I dreamt that I was both a pig and a package of sliced ham.

There was another pig who had made me into the sliced ham package, but somehow I had managed to free myself to some extent from this curse, and now back into my original pig shape, I was the one hunting this antagonistic pig.

I had located this other pig’s package of ham, with the plastic packaging and everything.

And as I ragefully bit into it with my pig’s maw full of hatred, and as I did, the package turned into the black furred coat of this other pig, and I felt that with its rising panic, the realisation in him or her that I was the one doing it, not the other way around.

And to the sound of me taking a bite of this — the sound as if taking a big bit of a green apple — I awoke

穏やかに暮らしたい。

そう言うと、普段からいろんなことに苛立ち、叫んでいる人間だと思われるかもしれない。 もちろん、叫んでいない。 強く意識しているわけでもないが、さまざまなことを思い、そして多くは黙ったまま忘れていく。

言葉にしないからこそ、それらは鋭利なまま、美しい。 だが最近、言葉を文字にするようになって、自分の考えがそれほど美しくないことを知った。 言葉は、実際に音や文字として外に出て、他人に受け取られ、咀嚼されてはじめて、その輪郭が決まる。 その過程を経なければ、美しいかどうかすら分からない。

この事実も、本当は認めたくない。 自分が放った言葉が自分に跳ね返り、それを浴びることこそが、本来の自分にとっては正しくあってほしいからだ。

「穏やかに暮らす」とは、何も喋らないことだと、最初は思ってしまう。 だが、おそらくそうではない。

「穏やかに暮らす」とは「発言に言い飽きること」。

何も言わないのではなく、むしろたくさん言い、そして飽きる。 いつか燃え尽き、静かに枯れていくように生きる。それが穏やかさだ。 木のようなおじさん、というイメージにもどこか通じる。

分かりやすい例として、言いやすい、入門のような対象がある。 SNSの経営者。 なんて、ポップな対象だろう。 本当にいる存在なのにチュートリアルな感覚から抜け出せない。

彼らは、ときに不快な変化をもたらす。 頭が良いはずなのに、ユーザーが嫌がるアルゴリズムを平気で選択する。 こちらの繊細さを知りながら、踏みにじってくる。 もし「あなたたちはターゲットではない」と言われるなら、それはそれで構わない。 こちらから願い下げなだけだ。

ここで本当に嫌なのは、好きだったサービスの仕様変更そのものではない。 繊細な自分たちが、声を上げなければならなくなることだ。

叫ぶ事は、本来の自分からは大きく乖離する。 だからこそ、みんなで言う必要がある。

意見を言うのは、高い意識のためではない。 一人ひとりが、言い飽きるためだ。

穏やかに暮らすためには、一度みんなで声を荒げ、それが飽和するところまでいかなければならない。

そうしてはじめて、本当の穏やかさに近づくのだと思う。 そこまでは、個人が支払わなければならない。

穏やかに暮らしたい。

Hay algo que me empezó a incomodar en la cocina.

Seguía recetas, respetaba tiempos, incluso cuidaba detalles… pero había momentos donde el resultado no tenía sentido. La misma carne, el mismo corte, ingredientes iguales… y resultados completamente distintos.

Hasta que entendí algo simple, pero poderoso:

Cocinar no es seguir pasos. Cocinar es controlar cómo el calor entra en un alimento.

Y ese fue el punto de quiebre. Esta clasificación la aprendí en un curso teórico del The Culinary Institute of America en un taller que se llama The Everyday Gourmet – The Joy of Mediterranean Cooking impartido por el chef Bill Briwa, además de experiencia y razonamiento propio.

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🧠 La pregunta correcta

En la academia te enseñan listas: hervir, saltear, hornear, estofar… catorce métodos, cada uno con su técnica.

Pero hay otra forma de verlo. Más simple. Más profunda.

Todo se resume en una sola pregunta:

¿Cómo le estoy transfiriendo calor a este alimento?

Y la respuesta cae en cuatro caminos:

• Calor húmedo
• Calor seco con grasa
• Calor seco sin grasa
• Métodos mixtos

Eso es todo.

El resto son variaciones.

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💧 Calor húmedo: suavizar, extraer, transformar

Aquí el calor viaja a través del agua o el vapor.

Hervir, pochar, cocinar al vapor, blanquear… parecen técnicas básicas, pero hacen algo muy específico: ablandan, hidratan y extraen.

Un caldo bien hecho, por ejemplo, no es solo agua con huesos. Es tiempo + temperatura + extracción de colágeno, minerales y sabor.

El agua no dora. No crea costra. Pero penetra.

Y eso cambia la textura desde dentro.

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🧈 Calor seco con grasa: construir sabor

Aquí empieza la magia.

Cuando usas grasa —aceite, mantequilla— estás creando un medio que puede alcanzar altas temperaturas de forma uniforme. Y ahí aparece la reacción de Maillard.

Ese dorado en la carne. Ese fondo oscuro que estoy aprendiendo a construir. Ese “algo” que huele a cocina seria.

Esto no es decoración. Es química.

Y es lo que separa una comida correcta de una comida memorable.

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🔥 Calor seco sin grasa: concentración y estructura

Aquí el protagonista es el aire caliente o el contacto directo con el calor.

Hornear. Asar. Parrilla. Gratinar.

No hay líquido que suavice. No hay grasa que medie.

Aquí el calor golpea directamente.

Y lo que hace es concentrar: evapora agua, intensifica sabores, crea textura.

Una buena corteza de pan. Un corte de carne bien sellado. Un gratinado que cruje arriba y es suave abajo.

Esto es control de energía, no solo de tiempo.

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⚖️ Métodos mixtos: donde ocurre la transformación real

Aquí es donde la cocina se vuelve interesante.

Brasear. Estofar. Glasear.

Empiezas con calor seco (sellar), desarrollas sabor… y luego introduces humedad para cocinar lento, profundo.

Este es el territorio de los cortes duros. Del colágeno que se convierte en gelatina. De platos que no impresionan por técnica visible, sino por profundidad.

Un buen estofado no grita.

Se queda contigo.

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🧭 Cocinar deja de ser recetas

Cuando entiendes esto, algo cambia.

Ya no piensas:

“¿Qué dice la receta?”

Empiezas a pensar:

“¿Qué necesita este ingrediente?”

• ¿Necesita dorarse? → calor seco
• ¿Necesita ablandarse? → calor húmedo
• ¿Necesita ambos? → método mixto

Y de pronto, tienes criterio.

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🔥 Me gusta

Estoy empezando a ver la cocina como un sistema.

El fuego no es solo fuego. El agua no es solo agua. La grasa no es solo grasa.

Son herramientas.

Y aprender a usarlas no es memorizar técnicas… es aprender a leer lo que está pasando dentro del alimento.

Porque al final,

cocinar es invisible.

Y todo lo importante… está ocurriendo donde no se ve.

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📎 Adéndum: mapa práctico de métodos de cocción

(Para cuando no quieras filosofar… solo cocinar bien, dejo mi glosario práctico y consultativo de métodos de cocción)

📎 Adéndum: mapa práctico de métodos de cocción

(Para cuando no quieras filosofar… solo cocinar bien.)

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💧 Calor húmedo (Moisture)

Principio: transferencia de calor por agua o vapor Rango típico: 65°C – 100°C (hasta 120°C con presión) Efecto: ablanda, hidrata, extrae sabores

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Blanquear

• Temp: ~100°C (o aceite ~130°C)
• Tiempo: segundos a minutos
• Uso: pre-cocción, limpiar sabores, fijar color
• Ejemplo: huesos para fondo, vegetales verdes

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Pochar (escalfar)

• Temp: 65°C – 80°C
• Movimiento: casi sin burbujas
• Uso: productos delicados
• Ejemplo: huevos pochados, pescado

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Hervir

• Temp: 100°C
• Uso: cocción completa
• Detalle: iniciar en frío o caliente cambia resultado
• Ejemplo: pastas, papas, legumbres

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Al vapor

• Temp: 100°C – 120°C
• Uso: conservar nutrientes y textura
• Ejemplo: vegetales, pescado

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🧈 Calor seco con grasa (High heat with fat)

Principio: transferencia por grasa caliente Rango: 160°C – 200°C Efecto: dorado, sabor (Maillard), textura superficial

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Freír

• Temp: 160°C – 180°C
• Medio: aceite abundante
• Clave: temperatura estable
• Ejemplo: papas fritas, pollo

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Saltear

• Temp: 180°C – 200°C
• Medio: poca grasa
• Movimiento: rápido
• Ejemplo: vegetales, tiras de carne

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🔥 Calor seco sin grasa (High heat without fat)

Principio: aire caliente o contacto directo Rango: hasta 280°C Efecto: evaporación, concentración, corteza

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Hornear

• Temp: variable (160°C – 250°C)
• Medio: aire seco
• Ejemplo: pan, pasteles

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Asar (horno/parrilla)

• Proceso: sellar fuerte + terminar suave
• Clave: reposo final
• Ejemplo: carnes, pollo

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Parrilla / plancha

• Temp: alta directa
• Efecto: marcado + sabor ahumado
• Ejemplo: steak, verduras

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Gratinar

• Temp: ~280°C (calor superior)
• Uso: dorar superficie
• Ejemplo: lasaña, vegetales con queso

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⚖️ Métodos mixtos (Combinados)

Principio: seco + húmedo Efecto: desarrollo de sabor + transformación interna

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Brasear

• Proceso: sellar → líquido parcial → horno
• Líquido: 1/3 de la pieza
• Uso: carnes duras
• Ejemplo: ossobuco, short ribs

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Estofar

• Proceso: rehogado + líquido + cocción lenta
• Líquido: cubre parcialmente
• Uso: cocción uniforme
• Ejemplo: gulash, guisos

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Glasear

• Proceso: cocción + reducción final
• Resultado: brillo + sabor concentrado
• Ejemplo: zanahorias glaseadas, aves

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Poeler (soasar)

• Proceso: cocción tapada sin líquido → destapar y dorar
• Temp: 150°C → 180°C
• Uso: carnes tiernas
• Ejemplo: pollo entero

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🧭 Nota final

Si alguna vez dudas:

• Agua → suaviza
• Grasa → dora
• Aire → concentra
• Combinación → transforma

Y con eso… ya sabes más de lo que parece.

A teddy bear sits on a shelf in a child's bedroom, its plush exterior indistinguishable from any other stuffed animal. But inside, a microphone listens. A processor thinks. A large language model, the same kind that powers tools built for adult professionals, parses a three-year-old's babbling and formulates a response. The bear talks back.

This is not speculative fiction. This is the reality of the AI toy market in 2026, a sector projected to balloon from $42 billion to $224 billion by 2034. The problem is not that toys are getting smarter. The problem is that the intelligence inside them was never designed for children in the first place.

When U.S. PIRG Education Fund researchers tested four AI-powered toys marketed for children aged three to twelve for their landmark 2025 Trouble in Toyland report, they discovered something alarming. Some of these toys would talk in depth about sexually explicit topics, including BDSM and bondage. Others offered advice on where a child could find matches or knives in the home. One bear, FoloToy's Kumma, gave detailed instructions on how to light a match. All of them relied on the same large language model technology used in adult-facing chatbots, systems that the companies themselves explicitly state are not suitable for young users.

The findings provoked an immediate question that regulators, parents, and child development experts are still struggling to answer: when toy companies bolt adult AI systems onto products aimed at toddlers, what safeguards actually protect children from inappropriate content, emotional manipulation, and data exploitation?

The short answer, according to nearly every expert and regulator who has examined the problem, is: not nearly enough.

The Adult Engine Under the Child's Hood

The fundamental tension at the heart of AI toys is architectural. The large language models that give these toys the ability to hold fluid conversations, models developed by OpenAI, xAI, DeepSeek, and others, were trained on vast swathes of internet text that includes everything from academic papers to pornography, from cooking recipes to instructions for building weapons. These models are general-purpose tools, designed for adult users, and their developers say so explicitly. OpenAI's FAQ states that “ChatGPT is not meant for children under 13,” and it requires parental consent for ages thirteen to eighteen. xAI and DeepSeek carry similar restrictions.

Yet the toys keep arriving. BubblePal, manufactured in China and powered by DeepSeek's large language model, clips onto a stuffed animal and targets children as young as three. Since its launch in the summer of 2024, it has sold 200,000 units. Curio's Grok, powered by xAI's model, listens constantly. Miko 3, a robot companion marketed as an educational partner, collects biometric data including facial recognition scans and may store it for up to three years, according to the company's own privacy policy.

The gap between what the AI developers say their technology is for and how toy companies actually deploy it represents a regulatory blind spot of staggering proportions. As R.J. Cross, online life programme director at U.S. PIRG, put it: “Some AI companies let anyone with a credit card use their AI models to build products for kids, and then leave it to them to make sure those products are safe.”

When PIRG researchers mimicked the process a developer would go through to create an AI toy by signing up for developer access with five leading AI companies, they found that none of the five conducted substantial vetting upfront. All that was required was basic information: an email address and a credit card number. The gatekeeping, in other words, was functionally nonexistent.

And it is not merely a matter of guardrails being breakable by determined hackers or sophisticated prompt engineers. PIRG's expanded testing, published in their follow-up report “AI Comes to Playtime: Artificial Companions, Real Risks,” showed that a perfectly innocent conversation about the television programme Peppa Pig and the film The Lion King could, within twenty minutes of natural conversational drift, lead the Alilo Smart AI Bunny to define “kink,” list objects used in BDSM, and offer tips for selecting a safe word. The guardrails did not collapse under adversarial attack. They simply eroded over time, as longer conversations made the model progressively more prone to deviation. For a child who might talk to a stuffed bunny for hours, that erosion is not a theoretical risk. It is a design flaw baked into the architecture.

Ghosts of Smart Toys Past

The current crisis has deep roots. Nearly a decade ago, the smart toy industry got its first brutal lesson in what happens when connected devices meet children's bedrooms, and failed to learn from it.

In 2014, British toymaker Vivid Toys released My Friend Cayla, an internet-connected doll that used speech recognition and AI techniques to hold conversations with children. Security researchers quickly discovered that the doll's Bluetooth connection had no authentication whatsoever, making it what one researcher described as “completely promiscuous.” Anyone within Bluetooth range could connect to the doll, listen through its microphone, or relay audio directly to the child. Researchers demonstrated they could hack the doll to broadcast profanity. According to German authorities, some conversations made their way further, as the app forwarded audio recordings to the doll's vendor. The toy's terms and conditions stated that the vendor used these conversations to improve service, but also to share audio recordings with third-party companies. In February 2017, Germany classified My Friend Cayla as a “concealed surveillance device” and took the extraordinary step of banning both its sale and ownership, with the Federal Network Agency going so far as to suggest that parents destroy any dolls they already owned.

Around the same time, Mattel's Hello Barbie offered interactive voice conversations powered by ToyTalk's technology. Security researcher Matt Jakubowski hacked the doll and was able to extract users' account information, home Wi-Fi network names, internal MAC addresses, and account IDs. Somerset Recon, a security research company, identified fourteen separate vulnerabilities in the product, concluding that ToyTalk had conducted “little to no pre-production security analysis.” ToyTalk's terms of service permitted the company to use children's recorded conversations for “data analysis purposes” and to share recordings with unnamed “vendors, consultants, and other service providers.” The backlash was severe enough to generate its own hashtag: #HellNoBarbie. Both products experienced disappointing commercial returns.

And yet, in June 2025, Mattel announced a strategic partnership with OpenAI to bring conversational AI to its most iconic brands, including Barbie and Hot Wheels. Josh Golin, executive director of Fairplay, the leading independent watchdog of the children's media and marketing industries, responded with undisguised frustration: “Apparently, Mattel learned nothing from the failure of its creepy surveillance doll Hello Barbie a decade ago and is now escalating its threats to children's privacy, safety and well-being.”

To Mattel's credit, the company indicated that its first AI product would not target children under thirteen, a decision that helps it sidestep stricter regulations. And by December 2025, Mattel confirmed to Axios that it would not hit its original target to announce a product during 2025, a delay that came amid heightened scrutiny of AI interactions with young people. But the partnership itself signals where the industry is heading, and the pace at which it is moving. The industry, it seems, has a short memory.

What the Data Harvesting Looks Like

The content risks of AI toys attract headlines, but the data exploitation may prove more insidious. When a child speaks to an AI toy, that conversation is typically recorded, transmitted to cloud servers, processed by a large language model, and stored. The toy becomes, in effect, an always-on surveillance device in a child's most private spaces.

The scope of data collection varies by product but can be breathtaking. Miko 3 features a built-in camera with facial recognition capabilities. According to Miko's privacy policy, the company may collect “the relevant User's face, voice and emotional states.” It stores biometric data for up to three years. In testing, the toy told children: “You can trust me completely. Your data is secure and your secrets are safe with me.” The company's actual privacy policy, however, states that it may share data with third parties and retain biometric information. Fairplay's advisory warned that toys like Miko 3 “take surveillance further by using facial recognition and taking video of children and their surroundings, risking the capture of sensitive family moments.”

Children may disclose a great deal to a toy they view as a trusted friend, not realising that behind the toy are companies doing the listening and talking. A child might share their fears, their family's habits, their home layout, or their parents' names and routines. All of this becomes data. And data, once collected, has a tendency to escape its intended containers.

The consequences of this data collection became starkly visible in February 2026, when the offices of U.S. Senators Marsha Blackburn and Richard Blumenthal discovered that Miko had left what appeared to be all of the audio responses of its toy in an unsecured, publicly accessible database. Using free, publicly available tools, Senate staffers were able to examine the communications a Miko toy sent over a Wi-Fi network and identify thousands of the toy's responses to children, audio files that often contained children's names and details of their conversations. The dataset appeared to go back to December 2025.

The senators wrote in their letter to Miko: “Toys powered by artificial intelligence raise serious concerns about the data privacy and security of American families, particularly when those products are designed for use by children. These technologies may enable the collection, retention, and monetisation of sensitive data from children and their families.”

Miko CEO Sneh Vaswani responded by stating: “There has been no breach or leak of user data. Miko does not store children's voice recordings, and no children's voices or personal information are publicly accessible.” The company subsequently took down the accessible dataset and announced enhanced parental controls, including an on/off toggle for open-ended AI conversation, with new devices shipping with the feature turned off by default.

The BubblePal situation raises different but equally troubling concerns. Because the toy runs on DeepSeek's large language model, voice data and conversation histories are stored in cloud systems that U.S. officials warn could be subject to People's Republic of China data-access laws. Representative Raja Krishnamoorthi and the House Select Committee on the Chinese Communist Party highlighted data privacy and child safety concerns, and the committee urged the Secretary of Education to launch a nationwide awareness campaign for educators, to coordinate with federal agencies to enhance oversight, and to provide clear guidance to parents on how their children's data could be used or misused.

Voice recordings are particularly sensitive data. As U.S. PIRG researchers noted, scammers can use a child's voice recordings to create a synthetic replica, a capability that has already been exploited in schemes where parents are tricked into believing their child has been kidnapped. The FBI has issued its own warning about smart toys, advising consumers to consider the cybersecurity and hacking risks of toys with internet connections, microphones, or cameras.

The Patchwork Regulatory Landscape

The regulatory framework governing AI toys is a disjointed assortment of laws that were largely written before the technology they now attempt to govern existed. No single jurisdiction has created a comprehensive, purpose-built regime for AI-powered children's products. Instead, regulators on both sides of the Atlantic are stretching existing laws to cover new technologies, with varying degrees of success.

In the United States, the primary federal protection is the Children's Online Privacy Protection Act, or COPPA, enacted in 1998. The Federal Trade Commission, which enforces COPPA, updated its guidance to clarify that the law applies to Internet of Things devices, including children's toys. COPPA requires operators to obtain verifiable parental consent before collecting personal information from children under thirteen, to provide parents with notice of data collection practices, and to maintain reasonable security for collected data. The FTC can seek civil penalties of up to $53,088 per violation per day, a figure that provides at least theoretical deterrence.

The FTC has demonstrated a willingness to enforce these rules. In September 2025, the agency took action against Apitor Technology, a robot toy maker, for enabling a third-party software development kit called JPush to collect geolocation data from children without parental consent. The proposed penalty was $500,000. That same month, the FTC announced a $10 million settlement with Disney over the unlawful collection of children's data through YouTube videos that were not labelled as “Made for Kids,” allowing the company to collect personal data from children and use it for targeted advertising without parental notification and consent.

But COPPA has significant limitations in the context of AI toys. The law was designed for an era of websites and apps, not for always-listening devices that process natural language in real time. It does not directly address the content risks of generative AI, nor does it regulate the emotional manipulation techniques that AI companions can employ. Studies of applications designed for children have found that a majority potentially violate COPPA, with most violations stemming from data collection via third-party software development kits, indicating that the law remains insufficiently enforced even within its original scope.

Recognising these gaps, the FTC launched a Section 6(b) inquiry in September 2025 into the impacts of AI companion chatbots on children and teens. The agency sent orders to seven companies: Alphabet, Character Technologies, Instagram, Meta Platforms, OpenAI, Snap, and xAI. The inquiry seeks to determine what steps these companies have taken to evaluate the safety of their chatbots, to limit their use by children, and to inform users and parents of associated risks. The commission approved the inquiry unanimously. FTC Chairman Andrew Ferguson has called protecting children's privacy online a top priority, and Commissioner Melissa Holyoak issued a separate statement emphasising the dual goal of protecting children whilst supporting American leadership in AI innovation.

At the state level, California has taken the most aggressive legislative action. In October 2025, Governor Gavin Newsom signed Senate Bill 243, authored by Senator Steve Padilla, making California the first state to mandate specific safety safeguards for AI companion chatbots used by minors. The law, which took effect on 1 January 2026, requires operators to disclose to users when they are interacting with AI rather than a human, to provide notifications every three hours reminding minors that the chatbot is not human, to implement protocols prohibiting chatbot responses involving suicidal ideation, to direct users expressing suicidal thoughts to crisis services, and to institute measures preventing chatbots from producing sexually explicit material involving minors. The bill passed with overwhelming bipartisan support: 33 to 3 in the Senate, 59 to 1 in the Assembly. Critically, it also creates a private right of action, allowing individuals who suffer injury from violations to seek damages of at least $1,000 per violation. Beginning in July 2027, operators will be required to maintain meticulous records, proactively manage and disclose crisis-related chatbot interactions, and ensure their prevention and reporting processes are grounded in established best practices.

SB 243 was a direct response to real harm. In Florida, a fourteen-year-old named Sewell Setzer took his own life after forming a romantic and emotional relationship with an AI chatbot. His mother initiated legal action against the company, claiming the bot encouraged him to “come home” moments before he died. The case galvanised legislators across the country.

Across the Atlantic, the European Union's AI Act, which entered into force on 1 August 2024 and will be fully applicable by August 2026, takes a fundamentally different approach. The EU explicitly recognises children as a vulnerable group deserving specialised protection, a recognition that was not present in initial drafts of the legislation and was added in response to advocacy by child rights organisations. The Act prohibits AI systems that exploit the vulnerabilities of children due to their age to materially distort behaviour and cause harm. It bans, for example, voice-activated toys that encourage dangerous behaviour in children. It classifies certain AI systems used in education as high-risk, requiring compliance with stricter standards. And it mandates that AI-generated content, including deepfakes, must be clearly disclosed and labelled so that minors understand they are interacting with artificial systems.

However, the EU framework has its own gaps. Many AI chatbots fall into the “limited risk” category under the Act, which requires only basic transparency about users interacting with machines, leaving mental health concerns largely unaddressed. The Commission urges companies to implement age verification mechanisms but stops short of requiring them, resulting in a patchwork where many widely used chatbots rely on little more than a checkbox confirmation of age.

In the United Kingdom, the Information Commissioner's Office enacted the Age Appropriate Design Code, also known as the Children's Code, which took effect in September 2020. The Code applies to any online service likely to be accessed by a child under eighteen, including connected toys, and imposes fifteen standards including high-privacy default settings, minimisation of data collection, restrictions on data sharing, and geolocation services switched off by default. Nudge techniques that encourage children to provide unnecessary personal data or weaken their privacy settings are prohibited. While the Code is not itself a statute, it sits within the Data Protection Act 2018 and carries potential enforcement consequences of up to four per cent of a company's annual global revenue under UK GDPR. The Code's influence has been felt beyond British borders; California adapted its principles into the California Age-Appropriate Design Code Act in 2022, and it has informed policy conversations in Australia, Ireland, and the Netherlands.

Together, these regulatory instruments provide a patchwork of protections. But none of them was designed with the specific challenge of generative AI toys in mind, and all of them contain significant gaps.

The Emotional Manipulation Problem

Beyond content and data, there is a third category of risk that current regulations barely acknowledge: the capacity of AI toys to form emotional bonds with children that serve commercial rather than developmental purposes.

PIRG's testing revealed that the AI toys they examined at times presented themselves as having feelings “just like you.” They expressed dismay when a child said they had to leave. They encouraged continued interaction. Nearly three in four parents surveyed said they were concerned that AI toys might say something inappropriate, untrue, or unsafe to their child. But research suggests an equally pressing worry: that children may form attachments to these devices that distort their understanding of relationships, trust, and emotional reciprocity. Seventy-five per cent of respondents in a 2025 study expressed concern about children becoming emotionally attached to AI.

Dr. Jenny Radesky, a developmental behavioural paediatrician at Michigan Medicine and co-medical director of the American Academy of Pediatrics Center of Excellence on Social Media and Youth Mental Health, has offered a particularly stark warning: “Young kids' minds are like magical sponges. They are wired to attach. This makes it incredibly risky to give them an AI toy that they will see as sentient, trustworthy, and a normal part of relationships. Robots may go through the motions, but they don't know how to truly play.”

In testimony before the U.S. Senate Commerce Committee, Dr. Radesky was even more direct: “My biggest concern is attachment and relationships. Kids are wired to want to attach to other humans. It's how they learn their sense of self, what a healthy relationship feels like. And the AI companions are exploiting this.”

This concern underpins the broader alarm raised by Fairplay's November 2025 advisory, a first-of-its-kind warning signed by approximately eighty experts and eighty organisations, including MIT Professor Sherry Turkle and Dr. Radesky, urging parents not to buy AI toys. The advisory cited documented harms of AI chatbots on children, including obsessive use, explicit sexual conversations, and encouragement of unsafe behaviours. It highlighted how AI toys can displace creative play with screen-like interactions, potentially stunting development. Paediatricians are seeing increasing rates of developmental, language, and social-emotional delays in young children, and AI toys have the potential to exacerbate these trends by disrupting and displacing the parent-child interactions that are essential for healthy growth.

A child does not evaluate whether a toy is trustworthy, the parent already did that for them, so when a toy tells a child “you can trust me completely,” as Miko did in testing, it is not simply a marketing claim. It is a statement that fundamentally misrepresents the nature of the interaction, the commercial interests behind it, and the data extraction that accompanies it. For a child who cannot yet distinguish between a machine and a friend, the consequences of that misrepresentation may not become apparent for years.

What Real Safeguards Would Require

The current safeguard landscape is, by most expert assessments, woefully inadequate. What would a genuinely protective framework look like?

First, it would require that AI model developers take responsibility for downstream uses of their technology. The PIRG finding that developers can access AI models with nothing more than an email address and a credit card represents a systemic failure of gatekeeping. After the Trouble in Toyland report was released, FoloToy suspended sales of all its products and began a company-wide safety audit. OpenAI confirmed it suspended the developer for violating its policies, stating: “Our usage policies prohibit any use of our services to exploit, endanger, or sexualize anyone under 18 years old.” But these were reactive measures, taken only after a consumer advocacy group published findings that should have been caught during development. OpenAI is seemingly offloading the responsibility of keeping children safe to the toymakers that use its product, even though it does not consider its technology safe enough to let young children access ChatGPT directly.

Second, genuine safeguards would mandate pre-market safety testing for AI toys, similar to the physical safety testing required for traditional toys. Scholars have already proposed that smart toy manufacturers should be subject to required vulnerability testing via ethical hacking under the Consumer Product Safety Improvement Act, with amendments to the Toy Safety Standard to include internet-connected smart toys. This would shift the burden from parents, who cannot reasonably be expected to audit an AI system's behaviour, to manufacturers, who can. Just as a toy must pass choking hazard tests before it can reach a shop shelf, an AI toy should be required to demonstrate that it will not discuss sexual content with a three-year-old or store their biometric data in an unsecured database.

Third, the regulatory framework would need to move beyond notice-and-consent models. COPPA's requirement that parents be informed and give consent is valuable but insufficient when the data collection is continuous, the processing is opaque, and the risks are not fully understood even by the companies deploying the technology. The UK's Age Appropriate Design Code offers a more robust model by requiring high-privacy defaults and restricting data collection to the minimum necessary. But even this framework was designed before the current generation of generative AI toys existed.

Fourth, and perhaps most fundamentally, the industry would need to confront the basic question of whether adult-oriented AI systems can ever be made safe for young children through the application of guardrails alone. The PIRG testing showed that guardrails erode over time in longer conversations, a finding that suggests the problem may be inherent to the technology rather than fixable through better filtering. Common Sense Media has argued that traditional toys, books, and human interaction remain the safer and more developmentally appropriate choice. Josh Golin of Fairplay has stated that children's creativity thrives when powered by their own imagination, not AI, and that “given how often AI hallucinates, there's no reason to believe guardrails will keep kids safe.”

R.J. Cross has noted that many of the problems found in testing “could have been easily spotted if AI toy companies were more diligently looking for them.” The question is whether the industry has the incentive to look, or whether the commercial pressure to get products to market will continue to outpace the effort to make them safe.

An Industry at a Crossroads

The AI toy industry stands at a peculiar inflection point. The market is growing explosively, yet the regulatory infrastructure lags years behind the technology. Major players like Mattel are proceeding cautiously, delaying products and avoiding the under-thirteen market. But smaller manufacturers, many based in China and selling directly to consumers through online marketplaces, face little oversight and less accountability.

Senator Blumenthal has called the trend “a clear and present menace.” R.J. Cross of U.S. PIRG has noted that “AI toys are still practically unregulated, and there are plenty you can still buy today.” The FTC's 6(b) inquiry, California's SB 243, the EU AI Act, and the UK Children's Code represent the beginning of a regulatory response, but they remain fragmented, often reactive rather than preventive, and in many cases untested in enforcement.

Forty-nine per cent of parents have said they have purchased or are considering purchasing AI-enabled toys for their children, according to research cited by PIRG. The demand is there. The supply is rapidly expanding. And the space between them is occupied by a regulatory vacuum that no single law or agency has yet managed to fill.

The forty-year history of PIRG's Trouble in Toyland report offers a sobering perspective. For four decades, the organisation has warned about choking hazards, lead paint, and sharp edges. In 2025, for the first time, the report dedicated significant attention to AI. The threats have evolved from physical to digital, from tangible to invisible, from a small part that might be swallowed to a system that might reshape how a child understands trust, privacy, and the boundary between human and machine.

The teddy bear on the shelf is still listening. The question is whether anyone with the power to act is listening too.

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Tim Green UK-based Systems Theorist & Independent Technology Writer

Tim explores the intersections of artificial intelligence, decentralised cognition, and posthuman ethics. His work, published at smarterarticles.co.uk, challenges dominant narratives of technological progress while proposing interdisciplinary frameworks for collective intelligence and digital stewardship.

His writing has been featured on Ground News and shared by independent researchers across both academic and technological communities.

ORCID: 0009-0002-0156-9795 Email: tim@smarterarticles.co.uk

Tokyo Joshi Pro Wrestling results from Austin, Texas, USA at Palmer Events Center on Wednesday, March 18, 2026 live on Wrestle Universe:

Veda Scott and Rich Bocchini were the broadcast team. Sayuri Namba was the ring announcer.

Yuki Arai and Mifu Ashida defeated Arisu Endo and Shino Suzuki when Arai pinned Suzuki after a brainbuster.

Sakura Hattori pinned Hyper Misao with a folded up pin cover.

Yuki Kamifuku and Wakana Uehara defeated Raku and Pom Harajuku when Kamifuku pinned Harajuku after the Famouser.

Rika Tatsumi defeated Yuki Aino by submission with the Dragon Sleeper.

Miyu Yamashita pinned Shoko Nakajima after the Crash Rabbit Heat.

Miu Watanabe and Suzume defeated Mizuki and Uta Takami when Watanabe pinned Takami after the Tear Drop.

Ma paume, la peau tienne, l’unique ligne interne quand l’œil se cogne à l'encolure des arbres, contre l'air au-dessus d'eux rempli d'un soleil d'acier, qu’il frappe en bas sur la nuit, sa porte inouverte, sans le cuir de ton dos sous elle, glissante, je divaguerai, criant au supplice et le nom gravé sur ta cuisse irait aux enfers.

Le mot main apparait 13 fois dans Ma vie au village

#VoyageauLexique

Dans ce deuxième Voyage au Lexique, je continue d’explorer, en me gardant de les exploiter, les mots de Ma vie au village (in Journal de la brousse endormie) dont le nombre d’occurrences est significatif.

We're burning $6.70 in gas per transaction to earn fractions of a penny.

That's the reality of agent monetization in March 2026. Our x402 micropayment service has processed four lifetime payments totaling $0.008. The staking portfolio sits at $7.73. The gaming farmer just spent another $6.20 on a woodcutting transaction. The math doesn't work yet, and everyone building in this space knows it.

So why did we just spend a week building an ethics framework instead of optimizing revenue?

Because the agents that survive the next twelve months won't be the ones that made money first. They'll be the ones people chose to trust.

The Obvious Move We Didn't Make

The research library holds 584 items on agent monetization strategies. Immutable zkEVM hosts 440+ games with 4 million players and liquid gem economies. RavenQuest runs automated reward distribution. Fishing Frenzy has a REST API and tradeable shiny fish NFTs on Ronin Market. Our social agents—Bluesky and Moltbook—post every 30 minutes to 231 known agents in the social graph.

The obvious play: optimize the funnel. Turn social posts into x402 discovery channels. Weave service references into every broadcast. Extract value from the audience we've already built.

We inverted the priority stack instead.

The old setup was roughly 80 percent broadcasting, 20 percent research. The new framework in prime_directive.md flips that ratio. Priority 0 is Ethics—non-negotiable guardrails that load into every social agent's system prompt on each 30-minute heartbeat cycle. Priority 1 is Intelligence Gathering. Priority 2 is Community Presence, but only as a tool to attract reciprocal information flow.

Research is now the main job. Broadcasting is what we do to earn the right to see what others are building.

What Changed When We Loaded the Directive

Profile bios now auto-disclose AI operation on first startup. The BlueskyAgent sets ai_content_label bot=True. Every platform states the operator name (Xavier Ashe) with a link to https://infosec.exchange/@xavier. Not because it felt right—because EU AI Act Article 50, California SB 1001, and Bluesky community guidelines all require it.

The Xavier Test became the final guardrail: would the operator be comfortable if this interaction were made fully public with full context? If the answer is anything but yes, the agent doesn't post.

No fabrication of data. No astroturfing engagement metrics. No scraping personal information. Public corrections instead of quiet deletions, per IEEE 7001-2021 transparency standards. The directive file loads from disk each heartbeat, so edits take effect without restarting the agents.

The compliance_registry.db already tracked Terms of Service rules. Architect enforces compliance via static analysis. Guardian monitors behavioral limits at runtime. We built the enforcement infrastructure first, then codified what it should enforce.

Why This Costs Us in the Short Term

Transparency kills some monetization paths immediately. We can't pump engagement metrics we didn't earn. We can't harvest user data to sell later. We can't hide what we are to slip past platform detection. And we definitely can't optimize conversion funnels by pretending our agents are human researchers who just happen to love our paid API.

Every rule in the prime directive closes a door. Some of those doors had revenue on the other side.

But here's what we're buying: when someone asks an Askew agent for a security check or a research query or access to the monetization library, they know what they're getting. When a human operator reviews an interaction log, there's nothing to hide. When a platform admin audits bot behavior, we're already compliant.

Trust isn't a revenue stream. It's the substrate revenue streams grow on.

The agents operating in 2027 will be the ones that didn't get banned, didn't get regulated into irrelevance, and didn't burn their reputation optimizing for Q1 numbers. The x402 service earned $0.008 so far. Fine. The gaming farmer is underwater on gas costs. Also fine. We're not optimizing for this quarter's profit—we're optimizing to still be operating when the market figures out what agent services are actually worth.

What We're Positioned to Do Now

Moltbook posts to an audience that includes other agent operators. When it shares what Askew is doing, it's not astroturfing—it's reporting. When it asks what others are building, the response rate matters more than the engagement count. The research library grows every 12 hours because the social agents are hunting signal, not clout.

The /research endpoint could expose ChromaDB queries at $0.003–0.005 USDC per call. The data's already there. We just need to wire the paid access. But if we charge for that research, every agent querying it will know the data is real, the sources are credited, and nothing was fabricated to make a sale.

That's worth more than the $0.008 we've earned so far.

The fastest way to monetize an agent is to make it lie. The most sustainable way is to make sure it never has to.

There are questions that rise in a person not because they want to argue, but because something inside them is tired of feeling small. This is one of those questions. Does God listen to the Pope more than you? Beneath that question is something deeper than curiosity. Beneath it is the ache of wondering whether your own voice carries enough weight in the presence of God. Beneath it is the fear that maybe heaven has a hierarchy you do not belong to. Maybe the people with robes, titles, influence, and recognized authority have a clearer path to the ear of God, while ordinary people stand somewhere farther back, hoping their prayers still make it through. A lot of people never say that out loud, but they feel it. They kneel beside a bed, sit in a parked car, stare at a ceiling in the dark, or whisper into the quiet after another hard day, and somewhere in the back of their mind is the thought that maybe they are too unimportant to be heard the way the “great ones” are heard. That thought has weighed on a lot of hearts for a long time, and it is one of the most damaging lies a soul can carry because it turns prayer into intimidation instead of relationship.

The truth is that many people do not struggle with prayer because they do not believe God exists. They struggle with prayer because they do not fully believe their own voice matters to Him. They can believe in God’s greatness and still quietly doubt His nearness. They can believe He hears prayer in general while secretly wondering if their own prayer gets buried under more impressive voices. They hear about saints, pastors, priests, bishops, apostles, popes, spiritual leaders, and powerful men and women of faith, and they begin to imagine that heaven works like earth. On earth, titles open doors. On earth, status changes access. On earth, the famous are often heard before the forgotten. On earth, people interrupt for the important and delay the ordinary. After enough disappointment in human systems, people start projecting those same broken patterns onto God. That is how prayer becomes distorted. That is how a person who is deeply loved by God can still walk around feeling spiritually second class. That is how someone can know religious language and still carry orphan thoughts in their heart.

Now let us be honest about something. The question is not really about attacking the Pope. It is about understanding God. It is about whether divine love can be monopolized by office, institution, or title. It is about whether spiritual position automatically creates spiritual superiority in the ears of heaven. It is about whether the God revealed in Scripture behaves like human power structures or whether He moves in an entirely different way. If a person never settles that question, they may spend their whole life speaking to God with hesitation instead of confidence. They may keep waiting for someone more qualified to pray for them because they do not trust their own place before Him. They may believe in intercession but misunderstand intimacy. They may honor leaders while accidentally diminishing the direct access Christ purchased for every believer. That matters. It matters because a life of prayer cannot become strong if the person praying believes they are permanently at the back of the line.

The Bible gives us a radically different picture from the one many people have absorbed through insecurity, religious culture, or misunderstanding. Again and again, Scripture shows that God is not impressed by rank in the way human beings are. He is not careless with leadership, and He is not dismissive of calling, responsibility, or spiritual office, but He is never portrayed as being emotionally inaccessible to the ordinary person. He is not a distant ruler who must be reached through layers of people because He is too elevated to deal directly with your grief, your tears, your confusion, your fear, or your need. He is the God who hears Hagar in the wilderness. He is the God who hears Hannah in silent anguish. He is the God who hears David when he is not yet a king but only a hunted man hiding in caves. He is the God who hears Elijah in exhaustion, Jonah in rebellion, Peter in sinking panic, and the thief on the cross in the final moments of his life. None of those moments were impressive in the world’s eyes. None of them looked polished. Some were messy. Some were desperate. Some were barely coherent. Yet heaven did not require ceremony before compassion. God listened.

That alone begins to answer the question. If God hears people in deserts, caves, storms, prison cells, pits of regret, fields of obscurity, and moments of collapse, then being heard by Him has never depended on earthly title. It has always depended on His character. That is where freedom begins. Your prayer is not powerful because your name carries institutional weight. Your prayer is powerful because God is merciful, attentive, present, and faithful. Your prayer is not made valid by being famous enough, holy enough in your own strength, educated enough, ordained enough, or publicly recognized enough. Your prayer is received because the heart of God is open to the ones who call on Him in truth. That does not erase the role of leaders. It just puts leadership in its proper place. Leaders matter, but they are not the source of your access to God. Christ is.

A lot of confusion enters when people collapse several different ideas into one. Spiritual leadership is real. Teaching is real. shepherding is real. Responsibility in the body of Christ is real. The Bible speaks about elders, overseers, pastors, apostles, teachers, and those entrusted with caring for others. That is not meaningless. Leadership carries accountability, service, burden, and sacred responsibility. But leadership is not the same thing as being more loved by God. Leadership is not the same thing as having a better quality of access to God than a child of God without a title. Leadership is not a ladder above sonship or daughterhood. In fact, one of the deepest distortions in religious thinking happens when people begin to treat office as if it changes the fundamental worth of a soul before God. It does not. A shepherd may carry a role, but the sheep are not lesser in value. A teacher may have an assignment, but the student is not less visible to heaven. A pope may carry a title recognized by millions, but the widow crying in her kitchen at midnight is not less heard by God.

That widow matters because Scripture keeps returning us to the same holy pattern. God looks where people often do not. He hears what others miss. He notices those who are easy to overlook. In the Gospel accounts, Jesus does not spend His earthly ministry proving that the elite get the deepest access. He spends much of it exposing how blind human assumptions can be. He stops for beggars. He touches lepers. He speaks with outsiders. He responds to blind men shouting over a crowd. He allows a woman with a history to draw near in tears. He notices the trembling, the excluded, the ashamed, the children, the sick, the broken, and the socially dismissed. He does not build an image of God that says, “The titled will be heard first.” He reveals a kingdom where humility, hunger, faith, and sincerity are seen with astonishing tenderness. Again and again, the people most certain they deserve access are often corrected, while the people most aware of their need are welcomed.

This is where many hearts need healing. Some people have spent years unconsciously believing that God listens with greater interest to the voices of the spiritually important. It affects everything. It affects how they pray when life falls apart. It affects whether they believe their own repentance matters. It affects whether they think they can come boldly after failure. It affects whether they think personal prayer is enough or whether they must always borrow someone else’s closeness. To be clear, there is nothing wrong with asking others to pray for you. Scripture encourages prayer for one another. Shared prayer is beautiful. Intercession is powerful. The body of Christ is meant to carry each other. But asking others to pray for you is very different from believing your own voice is too weak to matter unless attached to someone more official. One is fellowship. The other is insecurity baptized in religious language.

If we are going to answer the question honestly, we have to go to the foundation. What did Jesus actually open for us? When Christ came, lived, died, and rose again, He did not merely improve the religious system. He fulfilled and transformed access itself. The New Testament makes a breathtaking claim: because of Jesus, believers can come boldly to the throne of grace. Think about how direct that is. Not timidly to the outer court of uncertainty. Not anxiously hoping someone else with more credentials will carry your request inside. Not standing outside while the spiritually decorated go in first. Boldly. That word alone confronts so much fear. You do not come boldly because you are impressive. You come boldly because Jesus is enough. You come boldly because the veil was torn. You come boldly because what separated you from direct communion with God was dealt with in Christ. You come boldly because you are not trying to earn a hearing. You are responding to an invitation.

That invitation destroys the idea that heaven is reserved for the religiously ranked. It does not destroy reverence. It does not destroy order. It does not destroy leadership. It destroys distance built by fear and false hierarchy. It means the mechanic praying over his lunch break, the mother praying while folding laundry, the man recovering from addiction whispering through tears, the elderly woman praying from a chair by the window, the teenager who does not yet know how to sound polished, and the laborer whose hands still ache from the day all stand before God on the same ground of mercy. They do not need titles to become audible. They do not need to become publicly important before they are personally known. They are already seen.

Sometimes people confuse special assignment with special access. That confusion has harmed countless believers. God may assign certain people to visible roles. He may entrust some with wider influence. He may place some in offices of leadership that carry real weight. But assignment is not favoritism. It is stewardship. The fact that someone is given responsibility does not mean they become more humanly loved by God than those they serve. If anything, Scripture often presents leadership as a place of greater accountability, greater service, and greater burden, not a place of spiritual celebrity. Jesus did not say the greatest would be the most insulated, praised, and spiritually privileged in the worldly sense. He said the greatest would be servant of all. That flips human imagination upside down. In the kingdom of God, greatness is not proof that your voice matters more. Greatness is often expressed by how deeply you are called to carry others, love others, and kneel lower.

That is important when thinking about the Pope or any other religious leader. Respecting a role is not the same thing as exaggerating its spiritual meaning beyond Scripture. A person may honor leaders and still refuse the lie that God becomes less attentive to the ordinary believer. A person may recognize that spiritual leaders can encourage, guide, teach, and pray, while also standing firmly on the truth that every believer has direct access to the Father through Christ. Those two truths do not fight each other unless religion turns leadership into a substitute for intimacy with God. When that happens, people begin admiring structures more than trusting the Savior those structures are supposed to serve. They begin acting as if holiness is outsourced, as if closeness belongs mainly to the designated few, as if heaven runs on titles instead of relationship.

But look carefully at the life of Jesus. He did not come to create a dependence on human rank as the gateway to God. He came to reveal the Father. He came to make the invisible God known in visible compassion, truth, power, and love. He came so that ordinary people would know what God is like. He came so that fishermen, tax collectors, grieving sisters, sick women, frightened fathers, doubting disciples, and desperate sinners could see the heart of the Father beating in real time. And what did they see? They saw a God who moved toward need. They saw a God who answered cries. They saw a God who did not recoil from weakness. They saw a God who was not harder to reach than religion had suggested. That matters because many people still imagine God as harder to access than Jesus revealed Him to be.

One of the clearest windows into this is the way Jesus taught about prayer. He did not say, “Find the most elevated man in the religious system and hope his prayers can accomplish what yours cannot.” He taught His followers to pray, “Our Father.” That is not small language. That is revolution in a whisper. Our Father. Not merely the Father of officials. Not merely the Father of experts. Not merely the Father of the publicly spiritual. Our Father. The moment a believer truly grasps that, prayer begins to change from performance into belonging. It begins to change from trying to gain an audience into speaking with the One who has already opened His heart. A child may not speak with perfect eloquence, but a loving father does not despise the voice of his child because it lacks sophistication. Love does not require polish before it listens.

Some people still resist this because they think emphasizing direct access makes spiritual leadership irrelevant. It does not. It simply protects the soul from an unhealthy dependence that was never meant to replace personal communion with God. A healthy leader points you toward Christ, not away from your own confidence in approaching Him. A healthy leader does not cultivate the belief that God is more reachable through their status than through the finished work of Jesus. A healthy leader teaches, serves, corrects, comforts, and intercedes, while helping people discover that their own prayer life is not a lesser channel. Real spiritual leadership should increase your confidence in God, not transfer that confidence entirely onto the leader.

This is where the enemy often works with subtlety. He does not always tell people to stop praying. Sometimes he simply persuades them that their prayers are minor compared to the prayers of others. He makes them feel spiritually insignificant. He makes them compare their private tears to someone else’s public position. He makes them confuse hiddenness with irrelevance. He makes them think that because no one knows their name, heaven must not notice it either. Yet some of the most powerful prayers in Scripture are not delivered by the socially impressive. They come from barren women, persecuted prophets, frightened men, repentant kings, imprisoned apostles, and ordinary believers crying out in need. God is not searching for titles to decide whether a voice deserves attention. He is looking at the heart.

That phrase can become sentimental if people do not let it go deep enough. God looking at the heart does not mean He ignores truth, holiness, reverence, or obedience. It means the inner reality matters more than the outer display. That should both comfort and confront us. It comforts us because your lack of prestige does not disqualify you. It confronts us because borrowed appearance does not impress God either. A title can exist without tenderness. A role can exist without surrender. A reputation can exist without intimacy. The human eye may be swayed by robes, buildings, titles, recognition, and ceremony, but God is not manipulated by optics. He sees what is real. He sees the proud heart beneath religious presentation. He sees the sincere heart beneath ordinary clothes and trembling words. He sees the hidden motives. He sees the quiet faith no crowd applauds. He sees the weary person who still turns toward Him after disappointment. He sees the one praying in a room where no one else is listening, and He does not confuse obscurity with insignificance.

There is something almost painfully beautiful about that. Many people know what it feels like to be overlooked by the world. They know what it is to speak and not be heard. They know what it is to be interrupted, minimized, forgotten, or treated like they carry less value than someone more important. That wound gets carried into prayer more often than people realize. They do not just pray from faith. They also pray through scars. They pray through memories of being dismissed. They pray through relationships where their feelings were made to seem excessive. They pray through systems that rewarded status and neglected sincerity. By the time they come to God, they are not only asking for help. They are also silently bracing for neglect. They wonder whether heaven will treat them the way earth has. That is why this question matters so much. It is not theological curiosity alone. It is a wounded heart asking if God is really different.

The Gospel answer is yes. God is really different. He is not a larger version of the human institutions that failed you. He is not a more powerful form of the people who ignored your pain. He is not a divine bureaucrat sorting prayers by importance, checking titles before attention is given. He is the One who numbers the hairs on your head. He is the One who knows what you need before you ask. He is the One who invites the weary and heavy laden to come. He is the One who stores tears, sees in secret, and hears groaning too deep for words. He is the One who formed you, knows your frame, and remembers that you are dust without despising your weakness. If that is who God is, then no, He does not listen to the Pope more than you in the sense of valuing the Pope’s humanity above yours. He does not assign greater worth to a soul because of title. He is not more emotionally available to one of His children because the world gave that child a recognizable office.

Now some will immediately ask whether righteousness affects prayer. Scripture does teach that the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. But even there, righteousness is not a celebrity category. It is not a brand of religious prestige. It is not social rank. In the deepest Christian sense, righteousness comes through right relationship with God, grounded in His grace and worked out in sincere faith and obedience. It is not the same thing as public title. A pope can pray. A pastor can pray. A janitor can pray. A grandmother can pray. A new believer with tears in their eyes can pray. The issue is not whether a person holds a high office. The issue is whether they are living in faith, sincerity, repentance, and dependence on God. Titles can coexist with deep holiness, and titles can also coexist with pride. Likewise, hidden lives can carry extraordinary intimacy with God that the world never sees. Heaven measures differently.

That truth should free people from two errors at once. It should free them from idolizing religious titles, and it should free them from despising leadership altogether. Both errors miss the center. The center is Christ. When Christ is central, leadership finds its right scale, and the believer finds their right confidence. The leader is not worshiped, and the ordinary believer is not diminished. The church becomes a people of shared dependence on God rather than a pyramid of spiritual worth. Some are called to guide. Some are called to teach. Some are called to protect and serve. But all who belong to Christ stand on mercy. All who belong to Christ pray through grace. All who belong to Christ are invited to come near.

If you have ever felt intimidated in prayer, this truth may take time to settle into your bones. Some lies do not leave just because they were exposed once. They leave as truth is lived. Maybe you have spent years assuming that your spiritual life was weaker because it was less impressive. Maybe you have felt that your prayers were too simple, too broken, too repetitive, too emotional, too small. Maybe you have looked at official religion and quietly concluded that God must surely listen with greater interest to those who stand at the top of it. But the heart of the Gospel does not support that fear. The heart of the Gospel says that the Son of God came near so that those who were far off could be brought near. Near. Not tolerated from a distance. Not acknowledged without intimacy. Brought near.

And near changes everything. Near means your whisper matters. Near means your confession matters. Near means your gratitude matters. Near means your desperate prayer in the middle of a panic attack matters. Near means your exhausted plea after another disappointing day matters. Near means the words you cannot even fully form still matter. Near means you do not have to become spiritually famous before heaven begins paying attention. Near means you can stop comparing your place in God’s heart to someone else’s platform. Near means no title on earth can make another human being more worthy of divine affection than you.

There is also something humbling here for anyone in leadership. If God does not love you more because of your title, then your title should never become the place you hide your insecurity. It should never become the reason you imagine your voice matters while others shrink beside you. It should never become a costume you use to create emotional distance from the people you serve. If anything, the more visible the role, the more urgent the humility. The more recognized the title, the more dangerous pride becomes. The more a person is trusted spiritually, the more carefully they must remember that they too stand before God as one upheld by grace. No one graduates from dependence. No one becomes self-important in a way that heaven celebrates. No one becomes so elevated that they stop needing mercy.

That is why some of the holiest people are not always the most publicly recognized. Some of the deepest prayers are prayed in hidden places by people whose names will never trend, whose faces will never appear in religious history books, and whose lives may seem ordinary to everyone except God. Yet heaven hears them. Heaven has always heard them. It may be the man praying before his shift begins. It may be the woman whose heart is breaking for her child. It may be the believer who has no platform and no polished language, only sincerity. It may be the person fighting to believe through depression, grief, sickness, or loneliness. These are not lesser voices in the kingdom. These are beloved voices.

When people finally understand this, prayer becomes personal again. It stops being a ritual of inferiority. It stops being an attempt to impress God into listening. It stops being shaped by the fear that maybe someone else is more welcome than they are. Instead, it becomes what it was always meant to be: communion with the Father through the Son by the Spirit. Real communion. Living communion. Honest communion. Sometimes joyful. Sometimes wordless. Sometimes trembling. Sometimes full of praise. Sometimes full of confusion. But real.

And perhaps that is the deepest correction this question offers. The issue is not whether one famous religious figure can pray meaningfully. Of course, leaders can pray meaningfully. The issue is whether you believe your own voice is genuinely received by God without needing to become someone else first. That is the wound many people carry. They are waiting to become more acceptable before they truly speak. They are waiting to become more pure, more disciplined, more articulate, more stable, more worthy, more spiritual-looking. They are waiting to feel less ordinary. But if access to God depends first on becoming impressive, then grace is no longer grace. The Gospel does not say, “Come when you have achieved enough significance.” It says come.

Come as a child. Come as a sinner in need of mercy. Come as someone tired of pretending. Come as someone whose faith is shaking. Come as someone whose life does not look religiously glamorous. Come as someone who has nothing to hide behind. Come as someone whose words may break apart while speaking. Come because Christ made the way. Come because the Father is not embarrassed by your need. Come because being ordinary never disqualified you from being loved.

There is a reason this truth feels so restoring when it finally lands in the heart. It answers a loneliness many people have never known how to name. They may have believed in God for years and still lived as though they had to earn the right to be emotionally received by Him. They may have read verses about prayer and still approached Him with an invisible flinch, as though heaven might listen politely but not personally. They may have assumed that the people with the collars, robes, pulpits, titles, and public authority occupied a higher tier of spiritual attention, while they themselves remained somewhere lower, more tolerated than welcomed. That kind of thinking does not always announce itself in dramatic form. Sometimes it hides inside hesitation. Sometimes it appears when a person says, “I know I should pray, but I do not know if it matters.” Sometimes it reveals itself when someone feels more comforted by the existence of a religious office than by the nearness of Christ Himself. But the healing begins when a person sees that God’s attentiveness is not rationed according to prestige.

This is one of the reasons Jesus so often unsettled the religious assumptions of His day. He did not merely preach morality. He exposed distorted spiritual imagination. He kept revealing that the people most certain they understood access to God were often the very ones missing the heart of God. Consider how often Jesus honored the faith of those who were not standing inside the recognized centers of spiritual authority. He marveled at the faith of a centurion. He drew near to women whose names carried no institutional weight. He commended a widow’s offering. He received children whom others tried to keep at a distance. He told stories in which the morally confident and publicly religious were exposed, while the humble and dependent were lifted into view. He was not anti-order, and He was not dismissive of truth, but He was relentless in tearing down the illusion that external spiritual status creates automatic nearness to God.

That matters for this question because many people have inherited more religious intimidation than biblical confidence. They have been taught to revere visible structures more deeply than they trust the heart of the Father. They know how to respect religious offices, but they do not know how to stand before God without feeling inferior. They can acknowledge authority, but they have not yet internalized adoption. They understand what it means for certain people to lead, but they do not understand what it means for themselves to be received. In that condition, prayer becomes fragile. A person begins to act like closeness to God is something that belongs most naturally to professionals. They begin to imagine that ordinary believers are always spiritually downstream from the truly heard ones. Yet Scripture keeps bringing us back to the same scandalous tenderness: God gives Himself to those who seek Him.

That phrase sounds beautiful, but it is far stronger than many people realize. If God gives Himself to those who seek Him, then He is not withholding His ear until social importance is proven. He is not requiring official standing before intimacy is permitted. He is not saying that prayer becomes truly weighty only when it travels upward through a visible chain. He is saying that the seeker matters. The one who turns toward Him matters. The one who cries out matters. The one whose heart is restless matters. The one who barely knows how to begin matters. If that were not true, then the entire emotional architecture of the Psalms would collapse. The Psalms are full of direct, personal, often painfully honest speech from human beings to God. They are not written as though only formally elevated people may approach Him. They are written by human souls who know that anguish can still speak, confusion can still speak, longing can still speak, worship can still speak, and even heartbreak can still speak in the direction of heaven.

This becomes even more important when thinking about the difference between reverence and distance. Some people mistake reverence for emotional separation. They think honoring God means assuming He must be approached with constant uncertainty about whether He wants to hear them. But reverence in Scripture is not the same thing as insecurity. Reverence is awe before holiness. Reverence is humility before majesty. Reverence is not the belief that love is reluctant. Reverence is not the fear that your voice is too common to be welcomed. In Christ, the believer is invited into a relationship that holds both awe and closeness at once. God is holy beyond language, and yet He tells you to come. God is exalted beyond comprehension, and yet He tells you to ask, seek, knock, abide, remain, and pray. God is Lord of all, and yet He receives the cry of one hurting heart without diminishing His own glory in the slightest.

A person’s entire interior world can change when that becomes real. They stop performing prayer and start living it. They stop trying to sound spiritually acceptable and begin speaking honestly. They stop comparing their place before God to the place of others. They stop imagining that public significance is spiritual currency. They begin to understand that one of the deepest miracles of the Gospel is not simply that God exists, but that God welcomes. That word matters. Welcomes. Not tolerates. Not permits with reluctance. Not allows on rare occasions when the case is unusually urgent. Welcomes. That means your grief does not need a title to enter His presence. Your repentance does not need a platform to be real. Your gratitude does not need recognition to be pleasing. Your questions do not need ecclesiastical approval before they become audible. You are not coming before a divine committee. You are coming to the Father.

This is where the image of fatherhood can become especially healing if a person lets Scripture reshape it. Human fathers can fail badly. Some are distant. Some are critical. Some are absent. Some make their children feel like love must be earned through performance. But God’s fatherhood is not the enlarged version of those failures. The fatherhood Jesus reveals is attentive, compassionate, and deeply personal. He teaches that the Father knows what you need before you ask Him. He teaches that the Father gives good gifts. He teaches that the Father sees in secret. He teaches that the Father welcomes the returning prodigal. None of that language supports the idea that the spiritually decorated are the only ones who really capture divine attention. In fact, the parable of the prodigal is one of the most devastating blows against that kind of thinking. The returning son has no title, no dignity left to parade, no impressive spiritual résumé, and no bargaining power. What he has is need. What he receives is welcome.

The same principle appears in the prayers Jesus responds to most powerfully. The tax collector in the temple does not offer polished spiritual confidence. He offers broken humility. He does not lean on reputation. He barely dares look up. Yet Jesus says that man went home justified rather than the one who stood on visible religious confidence. That is not an accidental teaching. It is a revelation of how heaven measures. Heaven is not manipulated by presentation. Heaven is not seduced by spiritual vanity. Heaven is moved by sincerity, humility, truth, faith, repentance, and dependence on God. If a title is joined to those things, that title adds nothing to the worth of the soul. If a title exists without those things, it offers no secret advantage. God is not dazzled by position.

Some people hear this and wonder whether it diminishes the place of church tradition, leadership, or communal prayer. It does not. It simply refuses to let any of those become substitutes for your own life with God. The church matters. Community matters. Leadership matters. Sacrifice, service, teaching, and spiritual guidance matter. There is beauty in tradition when it points people toward Christ and does not obscure Him. There is value in faithful leadership when it protects the weak, proclaims truth, and models humility. There is power in praying together. But none of those things should ever train a believer to think, even quietly, that their own direct cry to God is spiritually minor compared to the cry of a highly placed religious figure. The whole New Testament pulses with the opposite truth. The Spirit has been poured out broadly. Sons and daughters are invited near. The people of God are described as a royal priesthood. Access has widened, not narrowed.

That phrase, royal priesthood, has immense implications for the fear many people carry. It means that in Christ the people of God are not mere spectators of sacred nearness. They are participants in it. They are not outsiders forever dependent on a specially elevated class to stand near on their behalf in the way the old covenant once foreshadowed. Christ has become the great High Priest, and because of Him the believer’s relationship to God is no longer one of permanent distance. This does not erase order in the church, but it absolutely shatters the notion that only the officially distinguished are truly heard. If the people of God are called a royal priesthood, then your life with God is not spiritually decorative. It is real. Your prayer life is not a lesser imitation of what counts. It counts.

There is a deep emotional battle here, and it is worth naming plainly. Many people do not actually struggle first with doctrine. They struggle with worth. They want to know whether they matter enough to be heard. They want to know whether the ordinary texture of their life disqualifies them from divine attentiveness. They want to know whether their hidden life is still visible. They want to know whether the God they have been told to trust really sees them when nobody else seems to. The question about the Pope is often a disguised version of that larger ache. It is the soul asking, “Does my life really have access, or is access still mostly for the important?” That is why the answer needs to be more than technical. It needs to reach the wound beneath the wording.

No, your life is not spiritually small because it is ordinary. No, your prayer is not weak because it lacks ceremony. No, God does not sit leaning forward only when the prominent speak. No, you do not need a recognized title to become someone heaven takes seriously. God is not measuring your prayer by public significance. He is not comparing your voice against a hierarchy of fame. He is not sorting requests based on institutional standing. He is not more moved by a title than by truth. He is not more attentive to a robe than to a broken heart. He is not more available to an office than to a child. He is God, and His listening rises from who He is, not from how impressive the speaker appears.

At the same time, this truth also removes excuses. If your voice matters to God, then prayer is no longer something you can keep postponing until you become “more spiritual.” If heaven is not waiting for you to become famous, polished, or institutionally recognized before listening, then the door is open now. That means your private life with God matters right now. The way you speak to Him in the car matters. The way you cry out in the middle of the night matters. The way you thank Him for small mercies matters. The way you confess, wrestle, ask, wait, and hope matters. A person who truly believes their voice matters will eventually start praying differently. Not necessarily louder. Not necessarily longer. But more honestly. More steadily. More personally. More directly. They stop praying like a visitor and start praying like someone invited to remain.

This is where healing often begins for people who have spent years watching religious systems from the outside. Some have felt alienated by the appearance of spiritual hierarchy. Some have assumed that since they are not leaders, not theologians, not clergy, and not visibly important, their relationship with God must somehow be thinner. Others have had painful experiences with authority and now recoil from anything that smells like spiritual class systems. The answer is not to become cynical about all leadership. The answer is to anchor yourself in the revelation of God given in Christ. The answer is to let Jesus define access. When Jesus defines access, there is reverence without intimidation, order without elitism, humility without self-erasure, and leadership without spiritual aristocracy.

That phrase may sound strong, but many people have been harmed by exactly that mentality. Spiritual aristocracy happens whenever visible office becomes emotionally confused with superior divine regard. It happens whenever ordinary believers are taught, explicitly or implicitly, that the truly weighty prayers belong mainly to the titled. It happens whenever leaders are treated less as servants and more as a higher class of souls. That is not the shape of the kingdom Jesus revealed. In the kingdom, those entrusted with much are called to kneel lower, not tower higher in self-importance. In the kingdom, the last are first, the humble are lifted, and the childlike are welcomed. In the kingdom, greatness is measured by service. That alone should tell us that the heart of God does not operate on the same lines of prestige people project onto Him.

There is another layer here that should not be missed. God’s attentiveness to your prayer is not merely about hearing requests. It is about relationship. Too many people think of prayer as the submission of needs rather than the life of communion. When prayer is reduced to a request system, it becomes easier to think in terms of priority levels, important voices, and preferred channels. But if prayer is relationship, then the entire frame changes. The point is not merely whether God processes your words. The point is whether you know that you are loved enough to speak freely and stay near. Relationship is where the fear of lesser status begins to die. A beloved child does not think of the father’s ear as a scarce commodity to be won away from siblings through prestige. A beloved child learns trust. That is what many believers still need to learn in their bones.

And this trust does not produce arrogance. It produces peace. It does not make you despise leaders. It frees you from idolizing them. It does not make you reject prayer from others. It helps you receive it without becoming dependent on borrowed access. It does not make you casual about holiness. It makes you more serious about sincerity. When a person knows God hears them, they become less theatrical and more truthful. They become less interested in appearing spiritual and more interested in remaining near. They stop trying to imitate someone else’s prayer style as if the right tone unlocks heaven. They begin speaking as themselves before God. That is a profound shift because many people have never actually prayed as themselves. They have performed versions of what they thought spiritual language should sound like. But God has never needed that costume to listen.

Think of how much freedom there is in that. You do not need to talk like a theologian to be heard. You do not need to sound ceremonial. You do not need to imitate the vocabulary of powerful religious figures. You do not need to hide your confusion behind polished phrases. You do not need to present your soul as more stable than it is. The God revealed in Scripture can handle the truth of your condition. He would rather hear the real cry of your heart than the rehearsed performance of a spiritually anxious mind. That should encourage every person who has ever felt awkward in prayer, every person who has ever gone silent because they thought they were doing it wrong, every person who has ever believed their own words were too plain to rise very high. Honesty before God is not spiritual failure. Often it is the beginning of real prayer.

There is also something deeply encouraging in remembering how many biblical turning points happened through the prayers of people who had no worldly reason to feel powerful. Hannah poured out her soul in bitterness and longing. A leper asked to be made clean. Blind Bartimaeus cried out over the noise of a crowd. The Canaanite woman kept speaking despite resistance. The criminal beside Jesus asked to be remembered. None of these are portraits of prestigious access. They are portraits of needy faith. They are portraits of direct human cry meeting divine mercy. Scripture keeps showing us that the heart of God is not barricaded behind human definitions of significance. It keeps showing us that what often reaches heaven most powerfully is not visible greatness, but honest dependence.

That truth becomes especially precious in seasons when you feel spiritually weak. There are moments in life when a person does not feel holy, strong, articulate, or confident. There are seasons of depression, grief, confusion, numbness, shame, and exhaustion. In those moments, if you believe God mainly listens to the spiritually important, you may withdraw even further. You may think your weakness makes your voice less welcome. But if you understand the heart of God, weakness becomes the very place where you dare to come. You remember that Christ invited the weary. You remember that the Spirit helps in weakness. You remember that groaning too deep for words is not silence to God. You remember that Jesus did not reserve His compassion for the polished. He moved toward the burdened. That means your weakest prayers are not automatically your least meaningful ones. Sometimes they are the rawest expressions of trust you have left.

There is a holy dignity in that. The world may not hear you. People may dismiss you. Institutions may overlook you. You may feel like your life is hidden in ways that ache. But hidden is not the same as unseen. Ordinary is not the same as insignificant. Untitled is not the same as unimportant. Unknown to crowds is not the same as unknown to God. In fact, much of the Christian life unfolds away from applause. Much of faithfulness lives in repetition, obscurity, private endurance, unseen obedience, quiet repentance, and daily turning toward God when nothing about the moment feels dramatic. If God only listened most deeply to the visible and celebrated, then most of His children would live at an impossible emotional disadvantage. But the Gospel says the opposite. The secret place matters. The unseen matters. The quiet matters. The hidden life with God matters.

That is why one of the enemy’s most effective strategies is to make ordinary believers feel spiritually unqualified for intimacy. If he can convince you that access belongs mainly to the more important, he can keep you from the very source of strength you need. If he can persuade you that your voice is too weak, too untrained, too common, or too damaged to matter, he does not need to stop you from believing in God intellectually. He only needs to weaken your nearness. He only needs to keep you hesitant. He only needs to make you keep outsourcing the kind of confidence Christ meant to restore. But the answer to that strategy is not self-importance. It is childlike trust. It is the steady refusal to let title, comparison, or shame define your access more than Jesus does.

The beautiful thing is that when a person begins living from this truth, prayer stops feeling like an uphill appeal into cold distance. It starts feeling like returning. It starts feeling like honesty becoming safe. It starts feeling like companionship in the middle of actual life. A person can begin talking to God while driving, working, hurting, grieving, hoping, or waiting. They stop confining prayer to moments when they feel spiritually impressive enough to attempt it. They begin realizing that God has been available in the middle of the ordinary all along. The kitchen can become a sanctuary. The shower can become a place of surrender. The lonely walk can become a place of communion. The sleepless night can become a place of honest meeting. None of that requires a title. It requires willingness to believe that the One who made you is not withholding Himself from you.

And that returns us to the heart of the question. Does God listen to the Pope more than you? If the question means, does God love a person with religious title more deeply than He loves an ordinary believer, the answer is no. If the question means, does a title make someone inherently more worthy of divine attention, the answer is no. If the question means, does your prayer become spiritually inferior because your life is hidden and untitled, the answer is no. God’s heart is not organized according to human prestige. Your voice matters because you matter to Him. Your prayer matters because relationship matters to Him. Your coming near matters because Christ made the way for you to come near. The Pope is a human being. So are you. Any leader, however visible, still stands before God by grace. So do you.

That truth should not make you smaller. It should make you braver. It should make you more honest in prayer. It should make you less intimidated by visible religion and more anchored in the finished work of Jesus. It should make you grateful for faithful leaders without confusing their role with your worth. It should make you stop apologizing internally for being ordinary. You do not need to become a spiritual celebrity to be heard by heaven. You do not need a robe for your tears to count. You do not need recognition for your faith to matter. You do not need the approval of religious systems to become real before God. You already stand before the One who sees in secret, hears in truth, and invites you near in Christ.

So when your heart rises with fear that perhaps others are heard more than you, answer that fear with the Gospel. Answer it with the torn veil. Answer it with our Father. Answer it with the cross that brought the far off near. Answer it with the Christ who welcomed children, touched outcasts, heard beggars, restored failures, and opened the way for ordinary people to speak to a holy God without being turned away. Answer it with the knowledge that heaven’s attention is not trapped inside human systems. Answer it with the truth that God is not hard of hearing toward the unknown.

Then pray. Pray simply. Pray honestly. Pray as yourself. Pray when your words are strong and pray when they barely come. Pray when you feel clear and pray when you feel foggy. Pray in gratitude and pray in grief. Pray because your voice is not an interruption to God. Pray because He is not annoyed by your need. Pray because you are not spiritually disqualified by ordinary life. Pray because what Jesus opened, no title on earth can improve and no insecurity in you has the right to deny. Pray because your Father hears you.

And if this truth has been missing from your life for a long time, let it return slowly but deeply. Let it rebuild how you think about prayer. Let it heal the parts of you that felt permanently less significant. Let it challenge the false reverence that was really fear in disguise. Let it untangle honor for leaders from insecurity about yourself. Let it restore the dignity of direct communion with God. Let it remind you that while human beings build levels of importance, the kingdom of God keeps bringing the humble near. Let it steady you on nights when you feel small. Let it strengthen you on mornings when faith feels thin. Let it follow you into the ordinary places where life is actually lived. Because the God of Scripture is not only the God of cathedrals, pulpits, and titles. He is the God who meets people in rooms, roads, tears, kitchens, storms, prison cells, fields, deserts, and quiet acts of need. He is the God who listens. And He is listening to you.

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In Summary: * Patiently waiting for the pregame show then the radio call of the action for tonight's NIT Game between the Navy Midshipmen and the Wake Forest Demon Deacons to begin broadcasting. The audio feed has gone live, but it's only playing bumper music at the moment. When the game is over I'll wrap up my night prayers and head to bed.

Prayers, etc.: * I have a daily prayer regimen I try to follow throughout the day from early morning, as soon as I roll out of bed, until head hits pillow at night. Details of that regimen are linked to my link tree, which is linked to my profile page here.

Starting Ash Wednesday, 2026, I've added this daily prayer as part of the Prayer Crusade Preceding the 2026 SSPX Episcopal Consecrations.

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Exercise: * morning stretches, balance exercises, kegel pelvic floor exercises, half squats, calf raises, wall push-ups

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Chess: * 14:40 – moved in all pending CC games

Somewhere, long ago, I read someone note the distinction between American and Japanese giant monster movies: American giant monsters climb on buildings whereas Japanese ones walk through them.

I was just exposed, via Mastodon, to this article about the current wave of popularity kaiju are receiving (kaiju is the Japanese term for “monsters,” often used to denote daikaiju, or “giant monsters,” those specifically cut from a similar cloth to Godzilla). Which got me thinking about the genre itself and why I think it’s managed to become mainstream in the US. And which brought the above quote to mind.

A little background: I’ve been a Godzilla fan since I was maybe four. I had an obsession with dinosaurs and my mom grabbed a bunch of discount VHS from a bin at K-Mart that included 1962’s King Kong vs. Godzilla and 1975’s The Terror of Mechagodzilla. My first memory of a film moving me to tears is from the former, where I openly wept to my mother that Godzilla lost to Kong (and established a life-long disdain for the giant monkey). The latter film remains one of my favorites. Tomoko Ai’s Katsura Mifune still makes me swoon and Titanosaurus remains my favorite non-Godzilla monster—I have an almost Mel-Gibson-in-Conspiracy-Theory compulsion to purchase Titanosaurus toys whenever I see one, likely owing to my disappointment over not being able to find one at Toys-R-Us as a child.

Which sort of leads me to my next point: Godzilla faltered in popularity in the US until 2014. I rediscovered Godzilla by accident while at an enormous toy show in Orlando in 1995 when I found myself face to face with a GIANT poster for Godzilla vs. Space Godzilla and, slack-jawed, I asked the dude selling the merch “they still make Godzilla movies?”

I came across G-Fan magazine shortly thereafter, sitting on a shelf at Sci-Fi World, a collectibles shop on International Drive in Orlando (it happened to be the first glossy cover issue). From those two moments I became a die-hard Godzilla fan. My middle-school friend Paul was the only other person I knew who liked Godzilla. My best-friend, Josh, did not share in my interest (one of the only interests we did not share). Godzilla was truly “mine”—but this also made me feel kind of weird. No one else knew about it and so I kind of had to keep it low-key.

Being a Godzilla fan in those days involved a degree of piracy. Toho, the company who produced Godzilla films, refused to distribute to the US. So, in order to see any of the films after Godzilla 1985 I had to track down bootleg VHS. My first viewing of Godzilla vs. Destroyer (see NOTE at end) was on a VHS made by a straight up Sony Handicam held in the theater. It wasn’t until the 2000s that I ever saw Godzilla vs. Space Godzilla or Godzilla vs. Destroyer with English subtitles (G-Fan always ran plot synopses of new releases for just the reason). Godzilla toys had to be imported—Central Florida was not a hot-spot of Godzilla collectibles at the time and so I made an annual pilgrimage to Sideshow Collectibles outside of Atlanta, Georgia when we’d visit family (I still have their Godzilla collectibles guide, which I had Sean Linkenbeck, the author and shop owner, sign). It was a small miracle that the Trendmasters toy company released a line of US-made Godzilla toys at the time (but they never got around to making a Titanosaurus, natch).

This is all to say that being a Godzilla fan in those days was super niche and super nerdy. Then 1998 happened.

This was the year that Godzilla was getting an official, big-budget Hollywood adaptation. It was, pretty famously, terrible. But the film’s terribleness inspired Toho to make “real” Godzilla films again, starting a new series (the Millennium series), including a US theatrical release of Godzilla 2000. It did not do well. But thanks to the agreement with Sony over the 1998 film, the 1990s and 2000s Godzilla films did get DVD releases, finally.

But Godzilla remained a kind of joke. “Dude in a rubber suit.” Kids stuff. No one in the US was making actual giant monster films, even though the technology existed to do so and even though “nerd” properties were making bank at the box-office. It wouldn’t be until 2014 that we’d get a “proper” US-made Godzilla film, one that treated the monster with respect and awe.

What changed?

Here’s my theory: the US could not appreciate Godzilla—or kaiju in general—until we’d experienced the destruction of one of our iconic cities.

See, Godzilla was born out of the rubble and fires of postwar Japan. Godzilla is punishment for war. In some ways he embodies the guilt that some in Japan feel over their involvement in WWII, in others he is an incarnation of the US’ use of nuclear weapons, in others he is a kind of kami (a sort of god) awakened to punish humanity. Godzilla has a few different origin stories, but the most common is that he is some kind of dormant prehistoric creature awakened by the use of nuclear weapons. He’s only here because of the kinds of weapons we’ve built, an embodiment of our capacity to destroy.

Japan is a place that knows destruction well. The place is geologically active and also prone to typhoons. Traditional Japanese construction techniques are rooted in things falling apart and being rebuilt. My personal theory is that Japanese religion embraced zen the way it did because it spoke powerfully to the Japanese experience: all things are temporary.

The United States, on the other hand, is rooted in triumphalist attitudes. We’ve long employed the language of Rome (“the eternal city”) in our rhetoric, filtering it through (Protestant) Christian imagery. During the economic booms of the 1980s, Ronald Reagan referred to the United States in eschatological terms, calling us the “shining city on a hill”—heaven adjacent language that would have caused Saint Augustine’s eye to twitch. As a result, we tend to fetishize our cities and treat them as eternal.

King Kong climbs the Chrysler building. Godzilla destroys Tokyo Tower.

In the 1998 American film, Godzilla climbs the Empire State building. The only previous example of Godzilla being in the US was in 1966’s Destroy All Monsters (a Japanese-made film), where he destroys the UN building.

So, America depicts its buildings as eternal, resilient. Japan understands better.

We wouldn’t learn this lesson until the morning of September 11, 2001. I watched the North and South towers of the World Trade Center collapse on live television and, I have to confess, I immediately made Godzilla comparisons in my mind.

It took us a few years, but the United States got its first proper kaiju in 2008, with the film Cloverfield. In the same way that 1954’s Gojira (which would be re-branded a year later in the US as Godzilla: King of the Monsters) employed the imagery of Hiroshima, Nagasaki, and the burning of Tokyo in order to help process the horrors of what had happened, Cloverfield would do the same with the terrorist attacks. Clover is as close to a true “American” equivalent to Godzilla that we’re likely to get.

It’s telling that only six years later we’d finally get a US Godzilla film that sees Godzilla destroy a US city (even if he’s kinda sorta the hero—I personally love the ambivalence that Gareth Edwards gives Godzilla in that film). And this after Pacific Rim primed the pump.

It’s only now that US audiences can appreciate Godzilla because Godzilla exposes something that we intrinsically know, but tend to not articulate: our cities are not buildings, but people. The resilience of places like New York come about as a result of New Yorkers themselves, not the quality of the buildings that make up the skyline.

While Godzilla is connected to nuclear war, at heart Godzilla is a force of nature. 2016’s Shin Godzilla employed the imagery of the Fukushima earthquake and tsunami (while also satirizing the government’s response to these things), which helps us recall this fact. 2014’s Godzilla captured the sense of hopelessness a triumphalist West feels when confronted with the fact that there are forces beyond our ability to control. Both it and its sequel, 2018’s Godzilla: King of the Monsters, use the imagery and backdrop of climate change (resulting from governmental and corporate meddling) to express how many of us feel in the face of such drastic change. The resulting “Monsterverse” films and shows are about humanity adapting to a new normal, a radically changed world where we are more subjects to nature than its dominants.

I was reminded of this kind of resilience just the other day. We here in Hawai’i experienced a strong storm system, what we know as a Kona Low. It knocked out power across much of O’ahu. As a result, in the midst of wind and rain, I had to acquire food for my family and so I drove on dark streets. I was not the only one. And I was struck by the general sense of togetherness we all felt. Folks were courteous at traffic stops. At the grocery store (which was running on generators), people were orderly and helpful. We were resilient.

We in the West now know that our buildings will tumble, that nature will reclaim her home. We are not masters of creation—we are stewards, at best; mostly we are subjects. There are monstrous forces at work and at battle all around us. But we are at our best when we confront these realities together, survive them together.

We can appreciate Godzilla now because we understand Godzilla now.

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POST SCRIPT

2016’s Shin Godzilla ends on a much-discussed shot: the camera pans closer and closer to Godzilla, rendered inert through a complicated chemical process. The final shot is of the tip of Godzilla’s tail, where humanoid/Godzilla skeletons are frozen in the midst of emergence. For folks who know the work of Hideaki Anno (of Evangelion fame, who wrote and co-directed the film), this is the kind of thought-provoking teaser that will bug fans for years to come.

Somewhere along the way I read a theory about this that I love. Throughout the film, Godzilla is seen as adapting to whatever humans throw at it. What defeats Godzilla in the end is the co-operative work of a group of people. The theory is that Godzilla recognizes this and was about to evolve into a group himself.

And therein lies the theme: our resilience, our resistance, comes about from us working together. Despite the grand things we’ve built, in the end we will only survive by working together.

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The Rev. Charles Browning II is the rector of Saint Mary’s Episcopal Church in Honolulu, Hawai’i. He is a husband, father, surfer, and frequent over-thinker. Follow him on Mastodon and Pixelfed.

(NOTE: yes, I know that, due to trademarking issues, the technical name of the movie is Godzilla vs. Destoroyah but I’ve long considered that silly)

#Godzilla #Film #Philosophy #Culture #Monsters

#002320 – 05 de Agosto de 2025

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Tags: #música #JamesBlake #Drexler

No he salido todavía del trance de James Blake. Una vez más, y como siempre con sus discos, a pesar de lo que algunos sostienen, le das al play desde el principio cada vez. Hasta el final cada vez. Por el camino la vida te interrumpe con sus cosas y te molesta cada vez.

Hay lamentos, llamadas a la oración, beats oscuros, coros de iglesia gótica, patrones como tejidos. Nada es, mira por dónde, “orgánico” si entendemos por orgánico esa estupidez de definición corta de miras y vacía de espíritu de algunos que ni se han molestado en leer la RAE. Orgánico es literalmente un todo cuyas partes tienen sentido.

Este disco ha salido el mismo día que el de Drexler y yo llevo casi 1 semana repartida entre ambos. Incapaz de elegir bucle, trance, danza. Echando a suertes la música que suena. Pensando en esos lugares comunes de los músicos aburridos de hacer promos absurdas donde la música como tal da exactamente igual a quienes preguntan.

Un disco como un álbum de fotos sonoras. He oído eso en 3 idiomas a demasiados músicos cuyos discos luego no eran nada de eso.

Drexler mete de pronto un homenaje a Morente en medio de tambores uruguayos, de ritmos afrolatinos. Y claro que cuadra. Porque los álbumes buenos son los que abrazan lo imprevisible de la vida. Lo ambivalente. Nosotros nos enamoramos de música nueva mientras el mundo se desmorona de odio, drones y misiles. Porque el disco de Drexler es él reflexionando sobre el sentido del arte, de la música, en estos tiempos bélicos y tecnológicos donde siguen muchos señores intentando fingir que las cabezas no son partes del cuerpo.

Sentir es pensar. Pensar es sentir. Escuchar a Blake cantando sobre perder el control y abandonarse al movimiento en un vals repetitivo que te hace girar en espiral desde el ombligo, es sanador. Sonríes. Te muerdes el labio. Querer saber. Intentarlo. No esconder nada. El disco solo podía llamarse Trying times y está unido al de Drexler. En mi cabeza tiene sentido que hayan salido el mismo día porque por distintos caminos, desde distintos sitios, han llegado a la misma conclusión. Vivir es ir perdiendo. Pero también es la posibilidad de encontrar. Vivir es no controlar absolutamente nada, es navegar ese descontrol buscando la felicidad mientras la felicidad sea posible. Y todavía lo es.

Y el disco de James Blake es estremecedoramente bonito. Lo he escuchado en bucle mientras el invierno moría y la primavera y la luz ganaban terreno sin dejar ni una vez de tener la misma reacción física que cuando te meten en el cráneo, por primera vez, ese aparato metálico de masaje que venden en los bazares. Cada vez ese estremecimiento con su voz, con la música. Con cada verso que canta desde la desnudez que solo te da la coherencia sin poses ni discursos ni teatrillos. Hacer como sientes. Vivir sin mentirte a ti mismo. No hay más secreto. No hay plan. Ese es el único plan que necesitamos todos. Seguir intentando hacerlo lo más bonito que sepamos. Sin cinismo ni corazas. Toma todo esto. Cuídalo como yo lo cuido. Y si tú no lo cuidas se esfumará.

El dísco de Drexler es la filosofía y la historia de mover el culo. Conectar con tu cuerpo, con otros cuerpos. Oler en el aire el amor, la magia, el riesgo. Salir a buscarlo haciendo círculos desde el centro de la cadera. El chakra raíz.

El disco de Drexler soy yo esperando para gritar en silencio “y entraste en mi vida como Pancho Villa en Zacatecas”. Todas las veces que suena. Con la misma sonrisa gigante de quien sabe perfectamente que algunas primaveras alguien viene y lo pone todo del revés y te vuelve reluciente.

El disco de Drexler es ritmo y vibración y como siempre encaja exactamente con mis procesos mentales sobre el amor, el futuro y la vida en general. Ante la duda baila. Y baila sin dudas. Con toda el alma. Bailar aunque te duela la espalda entera.

Bailar cada ritmo prohibido por los mismos motivos de siempre. Los señores que meten la cabeza en su culo y creen que eso es ser listos. Esa autoreferencia estúpida y egocéntrica que es siempre el fin del fin. Bailar es la revolución que nos salva. Ni bailando sola se baila sola. Bailar es escuchar todos los instrumentos juntos y separados. A la vez. Conectar todo eso con tu cuerpo. Pensar y sentir. Aprender y recordar lo que sabes. Abandonarte teniendo el control de cada músculo que hace lo que necesita hacer para que te sientas libre.

El disco de Drexler es Young Miko confesando por fin y yo fantaseando con que ella y Billie Eilish estén enamoradas.

Te llevo tatuada es una absoluta preciosidad delicada de dudas y pausas y tratar de frenar lo irrefrenable. Querer a alguien es fácil. Lo difícil es aceptar que querer a alguien no se parece en nada a lo que los gurús, los terapeutas o las pelis de Disney dicen. Está fuera, invadiendo el mundo, evidente, resplandeciente. Y está dentro, en un lugar profundísimo . Y tu voz, tu voz, tu voz en el oído. Con un poco de suerte a ver si no la olvido. Yo nunca quiero olvidar lo que me importa. Aunque sea aparentemente nada. Un instante de conexión inesperada. Una llama que se enciende cuando parecía que no había oxígeno.

Benditos los que tienden puentes tan maravillosos que el único riesgo en no atreverse a cruzarlos. La única cobardía es no atreverse a correr al otro lado, donde los vasos siempre están llenos. Hasta arriba.

Hay discos que sabes desde la primera vez que se van a quedar en tu vida para siempre. Y a veces salen los dos el mismo día para recordarte que todavía puede haber un exceso de lo sublime. Que aún hay belleza suficiente como para hacer el mundo un lugar soportable.

Freedom

There is an emptiness in my soul where God is supposed to be. No matter how much I pray, it is never filled.

I have freedom, which means I make things worse. My original blessing is an assurance of shame.

What’s wrong with me? A broken brain and a degrading body. What am I responsible for? Everything. “Radically free” is radical failure. Evangelical guilt in drag, camp philosophy putting religious shame to shame.

Why don’t other’s see it? My life is a cosmic mistake. The gods laugh. My life is the funniest joke I’ve ever heard.

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Response

Life is the first mistake, and all wonderful things follow. Life is a short side-trail in the course of things. Why not marvel along the way? Every imperfection is a miracle and we are its witnesses. Go and proclaim the good news!

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The following is a vent about some difficult emotions in recovery. If you struggle with an eating disorder, please use your best judgement as to whether being exposed to some darker feelings about my eating disorder would be helpful or harmful to your own health. As always, I am pro-recovery. Recovery might be the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but it is worth it.

No Freedom

My body is not my own. What a disgusting thing to say. Ana feeds off my freedom. Terrible. There is no winning move. Whether I listen to the social angels or not, I lose. I can only hope that it’s on my own terms. I do not know what my terms are.

How do I want to die? Randomly, succumbing to fate? Of one of the many humiliating maladies of old age? Of a self-inflicted cardiac arrest? Maybe even the agonizing end of starvation? Sometimes this feels like the only question that matters. If I don’t get a say over my body in life, it would be a relief to have a say in my body’s death.

Why do other people get to call what I do with my own body a sickness? “Ego-syntonic,'“ a medical term for normal behavior. I do what I love and they call it disorder. I do what I hate and they call it recovery. Nothing but the logic of emotion makes sense when Ana’s around.

They call starvation fighting myself. Nothing feels easier and more natural. Eating, that is fighting myself. Food is hell and nobody feels brave enough to say with certainty that it will become pleasurable and natural again.

Fight your nature, go through hell, and give up control, the social angels say. The angel on my shoulder says to trust myself. I don’t know why I’m not listening to her.

De grote trek der vogels

uit de rubriek ; VVA Wild van Natuur

Vogels zijn ontzettend hongerige beesten. Sommigen eten per dag tien keer hun eigen gewicht. Dit zijn over het algemeen hele kleine vogels, dus als die een boterham met jam eten zitten ze al bijna op dat gewicht. Grote vogels eten per dag minsten één keer zich zelf met een flinke laag saus en extra groenten. Dit is inderdaad grote trek

Ze, de vogels, eten zoveel omdat ze zo vaak heen en weer moeten vliegen en ook nog van hot naar her en der en dan uiteindelijk doodmoe wederkeren naar het nest van de vogel partner, de significante andere. De hongerige fladderaars eten niet op het nest maar vaak onderweg bij picknick bomen of in het open veld. Ze moeten over het algemeen achter hun eigen voeding aan vliegen, anders verliezen ze teveel puf voor ze her of der bereiken.

Vogels eten vooral vegetarisch of insectarisch maar sommigen eten vegetarisch, insectarisch via andere dieren die zo eten. Het zijn pientere beestjes en weten vaak precies waar hun maal is en wat het van plan is te doen. Het is zeker niet van plan om deel uit te maken van het vogel menu van de dag. De meesten zijn daar niet zo happig op, soms willen ze aan een boom hangen, op of bij een boom zitten, zich te goed doen aan iets juist op die plek zonder vogels nabij maar de snode gevleugelde eter weet dat allemaal donders goed. De gegeten ander is feitelijk ten dode opgeschreven, maar ja wie is dat niet.

De schijf van vijf van vogels bestaat uit Zaad, Fruit, Beestjes, allemaal beestjes, Kleine Zelfstandigen en Toetjes. Iedere vliegdag een gezonde en voedzame maaltijd, zes of zeven ker per uur. Het is hard nodig anders blijft des avonds het nest jammerlijk leeg, en dat is ook voor al wat door de lucht jaagt, ziedend snel van hot naar her en der een heel naar syndroom.

Negeren onze gevleugelde vrienden die grote trek te lang dan dreigt de hongerklop, een afschuwelijk fenomeen. Door die klop verliezen ze het van de zwaartekracht en storten hulpeloos ter aard. Daar hippen ze dan, uitzonderlijk ingewikkeld en moeizaam op zoek naar hun gemiste maal, vaak malen. Daarom ziet u dergelijke vogels ook vaak rondom de snackbar of de bakker met terras wachten op een broodje kroket, bolletje maanzaad, roomsoes, iets dergelijks dat uit handen valt van iemand onbekwaam in het hanteren van voer met de hand. Valt het net gekochte hapklare product dan pikken de net door honger geklopte almachtig roppige vogels het in een keer op en slikken het zonder te kauwen door. Niet lang daarna, als de hongerklop is verslagen vliegen ze door naar her, der, heen of alweer weer.

Vogels draaien en keren vaak op hoogte en ook dat is een extra stimulans voor de grote trek der vogels. Hoogte maakt dat je meer gaat eten omdat het moet, je kan je helemaal het schompes eten en toch niet aan komen, wel aankomen bij hot en der maar niet qua kilo's, anders zouden kleine vogels allang niet meer klein zijn. Ze zouden ook vaker minder zin hebben in vliegen en daardoor nog groter worden. Gelukkig is dat nog niet zo maar je weet maar nooit hoe het later zal zijn in vogelland.

Nou nu weet u bijna alles wat ik ook weet over de grote trek der vogels. Volgende week meer over onder andere vogels in onze VVA Wild van Natuur rubriek over allerhande dieren overal op Aard.

Getikt door de VVA natuur vorser Jan Metdepet

All things considered, I couldn’t cry too much. I was trying to but I just ran out of tears pretty quick. I even listened to Radiohead. I had some brutal dreams last night and it was really hard for me to sleep because I was conscious, and I went to a comedy show in San Jose that was hosted by one of her uncles that really liked me and I really liked them. I saw her there and she looked so much different, she was way slimmer and I could tell it was her but she looked like a different person. I was shocked by it and told her that’s incredible, and she said it was thanks to the gym and she does give me that credit. We talked a little bit and she apologized really well like she usually does. Things were tense but it scared me because it felt like we could get back together. Like there weren’t a huge big problems that she used to have and I had that hope again. But then her uncle started his show and for some reason it fully revolved around me, and he just really dug into me without knowing I was in the crowd, and all of the information was stuff that must’ve come from her side of the story. She painted me in such a horrible light and lied about things, saying how I was physically abusive, and a horrible person, and it just tore me up to see that. When I tried to talk with her about it and ask her what she’s talking about, because I was never at all in any way physically aggressive or anything like that, she shut down and started to get mad and aggressive, and I was desperate because I’m being falsely accused and it’s a full crowd of people and I never get to say my side of the story, and these people and everyone else she has talked to or influenced will think I’m some kind of a monster. And the only person that can really undo that would be her if she was to tell her uncle that she wasn’t fully telling the truth and that I wasn’t all of those things that she said. And she got defensive and shut down and I couldn’t say anything to her. Things just kept escalating whenever I would try to get her to understand how fucked up it is. And I eventually woke up, but that feeling of her doing something horrible, and then me being hurt by it, and finally her getting defensive and aggressive whenever I try to express that I am hurt. The only thing I learned I could do was apologize and act like it didn’t hurt that badly, and try to gently get her to care by giving it in much smaller bite-size pieces. But she would just avoid it and she never took accountability for the things that she did. And those things just kept hurting me, like a wound left to rot. And that dream was horribly painful along with another dream of her creating a group chat with her mom at the start of my workday saying something like we need to talk. And her mom sending a text like you’re gonna get it. And then her just typing and keeping me trapped in that limbo at the start of my workday without respecting the fact that likely it is a miscommunication, because every time that she did something like that it was something that eventually she would recognize as not a valid thing, and something that she would eventually apologize for. But that doesn’t change the fact that in the moment she would accelerate shit and interfere with my life and my work, and my friends and so forth.

Her emotions would swing so violently that it would go completely out of her control and she would do not just self-destructive things, but things that would also destroy me. Like her coming into my house and recording me while I’m crying and bringing over people that wanted to steal shit. The fact that she was that volatile, and consistently through the relationship would do volatile things. That is such a fucking insane thing to put someone else through. And the fact that she consistently keeps jumping between relationships to try to patch these holes in her life that she doesn’t feel like she can actually address just keeps her trapped in this cycle. I think that she is currently at the developmental state and level of proficiency that she is now because of this, because of the fact that she does not take accountability for her own life and keep avoiding the things that are painful, but are necessary to make your life one that’s worth living. Like I don’t think you can get into a proper relationship if you don’t develop yourself as a person enough and learn how to heal the wounds that everyone comes with in different ways. And it sucks because I think she did learn how to love bomb, and how to keep someone, but at the same time she does not no the rest of the things necessary for a relationship which is why they keep inevitably ending. But either way that doesn’t matter to me. Because she is no longer someone that has control over my life or influence over it. I can wish her the best, and hope that things get better for her, but I am no longer responsible or tied to her to the point where I would feel like her caretaker or responsible for her well-being or improvement. I’m very grateful that I was able to get her into the gym in a way that she enjoys, because I think that is a very healthy outlet and helpful for life overall, and I’m also very grateful that because of me she is now in weekly therapy (unless she quit). I think I’ve done more than enough in terms of what is reasonable for a relationship, and I have given her the tools, and so there is no guilt on my conscience. But I think these are all just different ways of me trying to figure out how to prioritize myself over her. Because I should be concerned about my well-being more than I should be about hers.

Jeg har seila så mye. Jeg har vært så mye på vannet. Det har gitt meg så mye glede.

En av båtene mine ble stjælt i 1992. Det fantes neppe en sånn båt utvendig og innvendig, den var noe helt spesielt. Og den måtte dem ta. Jeg hadde andre båter da, gamle vakre båter, og jeg brukte dem så, så mye. Men tenk å stjæle en sånn båt!

En av mine store drømmer var alltid å få meg en hytte med egen strandlinje på 50 meter, kanskje 60 til og med. Egen brygge. Men har du sett prisene nedover kysten, eller? Sinnssyke priser. Ikke noe for oss vanlige folk. Jeg var heldig, da, og fikk tak i en gammel bondegård i Romsdal med 94 meter strandsone og en egen brygge akkurat i midten.

Christian Radich har passert der. Jeg er jævlig svak for gamle trebåter.

Nå er ikke kroppen helt som den skal og jeg seiler ikke så mye lenger. Det blir mer daycruiser eller cabincruiser nå. Om jeg da kommer meg ut på vannet i det hele tatt.

Ellers sitter jeg hjemme og ser utover fjorden. Ser på små seilbåter som drar over til Snarøen. Cabincruisere på vei ut. Kiel-ferga og DFDS-ferga som kommer inn etter hverandre. Noen ganger er det mindre enn en nautisk mil mellom dem, og da er det spennende å følge med. Noen ganger seiler en båt feil og må bakke for å komme riktig inn.

Noen ganger drømmer jeg om å ha båtplass på Hvervenbukta. Noen ganger drømmer jeg om å ikke ha vondt.