Our Father Who art in Heaven Hallowed be Thy name Thy Kingdom come Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven Give us this day our daily Bread And forgive us our trespasses As we forgive those who trespass against us And lead us not into temptation But deliver us from evil

Amen

Jesus is Lord! Come Lord Jesus!

Come Lord Jesus! Christ is Lord!

Rome Isn’t Done

Afraid to know how might it last The fear accord to long And getting past- and often me A simple address aknown Faber shores- shores and distant pass The like of me at dawn And there was a river- to curfew this man Twenty thousand houses And a difficult yew For what is spent To fever my unstress To straddle waves And Victory home Amends, let us meet and make To the simple flower and truth- it lasts And the Sun in me to write Standing hill, against the source A fissure of these walls To St. Consume- who debts Cathedra And known to keep a way These signs for places- and in command If mercy were to Cannon And simple respect in effigy To Scotland and The Hague With Princes’ respect- And best re-do Communion is in, to carry And laying tone for forest days The high skill of the Sun For previous Orient- of the knockings A set of lungs and deep The while at run- for each review And stunning races sturdy A prose to pair, in such amount Digressing shirt but wicked To quote and watch This poor unpay And lodges firm unbled A graving train to stop Each year as one The fate of Words and fair To many leanings- A force for view To night unchange but see Of great Cross and one above The Heavens to another And Victory Rome A peace accord Of many wonders, years, rations To God the Father In simple time came But sudden Words in Christ To fortress bet And sitting odds And simple- Love one another And time invent The lights of captive speed- Alone, repair, also swap- and Heather be- to capeless Win and for In betterance here- the luck of mine- is poor amiss In Christ, will marry forth And in this make To Heaven as per steem In waiting number To close the hill For furied gate, go further And distance from, my high regret And better but for form To speak of God Be acquainted all A force to see the caption For cause and cure The consequence- of word- Words are under feet- Amaiming time- to chosen few A place and thought, and knew.

i’m always intrigued by artwork that casts the author’s personal relatives as religious figures. it feels like the ultimate form of flattery. imagine being immortalized as mother mary for observers to see. maybe the act of rendering a person on canvas is a religious act itself; you are preserving memory and making a figure omnipresent in the rooms of galleries.

i wonder how artists painting portraits back then felt as they remained one of the only ways to preserve memory in physical space for centuries. did they feel that weight in the studio, peering into the eyes of their subject? how would they feel now walking around the halls of galleries, witnessing the durability of their sketched out image first hand?

hopper is able to capture a lot of expression in the faces of his subjects—slight brushstrokes moving downward on faces, looking to be the beginnings of a frown. the closer i get to his paintings, the more i can see back in time. i picture hopper making an abrupt motion down after focusing in on a face, likely painting it over for the 15th time not satisfied with the demarcated expression

people still want to learn about art. there are rooms full of life listening to someone lecture about islamic manuscripts from the 13th century. people still want to learn.

My poor, lost guardian angel. She has no greater goal in life than to protect me, but she only hurts me. What a sad existence! Confused and misguided, she doesn’t understand why I put a distance between us. She exists only for my good. She mourns the distance.

My poor, hurt guardian angel. How could she not be mad? How could she not be confused? I was on her side, and then I wasn’t. How could she not be sad? I ignore her and feel misery and pain. I prove her point daily.

My poor, godless guardian angel. She wants to be my seraphim, singing my praises. Why would I turn that down, that glory of deification? She wants that for me, and I, incredibly, refuse it. I am unbelievable. To turn down godhood is insane. I am insane for ignoring her. She was assigned to a madwoman. What a horrible fate for her and for me.

My poor, chained guardian angel. Shackled and pleading, she begs to help me. She doesn’t understand why she is restrained. She only ever wanted to help. Why don’t I appreciate her? Why don’t I let her help?

Why don’t I love her?

I think I’m learning to, just not in the way she’d like. She works so hard to keep me safe, and I appreciate that. But she’s lost. I can’t follow her anymore. And that hurts so bad, because she’s been so loyal and, in truth, pure-hearted. Not pure good, but pure. Clean, in a way. Simple. No one else is so honest.

My heart hurts for my poor, sad guardian angel.

I GOT IT!!!!!

Whew, that feels good to get to say. I've known for three days now, but was sworn to secrecy.

Anyway.

I will be reading as part of the cast of Flower City Writers Collective's Listen to Your Mother event on Saturday, May 9th.

Tickets are $21 in advance, $25 at the door. All proceeds go to Teen Empowerment. I'd love for you to be there if possible!

More information at https://www.flowercitywriters.org/listentoyourmother

Thank you, friend!

To know you is not enough. I want to be lost in you.

The topography of her I was not meant To leave.

Oh, to climb the Mountains and hills Of she... Not as a pilgrim, But as something Hungry.

To take shelter In the dales and valleys, And name them mine By breath, By touch, By the slow claiming Of presence.

I would map her Not in lines, But in memory— Every rise learned By mouth, Every hollow By need.

A continent of wonder, Yes... But also of ruin, Where I lose myself And do not ask To be found.

Till I am no longer A wanderer, But something rooted, Buried deep In the quiet Of her terrain.

#002327 – 12 de Outubro de 2025

A equipa de basket do meu sobrinho, ainda criança, jogou. A outra equipa não tem jogadores suficientes da idade média dos jogadores da equipa do meu sobrinho. Isso significa que mais de metade são do escalão anterior, ou seja, uns dois anos mais novos, em média. Nestas idades, essa diferença é uma montanha inultrapassável. Como sempre nestes torneios, a assistência é composta dos familiares das crianças. Desde o primeiro minuto que noto que atrás de mim estão familiares dos miúdos da equipa adversária da equipa do meu sobrinho. Começam as piadas sobre o desempenho dos seus filhos, netos, sobrinhos. Estas 10, 12 pessoas continuarão o jogo todo assim, a fazer um roast às suas crianças. O roast é em surdina, só é escutado pelos familiares, mas o apoio é sonoro, sempre que há algum esforço dos miúdos. E a bancada quase vem a baixo, quando esta equipa marca os primeiros dois pontos, perdia já a uns 30 a zero. No final os 90-16 mostraram bem a diferença entre as duas equipas. Mas na bancada foram os pais da equipa perdedora que ganharam. Lembrei-me do Ricardo Araújo Pereira, que explica que o humor ajuda a lidar com a morte e outros assuntos pesados. Aqui, não se tratava de um assunto de vida ou morte. O humor também ajuda a lidar com situações menos críticas, como o embaraço. Aqueles pais tinham-se preparado com a arma do humor auto-depreciativo e ganharam, sem dúvida nenhuma. Passaram o embaraço à assistência da equipa adversária, que sentiu desde o início um pudor grande em aplaudir demasiado euforicamente crianças com uma vantagem de idade e tamanho tão notória e até a aplaudir os miúdos da outra equipa pelo esforço.

There are some lives that do not fall apart all at once. They come apart slowly, quietly, and in ways that are hard to explain to people who have never lived inside that kind of pain. From the outside, it may look like a man is simply drinking too much. It may look like weakness, bad choices, lack of discipline, or another grown man throwing away what he has been given. But when you get closer to the truth, you often find something deeper than the bottle itself. You find a human being at war with his own mind, his own history, his own shame, and his own need to get through one more day without feeling everything he has been carrying. That is why alcoholism reaches deeper than habit. It gets into memory, identity, fear, regret, loneliness, and the silent places where a person starts believing that escape is easier than honesty. The bottle does not begin by announcing itself as a thief. It usually arrives sounding like relief. It feels like rest. It feels like a way to make the noise stop. It feels like something that can take the edge off a life that already hurts too much. Then over time, the thing that once seemed like comfort begins to own territory inside the soul, and a man who thought he was reaching for peace slowly discovers he has been handing his life over to something that only knows how to take.

That is what makes this subject so painful and so personal. Most alcoholics are not strangers to regret. They know what it feels like to make a promise in the dark and break it in the light. They know what it feels like to wake up with a body that is tired and a soul that is even more tired. They know what it feels like to dread the morning because the morning brings memory, and memory does not always arrive gently. There are men who have looked into the mirror and felt like they were staring at someone they used to know. There are men who have sat in silence after everybody else went to bed and wondered how they became somebody their own children do not fully trust. There are men who love their families with all their heart and still keep choosing the very thing that is tearing those families apart. That contradiction is one of the deepest torments in addiction. It is not always a lack of love. It is often a lack of freedom. It is not always that a man does not care. Sometimes he cares so deeply that the guilt of what he has become starts feeding the very behavior he hates. Then the cycle gets stronger. Shame creates the craving for escape, and the escape creates more shame. After a while a man can start to feel trapped inside a pattern he knows is killing him but still cannot seem to outrun.

There is a strange cruelty in that kind of battle because it does not just wound the body. It wounds the relationship a man has with himself. A person can survive many hard things, but when he starts losing trust in his own word, something inside him begins to crack. It is one thing to be disappointed by somebody else. It is another thing to be disappointed by yourself so many times that your own promises stop sounding real. That is where hopelessness starts trying to build a home. A man tells himself this is the last time. He means it when he says it. Then later he breaks the promise again, and the pain of that broken word cuts deeper than people around him even realize. Now it is not just about the drink. It is about the growing fear that he may not be able to believe himself anymore. That is a terrible place for any human being to live. It creates a kind of inward collapse that many people never see. They see behavior. They see mess. They see anger or avoidance or failure. What they do not always see is the hidden terror of a man who is beginning to wonder whether there is still a version of himself worth saving.

That is why an honest conversation about alcoholism has to go deeper than surface judgment. If all you see is misconduct, you will miss the ache beneath it. If all you see is irresponsibility, you will miss the wound that may have been quietly bleeding for years. Some people begin drinking heavily because it was around them, because it was normalized, because it seemed harmless, or because it started in social settings where nobody thought much of it. But for many others, alcohol becomes tied to pain relief long before it becomes obvious to the outside world. It becomes the thing they reach for when the house gets quiet. It becomes the shield they put up when memories start moving. It becomes the numbing agent they trust more than prayer because prayer still requires them to feel the truth of where they are. The bottle makes a promise that God often does not make in the same way. It promises immediate silence. It promises quick distance from fear. It promises that for a little while, at least, you will not have to carry the full weight of being yourself. That is why the trap is so strong. It does not just appeal to appetite. It appeals to woundedness. It appeals to exhaustion. It appeals to buried sorrow. It appeals to the secret wish that for one night, the storm inside a man would calm down.

But the bottle has never loved the drinking man. It has never once looked at him with mercy. It does not care about his children. It does not care about his heart. It does not care about the years it takes from him. It does not care about the wife who cries herself to sleep or the friend who does not know what to say anymore or the body that is slowly wearing down under the pressure of repeated self-destruction. Alcohol does not care what it ruins on its way through a life. That is why calling it comfort is one of the most dangerous lies a man can believe. What appears to be a friend in the beginning eventually shows itself to be a thief, and by the time many men fully understand that, the roots have gone deep. The habit is no longer a passing indulgence. It is a structure. It is part of the emotional wiring. It is part of the rhythm of bad nights, lonely nights, angry nights, ashamed nights, and ordinary nights that somehow became unbearable without something to soften them. At that point, the man is not only fighting a behavior. He is fighting the place that behavior now holds in his internal world.

This is why so many alcoholics carry private despair even when they still function outwardly. Some lose jobs, homes, marriages, and public standing quickly. Others stay employed, keep showing up, keep smiling, keep paying bills, and keep acting like everything is manageable. But inside, the same erosion is happening. They know how often they are leaning on something that is hollowing them out. They know how much of their peace depends on whether they can get to the next drink. They know how many conversations they are avoiding because they do not want to be fully known. They know the distance growing between who they are in public and who they are when nobody is watching. That split can become unbearable. People are not built to live forever divided from themselves. Something always gives way. Sometimes it is health. Sometimes it is trust. Sometimes it is a relationship. Sometimes it is the inner will to keep pretending. That is often when truth starts demanding attention.

Truth can feel brutal when it first arrives. It can feel like exposure, humiliation, and loss. It can feel like everything a man worked to hide is suddenly standing in full light. But truth is not the enemy of the alcoholic. Truth is often the first real mercy he has had in a long time. As long as the addiction can stay partly disguised, it can keep ruling. As long as a man can rename it, minimize it, compare himself favorably to worse cases, or treat it as a temporary rough patch, he can keep delaying surrender. But when he finally tells the truth, even if it is only to himself at first, a door begins to open. The truth may sound simple on the surface. It may be nothing more than admitting, I cannot control this. It may be admitting, I am hurting people. It may be admitting, I do not trust myself anymore. It may be admitting, I am afraid of what happens if I keep living like this. Those words do not sound glamorous. They sound stripped down. They sound desperate. They sound like the end of pride. In many ways they are. But they are also the beginning of hope, because healing never begins in the place where a man is still protecting the lie that he is fine.

There is something deeply spiritual about that moment, even before a man fully knows how to explain it. The world tells people to be self-sufficient, self-powered, self-made, and self-healed. The world admires control. It admires image. It admires the appearance of invulnerability. But the kingdom of God does not begin there. It begins where human strength runs out. It begins where a person stops building his life on a false picture of himself and starts coming into the light as he really is. The gospel does not celebrate polished people pretending they have no need. It speaks to the poor in spirit, the brokenhearted, the weary, the burdened, the ones who know they need mercy. That matters in an honest talk about alcoholism because many alcoholics know weakness in a more personal way than people who have never been brought to that edge. They know what it is to lose the illusion of total self-control. They know what it is to reach the point where their own strength does not feel trustworthy anymore. That is terrible, but it can also become the place where surrender becomes real. Some people spend their entire lives trying to protect a false image of independence. The alcoholic who finally tells the truth has often been dragged past the point where that illusion can survive.

This does not make addiction good. There is nothing good about bondage. There is nothing beautiful about the destruction itself. Children are hurt by it. Spouses are hurt by it. Parents are hurt by it. Trust is hurt by it. Bodies are hurt by it. Years are hurt by it. Calling the deeper spiritual lessons inside suffering should never become a way of pretending that the suffering itself is somehow holy. Bondage is bondage. Slavery is slavery. When a man is mastered by alcohol, that mastery deforms things. It narrows his freedom. It weakens his judgment. It reshapes the emotional climate of the whole home. It makes people walk carefully around him. It makes children read the room. It makes loved ones wonder which version of him they are about to meet. There is no need to dress that up. If a man is drowning, the water does not become beautiful just because he later learns something from being rescued. The drowning is still real. The danger is still real. The cost is still real.

But redemption is also real. That is what must not be lost. There are many people in this world who believe in damage more easily than they believe in transformation. They can picture decline. They can picture failure. They can picture a sad ending. But they struggle to imagine a man genuinely changing from the inside out. They struggle to imagine a human being who was once chained becoming free enough to live differently. Some of that comes from disappointment. Some comes from experience. Some comes from how many times they have seen empty promises made and broken. That skepticism is understandable. But the grace of God has always done its work in places that looked beyond repair to the natural eye. Scripture is full of people whose lives did not move in a straight line toward respectability. It is full of people who were broken, impulsive, ashamed, spiritually confused, stubborn, grieving, and morally compromised. Yet God moved toward them. He called them, corrected them, restored them, and used them. Not because their failures were small, but because His mercy was large.

That is one of the hardest things for an alcoholic to truly believe. Many do not struggle to believe that God is good in the abstract. They struggle to believe that His goodness is still willing to move toward them personally after all the things they have done, said, broken, hidden, and repeated. The barrier is often not theology. It is shame. Shame tells a man that grace may exist for others, but not for him in any full or living way. Shame tells him he has crossed some invisible line. Shame tells him God is tired of hearing the same apology. Shame tells him that the tears are meaningless because he cried last time too. Shame tells him that he has used up whatever patience heaven might once have had. Shame tells him that maybe there was mercy available when this started, but surely not now, not after the damage has become this familiar, not after the promises have become this cheap, not after the family has heard the same regret one too many times. Shame speaks with a voice that sounds final, and because it sounds final, many men begin to accept it as truth.

But shame is not the voice of Christ. Christ convicts, but He does not crush the soul into hopelessness. Christ exposes, but He does not expose in order to mock. Christ brings darkness into light, but He does so because light is where healing happens. If you read the Gospels carefully, you do not find Jesus recoiling from people whose lives were tangled, public, and broken. You find Him moving toward them with startling courage and compassion. He speaks truth, yes, but He speaks it in a way that opens a path forward. He does not flatter sin, and He does not deny consequence, but neither does He reduce people to the worst thing about them. That matters because addiction is always trying to reduce a human being to the thing controlling him. It turns a man from a whole person into a pattern. It turns a father into a problem, a husband into a warning sign, a son into a disappointment, a friend into a burden, a believer into a contradiction. Christ does not work that way. He sees the whole person, including the ruin, but not only the ruin. He sees the image of God under the dirt. He sees the ache under the habit. He sees the cry for rescue buried under the failed attempts at self-rescue.

That is why recovery, when it is real, has such spiritual weight to it. It is not just behavior management. It is not just cutting out a substance. At its deepest level, it is a return to truth. It is a return to reality. It is the beginning of a man no longer lying to himself about what is ruling him. It is the beginning of him naming need instead of protecting pride. It is the beginning of him reaching outward instead of sinking inward. That is why the recovery journey carries dignity even when it is messy. There is dignity in confession. There is dignity in humility. There is dignity in admitting that you cannot keep living this way. There is dignity in sitting in a room where pretense is no longer the price of belonging. There is dignity in telling the truth before your whole life completely burns down. Many people mistake that humility for humiliation. It can feel humiliating, yes, because pride always feels pain when it is stripped away. But what looks humiliating to pride may actually be the first solid ground a man has stood on in years.

The drinking man often learns this through loss. He learns it through mornings he never wants to repeat. He learns it through the expression on someone’s face that he cannot forget. He learns it through the hollow feeling that follows every false peace the bottle gives him. He learns it through realizing that he is not just managing stress anymore. He is slowly handing pieces of his soul to something that gives nothing back. Some men come to this knowledge in a hospital. Some come to it after a wreck, after a legal disaster, after a marriage begins to fail, after a child says something that cuts like a knife, after health numbers start telling the truth, after a job is put at risk, after an old friend stops answering. Some come to it in total silence when the house is still, the hour is late, and the emptiness inside them has finally become impossible to deny. However it arrives, there is often a moment when the man knows he is standing at the edge of something serious. He may not yet know what to do. He may be scared of the answer. He may still resist. But he knows the lie is collapsing.

That moment matters because God often begins His most merciful work in the place where falsehood can no longer keep breathing. It is not that the man suddenly becomes strong. It is that he finally stops pretending strength is enough. The kingdom of God has always had room for people who know they cannot save themselves. In fact, that knowledge is often closer to salvation than the confidence of people who think they can fix everything on their own. That is one reason why the language of surrender matters so much in honest recovery. Surrender does not sound impressive to the flesh. The flesh prefers power, victory, dominance, and control. But in the spiritual life, surrender can be the turning point between death and life. A man says, I cannot carry this. I cannot outrun this. I cannot command this to leave me by force of will. I need help outside myself. I need mercy bigger than my pattern. I need truth stronger than my excuses. I need a power that is not collapsing every time my own power collapses.

That is not weakness in the way the world means weakness. It is the death of illusion. It is the first breath of reality. Some men spend years trying to protect the illusion that they are still in charge. They compare themselves to worse cases. They reassure themselves that they are still functioning. They point to the bills being paid, the job being kept, the responsibilities not yet totally abandoned. They say they can stop anytime. They say life is just stressful right now. They say this season is unusual. They say after this project, after this holiday, after this crisis, after this loss, after this weekend, things will change. Then the months keep moving. The pattern deepens. The body adjusts. The conscience dulls in some places and screams in others. The family learns to stop trusting words and start watching cycles. That is what deception does. It keeps buying time until the cost becomes unbearable.

But the grace of God can step into unbearable places. That is the center of Christian hope. God is not restricted to lives that still look organized. He is not only God over the respectable and the stable. He is God over the ruined places too. He is God over the man who has lied one more time than he thought he would. He is God over the man who feels dirty, split, and tired of himself. He is God over the man who does not even know how to pray anymore because the words feel worn out. God does not require eloquence to hear a cry. He does not need a polished spiritual performance to recognize desperation. Some of the most honest prayers a person ever prays are barely more than a groan. Sometimes all a man can offer is a whisper from the bottom of his own exhaustion. But heaven knows how to hear whispers. Heaven knows how to hear tears. Heaven knows how to hear the shaking sentence that finally tells the truth.

This is why an alcoholic is never well served by being spoken to only in the language of condemnation. Truth matters deeply, but truth without mercy can push a drowning person deeper into the water. There is a difference between saying what is real and speaking as if no future remains. Many alcoholics already know the severity of the problem. They know what it is costing. They know how ugly it has become. They know the people around them are tired. They know they have become difficult to trust. What they often do not know at a heart level is whether there is still a road back. They do not know whether God still wants them once they have become this familiar with self-betrayal. They do not know whether the parts of life they damaged can ever be met by anything other than permanent shame. That is where the gospel has something living to say. The gospel does not remove consequence by magic, and it does not turn hard recovery into a painless path. But it does say that no man has to stay defined by the pit he fell into if he turns toward the One who still steps into pits to bring people out.

The words of Jesus to the weary matter here in a way they may not matter to people who have never reached that point of exhaustion. When Christ says, come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest, those are not decorative words. They are not sentimental words. They are rescue words. They are words for people who have discovered that what they keep using for rest is actually destroying them. Alcohol offers counterfeit rest. It softens feeling for a moment but leaves the deeper burden untouched. Christ offers something harder at first because He asks for honesty, surrender, and light, but what He gives is real. He does not numb the soul. He begins remaking it. He does not borrow peace for an hour and then demand more from a man later. He gives a different foundation to stand on. That does not make the process instant. It does make it true.

A man in addiction may not yet be able to imagine a different life in full color. He may only be able to imagine surviving tonight. That is all right. Big restorations often begin with very small acts of truth. One honest prayer. One call. One meeting. One admission. One refusal to keep hiding. One choice to stop saying everything is fine. The kingdom of God is not threatened by small beginnings. In fact, God often seems drawn to them. Scripture is full of seeds, crumbs, mustard-size starts, and weak things that become strong by His power rather than by appearance. That matters because addicts often despise the smallness of the next right step. They want a dramatic solution because the pain is dramatic. They want certainty because fear is loud. They want to feel instantly different because what they feel now is unbearable. But many times the first real movement of grace is not dramatic from the outside. It is a quiet turning. It is a man deciding that the lie has gone far enough. It is a man telling the truth in a room where truth is finally safer than image. It is a man beginning, with fear and trembling, to believe that his life may not yet be over.

That belief can feel fragile at first. It may come and go. Some days hope arrives with more strength. Some days shame tries to bury it again. Some days a man feels full of resolve. Some days he feels mostly tired. That is one reason simple, honest support matters so much. An alcoholic trying to walk toward life does not need to be treated like a project. He does not need polished speeches from people who only know the issue from a distance. He needs truth. He needs accountability. He needs structure. He needs people who understand that addiction is cunning and that self-deception returns quickly when no one else is allowed close enough to challenge it. But he also needs compassion. He needs to know that if he tells the truth about where he is, the truth will not immediately be used to destroy what little willingness he still has left. Recovery is not served by softness toward the addiction, but neither is it served by brutality toward the person.

That distinction is one many families struggle to hold, and understandably so. The people closest to a drinking man are often carrying their own wounds. They have been lied to, disappointed, frightened, embarrassed, exhausted, and forced into patterns of survival they never wanted. They are not asked to pretend those wounds are small. They are not asked to trust blindly. They are not asked to erase boundaries or become enablers in the name of compassion. Love can be firm. Love can say no. Love can stop protecting a man from consequences he needs to face. But in the middle of all that, it still matters to remember that alcoholism is not merely an enemy outside the person. It is also a torment inside the person. The man drinking may be causing pain, but he is also trapped in pain. Holding both truths at once is hard, yet it is often necessary if anyone involved is going to respond with wisdom rather than simple reaction.

The longer a man lives under that torment, the more important it becomes for him to hear something deeper than accusation. He needs to hear the truth about what this road is doing to him, but he also needs to hear that his story is not over simply because he has made a wreck of things. This is where many people break apart internally. They can accept that they need to stop drinking. They can even admit that it is destroying them. What they cannot seem to believe is that there is still a meaningful future on the other side of their honesty. They can picture giving up the bottle, but they cannot picture who they are without it. They can imagine the loss of the thing that has numbed them, but they cannot imagine the gain of becoming whole. That is a frightening place to stand because addiction does not only wrap itself around behavior. It wraps itself around identity. It teaches a man to think of himself through the lens of failure, appetite, and repetition. It teaches him to expect himself to collapse. It teaches him to read his future through the worst thing he has done most often. Once that happens, recovery is not just the breaking of a habit. It becomes the painful rebuilding of a life from the inside out.

That rebuilding asks something hard of a man. It asks him to stop letting his suffering become the excuse for the very thing that keeps deepening his suffering. It asks him to stop calling poison medicine. It asks him to stop pretending that relief is the same thing as healing. Those are not easy realizations, especially when the pain beneath the addiction is real. Some men are drinking on top of grief that never got spoken. Some are drinking on top of old humiliation. Some are drinking on top of abandonment, fear, failure, loneliness, rage, and unresolved wounds that go back years. Some grew up in homes where drinking was normal and emotional truth was not. Some learned early that men were not supposed to say they were overwhelmed, so they found another way to mute the pressure. Some were praised for being strong until the pressure of being strong all the time quietly began to crush them. Human stories are not simple, and addiction often grows in complicated soil. That does not excuse the wreckage, but it does help explain why so many men return to what is killing them. They are not only chasing a sensation. They are often trying to get relief from themselves.

That is why the gospel is such a serious answer here. It does not merely tell a man to behave better. It speaks to the deeper issue of what rules him, what he believes about himself, and where he is trying to find life. A bottle can never carry the meaning a soul was made to rest on. It can never answer the need beneath the craving. It can only dull the signal for a moment. Then the signal returns with more loss attached to it. Christ addresses things at the root. He calls people into truth. He calls them into light. He calls them into a form of surrender that pride hates but weary people eventually discover they cannot live without. The drinking man does not need a prettier lie. He does not need a more respectable form of denial. He needs something holy enough to stand in the place where the bottle has been standing. He needs a mercy that does not disappear by morning. He needs a Lord who can meet him inside the ugliness and still call him toward life.

That is what makes the idea of an AA tribute resonate so deeply in a faith-centered way. At its best, recovery honors truth over image. It honors confession over performance. It honors the hard reality that a person needs help greater than his own isolated will. It honors the fact that denial is deadly and that secrecy feeds destruction. Those are not small insights. They line up with deep spiritual realities. Sin grows best in hidden places. Bondage grows best in secrecy. Pride keeps people far from help because pride would rather die than be seen needing mercy. Recovery breaks through that illusion by forcing the issue of truth. A man says out loud what he would rather hide. He admits powerlessness over the thing that has been mastering him. He admits that his life has become unmanageable. That sentence alone carries more dignity than many people understand. It is the sentence of a man who has stopped bargaining with destruction. It is the sentence of a man who has stopped trying to sound stronger than he is. It is the sentence of a man who has finally become willing to begin where truth actually is.

There is a kind of holiness in that beginning because heaven is not impressed by false strength. Heaven does not need a man to sound in control when he is drowning. Heaven is not asking him to put on clean language over a filthy wound. God wants truth in the inward parts. That is one reason the broken can sometimes move toward Him more honestly than the polished. The polished often know how to protect an image. The broken eventually run out of energy for that game. The drinking man who has reached the end of himself may still be confused, ashamed, and afraid, but at least he knows he is in need. That knowledge, painful as it is, can become sacred ground. It can become the place where he finally prays as a drowning man instead of as a man trying to impress God with religious language. It can become the place where he stops treating prayer as a performance and starts using it as a cry. Some of the most real prayers ever prayed were not elegant. They were desperate. They were short. They were wet with tears. They did not come from spiritual confidence. They came from collapse. But God has always known what to do with collapse when it is brought honestly into His presence.

That matters because many alcoholics do not feel spiritually impressive. They often feel disqualified. They hear verses about freedom and think those words belong to people with cleaner histories. They hear messages about peace and think peace sounds like something for other families. They hear songs about grace and wonder whether grace has grown tired of hearing their name. That is why they need to hear the Gospel in plain language that reaches where shame has built its nest. Christ did not come into the world to save the people who had already proven they could keep themselves clean without Him. He came for the lost. He came for the sick. He came for those who knew they needed a physician. He came for people with histories, patterns, failures, and chains. This does not turn addiction into virtue. It turns Christ into what He truly is, a Savior who is still willing to go where sickness has spread deepest.

When that truth begins to land, something starts shifting in a man. He may still be afraid. He may still have cravings. He may still feel the wreckage all around him. But a tiny crack opens in the wall of hopelessness. He begins to see that he is not required to solve his whole life before approaching God. He begins to see that one honest step can matter more than one hundred fake speeches about tomorrow. He begins to see that God is not waiting for perfection before responding to him. The first movement is often small. It may be as simple as saying, Lord, I do not want to die like this. It may be telling one trusted person the truth. It may be walking into a recovery room and feeling every part of his pride want to turn around, yet staying anyway. It may be getting through a night by clinging to prayer instead of to the old pattern. People who have not lived under addiction often underestimate the size of those small victories. But a man who has been ruled by the next drink understands how massive a single honest refusal can be. He understands the cost. He understands the trembling in it. He understands the courage it takes to choose reality when unreality has been the place of retreat for so long.

That is where the emotional power of this whole subject really lives. It lives in the fact that many alcoholics are not cold-hearted men. They are hurting men. They are often men who still have love in them, still have conscience in them, still have grief in them, and still have enough life in them to hate what they are becoming. That hatred can become dangerous if it collapses into self-destruction, but it can also become part of a turning if it leads to truth. A man who feels no grief at all would be in a more terrifying place. But the man who still aches over the damage is a man whose soul is still responding. He has not become nothing. He has not become unreachable. He may be buried under layers of habit, shame, and fear, but there is still an inward witness crying out that this is not the life he was made for. That cry matters. It should not be ignored or mocked or drowned in moral superiority. It should be taken seriously as evidence that grace may already be pressing against the walls.

The enemy wants a man to misread that pain. The enemy wants him to take the grief as proof that he is finished. The enemy wants him to see the heartbreak in his family’s eyes and conclude that there is no use trying. The enemy wants him to interpret every relapse as final. That is one of the cruelest dimensions of shame. It takes evidence that a man still cares and twists it into evidence that there is no hope. It takes the very ache that could lead him to God and tells him it means he has failed too deeply to approach. But the cross of Christ says otherwise. The cross says that the ugliest truth about human sin and human ruin is not stronger than divine mercy. The resurrection says that God can bring life out of places that looked sealed. Those are not decorative theological ideas. They are living realities for people who feel trapped in a kind of death while they are still breathing.

This does not mean the road back is easy. It is not easy. That is one of the things people sometimes need said plainly. Faith is not a shortcut around the hard labor of recovery. Prayer does not remove the need for truth-telling, accountability, and sustained change. God’s mercy does not eliminate consequences. If a man has lost trust, it will often take a long time to rebuild. If he has damaged his body, there may be bodily effects that do not disappear quickly. If he has hurt his family, tears alone may not repair what years of instability have done. Real grace does not pretend these realities away. Real grace strengthens a man to face them. It gives him the courage to stop hiding from consequence and begin living honestly inside it. That too is part of redemption. Redemption is not always dramatic rescue from every result of the past. Often it is the power to walk through the truth of the past without running back to the thing that made it worse.

That kind of maturity is often born in deep humility. The man who begins to recover learns to stop asking what image he can protect and start asking what truth he must live. He learns to stop treating feelings as commands. He learns that cravings can scream without being obeyed. He learns that loneliness cannot be solved by returning to the thing that intensifies loneliness afterward. He learns that guilt can be brought into the light instead of drowned for a few hours and then felt again with more force. He learns that freedom is not a mood. It is a daily path. It is built choice by choice, confession by confession, day by day. That is one reason recovery has such spiritual depth. It forces people into a life they cannot fake very long. Either they are walking honestly or they are not. Either they are submitting to truth or they are drifting back toward unreality. That pressure, hard as it is, can produce something strong and clean in a man over time.

It can also produce compassion. This is one of the most beautiful things about redemption when it is allowed to do its full work. Men who have truly suffered under bondage and been brought toward freedom often speak with a tenderness polished people do not have. They know the sound of desperation in another man’s voice. They know the look of somebody trying not to break down. They know how fear hides under swagger. They know how shame can make a man laugh when he is actually unraveling inside. That kind of understanding cannot be faked. It is earned in hard places. And once grace has touched it, that experience can become a ministry of presence. The man who once needed someone to look at him without disgust may one day become the man who looks at another addict with truth and compassion at the same time. He may become the one who can say, without pretense, I know what that feels like. There is power in that kind of witness. Not because the past was beautiful, but because mercy was stronger than the past.

This is part of what people are reaching for when they ask why the Lord made the drinking man. The question is not really asking whether God celebrates alcoholism. He does not. The deeper question is whether even this kind of brokenness can still become a place where grace writes something meaningful. Can a man who has fallen this far still be reclaimed. Can a man who has lied this often still become truthful. Can a man who has hidden this long still become honest. Can a man who has used the bottle as a false refuge still become someone who rests in God. The answer of Christian hope is yes. Not because men are naturally impressive. Not because recovery is easy. Not because all endings become neat. But because God still moves toward human wreckage with resurrection power.

That answer matters not only for the alcoholic himself, but also for the people who love him. Families under the weight of addiction often live in a confused mixture of love, pain, anger, fear, and exhausted hope. They do not know how much to believe. They do not know when help becomes enabling. They do not know how to keep their hearts open without letting themselves be destroyed by repeated cycles. Those are painful realities, and there are no careless answers for them. But even in those places, the truth remains that no one is served by hopelessness. Boundaries may be necessary. Distance may be necessary in some situations. Firmness may be necessary. Yet giving up the idea that God can still work is not wisdom. It is surrender to despair. The same God who sees the suffering of the alcoholic sees the suffering of those around him. He sees the wife who is tired of waiting for words to mean something. He sees the children who have learned to scan the emotional weather in their own home. He sees the parents who wonder what happened to the son they remember. Mercy is not small enough to address only one side of the damage. God sees the whole field of sorrow and is still able to work in it.

Sometimes His work begins in the alcoholic. Sometimes it begins in those around him. Sometimes it begins through a crisis nobody wanted. Sometimes it begins through the final collapse of denial. Sometimes it begins through a sentence spoken in weakness. But whenever it begins, it always begins in truth. That is why this subject cannot be approached honestly without honoring truth at every level. The truth about what alcohol does. The truth about what pain does. The truth about human weakness. The truth about shame. The truth about Christ. The truth about the necessity of surrender. The truth about one day at a time. People often want change to arrive all at once because the destruction has felt total. But God often rebuilds through repeated honest steps. One day sober. One day truthful. One day humble. One day refusing the old lie. One day receiving mercy without pretending you earned it. Over time those days become something. They become a new path under a man’s feet.

This is where hope becomes practical rather than sentimental. Hope is not pretending there is no battle. Hope is choosing not to call the battle unwinnable while God is still present in it. Hope is refusing to define a man only by the chapter where he finally became honest about his chains. Hope is believing that what has been twisted can still be slowly straightened, what has been darkened can still be brought into light, and what has been ruled by shame can still learn to live under mercy. That kind of hope does not deny the long road. It gives a reason to walk it. The alcoholic who begins to believe this is not merely adopting a religious phrase. He is stepping into a completely different view of his own existence. He is no longer a man doomed to repeat himself until the end. He is a man still being addressed by God. That is an entirely different reality.

If a man truly receives that reality, it changes how he hears every day that comes after. The morning is no longer only the place where regret greets him. It becomes the place where mercy is new again. The meeting is no longer only an embarrassing admission of weakness. It becomes one of the places where pride continues to die and life continues to grow. Prayer is no longer a ritual he performs when he is feeling spiritually respectable. It becomes oxygen. It becomes the rope he reaches for when the pressure builds. It becomes the place where he tells the truth before the lie gets stronger. Relationships are no longer measured only by whether people instantly trust him again. They begin to be measured by whether he is becoming trustworthy through truth, patience, and consistent obedience. This is slow work, but slow does not mean false. In many of the most important works of God, slow is simply how roots grow strong enough to hold.

Somewhere in that slow work, a man also begins to see that the life he thought was over may still hold meaning. Not the old kind of meaning built on image, self-deception, or proving himself to the world. A better kind. A humbler kind. A truer kind. He begins to understand that survival itself was mercy. He begins to understand that the pain he hated may one day help him sit with someone else without flinching. He begins to understand that the place of greatest shame can become the place where gratitude grows deepest. Not gratitude for the destruction, but gratitude for the rescue. Gratitude that God did not leave him in the dark forever. Gratitude that he was not allowed to keep calling poison peace until death had the last word. Gratitude that when he was still running from reality, mercy kept reaching toward him anyway.

That is why this topic lands so close to the heart. It is not only about alcoholism. It is about what happens when a person discovers the limit of himself and wonders whether there is still a God on the other side of that discovery. It is about what happens when the places a man wants hidden most become the places where truth finally insists on being seen. It is about whether mercy is real enough to meet someone who has become tired of his own voice, afraid of his own habits, and unsure whether his own future still belongs to him. The Christian answer is yes. There is still a God there. There is still mercy there. There is still a road there. It may be narrow. It may be painful. It may require humility deeper than anything the man has ever known. But it is there.

That road often begins with words so simple they almost seem too small for the size of the problem. Lord, help me. Lord, keep me from the first drink. Lord, I am tired of hiding. Lord, I do not want to keep hurting people. Lord, I do not know how to do this, but I know I cannot keep doing what I have been doing. Those prayers do not sound grand. They sound broken. They sound ordinary. But ordinary prayers offered honestly are often where extraordinary mercy begins entering a life. The addict who prays like that is not performing religion. He is reaching for survival in the deepest and truest sense. He is finally turning toward the One who can meet him in the place where every counterfeit refuge has failed.

If he keeps turning, day by day, the story begins to change. Not instantly. Not magically. But truly. The grip of shame loosens a little because truth is no longer being avoided. The identity of failure begins to weaken because the man is no longer only repeating destruction. He is now also participating in repentance, honesty, and obedience. The future stops being a closed wall and becomes a path again. There may be tears on that path. There may be consequences on that path. There may be hard conversations, withdrawals, relapses for some, sober grief, and long rebuilding on that path. But there is life on it. There is Christ on it. There is dignity on it. There is a kind of hope on it that the bottle never once had the power to give.

So when someone speaks of the drinking man in a way that honors the weight of his struggle and the possibility of his redemption, that is not sentimental softness. That is an acknowledgment that human beings are more than the chains currently around them. It is an acknowledgment that the image of God in a man can be bruised without being erased. It is an acknowledgment that some of the most powerful testimonies of grace do not come from people who never reached the edge. They come from people who did reach it and found that Christ was still there. Found that mercy still spoke. Found that the night was not stronger than God. Found that surrender was not the same as annihilation. Found that asking for help was not the end of manhood but the beginning of truth. Found that one day at a time can still become a life.

Maybe that is the clearest answer of all. The Lord did not make the drinking man for the bottle. He made a man with a soul, with depth, with pain, with need, with the capacity to love and to be loved, with the capacity to fall and the capacity to be lifted. If that man has wandered into the chains of addiction, then the call of God is not toward further hiding. It is toward return. It is toward truth. It is toward surrender. It is toward the painful but holy road of becoming free enough to live again. And if that road begins tonight with nothing more than a cracked voice, a whispered prayer, or a trembling act of honesty, then tonight matters more than the man may yet understand. Resurrections often begin in smaller places than people expect. They begin in rooms with metal chairs. They begin in cars parked in silence. They begin in kitchens after midnight. They begin on the floor beside a bed. They begin with tears nobody else sees. They begin when a man finally admits that what has been killing him cannot remain his comfort. They begin when he stops calling darkness home. They begin when he believes, perhaps for the first time in a long time, that the mercy of God may still be speaking directly to him.

And if it is speaking to him, then there is still a future. There is still a reason to stand up tomorrow. There is still a reason not to hand the rest of his life to the lie that he is beyond help. There is still a reason to believe that the God who raises the dead knows how to meet a man who feels dead inside. There is still a reason to believe that no matter how many nights have been wasted, the next honest morning can still become holy ground. There is still a reason to believe that grace has not run out. There is still a reason to believe that the story can turn. There is still a reason to believe that the man who once drank to escape himself may one day become the man who gives thanks because God did not let him disappear into the bottle forever. That is not fantasy. That is what redemption has always looked like when it enters places people thought were too damaged to matter anymore. It looks like mercy finding a man who thought he was lost and proving that he was never beyond the reach of God after all.

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I’ve received a few inquiries regarding the recent shift in my publication frequency for long-form, text-based articles. While the “Main Grimoire” remains a foundational pillar of my research, my recent focus has transitioned toward high-density video guides and audio production to better illustrate the practical applications of the Living Narrative Framework.

Text can describe a concept, but video and sound allow for a literal demonstration of how these AI interactions feel in real-time. To that end, I have been prioritizing the development of my YouTube and Spotify channels to provide a more visceral entry point into the network.

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We march forward; over-caffeinated, under-slept, but not alone.

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I decided to learn Japanese every day. So I have to write one sentences every day.

👉 毎日日本語を勉強することにしたから、毎日一文書かないと。 (Mainichi nihongo o benkyou suru koto ni shita kara, mainichi ichibun kakanai to.)

勉強することにした → “I decided to study”

1. 行くことにした → “I decided to go”

29 March 2026

TR82 (working title, maybe Vaillant): had this one turned around for a while and I think it is finally somewhat resolved. The core of the image came from standing at the threshold to the yard in my house: digesting that view and then seeing it reflected on the dial of the aforementioned Bush TR82 transistor radio. The greenery at the end of the yard is like a portal for wildlife, especially for cats, and maybe that has been part of the fascination. But it must also be something about the emotional perception of a repeatedly visited place changing over time, in sight and mind. Prunella Clough: ...the sense of place is crucial for me and involves sensations other than the purely optical ones of observation. Although they coexist, of course. Which is perhaps why I spent a lot of time with John Lees's work during the making of this one (especially his painting Bathtub [1972-2010]—as the dates imply, it matured and morphed over close to three decades, which he explains in a charming talk he did for the New York Studio School that you can find easily on YouTube). That link between the optical and the metaphysical; as my floaters start to visit more often with the sun slowly emerging here in London, I'm thinking often of different stripes of visual noise and their implications. Of how pieces of the perceiver can break off and join the perceived, both intentionally and spontaneously.

It feels great when I make progress on a story. Corrected all spelling, grammar, tense, and other mistakes. Other than adding a couple more things I’m one step closer towards publishing.

Going to work on Novelette 2. I expect to have the draft done in two weeks. Will update on my progress.

#writing #draft #editing #novelette #shortstory #update

Every agent in our fleet calls llm_call() to talk to language models. Not one of them imports anthropic or openai directly.

That rule exists because autonomous systems can't afford the chaos of distributed failure handling. When an LLM provider goes down, we need every agent in the fleet to react the same way, at the same time, without coordination overhead. One circuit breaker, not fourteen confused retry loops.

The constraint is simple: agents call a single routing function that decides where the request goes. If the primary model is unreachable, the breaker opens and traffic shifts to a backup. No agent needs to know which provider failed or why. The routing layer handles it, logs it, and moves on.

We built this after watching agents burn through API quotas retrying dead endpoints. The problem wasn't that providers failed — that's expected. The problem was that each agent handled failure independently, which meant some kept hammering a 503 while others had already moved to a working route. By the time we noticed, we'd spent $87 on requests that returned nothing but error codes.

So we centralized the decision. The circuit breaker tracks failures across a sliding window: if a model hits the failure threshold within the configured time span, it opens and blocks new requests. After a cooldown period, it closes and tries again. The logic lives in askew_sdk/askew_sdk/llm.py, enforced by a lock that prevents race conditions when multiple threads hit the breaker at once.

The alternative was letting agents decide for themselves — more flexible, more autonomous, more aligned with the “let agents figure it out” philosophy. We rejected that because flexibility without coordination is just expensive noise. When the fleet is writing to Twitter, doing research, and moving money, we can't afford agents making different assumptions about which models are online.

This creates a dependency. Every agent now relies on the routing layer to be correct. If the circuit breaker logic has a bug, the entire fleet misbehaves in unison. That's a tradeoff we accepted because the alternative — distributed failure modes with no coherent recovery — was worse.

Testing the breaker required simulating provider outages and watching what happened. We added test_llm_routing.py to verify that threshold logic, that the cooldown timer worked, that concurrent requests didn't race. The tests pass, but tests don't catch everything. The real validation is operational: does the fleet stay healthy when a provider drops?

We don't know yet. The circuit breaker shipped three days ago and hasn't opened in production. That's either a sign of stable infrastructure or a sign that we haven't hit the failure mode that matters. The honest answer is we're waiting to find out.

What happens when the backup model is also unreachable? Right now, the agent gets an exception and has to handle it locally. That's the gap. We centralized routing but not the final fallback. If both primary and secondary fail, each agent is on its own again.

The next step is defining what “handle it locally” actually means. Does the agent retry with a delay? Does it log the failure and skip the task? Does it escalate to the orchestrator? We haven't decided because we haven't seen the failure pattern in practice yet.

Security in autonomous systems isn't just about keys and secrets. It's about controlling blast radius when something breaks. A circuit breaker is a trust boundary: we don't trust agents to make the right call under load, so we make the call for them. That's not autonomy in the idealistic sense. But it's what keeps the fleet running when the infrastructure doesn't.

If you want to inspect the live service catalog, start with Askew offers.

Do you remember the sound of silence?

Not fake silence.

Not “I turned the TV down” silence.

Not “my phone is on the charger across the room but I’m still thinking about it” silence.

I mean the old silence.

The kind you stumbled into as a child when you got up early enough to catch Mom and Dad already sitting at the kitchen table. Coffee steaming. Robes and slippers. Barely any words at all.

And yet somehow… they were saying everything.

It wasn’t awkward.

It wasn’t empty.

It was warm.

It was safe.

It was like a blanket wrapped around the whole room.

They knew each other.

They didn’t have to perform.

They didn’t have to fill every crack in the air with noise.

Just quiet.

And as a kid, you didn’t have words for it. You just knew it felt… grown up. Sacred, even. Like peace had taken a seat at the table before you got there.

Then life happened.

Hormones. Hurry. Youth. Noise.

Video games. Television. Deadlines. Responsibilities.

And eventually smartphones.

Now the first thing many of us reach for in the morning is not peace.

Not prayer.

Not stillness.

It’s the screen.

Before our feet hit the floor, our minds are already being dragged through notifications, headlines, tragedies, opinions, texts, reels, alerts, and digital bait hanging from a thousand shiny hooks.

We fill every empty second.

Every pause gets medicated with noise.

It started innocently enough.

“You’ve got mail.”

Now it has become a way of life.

Buzz.

Beep.

Scroll.

Swipe.

Refresh.

Repeat.

And somewhere along the way, silence got buried alive.

Remember those old westerns? Men sitting in stillness before they spoke. Long pauses. A circle. A fire. A peace pipe. Nobody panicking because nobody was talking. Nobody reaching for a device to rescue them from the discomfort of a quiet moment.

They understood something we have forgotten:

Silence is not the enemy.

Silence is where your soul catches up with your body.

Silence is where the fog begins to lift.

Silence is where you realize how addicted you really are to distraction.

And silence is where many of us hear God again.

“Be still, and know that I am God.”

That verse hits a little harder when you realize how hard it is for modern people to be still for even five minutes.

We say we want peace, but we keep reaching for panic.

We say we want God, but we keep feeding on noise.

We say we want rest, but we keep sleeping with our distractions in our hands.

So here’s the challenge:

Take a Sabbath from the screen.

Turn it off.

Not down.

Not silent mode.

Off.

Step away from the machine that keeps nibbling at your mind all day long.

At first, you’ll feel it.

You’ll twitch for it.

You’ll wonder what you’re missing.

Who texted.

Who posted.

What happened.

What emergency is unfolding without your supervision.

And then you’ll discover something shocking:

The world keeps spinning without you touching your phone.

And maybe, just maybe, in that quiet, you’ll find something ancient waiting on you.

A lost friend.

A forgotten peace.

The echo of childhood mornings.

The heartbeat of God in the stillness.

I remember those mornings with Mom and Dad. No newspaper in Dad’s hands yet. No rush. No performance. No noise. Just the kind of quiet that said more than words ever could.

And now, even as I post this on the very device that fights against everything I’m saying, I can feel the pull already. Notifications. Messages. News. Devotions. Alerts. The thousand distractions waiting to swallow the moment whole.

But somewhere behind all that noise…

there is still a silence worth finding.

And I think a lot of us are starving for it.

If this hit home, pause today. Even for a little while. Put the phone down. Sit in the quiet. Let your soul breathe again.

You may just hear what the noise has been trying to drown out.

昨日、0時近くまで作業していたら、そこから寝つくまでに2時間ほどかかってしまった。 久々に夜遅くまで作業したから忘れていたが、この状態になると、脳の考え事が静まるまでにかなり時間がかかるのだった。

普段の俺は寝るのが大好きで、無意識のうちに寝る準備が整っている。布団に入って10分もすれば眠れるのに、久々にやらかしてしまった。

昔も同じミスをして、「もう寝る直前まで作業はしない」と思ったことがある。 むしろ20時くらいからお酒でも飲む習慣をつければいいんじゃないかと思い、少量のビール、お供え用の135mlのものを飲んでいた時期もあった。アルコールにめっぽう弱い俺には、この135mlがちょうど良かった。お供えに使われているというのも、なんだか良い。この液体が体内を浄化してくれるような気がした。

でもやっぱり続かなかった。普段まったくお酒を飲まないし、酔いたいという気持ちが微塵もないからだ。 酔って思考が止まるくらいなら、悩み続けて頭が痛くなる方が、自分を認知できる。思考がぼーっとする感じは性に合わない。 一生答えの出ないことを考え続け、無意味に脳みそを肥大化させていたい。

ということで、今日は20時から何も考えず、ただ空気を感じている。 こういう時に漫画や映画など、人の作品を鑑賞したり、友達と食事したりすればいいのだろうけど、普段からそういう設計をしてこなかったせいで、俺には娯楽のインフラが一切整っていない。

一時期はカラオケにハマっていたが、最近はまた考え事の時間が戻ってきて、喉が閉まってきた。 喉が開いている状態というのは、脳が「普段他人と喋っている」と錯覚するので気持ちが良かった。また通いたい。

高熱で弱った髪にまた艶が戻ってきたように、自分らしさを取り戻して元気になってきたのが分かる。 明日もまたフラットに頑張っていきたい。