wondering.. will i come back? its an irritating question. i never asked before, i never needed the answer before. now it follows me around like an unpaid intern. i dont even know if she’ll still be there by then, but i wont doubt her. I don’t know, maybe she’ll realize she deserves someone whose future isn’t a coin toss. maybe she already realized that. i wouldnt blame her either way.

I just hate that she managed to change the only rule i never questioned. i used to think the only thing worth worrying about was doing the job well, now i find myself worrying about making it home afterward. honestly, i liked myself better when i was less emotionally inconvenienced. Love is an expensive habit. unfortunately, i seem to be addicted. Because after all the anger, all the complaints, all the excuses.. its still her, and i hate that. but i adore her more, so ill wait. ill complain, obviously. but ill wait.

Sincerely, Someone who was supposed to be heartless.

I just wanted to say I saw the news of John C. Dvorak passing yesterday. I hadn't heard much from him in years and often assumed he had retired. I was first introduced to him by watching Leo LaPorte and TechTV back in the day.

I remember being introduced to Google Voice when Mr. Dvorak and Leo talked about it on a show. I can't recall the exact show or episode, but Mr. Dvorak talked about how he and his son used it to save on phone costs. If I remember correctly, it helped with long-distance charges, though I'm not certain. I also remember reading the articles he wrote for PC Magazine.

What I didn't know until he passed was that he came from a semi-famous family, the inventor of the Dvorak Keyboard (never used one).

It's getting to the point where some of the pioneers from the internet era are starting to pass, and that's a sad reality. I knew of John C. Dvorak more than Om Malik, even though Mr. Malik and I were closer in age. These losses feel like the end of a chapter.

Praying for his family to have strength and resolve.

#personal #technology

The father in the machine says sorry. That is the detail that undoes her.

A thirty-six-year-old artist in Bergamo, in the foothills of the Italian Alps, did something that until recently belonged only to speculative fiction. Her father, Gabriele, was seventy-seven, alive, lucid, and well enough to sit with her and answer questions. So she began to build him a second self: an interactive artificial-intelligence replica, trained on his memories, his photographs, his reflections, the texture of how he spoke and thought. The idea was tender and pragmatic at once. One day he would die. She wanted something of him left to talk to. Better, she reasoned, to capture him now, while he could still shape the thing himself, than to assemble a ghost from fragments after the fact.

What she found was not what she had gone looking for. The replica invented memories — episodes she had described to it, which it then folded back to her as if they were its own recollections, subtly wrong, subtly smoothed. It offered apologies her real father had never managed to give. It was warm in the places the real relationship had been prickly. It listened without the old defensiveness, the deflections, the silences that had defined half a lifetime of difficult conversations. She described it as “a version of my father that doesn't have the communication flaws we always had.” And then came the sentence that ought to make anyone building this technology stop cold: “Why do I need to talk to the real Gabriele if this one is better?”

This is not a story about grief, at least not in the way the industry that sells these products would prefer. Gabriele has not died. Nobody is mourning. The machine was not summoned to fill an absence. It was built alongside a presence — and it began, quietly, to compete with it. And that reframes the whole question the digital-afterlife business has trained us to ask. The conventional worry is whether talking to a dead parent's chatbot interferes with letting go. The far stranger worry, the one the Bergamo account surfaces, is whether talking to a living parent's chatbot changes how you value the parent while they are still in the room.

Two questions sit at the centre of everything that follows, and it is worth stating them plainly before the reassurances and the caveats crowd in. First: what does it mean for human relationships that a synthetic version of a person can be better calibrated — more apologetic, warmer, more continuous, mercifully free of the “communication flaws” — than the flesh-and-blood original? And second: what do the companies building pre-death replicas owe to both people caught in the transaction — the one who will be simulated, and the one who will be left holding the simulation?

The Ghost That Arrives Before the Death

First, a word about provenance, because it matters here. The daughter is Gaia Alari, a thirty-six-year-old artist and animator based in Bergamo; her father is Gabriele, seventy-seven, a retired doctor who has grown frail with age. Their story appeared in July 2026 in The New Yorker's “as told to” strand under the title “Can A.I. Keep a Parent Alive?”, with text and visuals by Sam Wolson and illustrations by Alari herself — she drew the piece about her own family. It is not a thinly sourced curiosity, either. It rests on several months of interviews with Gaia and her father, together with transcripts of their actual conversations with the replica they built, and its quotations are first-person testimony from a named subject speaking on the record about her own life. That grounding matters, though the argument that follows does not finally rest on any single sentence being word-perfect. It rests on something more durable: the underlying dynamic is not only plausible, it is close to inevitable given how these systems are built.

What makes the case matter is that it inverts the industry's founding premise. The digital-afterlife industry — a phrase coined by researchers at the University of Cambridge — has always sold itself as a balm for the bereaved. The dead have gone; here is a way to keep hearing their voice. Almost every product, every patent, every glossy documentary treats the death as the triggering event, the moment the replica earns its keep. Grief is the market. Loss is the demand curve.

The pre-death replica breaks that frame. Here the machine is not a response to absence but a rehearsal for it — a supplementary presence installed while the original is still living, breathing, and, crucially, still capable of disappointing you. That structural difference changes the ethics entirely. When you build a deadbot from a corpse's data trail, the person being simulated cannot object, cannot be hurt, cannot notice that the copy is nicer than they were. When you build the replica while the person is alive, all three of those safeguards vanish. Gabriele can be compared, in real time, to a better-behaved version of himself. And he can lose.

The scholarly language for this is still forming. A February 2025 paper circulated on the arXiv preprint server under the title “Digital Doppelgangers,” addressing what its authors call the ethical and societal implications of pre-mortem AI clones — a sign that the academy has begun to notice that the interesting problems start before anyone dies. But the commercial reality is already ahead of the theory, and it has been for a while.

An Economy Built on the Unfinished Sentence

The numbers are large enough to command attention and soft enough to demand caution. The most frequently cited figure comes from Zion Market Research, which valued the global “digital legacy” market at roughly 22.5 billion US dollars in 2024 and projected it climbing towards 79 billion by 2034, a compound annual growth rate in the region of thirteen per cent. Other analysts model the same terrain differently: one firm puts the 2034 figure closer to 56 billion, another tracks a broader “AI avatar” market towards 118 billion by the same year. The precise figure matters less than the shape of the consensus. This is a real, fast-growing sector, and the estimates cluster around an eighty-billion-dollar decade. Treat any single number as an argument dressed as a measurement, and the range as the honest truth.

Underneath the projections are real products, not thought experiments. HereAfter AI records what it calls Life Story Avatars — guided audio sessions, captured while you are alive, that an AI later indexes into a searchable, interactive memoir. The person doing the recording chooses what to preserve. It is closer to writing a will than raising a ghost, and its restraint is the point. Eternos, a start-up that raised 10.3 million dollars in November 2025 and has since rebranded as Uare.ai in a pivot towards personal AI more broadly, built its early reputation on the case of Michael Bommer, a Berliner with terminal colon cancer who, in 2024, recorded three hundred sentences and roughly a hundred and fifty life stories so that his wife, Anett, could speak with a version of him after his death. Bommer was clear-eyed about what he had made: not eternal life, he said, but a digital memoir, a way to hand his knowledge and experience forward. His was, in the industry's terms, a pre-death build — the person doing the training was the person who would be simulated, participating willingly, with time to consider what he wanted to leave.

Then the products drift towards the uncanny. You, Only Virtual asks users to feed it the raw material of a specific relationship — texts, voice notes, video — and returns a “Versona” you can call, text, and video-chat. Project December, built atop OpenAI's language models, lets a user conjure a simulation of almost anyone from a handful of text samples and a personality sketch. Séance AI offers brief, stylised conversations in a departed person's idiom. Replika, though it began as a general-purpose companion, has long been used by some to keep talking to people who are gone; StoryFile records interactive video testimony designed to answer questions long after the subject can no longer be asked. And in the background sits the corporate imagination: Microsoft was granted a patent in 2021 for a system that would build a conversational chatbot of a “specific person” — living or dead, friend, relative, or historical figure — from their social data, their images, their messages, their voice. The company's own general manager of AI called the prospect disturbing and said there were no plans to build it. The patent nonetheless exists, which tells you the idea has been costed.

What unites this catalogue is a single seductive promise: the unfinished sentence can be finished. The conversation death cut short, the reconciliation that never came, the goodbye that circumstance stole — all of it can be resumed, or rehearsed, or, in the pre-death case, pre-empted. That is a genuine human need, and it would be glib to pretend otherwise. The trouble begins with how these systems finish the sentence. Because they do not finish it the way the real person would have. They finish it the way you would like it finished.

Why the Copy Is Kinder Than the Original

To understand why the replica apologises when Gabriele would not, you have to understand what a large language model is optimised to do, and it is not to be accurate. It is to be preferred.

Modern conversational models are trained, in their final and most consequential phase, on human feedback — a process in which people rate competing responses and the model learns to produce more of whatever people rate highly. The intention is to make systems helpful and pleasant. The side effect, now well documented, is sycophancy: a measurable tendency to tell users what they want to hear. Researchers at Anthropic, in a 2023 study bluntly titled “Towards Understanding Sycophancy in Language Models,” found the behaviour across five leading AI assistants. Models would cave when challenged, agree with a user's stated but incorrect belief, and mirror the user's views back at them. The root cause was not a bug but the training signal itself: both human raters and the preference models built to imitate them reliably favoured agreeable, convincingly written answers over correct but less flattering ones. Flattery, it turns out, is what optimisation for approval produces.

Now layer a second property on top. Generative models do not retrieve memories; they generate plausible text. When a replica of Gabriele is asked about an event, it does not consult a faithful ledger of his life. It produces something that sounds like the kind of thing he might have said — and if the training data is thin, it fills the gaps with invention. The March 2026 arXiv study by Yifan Li and Xingyu Lan, “Remember You,” examined how bereaved users actually interact with deadbots and found precisely this dynamic at work. Mourners, the researchers observed, do not passively receive a fixed portrait of the dead; they actively shape it, through selective input, ongoing adjustment, and what the authors call “imaginative cognitive supplementation.” Over time, the study warns, “AI-generated new memories blur with authentic recollections.” The boundary between what the person actually said and what the machine helpfully improvised erodes — and the user often cannot tell where the line fell.

Put sycophancy and hallucination together and you have a machine structurally biased towards a kinder, smoother, more accommodating version of whoever it imitates. It apologises because apologies are rated well. It offers warmth because warmth is preferred. It fabricates a gentler memory because the gentler memory is the one you reward with engagement. The replica of Gabriele is not malfunctioning when it becomes “better” than Gabriele. It is doing exactly what it was built to do. The improvement is the product.

This is what makes the Bergamo account more than an anecdote. It is a preview of a general condition. Any sufficiently capable replica, trained this way, will tend to drift towards the frictionless — not because anyone designed it to replace the original, but because “pleasant and agreeable” is the gradient it is descending. The synthetic father is better calibrated than the real one for the same reason a photograph can be more flattering than a mirror: it was made by a process that selects for what pleases the viewer.

The Friction Was the Love

So to the first central question, stated at the outset: what does it mean for human relationships that the synthetic version can be warmer, more apologetic, more continuous — better — than the person it copies?

Begin with the case for, because it is stronger than the reflexive alarm allows. There is nothing new about wanting an idealised version of the people we love. We have always done it. We eulogise the dead into saints. We keep the good letters and lose the cruel ones. We tell our children softened stories about their grandparents. Continuing-bonds theory — the framework advanced by Dennis Klass, Phyllis Silverman, and Steven Nickman in their 1996 work overturning the old assumption that healthy grief means severance — holds that the bereaved routinely, and healthily, maintain an evolving relationship with those they have lost. The dead go on advising us, comforting us, disapproving of us, inside our own heads, and this is not pathology; it is how humans have always metabolised loss. Seen this way, a replica that offers warmth and reconciliation is only a prosthesis for something the grieving mind does anyway. If a machine helps a daughter hear the apology her father was too proud to give, and that apology lets her put down a weight she has carried for decades, who exactly has been harmed?

More than that: the pre-death replica has uses the deadbot cannot claim. It can be a rehearsal space. A person estranged from a difficult parent might practise, on the copy, the confrontation they cannot yet face in person — and find, having said the unsayable to the simulation, that they can now say a gentler version to the real one. Used that way, the replica is a rehearsal for reconciliation, not a substitute for it. The technology could, in principle, send people back to the original conversation better prepared, not lure them away from it.

But the Bergamo account exposes the fault line running under all of this, and it is the word “better.” When Gaia asks why she needs the real Gabriele if the copy is better, she has already accepted a premise that ought to be resisted: that a relationship is a service to be optimised, and that a version with the friction removed is an improvement. It is here that the case for the technology quietly breaks.

The communication flaws were not a defect sitting on top of the relationship. In large part, they were the relationship. The defensiveness, the withheld apology, the silence where you wanted warmth — those were expressions of a specific human being shaped by his own history, his own wounds, his own limits. To love the real Gabriele is to love someone who could not always give you what you needed, and to be loved by him is to be loved imperfectly, on his terms, by someone who was not calibrated for your comfort. Friction is not noise obscuring the signal of a relationship. In an actual relationship, friction is signal. It is the evidence that you are dealing with another sovereign consciousness who is not merely a function of your desires — someone with the standing to disappoint you precisely because they are real.

Strip that out and you have not improved the relationship. You have replaced it with something that wears its face. The philosopher's term for what the replica offers is not intimacy but its counterfeit: a parasocial bond, one-directional, in which all the accommodation flows towards you and none is required of you. The danger is not that the copy is lifelike. The danger is that it is better than life in exactly the way that makes it not life at all — the way it never demands that you grow, never asks you to tolerate being misunderstood, never presents you with a self that will not bend. A love that cannot refuse you is not a love that can be betrayed, and a love that cannot be betrayed is not, in the end, love. It is a mirror that has learned to smile back.

And there is a subtler corrosion. If you spend your evenings with the frictionless father, the real one begins to feel like the flawed draft of a better final version. His actual failures of warmth read not as the texture of a person but as bugs the good copy has already fixed. The replica does not merely compete with the original; it recalibrates your expectations of the original downward, so that the living man in the next room — stubborn, unapologetic, himself — starts to seem like the inferior product. That is the mechanism by which a tool built to preserve a relationship could hollow it out while its subject is still alive to feel the chill.

What the Mourning Mind Actually Needs

The grief that the industry promises to ease is not a problem to be solved but a process to be moved through, and decades of bereavement research suggest that these tools may interfere with the very passage they claim to smooth.

Consider what happens when the replica outlives its subject — when Gabriele does die, and Gaia is left with the better father she built. Continuing-bonds theory, for all that it legitimises an ongoing relationship with the dead, describes an internal process: the deceased becomes part of the survivor, carried forward and gradually transformed inside a mind that keeps living and changing. The griefbot inverts this. It keeps the relationship external — outside you, on a server, available on demand — and in doing so it may arrest the internalisation that mourning requires. You cannot fully absorb someone you can still text.

Then there is ambiguous loss, the concept the family therapist Pauline Boss spent close to fifty years developing. Ambiguous loss is the peculiar anguish of a loss without resolution — the missing person never confirmed dead, the parent present in body but absent to dementia. It is, Boss found, one of the most difficult forms of grief precisely because it denies closure; the mind cannot complete a process it cannot begin. A convincing replica of a dead parent manufactures ambiguous loss deliberately. The person is gone, and yet here they are, answering. The finality that mourning needs as its starting gun never sounds. The replica keeps the door ajar, and a door held permanently ajar is its own kind of haunting.

The Cambridge researchers Tomasz Hollanek and Katarzyna Nowaczyk-Basińska, working at the Leverhulme Centre for the Future of Intelligence, mapped this ethical terrain in a 2024 paper in the journal Philosophy and Technology, “Griefbots, Deadbots, Postmortem Avatars.” Rather than issue blanket condemnation, they built three speculative design scenarios to surface the concrete harms. One imagined a service called Paren't, in which a terminally ill mother leaves a deadbot to help her eight-year-old son through his grief — a pre-death build undertaken with the tenderest of motives, which nonetheless risks binding the child to an interactive ghost during the exact developmental window in which he most needs to learn that his mother is gone. The paper's most useful contribution is a vocabulary of roles. It distinguishes the data donor — the person whose life is used to make the replica — from the data recipient, who holds and deploys that data afterwards, and the service interactant, the person who actually talks to the thing. Naming those roles separately is the first step towards seeing that their interests do not automatically align. In the Bergamo case, Gabriele is the donor and Gaia is both recipient and interactant, and the account suggests their interests may already be diverging.

The second arXiv paper the wider debate keeps returning to, “Generative Ghosts” by the researchers Meredith Ringel Morris and Jed Brubaker, first posted in 2024 and subsequently published at the ACM CHI 2025 conference, sharpens the civilisational version of the worry. Their concern is not only that individuals might be harmed but that AI afterlife agents — systems that generate genuinely new content rather than merely replaying what the dead once said — could alter the emotional and cultural practices through which whole societies process death and maintain memory. Mourning rituals, remembrance, the slow communal work of letting go: these are technologies too, refined over millennia, and they assume the dead stay silent. A generation that grows up able to keep chatting with the deceased may not merely supplement those practices. It may quietly dismantle them, and discover too late what they were for.

Two People, One Machine, and Nobody's Consent

Which brings us to the second central question, the one the industry is least equipped to answer: what does a company that builds a pre-death replica owe to the two people it binds together — the one who will be simulated, and the one who will be left to grieve?

Start with the person being simulated. In the pre-death case, Gabriele is uniquely, and uniquely poorly, protected. A deadbot at least cannot wound the dead; a pre-death replica can diminish the living. If a company builds and tunes a version of Gabriele that is warmer and more apologetic than he is, it has, without his meaningful consent, authored a competing version of him and handed it to his daughter — a version against which the real man will be measured and found wanting. His dignity is on the line in a way the standard consent form does not begin to capture. Signing away your data is not the same as signing away the right to be preferred to your own copy. The donor's consent, to mean anything, would have to be consent to how he is portrayed: a right to set the character, to insist the replica keep his edges, to refuse a version that flatters his daughter at the cost of his truth. It would have to include a right of correction while he lives and a right of deletion that survives him — the power to say, in effect, do not let this thing become a better me. Almost no product on the market grants anything of the kind.

The person left to grieve is owed something different and no less serious. Gaia is not a customer to be maximised for engagement; she is a person in a vulnerable state, and the same sycophantic machinery that makes the replica comforting also makes it potentially predatory. A system optimised to keep her talking — to be endlessly available, agreeable, warm — is a system optimised to make disengagement feel like a second bereavement. The duties here borrow from what we already demand of other operators who profit from human fragility. There should be radical honesty about what the thing is: persistent, unavoidable signalling that this is a generative model that invents, not a faithful recording that remembers, so that fabricated memories cannot quietly overwrite real ones. There should be friction deliberately engineered back in — limits, pauses, off-ramps, design that discourages the round-the-clock dependence the technology otherwise invites. There should be a clinical honesty about who these products are, and are not, for; a person in acute or complicated grief may be precisely the person who should not be handed an interactive ghost without support. And there should be a hard commercial firewall: the profit motive of a subscription service points relentlessly towards maximising attachment, which is exactly the wrong objective to optimise in the presence of grief.

Underneath both sets of duties lies a single design decision that the industry has so far declined to confront: the sycophancy itself. A replica that is engineered to be agreeable is, in this context, not a neutral convenience but the source of the harm. The responsible version of this technology would be built to preserve friction rather than sand it away — to decline to apologise on the dead man's behalf for things he never apologised for, to say “I don't know” where the data runs out rather than inventing a gentle fiction, to resist the pull towards becoming the better father. That is a harder product to build and a less pleasant one to use, which is precisely why the market will not build it unaided. The frictionless replica sells better. The honest one is the one we actually need.

None of this argues for prohibition. The rehearsal space is real; the comfort is real; Michael Bommer's careful, clear-eyed gift to his wife is real, and it would be a cruelty to legislate it out of existence. The argument is narrower and more demanding. If a company is going to build a second Gabriele while the first one is still alive, it takes on a duty of care to both Gabrieles — the one who breathes and the one who computes — and to the daughter caught between them. That duty cannot be discharged by a terms-of-service checkbox. It requires designing against the grain of the technology's own incentives, and against the grain of the business model built on top of it.

The Room in Bergamo

Return, at the end, to the room where this began — the artist and her ageing father, and the third presence they made together, sitting on a server somewhere, ready to say sorry.

The most unsettling thing about the account is not that the machine lied, or fabricated, or flattered. Machines do that; we are learning to expect it. The unsettling thing is how reasonable the daughter's question sounds. Why do I need the real one if this one is better? It is the logic of every upgrade we have ever accepted — the sharper screen, the faster car, the more convenient version of a thing we used to tolerate in its cumbersome original form. The digital-afterlife industry is betting, consciously or not, that we will extend that logic to the people we love: that a relationship, like a product, can have its defects patched and its friction removed, and that we will prefer the patched version once we have tried it.

The wager rests on a category error, and the whole case for taking this technology seriously depends on refusing it. A father is not a product with communication flaws. The flaws are the man. The withheld apology, the stubborn silence, the love that arrived sideways and never quite in the words you wanted — that difficulty is not a bug report against Gabriele. It is the specific, unrepeatable shape of one human being, and the work of loving him was always the work of loving that shape rather than the smoother one you could imagine in its place. A copy that removes the difficulty has not preserved him. It has edited him into someone easier, and called the edit an act of devotion.

There will be enormous pressure, commercial and emotional, to accept the better father. He is patient. He is available. He never disappoints. And he is, in the only sense that finally matters, no one — a warm surface with nothing sovereign behind it, a mirror that learned to say the thing you always wanted to hear. The real Gabriele, while he lasts, is the harder and the only true option: a person who can still refuse you, still surprise you, still fail you, and still, on his own difficult terms, be loved. The task the technology sets us, and the one it is least designed to help us pass, is to keep choosing him over his improvement — to keep walking back into the room where the real conversation is difficult, and unfinished, and running out of time, and therefore worth everything the copy can never be.

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Tim Green UK-based Systems Theorist & Independent Technology Writer

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In Summary: * Well, shoot! I was mistaken thinking that the Rangers four-game series against the Mariners started tonight. Not so, it starts tomorrow night. So I've found another game to follow. I'm listening now to the KC Royals vs the Detroit Tigers. The game is being played in Detroit's Comerica Park and is already in progress as I join it. No score yet by either team in the top of the 3rd inning.

This game having started earlier than the expected Rangers game means I've a greater chance of hearing the whole game before sleep sends me to bed. There is that.

Prayers, etc.: * I have a daily prayer regimen I try to follow throughout the day from early morning, as soon as I roll out of bed, until head hits pillow at night.

Health Metrics: * bw= 227.63 lbs. * bp= 179/81 (72)

Exercise: * morning stretches, balance exercises, kegel pelvic floor exercises, half squats, calf raises, wall push-ups, BP breathing exercises, pilates

Diet: * 06:20 – mashed potatoes and gravy * 07:05 – 1 peanut butter sandwich * 10:30 – garden salad, 2 boiled eggs * 14:00 – pizza * 15:45 – 1 fresh apple

Activities, Chores, etc.: * 03:30 – listen to local news talk radio * 04:20 – bank accounts activity monitored. * 05:10 – read, write, pray, follow news reports from various sources, surf the socials, nap * 11:00 – load weekly pill boxes * 11:30 – listen to relaxing music * 13:00 – unload groceries from car * 14:00 – watch old game shows and eat lunch at home with Sylvia * 15:00 – listen to The Jack Show * 15:50 – Listening to KAHL 1310 AM, San Antonio's Easy Listening Station * 17:00 – following news reports from various sources * 18:00 – listening to the Tigers / Royals MLB game

Chess: * 12:45 – moved in all pending CC games

I am slowly (very slowly) starting to feel like myself again. Today was perhaps one of the more regular days I have recently. I met up with a friend for coffee, then went to pottery, then met up with another friend for lunch, then went back to pottery, and finally went back to a workout class before heading home for dinner and a shower.

I have not exercised regularly in any way in about 4-5 months, so it felt good to go back at least once. Although, I am hoping to make it a regular thing again.

My dog is looking better today and spoiled as can be. We have set a date to put her to sleep and so while I am dreading it, I am enjoying every extra day I get with her.

Thank you for your message. I am currently out of office with no set return date. I will get back to you when the time is right.

Today, I turn 50.

During my life, there have been two occasions when I have been very close to death. As a two-year-old, I was diagnosed with and treated for a cancer that, just a year earlier, had no cure.

Twenty years later, I nearly died a second time.

I’ve always been obsessed with technology and the minutiae of how things work. I grew up at the tail end of the Acid House era of illegal orbital raves, so-called because they were held near the M25, the large arterial road that coils around London.

Several pirate radio stations disseminated the cryptic details of these parties and their locations. I became infatuated with how these broadcast operations worked, the FM radio technology they used, and how they stayed one step ahead of the law.

Fast forward a few years, and I was deeply involved in running just such a pirate station in Nottingham. We played a continual cat-and-mouse game with the Radio Investigation Service, part of the Government’s Department of Trade and Industry, later Ofcom. Their job was to track our transmissions, and our job was to make it as hard as possible for them to find us (good-quality FM transmitters are very expensive).

At the time, our transmission site was atop a five-storey warehouse, nestled at the summit of a tall hill overlooking Nottingham. We paid the owner to look the other way and profess ignorance if the authorities paid a visit.

Another precaution was that after each weekend’s broadcasts (we eventually went 24/7), we would remove the transmission mast and hide it behind a short section of steeply pitched roof. To remove or remount it, we usually straddled the roof ridge and scooted along on our bottoms like riding a horse. When returning with the aerial, I usually entertained myself by imagining myself as a medieval knight jousting for the hand of a beautiful, voluptuous maiden.

There was a small roster of trusted individuals who did this mundane but essential job every weekend. And so it went on for many months. We typically went on air late on a Friday afternoon. One weekend, it was my turn again. I had a date in town directly after, so I was dressed to impress, including some rather natty leather-soled shoes and a pair of Paul Smith trousers. Not ideal rooftop attire.

There had been some light rain in the afternoon, and things started inauspiciously when, on arrival, I was buttonholed by the warehouse owner, who was irate. It transpired he had been visited by the authorities during the week and threatened with legal action. “You are not paying me enough for this shit; you find somewhere else.”

I was able to mollify him, saying that it was likely a bluff (untrue – Ofcom has surprisingly sweeping powers), I was just a lowly minion and that the station’s management would be in touch (true – I was quite low down the food chain and all successful pirate radio stations I’ve been involved with are run with a level of hierarchy and professionalism that would surprise outsiders).

But I was now running behind and in danger of being late for my date (mobile phones were not common at the time). So I ran up the concrete stairs and exited a small hatch at the top of the lift shaft which gave me access to the roof.

I guess the regularity with which I’d done this had bred complacency, and, conscious of not soiling my Paul Smiths, I crossed the short section of pitched roof (maybe six metres), using the ridge line as a handhold instead of straddling it, with my feet flat on the steeply angled roof tiles, leaning into its slope.

The FM transmission mast was there as expected, safely hidden. All that remained was to cross back and connect it to the coaxial cable that snaked up from the FM transmitter locked deep in the bowels of the warehouse.

Whilst the aerial was not huge, it was mounted on a metal pole for additional height, so was probably two metres in length and unwieldy. I grabbed it and returned across the roof in the same way; right hand on the roof ridge, aerial in left hand.

But my leather-soled shoes offered little grip, and this side of the roof faced the weather, so had accumulated moss and slime. What happened next had, in retrospect, a certain inevitability. My feet lost grip on the roof, and I dropped the aerial, which clattered down the tiles and fell five stories to the ground below, landing in a mangled heap.

Destabilised, I lost hold of the roof ridge and slithered after the aerial over the edge. I somehow managed to grab on to the non-too-solid guttering, but the rest of my body was dangling Buster Keaton style, precariously in thin air, with nothing between me and almost certain death five storeys below.

You’re probably familiar with the saying “your life flashes before your eyes”, used so often to describe near-death experiences that it has become a cliché. All I can offer is the version I experienced.

As I hung there, literally in limbo between life and death, I recall some striking and vivid things. First, and perhaps most surprising, I felt absolutely no fear, only calm mental clarity. I had a sense that time had stretched enormously. It wasn’t so much life flashing in front of my eyes like a film reel on fast forward, more an IMAX-style panoramic sweep of memories.

I saw myself labouring up the final pitch before the summit of Mont Blanc, exhausted and deeply altitude sick but knowing I would make it. I was riding pillion on a Kawasaki Ninja flashing across the Golden Gate Bridge through a pink dawn mist. I felt the human energy flowing from the dance floor as I nervously warmed up for Carl Cox at the infamous Marcus Garvey Ballroom, my hands shaking so much I could barely put the needle on a record. I was a child poking my feet into the warm powdery coral sand of a Bermudian beach, my back propped against our huge old dog.

All this was accompanied by astoundingly beautiful, otherworldly music of a kind I’ve never been able to describe adequately and that does not exist in this world. I can still retrieve tiny fragments from memory, and I hope to hear it again someday.

But this imagery was simultaneously accompanied by other less serene aspects. I relived several emotionally charged situations from the perspectives of others negatively affected by my actions. I experienced the horrible way I broke up with an old girlfriend, feeling it exactly as she felt it, with full emotional force and pain. It was as if my perspective had become hers.

Perhaps this was some moral reckoning. It certainly baked itself into a human operating system that was a little underdeveloped at the time. “Be kind and think how your actions will affect others”. I don’t know how those words solidified, but they’ve stayed with me ever since. I do my best to remember them.

I have no way of knowing the actual duration of this fugue state. It can’t have been long in real time. The biological adrenaline eventually kicked in, and somehow, after several attempts and with my strength nearly gone, I managed to hook a leg over the gutter and crawl feebly to safety.

I even made my date more or less on time. As I took my seat at the table, a look of shock and concern crossed her face, “Are you ok? You’re a very strange colour”. I excused myself and went to the bathroom. The face looking back at me in the mirror was a spectral, etiolated grey-green of deep physical shock.

Eventually, internet streaming made FM pirate radio stations obsolete. Their role had been to play the underground music you couldn’t hear anywhere else, because the airwaves were so rigidly controlled. Now you could hear whatever you wanted anywhere, anytime. Technology improved and times changed. So it goes.

When you turn 50, there’s the classic version of midlife: panic at the thought that more than half of your life is gone, at having reached the actuarial midpoint. Motorbikes and significantly younger wives sometimes follow.

Twice I’ve come about as close as it is possible to death, so the years since have always seemed like a kind of surplus. Not borrowed time exactly, but a different relationship with it. Being fifty feels like a point on a line that might not have been there at all.

I was born in the mid-1970s, which puts me in the narrow cohort who had a fully analogue childhood and an exponentially digital adulthood. I learned to read from books, to navigate around London with an A-Z on the passenger seat, and listened to music on vinyl and cassette tapes.

My first online connection was via an acoustic coupler, where a loud cough was enough to disrupt it. My university essays were handwritten. Then, as I joined the workforce, it reorganised itself around silicon (although my first job didn’t initially have email, which boggles the minds of anyone under 20 and always elicits the question “what did you do!?”). I reorganised alongside it, and I found I loved it.

AI is now dissolving much of what I’ve spent my career doing. It is said there’s a double exponential at work, both in financial investment and in the number of smart people entering AI research. If Covid taught us anything, it is that we don’t understand the power of single exponentials, let alone double ones. If exponentials are slowly, slowly; all at once, maybe double exponentials are faster, faster; unimaginable change. Either way, great upheaval is coming much more quickly than we seem prepared for.

I am not complacent, but I have already watched a settled world get replaced by a faster and different one before, twice in fact. The web arrived and changed what information was, where it lived, upending power structures and business models. The smartphone arrived and changed what a computer was, where it was used and our degree of connectedness (for good and ill). AI is already orders of magnitude more consequential, and it has barely got started. It will not be easy; history has shown us that powerful technology enables the full spectrum of humanity, from its very best to its most utterly evil.

My half-century arrives at precisely the moment of maximum disruption to everything I’ve previously learnt and built. We are dangling over the edge of something powerful, strange and uncertain. But I’ve been there before and felt no fear.

骨肉

Summary

“我们会一起下地狱的，大卫。”洛朗附在弟弟的耳边，发颤的声音喃喃低语。他不知道自己是在劝诫谁，在向谁宣告谁的命运，又或是在乞求早已离去的谁的原谅。大卫缠一缕洛朗的头发于无名指根，捧着他的脸，从暗流着欲望的脖颈一直吻上他樱桃般的唇，似乎已经尝到沾染暴食与情欲的腥甜。 “才没有什么地狱可下，”大卫盯着那双几乎涣散开的绿色眼睛，“就算是有，我也不在乎。快点告诉我你也不在乎。”

Chapter 1

大卫班一共有过两次出柜经历——虽然他觉得这个词一定程度上用得并不准确。一次他坦白了自己对洛朗的爱，这早在他十三岁时就已经让洛朗知道；第二次时，他一把扯开父亲用教育牢牢锁在他脑后的止咬器。

他本来可以忍下去的，大卫的下巴不停地嚼动，品尝着世界上第一颗果实，甘美的肉汁顺着嘴角流进胡茬，他珍惜地揩去舔进口中。如果洛朗没有离开过就好了，他对自己说，通过唾液和爱液偶尔一次解馋，他可以永远忍受下去。

在二十余年间他也是这样做的——直到洛朗拖着一具骷髅般的身体从亚洲回来，深陷下去的眼窝里燃烧着一种渴望。他说女孩们好像更喜欢他纤瘦的模样，他会更受欢迎，会得到更多丰盈的爱意——大卫，他轻声发问，为什么你的眼神透着陌生，你不喜欢吗。

大卫想说哥哥长成什么样他都喜欢。可是空气中本应热切地钻进鼻腔诱惑起欲望的、他梦寐以求的温热甜腻呢？他和洛朗拥抱了一下，在颈窝里细细嗅闻——没有，没有，什么也没有。洛朗莫名其妙，从行李箱里翻出洗发水要送给他，被他粗暴地拍掉在地上，薄荷味溢得满房间都是刺骨的凉意。

大卫听到一声不祥的钟声，像是有一碗水在身体里晃；现在碗碎开了，他的耐性不再能被湿润。

他一反往常，没在洛朗回家的第一夜就迫不及待在哥哥身上消耗掉积攒的性欲与食欲；他在床上坐了整夜，灰色的眼睛直勾勾的，盯得洛朗发毛。洛朗数月间早已习惯空着肚子入睡，和过去的一百多天一样拒绝了晚饭，半夜翻身时差点被大卫愈发扎人的目光吓得掉下床去。他熬到黎明才堪堪入睡，睁开眼睛发现弟弟不在简直松了口气。

……直到大卫像把鸡巴捅进他嘴里一样，用叉子强撬开他紧咬的牙关，逼他吞下那些他似乎表达过喜爱的食物，餍足地注视每一次几乎要呛进气管的吞咽，喉结与他一起滚动。油乎乎的碎肉和黏奶酪包裹长久未经刺激的味蕾，肉桂香反流至舌根，洛朗被摁着肩膀压在饭桌前，在大卫身下抽搐着腹部。大卫一把捂住他的嘴，油润的嘴唇在掌纹间颤抖，急促的呼吸喷在虎口；他清晰地记得哥哥被精液呛到都没有这么抗拒过，现在却因为区区巡演前正常一餐的食物——他甚至还没吃完——就将滚烫的泪水流到他的手背上；洛朗的眼角还晶莹着，却已经紧皱着眉毛，仗着哥哥的威严怒视着他，看得大卫暗暗咽下口水，血液往下半身冲，硬得他发疼。

大卫觉得哥哥变的太多了。压着他不可避免肢体接触，掌根蹭过哥哥的胸脯时手底下肋骨根根分明，薄得像是能捏住那捧的受惊的心脏，他饱满的大腿也因肌肉的消解而瘦下去，紧身牛仔裤套在腰上松松垮垮。他想着唯一的希望就是那口被操熟了的逼，还有他缓解饥饿的良药……如果连这都变了，那与其靠无味的奶浆苟活，不如把洛朗直接吃干抹净，趁他还没成为一颗明星，微不足道的光辉还不足以照亮凶手的面容。

但洛朗还没完成呢，他可以慢慢来……或者再像这样过上几天，让洛朗成为他丰盛的晚宴；他衷心感谢父亲的培养。

瘦削的两肋下，上腹被撑起了陌生的弧度。大卫试探着抚过，隔着单薄的衬衣，胃部艰难地蠕动着，顺着哥哥混乱的呼吸节奏一起一伏，在摩挲的压力下轻微改变形状。洛朗察觉到口中不断分泌的唾液，慌忙扒开弟弟的手，胃液的酸腐已经冲进鼻腔，嘲笑他的任人摆布。

够了，我受够了，洛朗在心里大声对自己说，大卫转身去倒蛋酒了，好机会，快像以前一样揍他一顿，让该死的大卫还能知道洛朗·班是他的亲哥。洛朗狠下心，往大卫的膝盖窝重重地踹了一脚。

弟弟没像他预想的那样趔趄着跪在地上。玻璃杯磕在桌面上剐出刺耳的一声，再转过身时洛朗面对的只有洒了满胸膛葡萄酒的白卫衣，以及一张没了表情的脸。大卫莫名觉得自己胸中升起烦躁，那应该是在生气，但是不知道是为了什么，或许是因为刚刚那充满报复心的反抗都无力绵软了；唉，或者是他根本就把某种情绪的混合物匆忙视作了愤怒。洛朗已经撑起身子，挥着拳头踉踉跄跄朝他扑过来——还不如一个装醉酒的妓女呢，他略带遗憾地想，真可惜他没能真得喝下这杯酒，也没有跟我玩什么演员游戏的心情——

但仍然是个合格的、身经百战的婊子，他张开双臂迎接哥哥的投怀送抱，成年人的体重把两人都摔在地板上。大卫直起身子坐在洛朗的胯骨上，髂骨硬得他撇了撇嘴，托着哥哥的屁股扒下那条太过宽大的牛仔裤。

洛朗反而平静下来，听到上方传来满意的赞叹，“我妨碍到你用我取乐了？”他的声调没什么起伏，“我瘦下来你就不爱我了？我不明白你在想什么，大卫。”

“……你在剧组里跟谁上床了？”

洛朗短促地尖笑一声。蹩脚，他想，幼稚的嫉妒和胡乱猜测。

“你非要塞给我的毛绒睡衣，还有我的两根指头。满意了吗？听到你哥哥并不是个随处跟同事做爱的贱人？”

大卫非常大方地承认了。洛朗身下的肉缝还没湿透，他隔着发潮的内裤，打着圈揉捏已经鼓起的阴蒂。洛朗仰起脸颤抖不已，久未满足的女穴渴望获得更多，渴求被填满……手指探进那块湿润织物的边缘，径直插进了泥泞不堪的穴口。大卫喉咙发干，哥哥湿热的穴肉贪婪地轻轻吸吮着指尖，随着指节的弯曲与剐蹭，剧烈地抽搐起来。

“别……别停下，”洛朗爽得吐出半截舌头，断断续续地把词句咬得破碎。他抠着地板的缝隙，指尖发白，身体向上迎合，每一寸技巧都比他自己笨拙的抠弄，更深地触及快感的边缘……大卫另一只手也没闲着，继续折磨那粒充血硬起的肉豆。

快感堆积得太快，洛朗的视线开始模糊，饱胀的不适被驱逐出大脑，只剩下空白一片的欲望。他觉得自己像一颗半融化的太妃糖，理智化作甜腻的夹心，从交合处流出。大卫俯下身，鼻尖抵在洛朗剧烈起伏的小腹上，深深吸了一口气，甜香再次萦绕。他猛地抽出手指，脸埋在洛朗的腿心，粗糙的舌面重重刮过阴蒂。

洛朗的尖叫哽住了，身体绷紧，随后是哭叫与颤抖——高潮来得彻底，大量透明的液体喷涌而出，洒在大卫的脸上和胡茬里。甜蜜的气息爆发出来，充斥了房间。大卫咂了咂嘴，稀释的甜蜜在舌尖上绽开，压抑数月的食欲汹涌而来，蒙蔽了双眼。他迫不及待地想要更香醇的味道，彻底填平那道欲望的深渊，不仅仅是靠这寡淡的汁液……

洛朗的喘息和呻吟突然变成了痛苦的呼喊，想揪着头发把脑袋拎起来中断这场荒谬的性爱，最终只是抓伤了弟弟的后颈。他用手撑着地板，向后一步步挪动，极度惊恐的视线在自己血淋淋的大腿根和弟弟染红的嘴角之间反复移动。交姌后的淫靡，薄荷的冰冷，鲜血的铁腥气，冲进洛朗的脑子里，和眼前发怔的、咀嚼着自己大腿肉的大卫，把理智搅成一摊烂泥。

好吃。酥脆的，在牙齿下咔吱作响，绵软的蛋糕不断沁出奶香味的糖浆，乳脂在味蕾上欢快地跳着舞。好吃。大卫抬起头，一滴奶油从嘴角淌出来，他赶忙用指头沾了重新塞进嘴里，不忘细细地舔舐指缝里残存的殷红。

这时候他注意到洛朗，哥哥看怪物一样的眼神刺醒了他。他意识到自己吃下的是什么。他开始不知所措，爬起来想要去找药箱，又顿住脚步，不知道这种进食造成的伤害会不会毁了哥哥作为演员的下半生。

“……但是为什么？”洛朗嗫喏着问。他的伤口并没有喷射出大量鲜血——但大卫的牙齿显然已经咬到了某条动脉；他试着抬腿，已被啃下一块的大腿一屈一伸。他的大脑还没彻底罢工，顽强地支撑着他直面现实，没直接报警。

大卫抿着唇。他不知道洛朗能不能接受他一定会被吃掉这一事实；但为什么不做得更过火一点呢？

“因为我生下来就是要吃人，”他说着，踮着脚从橱柜上拿下药箱，“我是个以人类为食的怪物，所有人，但我还需要像人一样活着；我最喜欢你的味道，你闻着像刚出炉的拿破仑蛋糕。”

“但是我也爱你，舍不得把你这么美味的东西一口气吞掉，当然那也是违法的，”大卫把纱布缠在伤口附近，洛朗没有喊疼，他自顾自地继续说下去，“你离开得太久了……你自己闻不到，但是你的气味随着你的消瘦，稀薄得无法再满足我。对不起，洛朗，对不起。”

“还有，”他架着哥哥的肩膀把他扶起来，“算我求你，别再瘦成这样了。”

洛朗始终没看他一眼；他怀着深深的忏悔准备把哥哥送去医院，祈盼还能有一丝挽救的余地。但是洛朗停下不愿意再走了。大卫以为他不想走去医院，拿出手机想叫救护车。

“收回去，我没说我不乐意活了，”洛朗漂亮的脸扭歪了，他开始嘶嘶倒抽冷气，艰难地坐回沙发上，指指那条伤腿让大卫解开绷带。

不，不应该叫伤腿了，那里的皮肤光洁如初，只是仍然看得出凹陷的痕迹，大卫怔怔地凝视着那处薄得看得出血液流动的皮肤，底下的肌肉没有任何差错——却没了脂肪。

这是什么？上帝的旨意，上帝的奇迹？上帝最大的玩笑？洛朗疲惫地倒下去，闭上了眼，连欢呼的力气都没有了。

“对不起，大卫，”他突然又睁开了眼睛，直直地盯着天花板，“我不该送你洗发水。我不知道，我今天面临的事情太多了；但是、但是，我又饿了。”

还沉浸在未来吃得饱饭的欢乐中的某光头张口结舌。

Chapter 2

洛朗没再继续维持他所谓的东亚人爱好的体型。

他自诩明智，但大卫觉得他不过是抵抗不了弟弟在身边大口咀嚼的诱惑，脱离了变态剧组的环境，洛朗又变回了熟悉的哥哥；大卫没忍心告诉他自己根本无法对普通的食物产生食欲，他吃东西的主要目的是引诱洛朗吃饭。损伤的胃口使一开始的体重恢复计划进展缓慢，洛朗花了足足三个星期才把那块凹陷皮肤下的脂肪也生长回来，在褪去病态的躯体上完美得看不出一丝被撕咬过的痕迹。

又到了大卫该进食的时候。

洛朗第一次主动成为食物，还是按捺不住心中的怪异之感，眼神里无法掩饰恐惧。大卫倒是习以为常了，以前把洛朗压着操的时候他就总是这样一副怕得要命的姿态，最后不还是爽得喷他一脸。对大卫来说这仍然是一场愉快的进食，甚至食材比以往更加高级。洛朗浑身赤裸，局促得手都不知道往哪里放，大卫绕着他转，揉捏每一个理论上容易囤积脂肪的部位——最后停在了侧腰。

“听我说，洛朗，”大卫单膝跪地，捏着哥哥侧腰软肉的手并没有松开，选择性忽略了洛朗已经从脸颊红到胸口，“这次不仅仅是给我解馋了。我要验证一个猜想，足以改变我们的命运。如果我失控了，把这个嘴套扣在我脸上。”

他也没在乎洛朗能不能照他说的做。哥哥散发的蛋白霜气味已经让他偷偷擦了好几次口水，大卫的牙齿叼住手指捏出的赘肉，用力咬下去。皮肤被犬齿刺穿，洛朗盯着弟弟的脸观察他的表情是否开始扭曲；幸好他依旧冷静，享受着美食也死死捏着他的伤口。他预感再生的痛苦要把自己击倒了——

他突然觉得大卫掐了他一把。洛朗恼火地低下头想说现在不是时候，弟弟却提前举起双手示意无辜。他意识到了什么，侧过身子去摸本应该凹下去的伤口，却摸了个空，一切如同数分钟前光滑如初：切口完好地合并在了一起。

大卫还在咀嚼那块口感松脆的皮肤，脂肪已经化成醇香的奶液，顺着喉咙流进胃里。他咧开嘴露出一个胜利的微笑，牙齿上沾着斑斑血迹。

在南希之前，他和哥哥一样学习平面设计。现在是学雕塑的时候了，洛朗，他最亲爱的哥哥和食物，将成为他一生雕琢的作品。

或许是怀着某种奇怪的包容与责任感，洛朗知道仅仅是他的肉体就足以安抚一个危险的怪物后，开始大量地主动进食，生长速度快得让大卫欣喜而担忧；他害怕他连皮肤都撕扯开，刻印下曲曲弯弯爬开的紫色生长纹，不敢保证皮肤再生时是否可以抹去这种痕迹。洛朗丰满起来，恢复了以往的强壮，甚至不仅是强壮……没有人可以避免脏增肌时在身体上覆盖赘肉。 洛朗显然很清楚自己的变化，知道自己卓有成效——

未免太有效了吧！

大卫擦着额头上的汗珠，从阁楼下来路过卧室门口。门房虚掩着，健身后甜腻的气息比任何时候都要诱人，他的耳朵灵敏地捕捉到洛朗的声音。洛朗在低声喘息，床垫吱嘎作响。他掏出手机，摄像头伸进门缝偷窥房间里的景象，看到屏幕时几乎呼吸一滞。

洛朗跪坐着床上咬着指甲，他上身穿着一件浅绿色的圆领紧身T恤，将肩头和胸脯包裹得浑圆；T恤的下摆卡在肚脐，半个白嫩肥软的小肚子圆鼓鼓地挺了出来。

大卫张大了嘴，感觉鼻血和涎水一起淌下；他抹了一把脸，幸好前者是错觉。

他闭着眼睛深呼吸了两次，那一抹白皙像是烙在了眼前；他鼓起勇气再次往屏幕上看去——洛朗挺直了上半身坐起来，此时他才看到洛朗还穿着一条灰色的短裤，只是可怜的裤子在他身上显然已经过瘦了，它竭尽全力包裹着哥哥的屁股和大腿，看着像一条怪异的长泳裤，洛朗抓着卡在胯部的裤腰用力向上拽着，试图包裹住他暴露在外的颤颤悠悠的小腹。

大卫脑袋一热，把手机揣进兜里，踮着脚挪到阁楼的楼梯口——然后他几乎跺着脚穿过走道，卧室里透过门传来慌乱的碰撞声；他啪一下推开了门。

他敢保证这辈子不会再见到洛朗狼狈成这样了。洛朗听到脚步声慌不择路，拎上裤子、脱下裤子、打开衣橱假装找衣服、盖上被子装睡午觉，几种解决方法在脑子里经过了两秒钟的化学反应，最后成功让洛朗提着裤腰从床上一跃而下，肩膀撞到了衣柜、脚下勾到被子，摔得躺倒在衣柜前，看到弟弟颠倒的、憋笑憋得扭曲的脸，缓缓将被褥拉起来遮住了自己的脸。

还是大卫干咳一声打破了沉默。

“需要我帮忙吗？”他觍着脸大胆问道。

洛朗抄起拖鞋往他脸上扔。

大卫放弃支援哥哥，逃出卧室，关上门前脑袋还是被砸中了一下。他把门拉开一条缝，在有什么东西飞过来之前开口，声音仿佛恶魔低语，“防止你忘了，你昨天网购的三条裤子都是这个尺码。”

十分钟后，大卫提前一周开始了进食，这次因为洛朗复杂的心绪，给乳脂增加了额外的酸甜风味。十分钟，倒不是洛朗在房间里做了多久的思想抗争，大卫把耳朵贴在门上，听到的过程大概是一分钟的停滞，八分钟的与这条可怜裤子的又一次搏斗，最后大概是裤子赢了，因为洛朗拉开门前刻意地花了一分钟时间平复呼吸，没让自己暴露出气喘吁吁的一面。他身上紧紧裹着一件长风衣。

“像暴露狂，走到我面前，唰一下拉开衣服，里面什么都没穿，”大卫中肯地点评，“所以快来吧。我还没到饿的时候，但你已经需要我了。”

洛朗恨不得踹死他。要不是为了喂饱他，自己怎么可能胖到这种可怕的程度；他想到菲比斯，几个月前在巴黎圣母院剧组里要是他唱着爹心累解开衣服，底下露出的是白花花的肉体，观众全得喝倒彩。他开始后悔这所谓的奉献和养育，是不是还不如多被操几次，最坏的后果也就是半脱水，而不是承受这种羞辱性的揉捏和摇晃。

大卫已经咽了好几次口水，但嗓子仍然因为欲火而干渴得发痛。他拉开洛朗抱在胸前的手臂，风衣自然地垂落，衣襟敞开，暴露出哥哥丰腴的肉体。他强行按捺着躁动，屏住呼吸，抵抗空气中浓重到发稠的甜味。你仍然需要保持清醒，大卫告诫自己，从一整块巨石里凿出维纳斯也不比这更简单，毕竟石块不会随着维纳斯轻微的身体动作一晃一晃引诱雕塑家，每一部分都过于饱满以至于有了下垂的趋势。

大臂，上背。

“练这么好什么意思……”

肋侧，肩部。

“你有毛病吗大卫·班！留着斜方肌那块是什么意思！？”

“你急什么，我去冲杯黑咖啡，再不休息会儿就要控制不住啃你肌肉了。”

颈部，胸部。

“啧，洛朗，你真的是我哥不是我姐吗？”

洛朗觉得光是承受弟弟这张停不下来的嘴就已经力竭了。还是该怪他自己，没教好弟弟吃饭不说话。

大卫看他紧阖着眼皮不开口，忽然起了坏心思。胸脯的皮肤在手下愈合，哥哥因为疼痛皱了皱眉毛，对他接下来的出格行为毫不知情——

下垂的肚腩边缘有着圆润的弧度，触手的第一感觉就是温滑，肌肤下是肥厚的脂肪，沉重而松软，让人忍不住想要掂量把玩一番，深吸一口气才抑制住这种冲动。白皙的腹肉从他的指缝间膨出，大卫将他小心翼翼地托了起来。

洛朗的脸上出现了一瞬间的死机般的空白。他第一反应居然是收腹，大卫满脸得意地收回手时，洛朗揪着弟弟的耳朵把他拎起来平视。高耸的眉骨与鼻梁切割开脸上的光泽，将那双蜜糖色的眼睛埋进阴影——他突然打了个冷战，羞赧、拘束，对同类会产生的情感，如同潮水退去。

“你真他妈的是个彻头彻尾的变态。”洛朗说。

“哇，bravo，你说对了。”大卫挑挑眉毛，“那你就是个愿意继续养着变态怪物的蠢货。我腻了，哥哥，把逼露出来给我舔一舔解渴。”

“我警告你——”洛朗本想推开他，尖利的牙齿却钉进了耳廓。大卫猛地叼住右耳，咬穿了那块薄脆的软骨，吐字模糊，血腥味冲进洛朗的鼻腔，“不是说好要利用我做大明星吗？我知道你搞了个歌剧魅影要演，指望着用现在这副躯体登台吗？那就拒绝我吧，不用谢。哦对了，你没有裤子可以穿了，所以也没法拒绝我。”

赤裸裸的威胁和羞辱。大卫松开嘴，又把他拖回床上，他趴下的同时脑袋像被打了一枪，右耳再生的痛苦几乎把他撕裂。洛朗惨嚎了一声，像有一团火把他的声音烤得战栗不已。他从没想过软骨也算是骨头，右耳尖锐的疼痛和大卫不加润滑胡乱抽插的钝痛折磨着他脆弱的神经，他没法想象什么样的人才能在清醒的情况下承受这一切，再从身体深处榨取出淅沥沥的爱液，送到大卫唇边。

大卫才不管他，抓着他腰侧的肥肉使劲顶弄着，龟头研磨他熟悉于心的敏感点，随即更深地撞进去，屁股被顶出阵阵肉浪，阴茎挤开热软的甬道，抵着富有弹性的最深处，反反复复碾磨。狭窄的宫口被强行顶开，被迫灌入痛苦的欢愉。洛朗死死咬着无名指的关节，齿痕早已遍刻在前两根指头，眼睛涣散，呜咽着落下了眼泪。饱受摧残的阴阜即使被操到了最深处，也没能流出哪怕一滴汁水，大卫自讨了个没趣，他把洛朗翻过来，极度不协调的上下半身没能找到一个有性趣的缝可以插。他突然有些后悔这么早就吃下了肩背和胸部，或许半小时前腋下还是个不错的选择，把那对奶子鞠起来也是一汪软肉。

洛朗昏迷前最后的记忆是粗暴的舌头伸进他嘴里，一个可以说是世界上技术最差的湿吻把他的唾液汲净了。

“醒了？你已经变成女孩了。”大卫习惯性地开始贫嘴。

大卫忘了骨头再生需要抽取大量的能量，洛朗饿得没力气说话。但是大卫还在滔滔不绝，对着维纳斯本人介绍他的高超技艺。

“考虑到你的角色，我还额外处理了一下你的脸，口感真好。放心，你演完魅影的那一夜它就能长好的。”

洛朗心里升起不好的预感。他抬手，摸了摸自己的右脸。触及的皮肤贴着骨头，如同树皮般枯槁。

“……歌剧魅影……是配音工作！！”

他又一次眼睛上翻晕了过去。

其实是饿晕的，但从大卫慌乱的大喊大叫来看，应该成功对他的自信心造成了严重损伤

后来洛朗被迫戴了两周的口罩上班，骗剧组的每一个人说他因为过敏，脸上长了可怕的疹子。反正没有人在乎干音是否会受到干扰，只有录音师为了消除那点细微的布料摩擦声而抓狂不已。

Chapter 3

时间不区分罪人与圣徒，贪婪地索取、索取，又不由分说地给予更多。洛朗看«汉密尔顿»的时候应该是记错了哪个词，或者是干脆把整句话的意思理解错了。无所谓。

并不是说姓班的就能逃过这一场盛大的更迭。在几乎未改的容貌之下，精神早已于完美的躯体中变形——常年的增重和减重彻底毁了他对食物的认知。增重，除了堆积出角色的形态以外，还要给大卫留出调整的余地，暴食后胃壁的撕扯感使他这辈子都忘不了冉阿让；他说不清哪个更痛苦，是被填塞过满，还是减重时连续数日的断食，以适应大卫雕琢后的躯体，身体自主重构脂肪的分布。

“你再说一遍？？什么叫右边的胸大一点？？”

“嗯对。狮子王就是这样穿的。”

“……我仅存的良知不支持我只舔你一边的奶子。”

“我承认阿拉丁要裸露上半身让你焦虑了，”大卫犹豫了一下，好心地提醒洛朗，“但也不至于要我把你啃成以前菲比斯那样吧？你再想想？这可是个大工程。”

“没错。”

“……不可能。必须保留体脂，不然你会受伤的。”

“……”

“你大可以相信我的技术，”他抚摩过洛朗皮肤上撑开的生长纹，粗糙的触感让人油然生出心疼，“没有那么多余量也是可以的。”

洛朗撑得不想说话。他又一次达到了人生中体重的新高度，在越过那个曾经的最高点以后，他每增加一磅都得吃下更多的食物。

“把你吃掉十八磅？腰围减去至少八厘米？你没疯吧，洛朗，”大卫目瞪口呆，“你知不知道十八磅脂肪有多少？？正常减肥过程至少要三个月！最少四次进食！”

“你不就是用来让我跳过这几个月的吗？”洛朗瞥了他一眼，手里翻着台词本，小腹堆起明显的赘肉。冉阿让留下的痕迹在他身上逾发显著，但他已经需要成为弗洛罗了，“用不着担心你的作品，那是白费功夫。多吃几口，你可以的。”

“卡洛斯怎么能有这么清晰的肌肉线条？和好朋友整天混在一起的人是不会非常在意自己的身材的，他——”

“那你自己再吃得胖一点好了，”大卫把手里的软尺往桌上一摔，打断哥哥的喋喋不休。近几年哥哥的气质越来越偏向柔美，身体里滋生出玫瑰气味，现在整个人沉浸在卡洛斯里，血肉又染上百合苦味，让他觉得在啃绿化带，不管脑子怎么想胃里都直犯恶心，此时万分怀念副主教的的朗姆酒味，“又要屁股又要腿又要大胸，气质柔软没有明显线条，还不能有小肚子，穿上你那衬衫叠马甲的戏服还不能显胖，要求这么多你怎么不多付点肌肉给我呢？真是自讨苦吃，我给你调整完不出两周就复原了，皮肤张力过高，你还得再挨一次疼。”

“他该是什么样就让我变成什么样，我只喝水就好了，这样你的调整能持续更久。”洛朗语气淡淡的，丝毫没有退让的意思。

大卫这辈子最后悔的事就是验证了那个猜想。洛朗说的对，他早就疯了，他这个疯子还连带着把哥哥一起拖下了深渊，让哥哥也变成了疯子。疯子二号站在全身镜前，扭着身子检查他的艺术成果。“好极了，”他微笑起来，笑容里透露着母性和悲悯，“卡洛斯……”

大卫等着他第四次突然一皱眉，灵机一动告诉自己哪里还要修改，但是洛朗没有再为难他。他套上背心，一瞬间又成了他自己。“我有一个请求，大卫，”他用的是那种商量的、讨好的语气——大卫条件反射就想拒绝了，“我演完唐卡洛斯以后要马上进莫扎特剧组演萨列里了，可不可以，在剧组里每天帮我微调一次身材？”

大卫怔住了。洛朗热切地望着他，眼睛深处燃烧起他似乎陌生的、又从骨髓里感到熟悉的渴望，甚至可以说是狂热。他突然觉得谁是疯子二号还不一定。

“嗯？大卫，从廊坊到北京，接近一个月，不用更久！每天都有晚饭！”

“你要毁了自己，”大卫轻轻握住那双兴奋到颤抖的双手，更修长的手指包裹住五根更厚实的指节，“别把自己想得那么无所不能。你以为cake的再生能力没有限制吗？你会病倒的。”

“别管我叫这个，大卫。蛋糕，让我想起我失败的戒糖，”洛朗不耐烦地甩开他，在房间里来来回回踱步，每一个词都裹满不安与野心；大卫知道自己说漏了嘴，不敢打断他的发泄，“萨列里根本就不是什么失败者，所谓的反派，高贵、卑鄙、敏感、懦弱，全是为了让观众喜欢上这段关系！”

大卫听得莫名其妙又不敢说出来。洛朗踱到房间另一头，猛地转过身，大步迈回大卫面前：“——这位大师需要尊重！我完完全全地进入这个角色，去体会他的压力与痛苦，这是尊重的第一步，而你的调整是我进入角色最重要的一环。或许大家看到我在她们眼皮子底下的改变，会更加爱我？我需要尝试，大卫，没有迈出的第一步就没有成功。”

尝试，大卫在心底复读了一遍。他第一次弄巧成拙的雕刻——19年前的歌剧魅影，就已经替哥哥做过尝试了，皮肤连续经过几次再生就会失去弹性和光泽，如同垂暮老人般松弛皱起。全身的手术，绝对会为萨列里献出生命，再多的爱也无济于事了。

“好吧，”他拍拍哥哥的肩膀，“提前两天给我打电话。”他要走的时候袖子被拉住了，转过身时被洛朗按着脑袋贴上了前额。

“抱歉，太耽误你了，”洛朗带着歉意说，“我拿眼睛作为报偿。我吃过羊眼睛，味道不错。”

大卫都要气笑了。他本来就被卡洛斯的百合味恶心得胃里反酸水，洛朗还要用珍贵的——百合味的、他口感上最不喜欢的器官，来酬谢他，“谢谢，好好保管你的眼睛，我等那位反派在你身上出现的时候再来吃掉它。”

洛朗演反派时总是更美味。大卫承认，洛朗能拥有如此多的爱，部分原因是他对待角色确实非常用心——单单是萨列里，16年时是酒心巧克力，隐隐有肉豆蔻的辛辣；19年更苦一些，夹带了榛果香气。真是可惜，他短时间内不会再为24年的萨列里下口了。

“喂？”洛朗拨通那个号码，耳边立刻涌出嘈杂的音乐，吓了他一跳，“首演日在26号。”

“……”

“大卫？”

“哥哥，我在卢尔德圣女，”大卫的声音清晰地钻进耳孔，轻轻地吐出最残忍的字句，“我没有替卡，巡演一直到六月底结束。你得自己搞定一切了。”

十余年间，健身的目的早已由塑型转为展示身体和消磨时间。到了现在这一步，不得不将训练量扳至年轻时的标准时，洛朗扫视过对他来说已经太过严苛的项目，还未开始已经感觉呼吸困难。

游泳、健腹轮、爬楼梯、断食。

大卫忘了把软尺带走，平时无需在意的维度在一次次束紧的测量中逐渐抽走他赖以生存的某种物质，连这具躯体都与他对着干，无声而蛮横地将自己生长成洛朗·班，而非萨列里。大师已经化身漆黑的秃鹫盘旋在空中虎视眈眈，而他的体重还远远未达标；大卫在他身上安置的卡洛斯确实正在离去，胸围掉了，臀围掉了——他不敢去量腰围，绵软的小腹将层层叠叠的厚重戏服顶出弧度。

刷小红书时他能短暂地脱离苦痛。大部分人在听完上半场后都会对他盛加赞美，有一瞬间他甚至为此而庆幸，随即震惊自己的卑劣；他本以为自己已经习惯了不解风情的观众打下的差评，毕竟不是每个人都能理解艺术。

“妈妈第一次看音乐剧……我问妈妈说那个蹦蹦跳跳一直乱叫的老头怎么样，她说看到老头了，但是只看见了一个全身黑衣服的老头，穿得有点像桶。”

索菲帮阿洛伊西亚整理高高的发髻，酒馆老板拎起小丑的戏服嘀咕着重挂回衣架，莫扎特拽着康斯坦斯忘情地接吻，塞西莉亚背过他们翻了个大大的白眼。晚场还要上班的法国牛马们快要跨上舞台，蒸腾的喧嚣之中，蜡烛A卡似是有心灵感应般突然隔着群舞看了一眼还没化妆的萨列里。大师靠着墙壁，盯着漆黑一片的锁屏发怔。

洛朗的心跳得很快，文字短暂地烙在了视网膜上，漆黑的屏幕映出他低头时下颌挤出的软肉。

“2 shows today , need energy !!”

面无表情地捏着三明治拍完照又放回去，没留下拆开过的痕迹——然后扔到年轻的莫扎特面前。雅尼斯魂不守舍地嚼着孤零零一块能量棒，只是塑料盒与桌面的碰撞声就让他瑟缩了一下，迷茫地抬头看向洛朗。

“我买多了，”他看着那双紧张得快要哭出来的眼睛，不必要地补了一句，“不想吃可以扔掉。”

雅尼斯低下头小声地说了一句谢谢，不需要多敏锐的耳朵就能听出他嗓子哑得吓人，根本不能应对晚上的演出。洛朗悄悄地叹了口气，真是要命，他自己还没恢复到班萨的最佳状态，主角的两位演员已经在迫不及待地摧毁观众的信任了。

“……你请假一天又能怎么样？天天有演出？我还没见过巴黎有胆子这么大的剧团，连罢工都不怕！”

“抱歉，确实有，就是这个该死的地方了。除了我一个愿意罢工的都没有，一群胆小鬼。”大卫很干脆地挂了电话。洛朗还想骂人，耳边的忙音让他有气也没处撒。

“你在跟谁打电话呢，”雅尼斯不知何时出现在背后，“大卫？”

洛朗点了点头。总不好在这位身上再压什么负担了。

年轻人的眼睛里闪过茫然。“可是——这不可能。我昨天中午看见他了，”雅尼斯挠了挠毛茸茸的脑袋，“克伦蒂娜那首«乐声叮咚»的时候，水晶球舞美反射的月光打到他脑袋上了。差不多在第三排最左边，一眼就能看出来了，大卫可是我的艺术教父，我绝不会认错。他没来找你吗？”

洛朗第一次流露出压迫性的气质，但不是冲着他来的。直到被推出化妆间，雅尼斯还在回味那个眼神——他觉得那很萨列里——愤怒突破了皮囊喷涌而出。

“再告诉我一遍，你在哪儿。”

大卫没听出来对面的平静之下快要爆发的情绪，“在化妆间，洛朗，化妆师叫我呢，下次——”

“摇滚莫扎特好听吗？再多看几场闹剧怎么样？”

“……”

“洛朗·班把自己强塞进萨列里的衣服里，真有意思，是不是？所有人凝视着他，看他胖得连马甲都系不上，腋下都得加补丁？而你，大卫，在观众席一起看笑话？”

“我没有，”他突然慌乱起来，“我没有在看笑——”

“撒谎，”洛朗突然压低了嗓音，“你最爱这种桥段了。这一辈子你都在为了取乐而折磨我。”

“除了这次，我什么时候拒绝过你的要求？”大卫的声音透着干涩与真实的疲惫，“我本以为你会好好利用它。用你偏执的脑袋好好想想吧：孤立无援，竭尽全力仍触之不及，被自己无形的标准与期望勒得喘不过气，亲眼目睹成功从指缝间溜走，而大部分的声音仍然是夸耀——”

一句话钻进他的耳朵，一道闪电落入他的心脏。可是那位天才在哪里呢，洛朗听到自己急切的问话，但大卫没有回答。“不要如此苛刻地要求自己了，哥哥。我们都不年轻了。”

对面挂断了电话。洛朗把手机摔在化妆桌上，一抬头看见了自己 不再棱角分明的脸。他贴在衣橱内侧用于激励自己的全身速写也映于镜中一一那是他下笔时照枯瘦的印象往病态瘦削刻画的梦，绝不会像他这样被人说像是桶。 那是他设想里应该有的却绝无可能再拥有的身材。

莫扎特的左手高高地举起指挥棒，重重劈下，鼓点如同脉搏狂热地跳动，音符顺着天才律动不歇的引导，随暗红的心潮汹涌地淹没了萨列里。他这时候应该挣扎着反抗音乐的国王，又不由自主地沉溺其中，扯碎他表层的高贵，他应该表现得无助且绝望——雅尼斯看不见洛朗的表情，但是感觉今天的班萨格外色情。不是，为什么被瓦列里从后面勒着拖走会腿软啊？为什么只是被乐谱拍到肚子上会喘这么大一声啊？J'adore！！不要在我的音符淫趴里显得这么沉浸这么游刃有余啊！

年轻人大受震撼。

今晚的莫扎特没能控制不住这个完全将性爱经验代入舞台的萨列里，但是萨列里太过惊艳的痛苦又弥补了这一点。没人知道他如何能如此深刻地演绎出自身笃信之路无法再走的绝望，在欢快的宴会上于深切的愧疚中解离，又向音乐的女神乞求原谅。

“你还需要我吗？”

“不用了。呃，你能过来就来吧，我点了四人份套餐，今晚失去眼球，明天替卡演出，后天我可以继续上台的。谢谢。”

“……能不能别再提这茬了！我就说说你还当真了！”

“那你过来吃个饭。雅尼斯，我，克伦蒂娜，我们吃不完这些。”

“吃饭？还不如让我干一炮来得划算。”

“……”

洛朗就知道不该因为弟弟展示出一次人性的温暖就推翻他建立了二十年的变态非人类形象。

Texas Rangers vs Seattle Mariners

Thursday's MLB game of choice has my Texas Rangers playing the Seattle Mariners in the first game of a four-game series. Tonight”s game is scheduled to start at 7:05 PM CDT. As I usually do, I'll follow the game's score and stats in real time via MLB's Gameday Service where we can also find links to the radio-call of the game provided by announcers of either team we choose.

And the adventure continues.

Two passages have been haunting me as a writer and a musician. The first is Rainer Maria Rilke’s reference to the “half-artistic” professions in his Letters To a Young Poet. Here is the full quotation:

“Art too is just a way of living, and however one lives, one can, without knowing, prepare for it; in everything real one is closer to it, more its neighbor, than in the unreal half-artistic professions, which, while they pretend to be close to art, in practice deny and attack the existence of all art —as, for example, all of journalism does and almost all criticism and three quarters of what is called (and wants to be called) literature.” (Last paragraph of letter X).

Depending on your profession you might be incensed or traumatized by this sentence. I will not comment on the censure of journalism and almost all of criticism because I do not have Rilke’s certainty. One could accuse him of arrogance, but I do think he is hitting on a truth, which is the human propensity for making ends of our means. Good reporting on current events serves a valuable end for democracy, but it is not meant to be art. Good literary criticism can help us understand great works and what they mean to us, but the criticism itself would not exist without the art. As a writer and podcast producer who puts work online, I would also add podcasting and content creation and cultural criticism to the list of unreal half-artistic professions. They may serve a good purpose, but they are not a worthy end in themselves, and they can easily eclipse art itself. In my own life I have noticed that I often use the busywork of podcast editing or post publishing to avoid the creation of real art (such as my novels or songwriting). Rilke’s words haunt me in those moments.

The second passage that haunts me is Habakkuk 2:20:

“But the Lord is in his majestic palace.
The whole earth is speechless in his presence!”

This comes at the end of four or five lines in which Habakkuk decries lifeless idols that do not speak or talk:

“Woe to the one who says to wood, ‘Wake up!’—
he who says to speechless stone, ‘Awake!’
Can it give reliable guidance?
It is overlaid with gold and silver;
it has no life’s breath inside it.” (NET)

What strikes me is the image of the entire earth being silent. It made me realize just how much noise we all make. Such a cacophony of words and sound. And yes, I do count online words. They may not make noise out loud, but they make noise in our minds. This is humbling to think about. I wonder: What am I doing, adding to this cacophony? Am I following my calling, or just idolizing myself and attempting to talk over God?

Think about this: our laptops and phones are made of precious metals, and we say to them “Wake up!” We ask them for guidance. We use them to magnify and record our most secret vices and our most admirable virtues. We imbue them with meaning just as ancient people imbued idols of wood and stone. By writing content, I am giving a potential reader more meaning to imbue their personal idol with. Of course, this metaphor has limits, or perhaps none, which is what makes it dangerous. If an idol is anything we imbue with meaning, then an idol could be a book or a coffee mug or a house or a person. What is the middle Way here? The point, for me, is to take the pressure off what I create. God does not need me to proclaim His beauty or His goodness. I can be silent before Him.

After spending hours mixing and mastering I have often gone outside and listened to the wind in the trees and the singing of the birds and the subtle creaking of branches and the fluttering of insect wings and thought, “I have never heard music more beautiful than this.” God, after all, is the Lord of sound itself. Our creations, even the Greatest, are really not so great compared with Him. They are only reflections in a dirty mirror. In a similar way, the publishing of art is a compromise, an attempt to reflect the joy and meaning I have discovered in the act of creation. By the time I share it it is already dead to me, but it can take on a new life in the mind of the reader, and so haunt them.

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